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How do you deal with an annoying co-worker
there is a guy at work who is a genuinely good dude, good intentions, means we'll etc. but most of the times he can get pretty annoying
just weird shit he does, weird shit he says and the way he acts.
like it can be funny at first but just gets old.
How do I stop being annoyed or not end up snapping and being a dick towards him.. because like I said. he can get on your nerves but is a genuinely nice good person.
Like one minute I get yeah this guy could totally be a bro vibe.then in a split second he could become the last person I want to be around.
I feel bad feeling this way.
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Just keep distance, don't get too involved with him. Treat him as a work partner, not as a friend. That way, you can maintain the kind of relationship where you don't try to correct him or snap at him for being as he is. I don't mean be cold or arrogant, but don't think that you owe him your fullest attention, if he feels annoying sometimes.
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>>18575679
Maybe he just spent too much time in the Black Lodge?
In such case just track and kill his doppelganger.
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>>18575679
not very descriptive but your co-worker sounds like me. Treating every interaction like a performance you just gotta get through. Sometimes you do pretty well, sometimes you bomb.
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I keep having dreams that she's either cheating or breaking up with me. Should I read into them or are they just a product of my own insecurities?
Also how do I stop being pic related it's killing me
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ignore your dreams lest you ruin your relationship
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>>18575674
Stay in contact with the pristine events, not with your ideas. What i mean is, are there any real life situations where she has done anything like cheating? If the answer is No, then it is very unlikely that she will for now.
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>>18575674
while dreams usually have some relation to reality, they very rarely have any meaning at all and if they do, you can be pretty sure it was a coincident
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Why do I enjoy being hit?
I have weird masochistic tendencies, which includes enjoying being grabbed, spanked, slapped, punched, thrown, choked, etc. I don't understand why, either. I was sheltered most of my life and was rarely spanked or hit by my parents cuz I was a "good kid," but as I entered the real world in my late highschool/early college years, I started getting my ass beat because I was retarded. For some reason, though, I enjoyed the feeling, and to this day whenever I get slapped by someone, I break down and get aroused and embarassed. It's weird, because I still get afraid of being hit, and I flinch and try to avoid it, but when it lands I feel so.. weirdly good.
I'm the type of person who values health, so I really wanna get to the bottom of this desire.
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Everyone's got a kink. I'm the opposite. I realized i kinda really liked dominating/hurting girls after a girl told me to choke her during sex. I figure as long as I stays in the bedroom it has no effect on my life.
I think I know where my thing comes from though
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Are you me? Used to be pretty vanilla but current gf is into being slapped and choked, rough butt sex, general degradation. It made me feel weird at first but I'm really into it now. Accidentally stumbled into a rad dom/sub dynamic and it's the shit.
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I really want to get tied up ultimate fantasy
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I've recently had some anxiety about future career choices. On one hand, I'd like to go into something I'm passionate about, though the subject in question pays less, on the other, I'd like to be able to provide for a family in the future.
I feel like if I choose one I'll pretty much always be forsaking the other. How do I get over this feeling?
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Is it impossible for you to do both ? I mean, work for the best pay while working on what you like as a hobby ? I know that's what I do
Also what the hell is up with all these /sci/ memes about computer science, seriously. Are they that insecure about CS majors having more job opportunities ?
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>>18575628
/sci/ just doesn't like CS. I chose the picture on a whim at random though, so it doesn't reflect my personal opinion or anything.
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Constant anger, mood swings, brain problems
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I've basically become the most unnecessarily mean, constantly angry and argumentative piece of shit ever. I was relatively relaxed and got along with people when I was younger, but something clearly happened along the way. I've become bitter to the extreme about life and it's affecting my behavior and limiting me, bigtime. I constantly upset the people around me no matter where I go, it's obvious I'm the problem. I seem to be able to take issue with just about anybody.
I can't trust anybody anymore, especially not women (I grew up around way too many of them, and have seen too many situations where a woman betrayed a marriage of many years, etc). Is my only option psychotherapy, or am I just so irreparably bitter that I should just dull it away with drugs at this point? I'm sick and tired of being angry all the time, and extremely sad with what's become of my relationships with my friends - I feel like they hate me now, and sometimes I truly hate them too. It's like a constant rollercoaster of emotions, sometimes I love them more than anything, and other times I can just barely hold back from going on the world's nastiest tirade on every little thing I hate about them and how they're human garbage. After those urges wear off, it's like sobering up from being drunk or something - I feel guilty and think "what the fuck was I thinking? why would I ever want to say something like that to them?". What the fuck is wrong with me? I'd really prefer to be off this ride, if self-medicating is the way to go, then I'll do it.
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I know this feeling. Not with strangers, of course, but with lots of family members or closer friends, I tend to sometimes freak out and get mad or throw temper tantrums. Usually it happens when they are too lighthearted about some issue I am serious about, when they don't keep promises and sometimes even when they are being impatient, I get mad as a result of chain reaction.
This is funny though, because this is not my image of myself. I don't even consider myself a particularly serious person, just prone to certain temperament or outbursts.
What personally has helped me is to find some main focus, something in your mind that converges as a mission or a distraction, and don't let yourself engage other people with an intent to correct them. View them as something out of your control, their own beings. When your life or your mind has a clear focus, you don't feel the the need to indulge in "correcting" them that often.
Good luck OP!
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Yeah, I know having a focus/mission/passion/whatever you want to call it is extremely helpful, but I'm dreadfully depressed. To be honest, I've stopped taking care of myself at all. Finding a passion is something I've never been able to do, and I'm well into my 20's now. So, all I'm left with are my interactions with others as I'm blown around by the winds of life, basically waiting to die while doing nothing and caring about very little. I at least want to have some form of comfort in it, rather than every day being stressful and full of anger, you know?
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If you say you are depressed, have nothing going on and want to die, then you don't have anything to lose. I once had a series of severe panic attacks, after which I stopped being afraid of death and accepted that I am going to die one day. This ironically gave me a more optimistic perspective. When I am going to die one day anyway, why not make use of the days I have left? Sometimes I even like closely looking various insects or plants in the nature and study them, sort of appreciating the complex harmony that nature has evolved towards in all those millions or billions of years.
Do you have a job or go to school or anything? Do you live alone or with parents, OP?
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Lads, how strict are estate agents if I just refuse to pay my rent until they find someone to replace me on the housing contract? I've never even set foot in the fucking house on account of having dropped out of uni and I refuse to pay for that.
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In practice, they usually let you stay in debt for 2 months and on the third, they start to take measures for throwing you the fuck out and get you into court.
Never betray the trust of landlords and real estate agencies, just purely because this shit can ruin your entire day if you get into mess with your rent payments. Usually people who are in real estate business, they are ruthless and manipulative, and it's better to keep them at arm's length at all times.
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>>18575619
They are fucking scummy cunts with tighter assholes than jewdogs when it comes to $. Fuck them all
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Attracting the wrong people 2017-07-31 11:34:48 Post No.18575596
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Attracting the wrong people
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I always seem to attract scumbags. Whether in relationships or with friend groups. I consider myself a decent person, I don't talk behind people's backs or cheat on partners. However all my partners have cheated on me and treated me like shit, and people have told me afterwards that they have a reputation for being a bad person. I'm not desperate for women as I find it easy to get with them. I really don't know what my problem is.
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Have you considered that you might not be attracting shitty people you might just gravitate towards them. If you're consistently only running into assholes you might be setting yourself up for it unconsciously.
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I have heard a theory that when you unconsciously gravitate towards broken people, while consciously not knowing it or even liking it, this means that you prefer broken people over mentally healthy ones, because you feel affinity/kinship with them and believe that either you can "save" them or in some way relate to them.
Maybe it's not the case with you, just putting it out there.
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>>18575601
I have considered that I may subconsciously choose assholes over normal people, want to know how to stop if anyone has been in a similar situation.
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Hey /adv/ I need some classic girl advice. I browse pof on occasion as mostly something to do when I'm bored but I came across this girl who was really fucking cute. Her bio basically said to add her on steam, which I did but she hasn't logged back in yet (added her at like midnight). Anyways, when she logs in and likely asks who I am, what do I say? I'm the fucking worst at openers or shit like that, afterwards I'm fine but what do I say if she asks who I am?
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Does anyone work full time and started getting mad depression? The things you find fun in life aren't fun anymore, life feels like you're in limbo?
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No, because I keep a healthy work/life balance.
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So I recently was caring to my bearded dragon, and I usually make sure he's okay in every possible aspect, Water, Food and Hygiene wise but today when I woke up and checked on him he was chillin' in his vivarium but he wasn't moving, and after awhile of making sure he was okay I had realized something was wrong: He wasn't moving, but the times he did he would drag his back legs and when I went to feed him a cricket he moved his body around towards my hand and the cricket and he just fell on his back and started trying to get up but couldn't, I'm worried so If anyone could help or provide advice I'd appreciate it, I'm lost and don't know what to do :/.
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take it to the damn vet
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I'll be frank, I have some issues with my mother. I don't hate her, and she's been a pretty decent parent throughout my short 19 years (male btw, if it matters) of life thus far - along with my father - however I don't feel entirely comfortable with her, as in I have some issues talking with her at times and generally feel kind of bad about her. I'm not sure how to describe it, but I just don't trust her entirely anymore, for one thing.
I used to be very close with her when I was very young, but as I grew older I sorta grew apart a bit more as I should have. Things changed a good bit when she had her stroke around, 2007? I think? I believe it was due to her smoking and she ended up having trouble getting around and talking for a while. She's mostly recovered now, doesn't do much long distance walking, jogging or running but she can walk just fine and her talking is about 90% of the way it used to be. But anyway I remember being pretty upset when she ahd her stroke and my dad thinks it messed up my relationship with her a bit - in that she ended up being a very differnt person for a while afterwords. I still don't hate or resent her over it or anything, that wouldn't even make much sense, however she would act very different that she used to for a while and still kinda does to this day. Doesn't help that she and my dad stopped loving eachother around 08 or 09 iirc, and that again made her - and my dad act a bit different than before.
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Anyway, within those few years after her stroke she also ended up doing something that made me lose a lot of my trust for her and it was that she did some drunk driving and generally was bery irresponsible with alcohol. She was not supposed to drink anymore after her stroke, ESSPECIALLY because of her medicine. And yet she did, and I would end up catching her drinking multiple times. And yet my stupid fucking ass decided not to tell my dad because I didn't want to get my mom in trouble. I still regret covering for her and still feel like a complete fucktard - on the one hand I knew she shouldn't be doing it, but on the other hand I loved her and didn't want her to get in trouble for it. She also ended up driving drunk on atleast 2-3 occasions, and that was just when me and my brother were also in the car. 1st was when she was picking us up from school and we had no idea what was wrong with her until we got home and our dad yelled at her like nevr before. Most memorable time however was when we went to visit our grandparents up in new york and our dad didn't come along. On the 4th of July we went to a party at one of my mom's old friend's house and I guess they all let her or didn't know (my ass) that she was fucking wasted. When we had to drive to our aunts where we were gonna stay for the nigh rather than our grandparents, my brother and I again had no idea she was drunk until we were on the road, at about 10 at night, in a place where we had not idea where to go, with the only adult being a drunk who ended up parking us in a driveway for half and hour and crying about how she thought we didn't love her for whatever reason. It was a long shitty night with way to many details I could fo over but the point is that I still to this day fucking hate that she did that, esspecially after having already driven drunk before. The issues don't stop here either, but this is already a very long post so i'll leave it at this for now.
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My dad thinks that I should see a therapist about all this but i'm not sure. I don't want him to spend the money on me and I also don't want to be locked out of certain choices in life because I went to therapy, like buying a firearm or enlisting in the military which I am planning on doing in a few months. And i've heard about the stigma and restrictions that come with getting professional help so i'm really at a loss as to what to do, I feel like I aught to be able to work through this myself - just suck it up or whatever but I can't as much as I wish I could. I don't feel as if i'm right for feeling this way, I get the feel that i'm ingrateful for the good things that she has done and that I just need to deal with the fact that this all happened and move on. So I guess my question is this: How should I feel about it all? Is my loss of her trust justified? Is there anyway I can move past this and not have such a weird relationship with her anymore? In general, what do I do /adv/, i'm really lost here.
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Why do I feel my lower body when I breath? 2017-07-31 08:47:45 Post No.18575369
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Why do I feel my lower body when I breath?
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When I breath each time I feel like my lower chest pushing out, without my hands on it, its like my mind registers it, is this normal??? Sometimes I feel I push my chest out then I breath, sometimes I feel my nose sucking in air, then my chest expand. Maybe I force my breath too much.... Please help me, It has been going on a while and I can't stop thinking about this.
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MODS MODS MODS Please block this guy. He posts the same query every single day, gets legitimate responses, and then just posts again the next day. It's clear his problem is not with breathing but with a neurotic need to keep posting.
ANONS Don't bother replying. He won't read your advice and he'll just post again tomorrow
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>>18575464
Why did you bump him then you fucking dumbass
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>>18575465
Use sage faggot.
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Why do I have chronic feelings of guilt? I feel like I'm a bad person, but I've never really done anything completely horrible to anyone, at least not on purpose that I can recall. I'm not a malicious person, but lately all I can think about is every wrong thing I've ever done and how people probably perceive me in a bad way. I think these feelings may stem from my family and how they treated me as a child. How do I get rid of these feelings? I just want some peace of mind.
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Help Identifying Insect / Bug 2017-07-31 08:37:47 Post No.18575350
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Help Identifying Insect / Bug
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Need some help identifying this pest. I see it all the time now walking around different places; my skin, clothes, computer screen, phone screen and its driving me mad.
On a related note sometimes I wake up with bites on my body but I'm not entirely sure its caused by this.
It doesn't look like a headlouse because it doesn't have that elongated shape, I searched online and I'm not convinced its a bed bug because I searched my bed before briefly and they look like they have a hardened shell. I was also told it could be a carpet beetle. Personally to me it looks kinda like a dust mite (?)
Anyone knows what the hell it could be and how to get rid of it?
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Looks like a tick to me.
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Its very very small, less than a milimeter and doesn't attach itself to skin
Pops when I press with fingernail but doesn't show blood
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Yesterday was my 19th birthday, I had a great day with my girlfriend, family, and friends. Everything was amazing and everyone went out of their way to make my day special. I really did have a great time but for some reason I've been really sad. Ive been looking back on my life ad seeing how I've grown as a person and a so how the people around me have grown. My mom and dad are beginning to look older, my 16 year old hyperactive childhood dog no struggles to breathe and move around. I know that I have a lot to look forward to in my life but I just felt like today my life has gone by so fast. It seems like yesterday I started kindergarten, but here I am 19 years old. I guess my point to this is that I feel like life moves along faster than we can process while we're living it. I'm trying to live it to the fullest and enjoy the time that I have with my parents but it's hard when my time just gets wrapped up with distractions and the other important people in my life. I had a perfect birthday, but I just can't get these thoughts out of my head.
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It's called getting older
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It just seems too fast, I wish there was some method to "slow it down" for lack of better words
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3sWTnsemkIs