So i am 20 years old, going on 21 in may and i have not moved a single inch since high school.
I still don't have my drivers license because i cant afford the test and i cant get a ride into town to go sign up in the first place. I live with my mom still, im NEET. we have no income right now and i grew up in serious poverty. Ive tried job hunting but i live in a tar pit of a town of like 1000 people where most are on food stamps. Its hard to actually have any hope for my future. I have no help what so ever, most people my age have had help financially but i am left completely to figure it out on my own and i feel like ill be stuck forever. I cant find a job at all, even if i do i should be building things for a future. if i dont do something fast i will be doomed to be a retail clerk well into old age.
I also want to go to college but i just cant afford it, the loans, transportation to get there, etc etc. plus i dont even know who i am or what any of my interests are i have no idea what i want to do.
Its seriously starting to wither at my sanity, already had a mental breakdown in may over it.
I want to live comfortably and i want to make something of myself but i feel as if the system is rigged. either that or i have become self aware. I live in squalor, in a dirty trailer with my mom who is a hoarder.
Military also isnt an option for me. and im stressed out. ive made no progress.
How the hell do i beat poverty and get out of this white trash town. i dont want my life to be like this forever.
what the hell should i do?, i feel like there is a road block at every turn.
>>16631884
The military is probably a good option for you.
>Military also isnt an option for me. and im stressed out. ive made no progress.
Oh, why?
What's the closest city to you? How far?
How much money do you have right now, exactly?
Do you actually live on foodstamps?
Any other family?
You really are pretty fucked, but there ARE things to do.
Anyway, there are a bunch of actually legit only work companies - one I know of is called "Lionbridge". Basically, you look at google search results and determine how closely they match what a human expects. Google outsources to them. It's shit work and you actually work, and it average to about $5 an hour, but you might want to seriously consider it for your first $1000 to make a move.
There used to also be text services, one was called "KGB" or something, basically you would Wikipedia shit for people. I have no idea what morons used it, but my friend worked there. It might be out of business for now.
You need to apply to every single one of these places as a first step. Like tomorrow.
>>16631901
I have a slight record, and i have a history of depression.
Closest major city to me is grand rapdis, which is about 45 minutes to an hour away by car.
I have no money, bank account is empty
All of our food comes from food stamps right now. other than that we are completely without income. my mom likes to burn her own bridges a lot, and its affected me shes not malicious but she also is affraid of going outside or going anywhere at all in the winter, she just wont do it. only people keeping the lights on and rent paid is my grandma, and my moms boyfriend.
My dad is out of the picture, he hates me. so asking him for help is out of the question.
I just feel lost on what to do.
Im scared that if i go to college ill flunk out and ill be surrounded by spoiled kids who no nothing about what struggle is. surrounded by entitled liberalsa and do nothing be nothing but in debt.
But i also know that if i try to get a retail job ill be stuck there a long time and be miserable.
But i cant even get a retail job right now, i have a two going on three year employment gap. and i basically feel like human filth. i feel ashamed to be around anyone because im just such a fucking autistic loser.
everyone tells me is just lack of willpower but ive applied at even the shittiest jobs and not even gotten a single call.
i cant take this anymore, i cant live another year in this trailer park. this life isnt for me. i wish i was middle class
Alright /adv/ I need your help. I can't last for shit during sex. every girl I've been with has been disappointed in me in some way or another. It's really affecting my confidence, and this is my last resort. How do I last longer during sex?
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>>16631875
After you cum, just keep fucking. What's so hard about that?
>>16631878
Losing the will to keep going. I go limp almost immediately. Am I screwed?
>>16631875
personally, I really enjoy it when a guy can't hold his shit together very long. It's funny and cute, and also kind of a turn-on. Him being horny he can't help but cum turns ME on, and makes me feel really good. He can always eat me out until I finish if I'm not able to get off during the short time he's fucking me.
I feel like dudes are too hard on themselves when it comes to this- but maybe my thoughts are the typical ones, who knows.
How many dates in do you have to be before just "chilling at home with a movie" is a date?
Ive already done a coffee date, and a movie + meal + drinks date. As much fun as I think it is, shits expensive and its hard to think of good things to take her too. And desu I just really wanna chill and get some alone time with her
Havent seen her in a couple weeks because shes been away for xmas as have I, we've kept texting though and Im seeing her when she comes back on the 11th.
I think shes got exams around then too, so would asking if she just wants to come round mine and watch a movie be totally outta the question? We've already slept together (but havent had sex)
1. Have sex
2. Make her have orgasms.
3. Tell her you just want to stay home and chill.
4. She will do whatever you say as long as you keep giving her orgasms.
If that's what you want to do, I don't see anything wrong with that.
>>16631829
Just ask her.
My mom is addicted to narcotics and alcohol. she had been drinking again and apparently i have a rage problem. but only when it comes to her. she is the only person i have ever completely lost control with. i caught her trying to sneak vodka again and i grabbed her by the throat, screamed in her face, and when she wouldn't give me her purse with the vodka in it i punched her in the chest. later in the day, after everything had calmed down (she had tried to go to the emergency room for withdraw, then after 3 hours signed herself out because she was in so much pain from her rib, which is probably cracked, because of me) we talked a bit, she said something about me moving out because of this, and that i need to see someone for my anger, and that she is afraid of me now.
i feel bad. i dont know what to do. she has terrible health anyway i and just added another problem onto the pile. i dont want to wake up tomorrow, i just want everything to be normal again, i want my god damn life back.
Go to an Al-Anon meeting. Al-Anon is for relatives of alcoholics to find support.
You can't control other people, man, no matter how much you care about them. If it makes you crazy to be around it, you just need to leave. Hopefully she'll choose you over the booze, but it's her choice, not yours.
so sorry to hear that anon. it's not uncommon for people to act violently to their family when they feel that they've been wronged/hurt by the family. it's a subconscious thing but you have to realize that your reaction to your mother is rather clouded by this. you have to stop seeing her as a mother whom you sometimes love and sometimes hate but as a regular human being with a bunch of flaws like the rest of us. she needs help and so do you.
now, because your mother is scared from the incident, i would take a week break from everything and spend time away from her. when things cool down, have a heart to heart with her. tell her you love her but it just triggers something in you when you see her drinking. she will most likely deny that she has problems but this is normal. it's important that you do not criticize her no matter how much you feel like she deserves it because she won't get it and it'll only make things worse. i know you'll get angry and start having urges to lash out at her but try your best not to. the important thing is that you apologize for what you've done. you probably feel that your actions are a bit justified but that is not the case and she could have put you in jail if she wanted to. a lot of men who hit or even kill people feel that they are justified but we know this is often not the case.
afterwards, i would suggest you become a more independent person. i know you love your mom and it would suck to leave her in her state, but you have to distance yourself from her because she's not a good influence. you might actually end up in jail when your rage problems come back in the future and this would probably make you get angrier at your mom. don't let it get to that point. start having control of your life and try not to mind things that are not in your control.
tl;dr hooked up with a guy at a party, thinking of dating but I feel that I'm out of his league.
A not close friend of mine randomly texted me to see how was I going, we chatted for a while,
played a game match together and in the end asked me if I know where I'll greet the New Years.
As I said no, he invited me to go with him and his friends. I accepted.
As we got to the party, had a couple of drinks, became very social with everyone and a lot of people told my friend
'I'm really glad you invited her here, she seems very cool'
My friend once in a while would kiss my forehead, I wasn't stranged about that, cause his friends group would usually
come up randomly and his everyones forehead. It's like theyr group tradition, as one of the girls said 'Our friends
group really loves one another, maybe in time, you'll be one of us'
As time passed, a lot of us were tired of the dancing, singing and we just went to lay down on the sofa. I sat on my
friends lap, he would just hug me tightly.
Later, he asked me if I'd like to go and lay on the bed upstairs, not here, with other people on a small sofa.
Both of us went to lay on the bed and just laid there, talking about the party itself.
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Later, he asked me if I'd like to go and lay on the bed upstairs, not here, with other people on a small sofa.
Both of us went to lay on the bed and just laid there, talking about the party itself.
Long story short, we started kissing a lot, caress each other and in the end we had sex.
After that, we continued laying on the bed, in times we would kiss, in times we would laugh and joke around and in times
we would talk about life, it's details. He said he really loved the way everything happened and really loved the fact
that I don't take everything really seriously, thats why he really enjoyed hooking up with me and said he wanted this
from the beginning. Quote ' Oh come on, I know that you think i'm that so called 'fuckboy', but I'm not. I didn't
hook up with a girl in a long time and here, having you here is just wonderful. Even my best friend likes you, you heard
it yourself. He said I've never invited such a chill, fun girl and he wants us dating, but you know, it may only be a
drunk mans talks. I'll really be in touch with you, hell, maybe I'd really love to date you."
As we woke up, all sober, we would still cuddle in bed and kiss each others forehead. Both of us were smiling, at
moments laughing. In my suprise, after the New Years party he would kiss me infront of his friends and would hug
me thightly.
As we drove back home, we would cuddle in the back seat of the car, but for a reason, we both were freezing.
They released me near my home, my friend would of look at me, smiled and kissed me, hugged me, asked me if I'd like
to come with them later to the oldtown, but I said I'm not sure.
I got home and almost right away he texted me and we chatted till I went to sleep.
What should I do?
I'm interested in the guy, but what really bugs me, that he is a solid 10/10 and his girl friends are around 10/10 as
well. And here I am, something not far from 7/10.
Does it sounds that he is interested in me or should I not try doing anything?
Hey look! It's Snoop Doge!
>>16631734
>He kissed you
>"Is he interested in me?"
Nigga, how dense can you be?
I feel extremely self conscious and think i look stupid whenever I exercise. This has stopped me from going outside for runs since I don't own/don't have the money/don't have the room for a treadmill. It's not like the area around here is very populated. How do I break this?
dude a gym membership is like 10 bucks wtf?
By realizing that no one actually gives the slightest fuck what random strangers do or look like.
>>16631683
live in a rural area and no gyms around
Going on third date tomorrow, and neither of us have ever kissed anyone. When should I kiss her? Please help, thanks!
>>16631623
It comes natural. You both will know, don't stress.
>>16631631
I hope so, thanks
what are you guys doing for the date?
Ever since I've been sexually active, I've always wanted to peg a guy with a really nice ass. Finally, I've got a great boyfriend with a super fine ass. But he won't let me peg him. He'll, to his dismay, let me finger him sometimes, and let me lick his buttthole. I've told him I'll be gentle and loosen him up first by eating him out, but he doesn't believe me.
So two questions:
> is it wrong to deny anal sex to my bf since he won't let me peg him?
> how do I get him to let me peg him?
>>16631610
Haha, why? Do you secretly desire to have a dick of your own?
>>16631616
I'm a petite girl, and he's a big guy. There's nothing sexier to me than a manly man letting a girl dominate him like that. You could say I have a thing for male butts.
He knows I'd dominate him, but not the first time. I really would be gentle at first.
>>16631634
What if he's not gay, not even for his woman? Again, don't you secretly desire one of those nice penises of your own? Finally close that gaping hole and grow your clitoris out.
How do I politely turn a guy down?
>>16631603
Tell us exactly how he asked you out, how long you've known him, and if you work with him/go to school with him.
Don't.
Just say no and let your peers handle the rest.
Hire a mercenary
have him beat the shit out of him
when he's on the floor bleeding walk by and say "by the way, this is me turning you down"
How can I eliminate my jealous feelings for a girl in our friend group who I will never be able to get with?
>>16631574
Bump
>>16631574
You can't just eliminate your feelings. It's better to try and see what happens anon or you will later regret it.
>>16631574
Does she lead you on/use you, or you just have a crush and you can't let it go?
Unfortunately OP sometimes these things take time. If she's not the shitty type that's milking the situation, try not to become bitter towards her,
Dude.... help. I'm falling too fast and too hard.
I met my best friend's brother, Matt, 3 weeks ago at a party; he's just moved to the city. We hit off immediately, he asked me out, and the night ended with us making out in the coat closet like middleschoolers. We've gone out about 6 times since then- and stayed up until 5am watching stupid videos and laughing and having sex.
He's really weird, pudgy and hairy; super smart... fun, and funny. We do the Carlton dance in public, we have conversations ranging from deep to absurdly silly... He's the whole package. And I've been falling hard and fast. He texts me everyday, but I still somehow get the feeling I like him more than he likes me. How do I put the brakes on my shit?? Or DOES he like me to the same degree, and I'm just being an insecure nutjob? I don't want to make this go too fast or get clingy and... I don't know how to get this shit in check.
>>16631456
let it be man love is a fast car live it fully vrum vrum
>>16631472
haha I'm normally all for jumping in feet first, and letting it ride- but for some reason I'm filled with anxiety about this. I just need to chill, let it happen... and hope we're equally into each other.
You should start acting really cold towards him, and flirt with another man, to prove to him that you're not just his lap-dog. Men love that
My man keeps his junk very clean at all times, but sometimes there's a bit of pee smell/taste to it. I never say anything because it goes away after a few licks, and I don't want to ruin the mood sending him to go get cleaner, but then next day I usually have pharyngitis. I know what I need is to communicate, but if you guys could give me an example of how to do this without it sounding like he is always dirty (he isn't, seriously, this only happens once in a while, but it lasts a few days and it's painful as fuck so I'd rather not have it)
Ask his dad to lick it off, if his dad is okay with that stuff, of course.
Get it clean yourself, in the shower, with a soapy handy, then a skin conditioner/flavored lube handy handy
Carry baby wipes with you at all times just in case you need them.... It should wipe away the taste pretty we'll and leave a nice aroma
What does it take to be loved?
What does it take to be something people want to be around and touch?
You need to master the art of being a brownnose. Sounds gay? Well, there's sadly no alternative, unless you're god fucking rich. Then you could even be a fucking asshole, nobody would care, as long as they get their fair share of the cake. I assume you're neither ridiculously rich or Brad Pitt-tier good-looking and charismatic. I advise you to begin with "Dale Carnegie - How to win friends and influence people"; his "rules" are a fairly good summary of the basic etiquette rules to begin with. Once you know the rules of the game, you got to practice. Try different things and watch how people react. Remember what triggers positive/negative reactions, and utilize that.
>>16631377
>brownnose
So gossip?
I think I've seen that book around, I need to find it.
>>16631363
>What does it take to be something people want to be around and touch?
Trial and error. And I'm not sure which of the two is more important.
Ivy leagues out of the picture, what is the best US university for the humanities, specifically English and Philosophy?
>>16631348
It doesn't really matter where you go at this point for those degrees.
>>16631351
If I want to get the best education, wouldnt it be best to choose a school with a strong department in *insert major here*?
If you study something like philosophy, it absolutely doesn't matter where you do that. Your studying will look like that: you'll read a shitload of books by various philosophers, and occasionally discuss some of them at uni. That's it. It really doesn't matter whether you spend 90% of your time reading books in your dorm room at Harvard or California or Bangladesh. Ask yourself, how much money do you want to spend, and how important is the uni's prestige to you?
Please help me.
I'm becoming a woman hater and I dont want to be. I really dont.
But I'm becoming so bitter and full of anger toward women.
Last year I was hurt very bad by a girl I loved very deeply.
I tried to move on but haven't been able to fully.
Part of the problem is I found my way to /r9k/ who has fueled my anger.
But a lot of the things they have brought up, I have now noticed myself.
Things like women only wanting only the top 20% of guys. The cheating, the carelessness of breaking a guys heart.
The no longer wanting of being a housewife or having a family.
I don't want to be this way.
Are there still women out there that just want to find a guy to love and start a family with? One that won't leave or cheat the first opportunity they get? One that won't walk out on you after a couple of years?
I really want to believe there are...
>>16631309
They're all married with children. You might as well just start fucking guys now.
>>16631309
why do you want a family anyways? feminists have destroyed the nuclear family and the government is a better provider to women then the average man. The government and the welfare state gives women an incentive to become single mothers by giving them child support,food stamps,housing benefits, etc and provides them government jobs. This is why women don't treat men very well nowadays and cheat on them with no consequence. this mistreatment of men will not stop until the our magina president and government stops pandering to women.
>>16631309
>Are there still women out there that just want to find a guy to love and start a family with? One that won't leave or cheat the first opportunity they get? One that won't walk out on you after a couple of years?
Yes, yes, and yes.