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why are you in love with this boring guy

>>16640071
You should have said something back.

Maybe he enjoys the attention, and/or can't make up his mind, and/or wants to keep you "on the backburner" or somehow "around".

There's this old female friend of mine who was kind of really into me and I into her, but it never led anywhere - nothing was ever realized - but I somehow still thought of her as somehow "mine" or "there" even after I got into another relationship, and all up until she got into a relationship.

I recently met her at a party with her guy and it just felt weird to me in spite of it all. So yeah, I don't even know why I'm telling you this, but... people are weird.

Probably both.

But you'll never know unless you try. Just don't expect everything to magically fall into place. You often have to try and try again to get what you want, or even figure out what you might want.

How many days in a row are you going to make this thread?

>>16639948
No. I've never been comfortable in life. Being uncomfortable is the only thing I find familiar, so that's what I go back to time after time.

>>16639911
Spend more time with them anon, not too difficult.

>>16639911
Sell your kid, maybe keep the wife. Gaming is so much more important.

Unless you have a job playing, reviewing, or making video games, it is just a waste of time. If your wife was watching TV all the time and called it "her passion" but never paid attention to her kids, how would you feel?

Video games are fun after a long day of work, but if you play them longer than you have a conversation with your wife and child you have a problem. A game is an entertainment luxury that will get you no where. No problem with playing them, but don't spend hours a day playing.

Maybe make it a weekend thing or set a time limit.

Don't feel terrible. You are not s horrible person. Your feelings are very normal and understandable. It's not like you're lusting after your ex (which WOULD definitely be inappropriate) you're just having trouble getting over how shitty she was to you.

Have you spoken to your current girlfriend about what happened with your ex, about these feelings you have about the situation? I bet she'd be a great shoulder to lean on.

This goes two ways: 1. you continue to keep ties cut with your girlfriend and hope these angry feelings go away over time. 2.You, after talking about it with your girlfriend, talk to your ex one last time to get some answers and closure. This has the added bonus of giving you the opportunity to rub your awesome new relationship in your bitch ex's face.

Your feelings are real man. You gotta have em.

My advice to you: find someone who you CAN talk to about the situation with your ex. Lowest tier: journaling, writing. Low tier: trusted friend. Higher tier: professional counselors.

Whether or not you should mention it to your current? Eh, I'd advise against that unless she's super mature and understanding. Human beings get jealous over silly stuff, it's normal.

You don't need "closure" with your ex, you need to be able to put your feelings into words in depth, explore and experience those feelings, and then get used to them.

>>16639840
I'm afraid to bring it up because our relationship is still very new.

>>16639786
Don't do it man. Don't fucking do it.

Put yourself in her bfs perspective. How would you feel? You can always be a man and talk it out with her bf, fuccboi.

In my experience, those in open or polyamorous relationships are tangled messes of insecurities and emotional immaturity. By all means get involved but don't get in too deep. Keep it casual and stay distant

>>16639758
He sounds unstable (obviously) and I don't think you did anything wrong, but tho shit is gonna suck.

Did you know he was unstable? Should've asked him first maybe dawg.

The guy is fucked up. Cut him out of your life.

In the future, don't get involved with people whom your friends were previously involved with. That's not because it's necessarily wrong to do so, but because you're inviting the worst in people to come to the surface. You don't need that drama in your life.

Your friends sounds like an asshole and no, I am not going to apologize such behavior by whatever condition he might have. Most likely a little bitch anyway.
Tell the girl desu. Drop the guy, he seems way too stupid to be of any benefit.

>>16639709
If they're off-the-shelf herbal tablets... Crack on

Anything else... Stop taking it immediately

>>16639718
Cant get a picture of them at the moment but they are blue capsules. Come in a small orange container.

>>16639709
okay don't listen to that other guy, first of all.

secondly, why the hell would you ask this on an anonymous message board and not specify what you're taking? What do you do, close your eyes and take 100 mg of "something"? Be specific.

it's not possible for you to have any job

>>16639774
>it's not possible for you to have any job
what

>>16639689
Sounds like being a private investigator. You'll need to get licensed. And despite what movies show you, no, you can't bend or break the law to do your job.

>>16639555
She honestly sounds crazy, Anon

It will be far less heartache to move on and find someone in Ireland. Irish girls are great anyway

>>16639555
Did you tell her these things you're telling us?

Someone's rocking your dreamboat

Why is it important to know what love is? Everyone has a different definition and some idiots just love to tell people that whatever they are feeling is not love as if they are some sort of experts on the universe.

Either way, I'm gonna answer your question, you asked "what is love?"
baby dont hurt me
dont hurt me
no more

>>16639541
>Why is it important to know what love is?

This is a good question. To me, it is important firstly to give meaning to the word, assuming the word is a string of characters that represent something that is a big deal in one's life. For instance, many important decisions in people's lives are often carried through taking "love" into account, so that kind of makes it a big deal.

I am not here trying to get a very precise definition of what it is. The discussion of what it is and perhaps a rough idea are enough.

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>>16639525
Love is the thing when you're pushing yourself past the limit during work out and you're trying to think of things to convince yourself to do one more pushup, despite that sharp pain from lack of energy and what gives you the strength is thinking of "that person". Be it your gf/bf, your spouse, your children, your family. Can even be an object or a hobby.

When you get shot through the knee and you feel like blacking out from pain, but that one person you live for comes into your thoughts and seemingly creates a dose of adrenaline to fill your system.

That's love.
[spoiler]And it's exactly what you've thought it was all along.[/spoiler]

>>16639503
Say "that's hot"

Just that

kpeaceoutbye

>>16639503
"Sorry, I'm not interested in you"

you will need to go back to high school and get really good grades in all those courses u listed above. If anything you're going to have to take a pre-requisite college course if you don't go back to high school .. if you're really down to go back for years then do it. It's never too late OP it just depends if you have the patience to do everything all over again,


On top of that, you will need to have really high grades in your college classes, i'm talking top 5.

I know all this because I am pre-health in college in my second year. I'm probably going to stop the medicine dream since i'm not top 5 in my class.

I'm from a central european country, so it's a bit different, I would basically have to write my exams again (general ones we write at the end of our hs)

I just don't know if it's possible for me, if I'm not too stupid and too old

>>16639396
Maturka?

Guys, how much would it bother you if a long term girlfriend revealed she was infertile without ever bringing it up before?
Assuming you had never spoken positively or negatively about having children before.

>>16639405
Zero, but only out of the abundance of fortune that I have no qualms with adoption. That's a dangerous gamble to take when so many men aren't cool with finding out that they're not going to have a natural family.

>>16639405
How long term?
I'd be pretty sad/pissed, but if I really liked the girl I wouldn't let it get in the way.

>>16639243
yes

however if your only qualifications in a potential partner are how she looks you're going to be very unsatisfied

if you want to attract women you have to be more than just available and present and willing. relationships take a lot more than that

>>16639243
It's good that you do take care of yourself, that's always a good sign. But it's more than just looks, I'd say personality matters a whole lot more.

>>16639273
Can you list some specific things when you said being more than available present and willing?

Yea well looks are important but chemistry more for me so only girls i ask out are the ones that i get along with and are physically attractive (i dont have high standards)

>>16639290
Is it possible to develop a personality that i want or you think its just how you are born into?

Yeah, I'm at about 150 hours in Rocksmith and I've made loads of progress. Iron Maiden will make you a great musician. The Bachsmith pack is invaluable. The Sublime pack helped me develop barr chord capabilities.

It's a good way to keep the guitar in your hands for hours. Don't forget to practice without it, though. Once you get comfortable, try learning from tablature as soon as possible.

I bought a 700 dollar Stratocaster. I knew I was making an investment, though and wanted a middle end. If you want to go cheap, get one of those 100-200 dollar Yamahas.

>>16639227

Get a guitar and just play.

That shit right there learns you a couple of songs, but the creativitity and being able to improvise to rythms and tones dissappears along with it.

Fuck that shit. Get a guitar. Learn some chords. Make your own songs. THEN learn other peoples songs.
Oh, and make sure you have people to play along with, it'll boost your rythm and feeling faster.

>>16639227
If you just want to play metal, buy a guitar with humbuckers. And some amps are better than others for that metal sound. I don't know the specifics though, I mostly play jazz. As for specific guitar recommendations, check out the entry level Yamahas or you can drop a few more bills for an Epiphone Les Paul Studio.

There are lots of free lessons and shit online if you wanna get more serious about it. The more "intuitive" way to learn is to just try and play songs you like.