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>>16618379
Shit. There's not much you can't do.
I thought it was an unspoken rule not to date coworkers.

>>16618379

its your business you need to have a no dating policy. straight up.

it seems to me you are losing money either way. everyone else is replaceable but shes not? theres plenty of talented people roaming the streets looking for a job.

>>16618398

I've put ads out online looking for someone to fill her position, but I can't find anyone qualified enough, if I lose her I'm going to be in big trouble, she's been with us for a long time now and hasn't started this whole dating thing until about last year.

>>16618196

sometimes it means exactly what it means. but it can often have depth to it.

i say the same thign all the time, but if you meet the right person and it develops naturally, thats okay. but most relationships dont develop naturally. they are all founded on rules or lies or talking out concepts. not as fun or organic to put labels on things.

if i had to guess he started seeing someone else and thinks it might go somewhere serious so thats why he stopped banging you, but hes open enoug hthat you can legitimately be friends. some of us grew up that way.

>>16618196
You should correct him on his word usage. All human interaction results in some form of a relationship. If he didn't believe in relationships he would never interact with another human ever. Instead, he should say he doesn't believe in long term romantic relationships.

>>16618278

ur right. he was unclear before and correcting him will make things better somehow.

>>16618125

lol, kiss her

Drop kick her

You'll make her throw that stuff at your head if you don't keep yourshit together.

>>16618057

you sound like my mom. she wants me to call and tell her i made it off a flight okay even when im just flying for business and not seeing her. its dumb. its not like she wouldnt hear about it if i died, she doesnt have to worry, its a plane.

you sound like her. ur girlfrirend doesnt need someone to take care of her on a plane. she is an adult (at least i hope she is). whats worse is its not like you'd be able to do anything to actually help her if oyu were on the plane

>>16618057
Leave her alone and let her have fun with her aunt.

Jesus Christ, you're a stage 5 clinger. I'd start ignoring your calls if I were her. She's an adult, she doesn't need you to check up on her.

>>16617951
It's fine? This isn't the 1950's

I meself dont mind. I thin black/white relationships are frowned upon in some places. And maybe thai/older men as well.

White/japanese is "tolerated" better i think. In the end fuck the rest man. If you both feel up to it i wish you all the luck !

>>16617951
Fine by me as I got to mix my seed with her insides.

>don't really want a relationship with YOU

>>16617933
Confirmed

>>16617929
she doesn't like you

>>16617848
When she gets hit on you hit her. She'll learn to stay indoors.

>>16617848
This is happening right in front of you? Wow, talk about beta. No one respects you, haha.

You just mark your territory. If a guy starts to check me out, my bf just casually comes over and kisses me. Case closed.

The consequence of being as lonely as you sound is that you never had people teach you to hang the least expectation possible on the shoulders of others. Perhaps, sadly, this actually was the best thing going on in your life right now. That still doesn't make it a good bet to rely on other people. It's why we all advocate finding the "best thing in life" on your own. Whatever it is that you find, it'll probably end up being more reliable than other human beings.

How long did this go on for? Anymore context?

>>16617800

Lonely? Maybe. I have no issue attracting women. Maybe this was the first time I was in love. I've never wanted to do anything nice for someone before. I was fine before her.

If you don't dump that bitch...

>>16617728
You're either an incredible fool or desperate. Leave her you dolt.

I realize it's difficult to let go of someone you love even if they don't care about you. My girlfriend is a bit promiscuous and everyone says to leave her, but I can't you know? Not yet.

I suggest you start looking for someone else right now. Find someone that makes you happy and will actually be loyal. Then you'll soon start forgetting about a bitch who only cares about herself.

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>he refuses
>tell him that I will break up with him if he does smoke weed
>he does
>Im done with everything
>drunk,sad and mad
>punch him while crying
>walk away
>its 4am or something
>Im drunk as fuck
>about 40km away from home
>end up staying at friends
>1 week later end up again with bf
>bf still egotrips me that my actions were shit and that he was right etc
>bf decides to move away because of his uni
>I tell him to take me with him and that I dont want to wait 1 year at home where I get terrorized
>get wasted few nights just because I want to forget
>bf says he will think about it
>ask him few weeks later
>"anon it was always my dream to go to the uni"
>"but you could take me with you"
>"no sorry anon I want to live alone"
>"but you are the only thing that makes me happy anymore"
>he leaves
>we have a ldr
>I switch off my emotions
>cant handle this whole situation anymore
>Im 20
>my parents still are kinda stalking me
>they check my fb
>I had shit like "bi gender, non gender,etc" in my bio
>they start shouting at me
>crying
>I try to tell them that it was sarcasm and I wanted to be funny
>mum makes vomit voices
>I just walk away
>Ive become abusive and agressive over few years
>chocked one guy because he was annoying me
>I always wanted to be better than my parents
>now Im even worse
>bf is away
>bf talks how the poeple there are good looking and super smart
>bf always chats and flirts with a girl
>for 4months
>I ask him if he ever mentioned me to her


cont.

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>"no"
>he literally left me down and couldnt protect me or tried
>everyone in my life who should be loving me abandoned me and I feel betrayed
>I cant love and trust anyone anymore
>still get terrorized at home
>dont even know if I love my bf anymore
>he tells me that he wants to relocatoe to nyc or london because of his future job
>he never told me of it
>I dont care/know anymore


so yeah...

Im almost 21 and yeah should I kill myself? I dont think that its worth anymore,I guess some people cant achieve happiness


TLDR:

>My life was shit
>My life is shit
>My life will stay shit

>Should I kill myself? y/n

Is there any hope that my life could be better, if so help is welcome

>>16617682
>>16617688
>>>/f/uckoff

youre signing up to be a tool for the elite. some people dont mind that, they just want an adventure, arent interested in long term global consequences or even want to be a part of that elite (no matter their role), but you have to ask yourself do i believe in this elite? do they represent me, my children, my country, etc.? do you agree with the ones steering the ship?

>should I become an army officer?
No.

>>16617671
Being in the military is a huge commitment.

You can't just decide one day you want to do something else.

>>16617655

as long as there is no deposit you are worried about having returned, you dont have to worry.

>>16617673
there is deposit though

>>16617731

then you probably l arent getting that back. depending on length of stay, that isnt unusual. after a year you generally shouldnt expect your deposit back.

>>16617650

What history does your chick have?

She get really flirty with you when she had a previous boyfriend? Cheat on previous boyfriends, etc.?

Do her friends do any of the above?

And does she drink to excess when out on the town?

>>16617659
No history I know of. She's pretty hot and gets hit on in public.

She was single when we met.

Her friend got smashed and was trying to meet guys I heard.

She drinks enough to be on a good buzz, but not drunk.

Don't bother, sounds like she's purposely being vague to rile feathers.

Just suck it up and wait it out. Distract yourself when possible, it will likely take time.

Get mad or cry or whatever, there's no real closure so let your shit out.

At the end of the day, though, try not to look back on or idolize the 'good times'. The more you look back on things the longer it'll take to move on.

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Go out and either get hammered or take a shitload of drugs, possibly followed by promiscuous sex. That's how I'd handle it.

As soon as you can, you should then follow that up with a healthy dose of self-improvement. Show her what she's missing out on. Get fit, eat well, keep busy and most of all, be happy. Do whatever it takes to be happy.

Time will heal you. But for now shit is fonna hurt bad. In the meantime, keep yourself occupied.

>>16617594
Become a woman?

By not giving a fuck and forgetting about those features

And or being rich. Decide which is easier for you

>>16617597
I don't mean like Natalie Dormer -style ugly-in-a-really-cute-way -ugly. I mean neanderthal-with-fetal-alcohol-syndrome -ugly.