What are signs that someone is falling out of love with you, or that a relationship is failing?
>>16635954
life is diverse, so there isnt any tell tale signs other then things like them openly hating you, cheating on you etc.
relationships are constantly changing and evolving. when you first meet someone you might not touch them for a long time. then six months later you cant stop touching. then six months later you only cuddle at home. then six months later you onle cuddle some nights.
some people stay more cuddly, others dont. losing excitement and passion does not mean losing love.
>>16635954
>more time apart
>less calls/texts
>caring less about your feelings
>change in behavior
Are some.
Their face doesn't light up when they see you
What was before a minor issue you guys can talk about turns into a full blow arguement.
He/She doesn't laugh or smile anywhere near as much as when you two first started dating.
Sex isn't as frequent.
They want more alone time to get away from you.
I'm having gf issues /adv/. We've been dating a year almost and I've been on the fence about her but this one issue bugs me the most and I'm not sure if it can be resolved. Basically, her vagina smells really bad to me. When I first noticed I just thought, okay it's natural for vaginas to smell a bit or maybe she's on a bad day and I would just bite my lip go down on her. After a few months of just accepting it I finally had to hint at her that something seems off to me. Of course she was really embarrassed and it was a big thing but she agreed to keep it clean with products and seeing a doctor to make sure it's not an infection, which it's not. But even after that she would sometimes just not shower all day and expect me to go down on her and it was rank. Even directly after a shower, there's a bad odor when I go down on her. When we just have regular old sex and she gets more wet it turns into this sticky, slimy smelly mess that lingers in my room and makes my junk smell. I finally brought it up one last time and she was totally crushed and started to take offense. She really doesn't think it smells or is in some denial and thinks "it's not that bad." The thing is, with my ex, even if she was a dirty, I had no issues with it. It never smelled this bad or offensive to me.
So, I don't know what to fuckin do. I don't want to break up over something so petty but it's really bothersome. I say it smells and she thinks it's totally fine. She's going to try to change her diet and be mindful but I'm worried that's just how she is and I cannot stand it. What should I do?
I keep getting yeast infections all the dang time... Maybe because I just had a baby?
But they are really mild and odorless and it does not bother my bf at all but it makes me feel really embarassed.
I really dont know why I keep
Getting them either.
Could his penis be part of the problem? It goes really deep.
>>16635926
just tell her to stop wiping
the smell of ass will overpower the stench of pussy
pineapples, eat a lot of pineapples and drink more water
it very well may simply be her body chemistry though
I need to know if I got a STI or not. I got tested and looked at some of the results online and it said it was negative for syphilis and gonorrhea but it didnt say anything about blood results and I got an email from the doctor saying they need me to come in to talk about the results. They said that they would call me to talk about it but they didn't.
Bump pls help.
>>16635909
It's an STD, and you probably have one. They're insisting on the diseases being called infections to make them seem less harmful, but in reality HIV/AIDS is a fucking disease, not some infection that can be treated with one dose of an antibiotic.
Hiv?
How do I get over my relatively short stature, /adv/? I've never measured my height, but I estimate it to be about 5'6" with shoes in. I'm 18-years-old and I don't know how I'm going to stand a chance in life in terms of being taken seriously and getting into the dating scene. I'd love to get into some position of power some day, but I don't see it happening at my height. Some might call that 'Napoleon syndrome', but whatever.
What can I do to get over my height insecurity, /adv/?
>>16635906
Ha! Im six foot and im a girl lol
sucks to be you
>>16635906
Do you have a big schlong?
>>16635932
b8
but in the end, op, you just really gotta not give a fuck. attitude is subjective. i've seen 5'5" players get more pussy then 6" kids at times. how often do you drink or smoke?
what are some good positions for a chubbyish girl to take nice sexy selfies to send her husband?
A diet
>>16635920
oh snap! lol
what if he's got a chubbs fetish or she is just being insecure?
Search the #chubby tag on instagram or that kind of sites and copy the position of the women there.
Hi /adv/. I'm 18 and am kind of conflicted with how I feel about girls. I'm not a fedora tipping neckbeard, I lift, and some people even say I look handsome, but I kind of feel like giving up on trying to find a gf/fwb. On the other hand though, I feel like I'm gonna look back 5 years from now and wonder why it was so difficult to get girls because it'll come so naturally to me. Is there any advice you can give me that helped you get girls to like you? I tried the whole be an asshole, approach girls, PUA shit but I'm kind of shy and it never works out the way I want it to.
>>16635847
>it never works out
You're 18. You haven't exactly had a long time to try everything out. How many girls have you approached in you life? Keep trying.
>18
>give up
Chill the fuck out senpai. You're so young bruv
Give it time, you're still young.
We all walk different paths in life, not at the same time necessarly, walk yours and never give up despite setbacks.
Ok, so i know this is most likely going to end with trolling but here goes.
I am getting married in just under 2 months (early march) and we still owe ~ $10k on all the shit...
Some background:
I work full time and make ~1300 p/w
She works full time and makes ~3500 p/m
We have a little boy that requieres daycare so we can work full time... we have already sent all the rsvps and n shit im back at work on the 4th of jan and so is she.
Basically i need adv on how to make extra $ :/ i know it seems like we will jave more than enough $ earned in that time but we also live on our own and have rent / bills / food etc just cost of life BS..
Also i live in AUS...
Also pic no related..
>>16635824
What is p? Pence?
>>16635855
P/w = per week
P/m = per month
Bump in hopes of adv
>noticed some dude's name on my girlfriend's phone's chat log several months ago
>saw it again by chance some months later
>don't see it for a bit
>see it again today
I swear a saw a heart but maybe I'm being paranoid. I trust my girlfriend. Do I just ignore this?
Was he in her phone as boy?
>>16635800
Be more suspicous if she has textme or something like that with an alternate number
>>16635827
Doesn't matter. if it was some dude she doesn't care about and is just bothering her from time to time, he shouldn't be in her contacts at all. It should just be a phone number at the top.
Sipping my green tea and eating cookies, I am snuggled inside safe and sound, with my shades drawn. However, outside is not the prettiest place in the world.
This is my first night in my new place, alone in the ghetto.
8:40pm: The train went by. Not as loud as I'd expected.
8:45pm: I keep hearing occasional thuds, followed by howling laughter, screaming, and shouting, in the distance.
> tfw you just want to chill out and not have it turn into fukken The Purge
>>16635788
i know a guy in a similar situation
it's tough being alone i know how that feels
out of curiosity what kinda stuff you got in there?
>>16635788
I live there too because I am unwed and had a baby with a cook.
What area?
t least you missed all the gunshots on the new years lol
>>16635788
People always ask if we are feds or witness protection not understanding why a young white family would live amongst them.
Which I get you might think our wealthy families would chip in $600 a month so we could live with our newborn baby in a safer area.
> nigga drinking tea? Da fuck??
Kek kek kek
Spend time on adv to feel distracted
So I have been seeing a girl for the past year, it started off purely sexual but then I realized I really do like her. We talk basically everyday, know each other's friends, and know these weird quirks that you learn about a person. However, she told me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship because it is obligations even though she claims to not want to have sex with anyone else. We have literally never been on a date besides when I bring her to my fraternity's date functions, not even for something simple like coffee. She says that she wants the option to hookup with other people but she doubts she is ever going to use it.
Over the summer things died down a little bit and I had sex with someone else because if she doesn't want to be exclusive then I have every right to do whatever the fuck I want. She was pretty much devastated and I spent months repairing things with her not wanting to talk to me and her ending things again and again. Things have finally returned to normal but I told her friend that I wanted to take her on a casual date somewhere. New Years morning she tells me she still doesn't want to be exclusive or go on dates and we were interrupted before I got my say in.
Our pseudo-relationship is basically a fucking timebomb and I don't know how to get that through to her. If she hooks up with someone else I will never talk to her again. If I hook up with someone else she will never talk to me again. I'm fucking craving something more than us hanging out at 11pm in her room and occasionally being at the same social gatherings. She freaks out when the term date is thrown around thinking candlelit dinner cruise around the city, and I've explained its more lets smoke a joint and go to the city. I don't even know if I am asking for advice because I don't listen to half the shit people tell me in person, maybe I just want some strangers on the internet to tell me what they think.
She can never trust you ever again, the fact you slept with someone else puts throws this relationship out the window. She probably talks to her friends and they probably tell her to ditch you but she might be holding out thinking that this strained relationship is savageable.
Honestly I think you need to move on to a much more healthier relationship where you can't say what you want because the relationship will implode. Honestly you are walking on eggshells anon and it is not healthy mentally and emotionally.
>>16635810
Some of her friends tell her to end things and some of them tell her to never let me go.
I know this is completely fucking toxic but I literally can't let her go. We tried not talking for a week and it ended with both of us being miserable and having sex.
She breaks down and cries all the time when she is with me saying that she wishes she could commit to a relationship and that she wants me to be her boyfriend. I'm terrified one day she is going to ignore me the way she did in the past and I am going to pull a similar move feeling abandoned.
>>16635785
Jesus Christ kid. How in the fuck do you manage to type all that shit out without realizing how fucking stupid your situation is. The only value a relationship has is what both people get out of it. If you're both happy with the way things are now, you stay, if you want something more and she doesn't, then you leave. It really is that fucking simple.
Hey /adv/
Nothing I do can stop me from constantly being enraged. People notice and avoid me. What should I do?
>>16635633
channel it for good
be a warrior for Valhalla!
I'm not mad at anyone in particular. Just the way the world is and what's happened to me and my family. I can't calm down or enjoy life. I'm always mad
>>16635633
Try to learn to stop being a paranoid NEET aspie fuck. Jesus christ, OP.
You're like 12, right?
>be me in USA
>gf is in dubai UAE
>shows me her nudes after 1 month of no showing (mmm shave pussy)
>ask when she shaved
>she says a couple days ago she trimmed
Should I worry?
>>16635631
>me: being you
>getting cucked by rich arabs
>wondering if i should worry
if she was planning on sending those nudes, then she probably shaved it for you
if it was something "spontaneous" then yes, you should worry
I always shave even if i wasn't planning on having sex. I just got so used to it when i was in a relationship that i can't stand having a hairy pussy.
Is there any realistic way of making friends and obtaining a normal social life if you're a friendless hermit in your mid-20s who missed out on the socialization and networking experience that most people your age have?
Yes, I was able to build up a friend base essentially from scratch after life circumstances made it so I couldn't hang out with anyone for two years or so.
If you have an out-of-the-house job, you can start there. I also recommend finding ways to network using the hobbies that you have. If you don't have any hobbies, try things out until you find something you enjoy and start from there.
The internet is also a good place to meet people. You may not be able to meet them in real life but it's still a social connection and most definitely better than nothing.
>>16635424
Yeah, its called getting out of your comfort zone and just throwing yourself out there.
>>16635459
This is the most stupid meaningless kind of ''advice'' you'll ever see on /adv/. It means literally nothing.
Hello.
/adv/ please tell me how to stop being shy and creepy around the guy I like, I just want to be able to look at him in the eyes and smile, but every time I try to do that, my breathing speeds up and I can't do anything.
To illustrate my situation
>23 year old kv, already gave up on ever losing it but this guy is showing interest in me
>not ugly, just a depressed shut in during my youth
>got my first job last year an met him there
I think he likes me but I fear that he thinks I'm ugly one he takes a closer look to my face, also boring and uninteresting because I have been a friendless shut in during most of my life.
The problem is that I stare at him too long and I stalk him a lot, with just his name I got his address, age, social media, contact numbers, job history, etc. I also changed my job schedule and supervisor to match his. I also dream about him almost every night.
With that said, every time he looks at me I just back away and put on a poker face and look away really quick, he sometimes catches the elevator with me and I can barely breathe during the ride.
Today he stopped to catch his train in my station and I just left the station and walk 40 minutes till the next one to avoid him.
I don't want to give his the impression that I dislike him or that I'm crazy about him, I just want a normal coworker relationship to know him better, but my spaghetti spills out every time.
Best line from a so-so movie:
"“You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.”"
i'm a dude with probably a similar past to you.
I can say everything changed for me one day when I was 23 and met a girl, over the course of about a year fell for her, actively gathered myself, and put myself completely out there to her.
It resulted in the briefest of moments of absolute bliss (my first kiss) and later soul crushing agony. But the second I actually did it, everything changed for me. It was like a giant weight was listed off me and I lost all fear moving forward. Everything became easy after that.
Your mileage may vary.
>>16635396
>The problem is that I stare at him too long and I stalk him a lot, with just his name I got his address, age, social media, contact numbers, job history, etc. I also changed my job schedule and supervisor to match his. I also dream about him almost every night.
creepy.
what makes you think he likes you? what kind of interest is he showing?
you could ask him if he wants to have a drink after work.
>>16635420
Thanks for the words, I'm too insecure, I don't want him to look at my face up close and in good lighting, I want to shape up my body, improve my skin and then maybe smile at him.
>>16635436
He also stated at me and sometimes, like today, he slows down his pace to match mine walking towards the train and waits in my station.
But maybe it is my imagination, but I saw him looking back at me several times while he was walking. And I swear this in this walk to train I wasn't stalking him, that is just my regular walk.
>you could ask him if he wants to have a drink after work
I can't even look at the guy in the eye an you're asking me to invite him a drink.
>it's a drink shitloads of coffee, have lots of junkfood, waste all time on 4chan and youtube, do the bare minimum, and become wildly optimistic in the evening about my ability to do shitloads of work tomorrow and achieve my potential and give up coffee and junk food episode
>it's approximately episode 200 since I graduated from university
at least you have a degree
>>16635338
i had that for awhile. the trick is to make a list of things you want to change, then do only one big one and a few little ones a month.
for instance, dont wake up early tomorrow, eat only healthy, clean the whole house, apply for jobs, and go to the gym.
instead, focus the first month on regulating your sleep schedule, and just eating healthy.
then february is job hunt and working out.
march is cleaning the house (one part at a time) and quitting coffee.
>>16635351
Oh yeah, I do have concrete goals for the mediujm term (programming books) but lately I constantly change my mind over what productivity system to use.
Schedule everything? Zero schedule? How many hours of work every week? Do multiple things each day or one thing every day?