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Might as well get the new thread started off the right way...

What are your regrets from 2015?

What do you hope to change in 2016?

How do i support myself as a NEET in canada i have undiagnosed autism or aspergers, something like that and living with my parents, they are threatening to kick me out and i need a plan before that happens. Im unable to hold a job and just want to play vidya and shitpost on 4chan please help me fellow NEETs

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>>16618945
Sure was

>>16617884 #
Actions speak louder than words, so it's not about games. The difference in telling her directly is that sticking his neck out could wake her up... seeing that the end result DOES matter to him, that he isn't content letting whatever they had just slip away, really could sway her. I know if I were the girl in the situation, hearing it from him would change everything for me... but I'm not, so... depends on what it's worth to him, I guess

>>16618253 #
Just seems like then you'd know you did all that you could, and it'd help resolve the issue for you... regardless of the outcome. Honestly, if you know she feels the same, then I don't think you have much to lose at all. You sound like you truly love her, so I'd imagine that realizing a future with her > any rejection you could experience... but that's easy for me to say

I just want her but i never will. i hate my body, i hate my face, i hate my personality, and the only reason i dont kill myself is for my family

Probably because of something you did, OP

Work mates husband switched from being a chartered accountant to being a teacher.
She mentioned something along the lines of "he hated going to work everyday and doing accounting, he wanted to be more useful and help people"

>why do people do this? It doesn't make sense
>why do people do this
>why do people
>people
>why

threatening to burn the house down and commit suicide is more effective

>>16619102
He would call my bluff

>>16619105
then you burn it down for real

Women who make the first move: how has that worked out for you across all the times you've done it?

And women who don't make the first move: thoughts about the other group?

>>16618080
What, on girls who make the first move? Why should I care what they do?

Friend groups are stupid anyways, just hang out with the couple who didn't care. Even if this didn't happen, those would be the only ones you'd hangout with after high school. I've been out of high school for four years now and I still hangout with my few best friends from middle/high school multiple times a week. Leave the group and your real friends will follow. If they choose some lame girl over you then they are not your friends. Spend some time alone or find new people if you have to, it's way better than having the people you spend time with look down on you for a petty reason. I just realized you're not in high school but same shit still applies, people never grow out of the high school mentality anyways. Quality over quantity applies to basically everything, especially friends.

>>16617180
this

lol i can't believe you stuck around for 3 months like a cuck. just move on, your friends are dogshit for just taking her word against yours without even asking you.

>>16617108
Sounds like you actually just had one friend in your fucking faggot circle of faggots. Anon, remember one true is friend is better than 15 so so friends. Anyways that chick is fucking crazy.

>go back and sit down
>I feel so scared that I might have herpes now or aids or something
>it's because she was also fingering herself on her barepussy and was touching me after the fact
>continue sitting
>I order a beer and drink it
>a minute later
>another girl approaches, an attractive black girl, whose tall and mixed looking
>she asks me what im doing and what im up to
>she's making small talk
>she says "you look so sad and down"
>I tell her "I'm fine"
>I was probably looking sad because I was afraid I caught something
>she says "do you want to do anything"
>I just say "I have no money , I didn't bring much"
>she runs her fingers through my hair and walks away
>anyway I drink my beer while glancing at the dancer on stage
>I actually find the dancer really attractive
>she looks like jennifer beals or tony montanas sister from scarface, really attractive and really fit and obviously around my age
>she finishes pole dancing
>I'm too scared to approach her because i'm too intimidated
>after she's done dancing she walks up to my table in the corner and starts talking to me
>I can't believe it
>I forgot what she said, but she talked to me for about a minute and I told her frankly that I only had 60 bucks left and I don't know what that meant to her
>and she said "it's my first day here too, ill give u a handjob and a blowjob"
>so I followed her
>she keeps telling me its her first time too while I'm in the booth with her
>I trust her because she seems absolutely shy jsut like me
>she starts giving me a handjob
>it's obvious its her first time ever giving a handjob because she's doing it too hard and really tugging on my foreskin
>I'm in a lot of pain
>I kindly tell her that I would like it slower and softer so I wouldnt hurt her feelings

>she keeps giving me a handjob
>I intially refused her blowjob
>I agree to the blowjoshe keeps giving me a handjob
>I intially refused her blowjob
>I agree to the blowjob
>she blows me for a minute
>I feel guilty because it's her first time and I tell her to stop and just continue with the handjob
>I actually feel like leaving because i feel uncomfortable and just let her have the money and leave
>I told her I'm done but she didnt understand, so she started grinding on my baredick instead
>my fear kicks in again for stds
>She gets into this position (pic related) and starts dry humping slowly
>she puts her cheek to my cheek and we're locking heads, wh ile she's huggin my head with her other arm
>she seems very passionate and I stare at our reflection in the black wall and think about how great we look together and how romantic this moment sort of is, even though I don't really feel anything for her but I find her really attractive and genuinely cute
>she asks me what my favorite sex position is and I respond
>missionary
>because of memes
>she asks me if I like it rough or normal
>I respond "normal" even though I always watch rough porn
>I zip up my pants and tell her that it was great and hug her and leave
>she tells me to try and stay out of trouble and that I'm a good guy
>I go back downstairs and sit down
>girl I had just danced with sits a table away from me and I see her sometimes looking at me
>another girl approaches this time it's a middle eastern girl
>she asks me if I want to have a good time
>I tell her I literally have no money
>she then just asks if she could just sit at my table instead
>I let her
>she makes small talk with me
>she asks me if I would fuck her
>and I didn't know how to respond like it was a trick question, but I said I would
>she continued making small talk but left after 10 minutes
>then the first girl tall blonde girl who approached me, approached my table again
>she asked me how I was
>she asked me if any other girl sucked my dick

>I said "I can't answer that" she said "that means some girl sucked your dick"
>I go quiet
>she asks me if I would like her company again
>I tell her I wasted all my money
>she says "oh that's a shame, did you have a good time"
>I tell her "yeah"
>she walks away

>>16606207
>>16606231

I was only writing is the new it's just a prank bro.

Sigmund Freud, known as the father of psychoanalysis, recorded his observations of group dynamics in Group Psychology and the Analysis of the Ego. In his work, he refers to Wilfred Trotter as the group conditions its members, Freud states "opposition to the herd is as good as separation from it, and is therefore anxiously avoided.[2]" Such fear causes the individual members and even leaders of a particular group to go along with the decisions a group based in accordance to its culture. On a micro scale, the individual is conditioned to partake in the social norms of the said group even if they contradict his or her personal moral code. The consequences of such protest (may) result in isolation. Such, in accordance to Freud, is one of the greatest punishments than can be instilled on an individual. This would result in the inability of an individual to practice his or her "instinctual impulses." These instincts, in accordance to Freud, are the motives behind actions that the individual may take. The father of psychoanalysis further states that, "we thus have an impression of a state in which an individual's private emotional impulses and intellectual acts are too weak to come to anything by themselves and are entirely dependent for this on being reinforced by being repeated in a similar way in the other members of the group.[2]" Out of fear of isolation and to secure the practice of instinctual impulses, there may be little protest from individual members as the group continues to conditions.

Thanks Wiki,
Old fashioned man

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I hope we talk again. I'll text you on New Years Eve to wish you a happy new year, you don't need to respond but it'd make me really happy if you did. And I hope everything gets better for you... I think it will. Don't forget about me <3

>>16616031
Do it.

>>16616031
Losing your virginity to someone you'll never see again. Sounds classy.

Personally, I wouldn't do it.

However, I'd never even contemplate it because that sort of stuff doesn't appeal to me. So we might just be different in that area.

Where do you live in the states? Move to a different city maybe. I was born in Chile and live in Wisconsin now. Other than some dumb comments people made when I was in grade school, I've never dealt with anything like that.

>>16615828

Arizona, i don't think it's the state bro, i think it's the people.

Move to Europe like the uk or Spain (given your Spanish is fine) it's actually quite nice here and at least in the uk pretty not racist as fuck, that and free health care and you could probably still go to uni here for cheap.

>>16612146
What's the difference between a "date" and "hanging out" besides phrasing?

Also it's better to ask in person/over the phone isn't it?

>>16612167
The difference is context. If you've flirted with me before, and I've felt sexual tension or at least gotten a sign that you're interested in me as more than a friend, "come hang out" means "netflix and chill."

If I barely know you and have no idea you're interested in me in a romantic way, and you ask to "hang out," I'll assume we're just buddies hanging out.

Always ask out in person. It adds a lot to the context. A coy smile or flirtatious way of asking sends a huge message. Similarly, a point blank "come hang out" without the visual cues that you're kinda nervous or bashful also tells a lot-- that you're just my friend.

>>16612175
I'm pretty oblivious and don't pick up on things that well. In this situation, a girl coworker has point blank asked me to hang out with them. Originally the date was set for New Year's but I have work back to back that day.

Here's some additional context:
TL;DR W A R N I N G

We have some interests in common and even though I barely know them, they've suggested that I travel overseas with them in a few years, before they even gave me their number. I find that oddly specific and personal for someone you barely know. Secondly, they've agreed to go on a trip with me in August for an annual industry event.

Chemistry between us seems pretty good I guess, conversations are easy to come by, fluid, and long lasting. I've spoken to them upward of 2 hours on the phone about just random shit. They talked about their family mentioned that their parents would like me in addition to inquiring about my family.
I know I'm being pretty general but that's to protect identities, I guess.

What's even more confusing is the fact that they texted me something along the lines of:

"I just hung with someone from school." "He's funny but I don't know." He's fun, but I just don't fucking know."

What the fuck? Is there a manual here? I'm genuinely confused. Why the hell would they send me these mixed signals? Maybe I'm reading things wrong.

After this I'll fuck off, I've taken enough of your time. Thanks though.

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It died because it had reached the bumb limit.

Anyways, I saw my cousins agian today. The girls loved the Christmas presents I had bought for them. Seeing them gush about them was so adorable, and heart warming. Especially when the younger one ran to me and gave me a big hug after opening her presents.
I spent few hours by just being with them, watching them play with their presents, and just enjoying their company.
So many hugs, and cuddles.
I love those girls so damn much.

i dont know why you think its ok to put me through so much shit
this is NOT how any relationship should be
and yet you use your aspergers as an excuse for not understanding that you put me through so much fucking anxiety and self-hatred
you troll me so much its seriously boy who cried wolf and i can never understand what you really mean
like you have mood swings and seem to break up with me every single night and act like everythings cool the next day

ive told you time and time again you are the one girl for me but you dont believe me
that i would never find another girl that is this compatible with me because i didnt even think someone like you existed
yeah ok i fucked up at the beginning but you constantly hold it over my head like a cloud every single day whether you're joking or not idk

you were scared i was just a player using you and then i had to tell you I was a fucking loser in HS and completely self-conscious of myself
so i never actually had an idea what i was doing
and yet you think im lying when i say that is the reason ive now found i have an ejaculation problem in actual sex from all the porn i watched to cope all this time
and you say oh ive never heard of that like im the only guy this has ever been affected by this as if I would ever make up something so embarrassing only cause your ONE other ex didnt have a problem
so now you take it personally as if your the reason i cant as if you're unattractive or that i cant when that is absolutely ridiculous

and even after ALL this i am still in love with you because you are the type of woman ive always wanted and would put up with anything for you
but i dont know how much more i can take of this every single night before i implode and kill myself

http://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/16600585/#16604762

>>16616178
No, get him a 'World's Greatest Dad' mug.

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>>16616178
Get him this one.

>>16616200

I looked into that one, but it doesn't seem too applicable to my situation. Are there any books that talk about traumatizing your children by making them "play maid" for his mistress?

My friend's family did

>>16615765
My family has. Sometimes it can go as blady as 12 pm.

My family always did because my dad would get home late from work. I don't get home from work until 10pm now, so it continues.

You're fun to be around but she doesn't see a future with you.

Not really related to feminism at all.

The nuclear family is less popular (and less feasible) in the current atmosphere. There's not as much pressure to get married and pregnant immediately, so people aren't.

What's the advice that you need?

>>16615692
It's called fear of commitment and it's not new.