So there's 3 people living in our house including me, my dad and my younger brother. He brings his gf home almost everyday, who also sleeps here whenever possible.
Now, it's not that there's not enough space (my brother has his own separate room) but it's still like having a guest over all day. And even though she's actually a cool person and not a complete fucking bitch, having her here almost 24/7 is kinda uncomfortable for me. I wouldn't even want my best friend to be here ALL the time.
Most of you know that comfy feeling when you're home with only your family members. I rarely have that.
I tried talking to her about this but we didn't really get to a solution.
So how should I approach this issue /adv/?
If he's the one who owns/is paying for the place. It's his place. Tough shit. Move out if it bugs you that much.
If you're equally splitting the costs, talk to him if you can, but you're still taking to your dad who probably supported you for most of your life (see above).
If you're under 18. You shouldn't be on here.
>>16614727
>failing to understand the post
His brother, dude. His BROTHER. I'm assuming neither of them is paying rent and so this is a reasonable complaint.
That said, are you under 18, OP? Because if so he's right and you really shouldn't be here.
>>16614715
Tell him. I know how you feel man. My gf had her best friend stay with us and she's really nice but man I got tired of not being to chill in my underwear and drink beer. I don't see how you're going to win this situation op. Younger brothers take shit personally a lot of times and get defensive or offended.
How do I deal with the fear of STDs? My anxiety makes It where I dont wana have sex because I'm afraid of getting an std f some sort. How can I get over this fear? I'm afraid of everything I have no balls for being a man
>>16614674
Always play it safe and use protection. Do it with people you trust and know.
>>16614684
Well, cunilingus is kinda unnatural with latex.
Wear condoms, get tested regularly. Personally I would advise to ask a girl "do you want me to wear a condom, are you on the pill?" If she says, whether reluctantly or enthusiastically, that you can go bareback, absolutely refrain from going down on her (or fucking her if you have a bad feeling about it). Do not delude yourself into thinking that she is willing to risk her own sexual health just this one time for just you.
Having said that, oral has way lower risks than penetrative sex, and not even all STDs can be transmitted this way. Still, don't do it if you know you have cuts in your mouth or bleeding gums.
And if you get a long term partner, FWBs or relationship, make sure you both get tested.
Is it acceptable to use gift cards to pay for food on a date?
I'm poor as fuck, and got gift cards for Christmas for restaurants like Applebees, Steak n shake, etc
Let's assume the girl and I kind of know each other already, this isn't like a first encounter or anything
Go for it if you don't care what she thinks.
>>16614573
yeah it seems fine, it shouldnt make a bad impression and she should understamd that its good to use it
I don't really see what's wrong with it.
Oldfags any advice ?
"Honour is a male abstraction, don't expect women to understand"
Wow.
1. True
2. Bullshit, but people will fight about it
3. Kinda true. It depends on what the woman wants out of a man. But being a whiny feminine puss isn't going to work beyond the age of 20, unless you have resources that a woman can exploit for their personal subsistence.
4. True. Be receptive to what they're feeling, but don't put up with mindgame bullshit. And remember that you are expendable if they consider you to be their personal security blanket.
5. True. It's why 90% of /adv/ are just fucking sad assholes who need more life experience.
6. Depression is not a coping mechanism, and it is painful. You lose all motivation to do anything, and you're fully aware you should do something about it, but you don't. So you end up hating yourself over the fact that you're depressed, and depressed because you hate yourself. Repeat.
7. True. There are better things to smoke, and you don't even have to in the first place. A cigar is fine every now and again.
8. Fucking true, goddamn. Look at any board that deals with weeaboo bullshit. That's just one facet of Japanese culture.
9. True. Fuck the idea of men-being-men-together bullshit, though; acquaintanceship and professional contacts are built on camaraderie.
10. True, in several ways.
11. True. See any post on /adv/ about a long relationship that has become stagnant due to cuntiness on either person's part. Never have kids early.
12. Not true. Nerves will sometimes fuck you by preventing you from fucking. There are other, better ways to tell if someone isn't good for you.
13. True. If she does things for you that nobody else will, and you do the same for her, she's the one.
14. Partially true. Don't be so fucking paranoid about bad shit happening, but do realize that you have obligations and responsibilities, and you shouldn't let those get beyond your control.
15. True.
>>16614602
this is the only one i dont agree with, and was likely added as an afterthought for trolling purposes
I'm a 5'5 manlet and I need some dating advice. Since I know most of you are normies your going to tell me to “date shorter women!” but womanlets have a bitter hatred towards us. I'm thinking of going for taller women any tips and advice where can I find these amazonians?
>>16614415
>womanlets have a bitter hatred towards us
I thought womanlets liked men the same height as them? Or do they all like taller guys?
You can find taller ladies everywhere and even on dating sites. As a tall lady myself, I wouldn't mind dating and/or marrying a shorter boo.
>>16614430
>taller guys
I can't find the image where some 4'3 girl demands a 6 foot hulk and short don't need to take pics next to their taller friends
>>16614430
OP's either talking out of his ass or projecting, most girls don't care too much about a guy's height as long as he's a couple of inches taller than them. I'm 5'0" and I wouldn't have a problem with a guy who's 5'5", and neither would my short friends.
My boyfriend has recently become kind of an asshole and trying to change me.
He sees me as someone who should be cleaning the house 24/7, cooking him dinners, doing his laundry and getting groceries, but he also feels as if what's mine is his and what's his is his. When we go out shopping and he forgets his wallet (which has legitimately happened a few times), I'll pay and he will try his hardest not to pay me back and claim that he paid for this or that last time so it evens out and he owes me nothing. But if I owe him money he will chase it down until get gets it back.
Recently he's been treating me like I'm an idiot. I accidentally dropped a new spoon that he bought and he lightly kept slapping me on the forehead and said, "you can't do much right, can you?" I folded his laundry this weekend and it was a lot so I did it really quickly and it wasn't a perfect job. He said, "you're really no good for much. You do a half assed job folding laundry and you won't even cook."
He is used to the female figures in his life doing everything for the males. he's from a family of all boys.I think this is why he expects some of this from me.
How can I talk to him about this? What are the chances he will change?
He won't change. If you're not invested heavily into the relationship (see: living together) dump his ass.
>>16614214
If youre stupid enough to stay in this relationship, you deserve him to remind you daily of how stupid you are. /thread
>>16614214
You should have dropped him after the forehead slapping. I don't usually side with bitches but that shit sounds obnoxious as shit. Sounds like a beta trying to play the alpha game kek.
I'd dump him, your boyfriend sounds embarrassing.
Posted on /fit/ too but it's full of memers and I get no serious answers.
My bf is a long time lifter and body builder. He's very fit and muscular, just so it's out there.
Anyway today he asked me if I can do an intramuscular injection with an oily substance. He said he needs it from January a few months. I said yes because why the hell not, but am I in any trouble?
I've been thinking about making sign a paper that makes him responsible for his action even if I do the injection.
Anyway, what substance could it be?
>>16614124
i wouldnt do it. explain you'd feel the same way in a diabetes situation and that you dont have steady enough hands to want to risk hurting someone. tell him to ask a gym buddy to do it, maybe one who has experience doing it already.
>>16614133
I do have experience, for better or worse. I'm a nurse and my hand's the steadiest when it comes to injections. I've been doing injections for pretty much my whole family.
That's why he asked me in the first place, and not his good for nothing gym buddies.
Anyway I'm slightly paranoid for no good reason. Is there anything I should be paranoid about?
I want to ask him the substance name before I do anything. And he also does the dosage and everything else. I'll just do the injection in his arm.
>>16614124
It's a steroid of some sort. Laws vary by where you are, but certainly in the US and UK it's perfectly legal to have it even without a doctors prescription, but it's generally illegal to sell it or give it away.
Make sure he's done his research on dosing, knows the side effects, when to stop, and when to say "fuck me, this is going horribly wrong and I need to get myself to the ER right now". Also make sure he has all the drugs he needs before he starts. I'm not going to spoonfeed you, but he'll need some other medicines for when he comes off cycle, mainly drugs that are used to treat breast cancer, otherwise there's a serious risk of doing long term or permanent, irreversable damage. These are generally a lot harder to come by than the test itself. Make sure he physically has them before he starts the test cycle, not just a promise of someone who will supply them at a later date. Make sure he has bloodwork done before, during and after the cycle, specifically for liver and kidney function. Google "post cycle therapy" or "pct stack".
For your end, do your reseach on how to give IM injections. It's not particularly hard, but then again if you don't know what you're doing you can seriously fuck it up and cause major damage.
I'm having a panic attack and I have no idea why, it's just happening. Anons with panic attacks, how do you deal with them?
Deep breaths pal. Count to seven breathinng in, hold for seven, count to seven breathing out. You'll be fine man. :) do this for a few minutes.
>>16614104
i had one for lik 24 hours straight, more of an anxiety attack. i went to the doc, explained what happened (i had just confessed my feelings to someone, got rejected) and they gave me medication that calmed me down since it had been going on for like 12 hours.
so thats a thing.
I imagine where I'm going to be 24 hours from now, what I'm going to be doing, etc.
Can someone help me figure out if this girl has a penis?
>>16614090
Why don't you just ask her? Don't be a bitch.
>>16614090
>Can someone help figure out if this is a boy with tits?
FTFY
Those look like real tits, the slight bulge in the panties could be a thicker vagina. Mine bulges out a little too for some reason
I have a Computer Science degree, and I need to find a job. The problem is, most companies want web developers (I did this for a year before and didn't enjoy it). In order to get jobs like "C++ programmer", you seemingly need 5 or so years of prior experience.
What other jobs are there that don't involve web dev? Or should I just go full on academia and get a PhD?
Full stack or go home. You're never going to catch up in experience to the guys maintaining legacy software.
>>16614072
Get a gun, one bullet, load the gun, aim towards your head, and pull trigger.
>>16614072
http://www.indeed.com/m/viewjob?jk=cf7163f48a45bfd6&from=serp
This is 1-2 years. Besides that, you might be able to get by if you have all the skills they're looking for. Knowing sombody who works in the business you're looking for is also a big plus, so don't neglect your networking skills. Saying you've helped one of their employees on a project is sure to impress recruiters.
I'm a 28-year-old woman who just got out of her first relationship. Because I was so focused on school and work and kind of too insecure to be in a relationship, I got into my first one about a year ago and since I was just taking my first steps, the guy wasn't right and it ended.
I don't want to be alone anymore and I want to find someone else but I'm wondering if such a history is something that would weird "regular" guys out? As in should I pretend to be a little more normal or would it be okay for a female to have little experience at my age?
>>16614014
i imagine most guys your age would find it to be an interesting change. they are kinda used to women being jaded and sorta 'used' at this point. finding a woman who has little experience would be refrshing.
that being said, its not anything that has to be explicitly said. i LOVE hearing about my partners dating and sexual history just cuz i find it interesting (and sometimes hot) but most men seem not to like this sort of discussion.
at best you might get a 'so how was your last relationship' or 'why are you single now?' type of deal.
but at 28 no guy is like 'so how many guys have you dated?'. thats more one of those fun questions a guy might ask on a rainy afternoon somewhere down the line when you are already more or less together.
so all in all, dont worry about it. if you are worried, just act confident and like its no big deal. guys dont really care as long as you got SOME experience desu.
>>16614014
Doesn't matter nearly so much for women as it does for men. Many would find such lack of experience as beneficial and many more would not care at all.
If you're a 27 year old man in the same situation, you'd be fucked though.
>>16614026
>on a rainy afternoon somewhere down the line when you are already more or less together.
Yeah you're probably right but I wonder if a long-term partner would feel differently about me once he knew this. It night be a silly thing to say but I don't really know how this love business works. But like you said, if I play it confidently it will probably be okay.
hey ladies, would you stop finding your bf or husband or whatever attractive forever if you saw him cry?
When my last gf broke up with me we both started crying and I feel really embarrassed now
>>16613999
Not at all. That's stupid.
I've seen my bf cry. Seen my dad cry. Seen my grandpa cry. It's a fucking normal human reaction. To never see a man that I have a strong relationship with cry, would be weird.
If he cries over nothing, yeah, that might influence my view of him early on in a relationship, but otherwise it's no big deal.
>>16613999
No, if my bf cries for me it will make me feel loved.
Senior year of high school I went to this a school football game. There was this girl theee who talked to me. She was very cute. Im such an idiot though, I should have asked for her number.
Anyway, fast forward about a year to today. I saw her on my "suggested friends" on facebook and she accepted my request. Would it be inappropriate to message her and lead off about the game? I really dont want to come off as a creep.
Bump
>>16613978
Ya lead off about the game
If she doesn't remember just say something like "oh you said I was the most handsome man you'd ever seen in your life" just to break the ice a little and let her know you're Alpha as fuck.
>>16614429
Is it okay to do this over facebook?
You dont think she'll think im a creep?
I have yet to get my girl to have an orgasm. I've had partners before her, and they all claimed to have orgasmed (maybe some fakers in the mix), but I can't crack this one. I've tried extensive foreplay, role playing, g spot stimulation and clit stimulation, all to no avail.
She's expressed the desire to get tied up, so I'll try that in the future and maybe trying to hold better rythm. Can any of you offer some tips? Femanons welcome too!
Some girls just can't orgasm, OP. I'm one of those girls with an endless libido but an inability to orgasm fully. Penetration generally does not give orgasms. I find that fingering hard helps, and my boyfriend bought a couple of sex toys to use on me, one is a hitachi wand and the other this dildo thing that stimulates the clit at the same time. They usually cause me to squirt.
Girls generally like being dominated and being roughed up. Dirty talking, biting, pulling her hair and holding her hands behind her back works wonders. Nipples are very sensitive too so if you play with them while fucking/fingering at the same time, that feels great too.
>>16614013
Do you really believe it is biologically impossible for you to come? That's pretty good adv though, I've been thinking of roughing her up more and grabbing her wrists and pulling back as I doggy her, but like you said penetration rarely causes orgasm. I might look into some electronic toys...
>>16614040
Just need to dominate her so she feels helpless and submissive just like my man Caesar Milan does with his bitches.
How does one talk to random strangers?
Just to get this off the table; I consider myself more or less confident and I have no real problem connecting to people at work, college, sports or partys.
Now I started to use the train on a weekly basis and more often than not there is some person I am dying to talk to.
We are talking 2hour rides here.
Some persons I see again some I do not.
Seems such a waste to be bored and stare out of the window when I could spend the time with nice people.
>>16613952
Is it normal for strangers to talk to each other in your country?
If not, then don't bother. They'll probably assume you're drunk or special.
"Good evening. How are you doing?"
"Nice day we're having :)"
"Is that <insert book/movie/whatever you have in common>?"
Not that hard. A nice smile and a friendly tone goes a long way.
Source: A formerly socially anxious kid who trained himself to be socially by going to restaurants after work, sitting at the bar with a meal and a drink, and forcing himself to start conversations with the complete and total strangers around him.
>>16613965
I am from Germany.
You have to be polite.
You do not intrude.
There are more exceptions than rules tho...
Anyway how would I proceed if I do not give two shits?