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>>16636510

Just watched that today, and it was shit.

You chose a shitty gf

She thought you were clingy, and she might be right.

You are a real piece of shit, man

If you don't report him, someone else will. And when that happens, he'll come clean about you blackmailing him, which is equally illegal. It might even go further than blackmail, since you would have known about it and done nothing. Either report him, or don't, but don't try to use this situation to your advantage because you're not going to win.

>>16636439

what for? finding random public albums? Trust me, if i was a real piece of shit I would ask this on /b/.

>>16636440

makes sense. he's just taken the pics 15-16 days ago so eventually someone will discover them.

So, Where can I report it? Google would only remove the pics probably but would FBI be interested in this? Would they need my testimony and stuff? I'm asking because I don't know how these stuff work in USA.

>>16636430
You have gotten farther than most people without those conditions. You need to continue to stay the course as hard as it is, eventually the seas will calm down to were you can handle it better. Also, if the girl shows you interest, go for it, it might improve your outlook.

>>16636430
>your life story
And, what do you need advice on?

>>16636445
just how to deal with my shit. It's far from my life story. It's just an explanation of the darkness in my head

Dont really need to read the entire story OP, sounds like you think that she holds her dad in such high regard, and you look at him like a piece of shit...youre afraid hes going to start fucking with your relationship?

>>16636397
Tater sounds charming, wait 6 years.

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I ask her how she thinks it went. She says she thinks it went okay. Over the next few months I occasionally see her dad, and I always try to strike up a conversation with him and he still gives me the cold shoulder.

Eventually my girlfriend tells me that her dad thinks I'm an asshole, even though I've always been cordial with him in person.

One day I'm looking through her phone and read her conversation with her dad. He's been calling me a fag, a bitch, a loser, and a douche behind my back. I ask my girlfriend about it and she says that she doesn't know why he thinks that either. I tell her I want to confront him about it, but she asks me to let it go so I do.

A few months later my girlfriend is at her dad's house again telling me that her dad is throwing his dog around and kicking it because it stole some food off the counter. I'm not a huge animal lover, but I think you should respect all creatures. After she leaves I call her dad and tell him that what he did is a pretty fucking sad, especially considering he did it in bunch of kids. I tell him that if I hear about him doing something like that again I won't hesitate to report him. On the phone he is respectful and just says okay, and asks me what I would have done differently. I just tell him that I wouldn't lose my shit and attack a dog in front of my kids. He says okay and hangs up.

A few weeks later he buys my girlfriend a car and says she can have it, but only if she breaks up with me. After a week of pressuring her and causing her all kinds of emotional hell and crying every night she refuses to break up with me so he gives her the car saying "lol only pretending"

>>16636384
What if those labels are bullshit, and she just chooses to have a really shitty attitude? Psychology seems to busy labelling instead of fixing. Ofc if she, she will need to see there's something wrong with her behavior. She'll only change if she suffers consequences, because right now, why would she change?

Not necessariy antisocial personality disorder. Sounds like "cluster b" though, perhaps narcissistic or borderline. The difference can be hard to tell outside of careful clinical interviewing by a professional. The difference doesn't matter to you.

You know what matters? She'll ruin your shit and you gotta turn and run. First chance you get. I know that you love her and that at least part of you thinks that you might be able to make it work, but that ain't gonna happen man. Trained, lifelong professionals don't even get close to a 60-80% cure rate with these individuals with all the benefits of hospitalization, drugs, etc etc. It's not your responsibility and it never can be. Turn and run whenever you can.

I didn't listen when they told me the same thing, but I know better now. God knows I wasn't strong enough to leave on my own. I took the opportunity when she dumped me during one of her tantrums. Good luck.

>>16636398
>Psychology seems to busy labelling instead of fixing

Fucking this. They give you a test and that's it. She could have bullshitted, been in a different frame of mind, etc.

And I'm of the belief that there's no such thing as a "sociopath".

>>16636346
I should mention, that it's not even about girls anymore. I just lost my motivation to do anything in life. I honestly feel sad, but I don't know how to describe it.

>>16636346

What do you do and what do you make?

What's your bench?

Height/weight?

>>16636358
I am a chemical engineer. I work for an oil company right now.

I bench 120

I'm 6 ft 0, 190 lbs.

NEETs are out of shaps bums with no ambition in life who watch anime all day.

Oh yes women should totally be running to date you.

>>16636287
Women can have and still easily get dates:
>zero aspirations
>a shit job
>no money
>no car
>live with parents
>no higher education or plans to get a degree

A guy with those same qualifications won't even be given the time of day by women.

>>16636309

Not if they are uggo.

If you can't take a burn from left field then your portrayal of joke/diss affection banter shouldn't have entered the workplace. Your boss is gonna call you a baby if you cry about it. You brought this upon yourself and you know how you have to get out by playing back.

>>16636295
I can take banter, but he's just downright insulting sometimes and it pisses me off. Another example:

I'm tutoring a group of students trying to get them situated, and he butts in continuing some earlier conversation we just had about personality differences. In front of the whole group he goes "You just don't really have an approachable personality. Actually you're not that intimidating either."

He then proceeds to question the entire group (wasting time, btw) to see if they thought I was approachable. None of them answered because they thought it was rude, and I was pissed so I kept helping the students with their work. His "banter" is just petty, mean comments. And most of the time it's only me and him or another co-worker doing anything, so it isn't as if I make a scene every time I'm in there.

>>16636266
>"haha you're single"
This is not what has upset you.
>my boss is just a cunt
This is what has upset you.

>and you wonder why you don't have a girlfriend.
Belittling you in every way possible. Calling you unattractive, immature, stupid, and basically accusing you of trying AND failing to hit on girls.
>I know why you're single, actually me and Anon (my best friend) know why you're single.
He's trying to single you out by including your friend on his side, essentially saying "yeah, these guys agree with me, so don't tell me I'm wrong."
>Apparently all my work to teach you charm has failed.
He's claiming he's smarter than you, and he's expressing disappointment. It's very insulting. He's also saying that you have no charm whatsoever, and implies heavily that this is in spite of a long time of practice.

In doing all of this he implies that you have do actually care about charming girls and put as much time into it as he thinks of himself. He's trying to make himself look better than you even at a subject that has absolutely nothing to do with you. He's projecting his priorities and interests onto you to help himself to think he's good.

It wasn't funny and he didn't provide any credible reasons. Any response other than laughter would be counted by him as "you getting defensive," which is probably just as untrue as the original joke but in his mind it just makes him more credible. He's not really presenting much of an argument but he's right just because he says so, and you aren't allowed to disagree. It's smug and it's really not clever, it just makes an ass out of everybody. You're right to be annoyed but there's no responding to something like this, he'll use any response as evidence for his claims because he never had any to begin with.

He's an asshole with a fragile ego.

>>16636224
Cont...

>she clubs frequently and posts about it on Facebook
>she sugar-coats everything on Facebook
>posts way too many selfies like an immature brat
>constantly dates way too much
>while my grand aunt is the one taking care of my nephews
>moans about bad drivers and calls them assholes
>acts like an immature teenage brat around my cousins
>today she has been stopped by police when the family was on their way back to their state because she's been speeding on traffic
>it turns out that she's driving under a suspended license while her kids are unnoticed by police because they're hiding under covers.
>she starts up a crying fest so police can believe her story that my grand uncle is sick
>she isn't supposed to be driving at all
>mfw she drove us somewhere this week.

Like seriously, I wanted to call out on this two-faced bitch for her bullshit. Hell, I even wanted to report her to child protective services

Have any of you guys encountered some relative as trashy as she is? If yes then what do you do to deal with them?

>>16636226
What's even sad that my other teenage cousin called her out on her bullshit and she just fucking had the capacity to laugh as she wasn't butthurt.

When my mom lectured her about not using violence as a way to lecture her kids, and she rolled her eyes that whole fucking time.

She fucking rustled my jimmies that my she acted trashy around my cousins.

Ok. Good story.

>>16636204
I think she gave some effort to you. It should be appreciated.

I think the concept of gifting for the sake of it being christmas or holidays is a joke, and people who think that way should re-evaluate their situation.

You should gift because you WANT to, when you want to, not because a day says you should, she probably felt the same way, and after recieving something, felt she should return the favour y'know?

The time spent together should be more valuable than any material you can give each other.

I mean i'm incredibly depressed and pessimistic, so take my words with a grain of salt, but holidays are just a way of making people spend more. People are bound to be a lot more surprised/happy to recieve something out of the bloom than on a 'special day'.

I guess the one thing exempt from that is anniversaries, since it's to signify the day you got together.

>>16636204
As long as you guys like each other, does getting a present really matter? Drop the materialism. I'don't rather a nice letter than some bought present.

>>16636200
No. You're messing with their emotions and suppose the rascal gets attached to you?

Fucking no!!!

good pump and dump material, maybe FWB.

Basically I'm asking if anyone has gone through a similar situation. And if I'm making the right choice

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>>16636198
Bruh she's already gone on a few dates etc. THAT RELATIONSHIP IS OVER.

>>16636198
She realized how hard it is to meet someone and came crawling back to you. This happens. She will do this again when she finds someone else she thinks is good for her.

Just relax.

It's a fact that people get kind of fucky around the holidays, so it might've been something like that, but there's no way for you to dig into that by sitting there and thinking hard.

You should simply signal to her that you're interested in smashing her gash on another occasion, and then what's going to happen will happen.

> Just play it cool
> She clearly likes you
> Don't smother her
> keep things casual and simple
> Exchange numbers and then don't call her, text her like 3-5 days later
> invite her to smoke a bowl or just chill with you and some of your friends
> Play it like you want to be just friends because you were good at eating her pussy she wont friendzone you
> Decent chance she might want to hang out just with you, then you are getting a BJ definitely
> Very good chance she will come hang out with you and your friends and then blow you when you happen to get some time alone
> If she wants to get exclusive or serious then let her bring it up.
> If she doesn't then just be fuck buddies, but give it a few months of being fuck buddies before bringing up something serious if that is something you want

This is pretty easy shit mang even for an introverted bro.

Consider it a one time thing and nothing else. If you coudldnt get it up in a passionate moment then that will kill any FWB or sex chance in the future.

Learn from your mistake and do drugs before a party you limp dick faggot.

>>16636063
Are you guys in middle school or is she damaged?

This doesn't bode well for you, but ultimately know that you aren't solely responsible for someones happiness.

you could try asking her

"is there something i can do to cheer you up?"

also, saying that she wants to kill herself because she loves you make no fucking sense

Just give her a bear hug rekt style.

>>16636054
Rzerbrn

>>16636054
That's razor burn. Shave with the grain, not against it. Also do not shave often. You're not going to achieve lasting smoothness and hairlessness with anything but waxing. You're shaving too frequently. Want zero hair? Wax. Otherwise keep your shaving routine down to once a week at most.

My guess would be from shaving. You must have fairly sensitive skin. If you shave without any kind of shaving cream, I suggest you start using some. Maybe use something afterward to soothe the skin. Witch hazel might help. Look up proper shaving techniques.