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>>16623087
>fiancé is pregnant

Urge to kill rising

Just let her pay for your ticket and pay her back once you find work there. Don't fucking risk your time with your woman and child because of your damn ego.

Try working as a door to door salesman if you are fairly good with people, have a high work morale (your goal should help here), and a thick skin. Almost always an open position and you can earn fucktons of money if you work your butt off and stay motivated. However only go for companies that offer coaching, you won't even become a decent salesman without some education. A few books on sales and social skills will also help.

>>16623064
Time to get a part time job and start putting away money for a car. You need money, anyway. How would you afford dating someone if you're broke?

>>16623064
College clubs and events?

You know you can make friends and stuff when you're actually at college, right? As in, in class and stuff

Get a part time job. Don't rely on your trust fund for money.

>>16623026
Almost $800 a month for how many BR? Does that include utilities, and where are you?

>>16623026

i did somome math for you. assuming you havent started your junior year ( i think you did, but for arguments sake) and assuming you graduate after being a senior, thats 6 quarters of tuition, and 24 months of living.

one thing to consider is general living expenses. your rent is identical to mine, so id assume most of them are, and i spend about 1300 a month (this assumes you dont have a big car payment / insurance however, as i take the bus).

that being said you have enough money to pay your tuition and your rent food utilities etc. for two years

and you will be left with 20,410 AFTER you graduate. not a bad lump sum to start your life with.

If you keep going like this, you will be dead in less than a year. You know this needs to change, man. Might as well be today.

>>16622797
have fun overdosing loser

you can't inb4 in the OP

Sorry this isn't a safe space for failed druggies

>>16622797

>roughly

you should never be in a position where you say 'i should roughly be able to live through the night, right?'

you have a problem. that is all.

>>16622773

first and foremost, yes you are right that there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. you do not exist to cater to your girlfriend, you are not her siamese twin, you can hang out with your friends all she wants. if she doesnt have anything to do for 10 hours a fucking month then she needs to reflect on that herself, either by getting more friends or a simple hobby to keep her busy.

all that being said, there is no 'acceptable'. its all between you and your partner. there isnt a go to, or a 'general idea' or a consensus.

i hung out with my best friend every freaking day, and he really only his his gf in the evenings, and even then i was around a lot.

she hated this, made him cut ties with not just me, but all of his friends, and i only ever saw him once after that. fun fact, they were engaged, and yet after she made him drop us from his life, the wedding fell through.

moral is, your friends and family will generally see you through thick and thin. most of those relationships 'fade out'. you shouldnt put too much investment in a romantic relationship, because those tend to end with a bang, and if you cut off all your friends, you'll have nothing left.

personal feelings aside, reign her in, explain that its normal and healthy to hang out with friends.

I have been with my bf for 7 years, have been living together for 4 1/2. I'm 23, he's 25.

We go out at least once a week alone with our own friends and on Friday we go out together with mine or his friends. We often have people over for lunch or dinner and sometimes they sleep here.

Keep hanging out with your friends and family, and have your own life outside your relationship. Your girlfriend is being unreasonable. If you still spend a LOT of time with her, having time for yourself and people you love is necessary.

Something I probably should've mentioned is that she has no friends or family. I think this makes her bothered that I'm able to indulge in thing she wishes she could do, but is unable.

Basically whenever I hang with friends it reminds her she doesn't have any. That's my theory, anyway. I think she'd care less about me spending time with my own if she had some.

And I will never give up my friends, not that they are more important than her, but the principle of being able to keep something that makes me happy in my life should be acknowledged by someone who cares about me. I won't sacrifice that for anyone.

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Semen deamon?

>>16622647
Jaguar.
Fierce.
Zesty.
Or just plain sexy.

>>16622647
Chunk
Punk
Skunk
Funk

Try suck your own dick it took me 7 hours to finally get it. This will fill up your day you retarded price of shit

>>16622620
Whatever you want. It's your birthday. I always get breakfast and lunch with my SO, and then have dinner with my family.

>>16622620
It's my birthday today too. Happy Birthday. I went for a hike. I'm boring too. It must be a Capricorn thing.

>>16622613
At least have the common decency to stand when taking a mirror selfie.

>>16622625
Not even duck facing too.

>>16622625
She is too fat for that don't be mean

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Bump for interest.

>>16622565
Well the following weeks just turned to shit!
They were texting all the fuckin time, it bothered me but I didn't want to act like the jealous bf so I let her do it for a while, hoping that she would remember what an asshole this guy actually is.
After a while it became too much and I asked her straight (paraphrased)
>Me: "Are you falling for him?"
>Her: "No, I just like talking with him"
>Me: "Well your friendship with him is ruining our relationship.. I don't want to be the guy who tells you who you keep as friends but I get jealous.. even though we're in the same room and he's not here I feel like the 3rd wheel.
>Her: How do you mean?
>Me: Ya know, just me and you sitting here watching a movie or something and it feels like you're not here.. you're stuck with your face in the phone texting with him.. texts that you don't even want to share what you're talking about.
>Her: Don't worry, it's you I want to be with, I'll get better at keeping you in the loop, blabla.
Ofcourse it didn't get any better, if anything it got worse because now they started hanging out together.. more and more and more.
Nothing I did carried any weight in "pulling her back over to my side" and I did some pretty awesome bf-stuff to get her back over.
Well ofcourse after weeks of trying, I got frustrated. She didn't listen, they were sneaking around, making plans for dinners and partys they were going to together, she always told me but always like last minute..
>"Hey we booked tickets for "X" thing tonight at "X" place..
Only so I wouldnt be able to say..
>"well you better change those plans"
So they pretty much ended up going out on a few "dates" even though we were still together.

Cont:

>>16622644

Eventually I had enough..
I loved her but I wasn't going to share her with this guy..I confronted her.. I was very frustrated by then so I probobly came across in all the wrong ways.
I told her off straight.
(Again paraphrased)
>me: Now listen here.. I don't like you being around this guy period, I've tried keeping an open mind about you being friends with your ex, I tried giving you your space to "deal with it in your own way" I did everything you told me to do and you said "Trust me it's gonna be ok" but it's not it's just getting worse and worse for every day. I love you and I want to be with you but not like this.
BANG!
Suddenly I'm the bad guy, control freak that keeps her from picking her own friends and shit.
Our relationship turned to real proper shit after that.
We stayed together for about another month but it wasn't good at all.
She broke it off "we don't fit together anymore"
That shit bothers me more then anything in this world.
It's simply not true.. we fit perfectly together until that guy entered our lives.. I know with everything I got that the guy was 100% of the reason behind our break up.

Ofcourse not 1 week later they were together..
It's been 2.5 years and still to this day the guy is an asshole, abusive.. just like I knew he was!
They've been together back and forth ever since.

for her(not like she's gonna read it but it would be so satisfying to say it too her face)
Congrats bitch you ruined a good relationship so you could give this guy another chance, something anyone with half a brain would advice against and now you're stuck with him forever (she's pregnant)

>>16622500
How was your day?
Have you seen this recent movie?
Does my napkin smell like chloroform to you?

>>16622500
>How many times am I going to fuck you tonight?
>Can my friend come over and tag team you?
>You're cool with herpes, right?
>I don't use a condom so don't expect one.
>Do you have any sisters?
>How many glasses of wine does it take to get you drunk? Waiter! I'll take that many glasses please.

Easy peasy, OP! Surefire conversation starters right here

>>16622517
>Cool with herpes?
Implying that 90% of the population doesn't already have it
Implying that the symptoms aren't mild to none

Tell me this what exactly do you want?

Bump or interest. I too have this problem

>>16622427
I want to start focusing more time on reading and developing my skills while properly handelling my education.

I want to start focussing on the things that are critical to my life. But I just keep sidetracking to distractions.

For example, after doing any amount of work I just fall into a 10 hour marathon of gaming.

You're going to hell anon.

>>16622402
Why?

How about just asking the first girl?

>>16622339
I see no risk involved in getting too drunk at new year's eve.

>>16622339
Of course it's better to risk getting "not drunk enough".

>>16622339

depends what the risk is. so much that you die? wouldn't risk it. so much that you cant remember anything? why not. its new years. do what you want.

>>16622279

you're going to become single either way, so you shouldnt be making decisions based on what you think will keep your girlfriend around. if its one thing we can count on a relationship for, is that it will come to an end.

that being said, i dont really recommend being a trucker. probably the most boring job there is. and yes, they do tend to lead to a lot of perpetually single men because you dont have the opportunity to exercise regularly, diet properly, or be around women consistently.

>>16622302
You really know how to rain on a parade.

>>16622308

>guys i need advice, is this true?
>yes, it is true
>WOW YOU REALLY KNOW HOW TO RAIN ON A PARADE

hmmm.

>>16622243

you already have higher education as in you completed it or are currently in school?

that being said, have you considered interests groups relevant to your interests? im guessing you have some sort of hobbies that you consider to be loner type things. sorry for the assumption but
>comics
>video games
>genre'd (horror?) movies
>geeky TV shows
>anime
>board games
>card games

but even if not these things almost ANY activity can be turned to a group activity.

go to meet up dot com and sort through the already established monthly meet ups and go make friends. i did this for horror fan meet ups. lots of fun. they have a LOT of activities for any interest. tell me yours?

that being said, if you do have any interest, especially geek, there are other ways to meet people without the internet. most specialty shops hold 'events'. our comic book store does a weekly movie night where you are expected to give commentary, magic the gathering tournaments (Drafting so its fair) other board game events, etc. trust me ur not the first person to feel lonely and theres plenty going on you just gotta look for it.

worse comes to worse, start your own meet up and see what happens!

>>16622243

People are shit, OP. Our society is collapsing, you will be hard pressed to find decent people to be friends with. You've been given the gift of autism, learn an instrument and spend all your time becoming a god at it. Despite your autism there will be some chick out there who's knees get weak watching you play. Spend the rest of your life with her and disregard everyone else. 98% of us are pieces of shit.

>>16622317
I find instruments to be boring.
I have some "gifts" already, such as the ability to do very big divisions mentally, with the decimals, up to many digits. I can also memorize lots of digits, objects, or other shit easily in the correct order. For example, it took me 20 minutes to memorize 300 digits of Pi, which I then recited at a family gathering.