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>>16642024
Act oblivious. I wouldn't suggest telling her brother because he might talk to her about it, so just act as if you have no idea what's going on.

>>16642038
I've only got brothers, so I'm kind of at a loss when it comes to shit like this, but do these teenage crushes last very long? I'm assuming it's fairly common for them to crush on older dudes? Is there any risk of her actually trying something on me, or is it just a stupid short term flighty thing?

Okay I'm going to give you two sets of advice.

1. Fuck her:
Hold off until she is 16 though. Treat her with respect and go at her pace. Chances are you would be her first sexual experience, make it a positive one. Make sure she understands that there is still a great deal of stigma around the age gap, and that the two of you would have to wait until she's 18 to be open about it.

2. Don't fuck her:
Don't confront A, as there's a chance he will embarrass his sister. If you have to, just let him know that you and her talk and that you have zero intention of hooking up with her- but remind him not to bring this up at all with his sister, for the sake of her dignity.

Keep things platonic with her and put a bit of space between you and her e.g shorter texts, longer response times and generally tell her you're too busy- all of which you're doing so she should lose interest when a guy her own age comes along.

You're a faggot for cucking someone else's girl. You should feel bad.

>>16642016
Don't worry about the future
Enjoy what you have while you have it,

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Just fuck her until she leaves.

>Does the BF know he's in an open relationship?

You'll be fine.

Don't get caught up in the uncomfortable feelings it will throw at you, remember that you are in control. Tell yourself those feelings are just feelings and you are going through a phase to become a better person.

If you dwell on it it will harder for you, keep yourself busy with constructive things.

>>16642039
I've been trying to get back in touch with the real me, fortunately I had another account for another game where I had made a character that was male, from an earlier attempt to reconnect with my real self online that had failed.

However I feel it here more than anywhere else, because I am now in this environment that I am so familiar with, but I have no friends, and I am alone. Fortunately it is not the same online game as the one I had come from, that one I uninstalled last night and destroyed everything of it on my computer.

I'm struggling though, the persona I created was VERY popular within the community, and they have been trying very hard to get my attention, but I have not responded. I know if I do, it will reignite the problem inside of me.

Can you give me any advice to deal with people trying to contact me? The guilt and loneliness is crippling. I couldn't sleep last night and I haven't slept all day and I should have been in bed 5 hours ago, but everytime I try to close my eyes I am overwhelmed by sadness.

Have you ever dealt with trying to ignore a terrible thought or memory? Is there some advice you can give me to help me sleep? I'm sorry if I'm talking in circles, but I feel better having said all of this out loud, since I cannot say it anywhere else.

God thank you for responding, you have no idea how much you have taken off my shoulders just for that

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Just fap to petite shaved 18+ girls.

>>16641996
I could try......still not the same I'm into kindergardener age but I'll try.

You should seek mental help. Not trying to be rude, but what loving pizza is a serious condition and could lead to some worse things down the road when your inhibitions are down. It's alright now to say "it won't come to that" or "but I'm stronger than that" but desire is a very intense thing. If you let it, it can fuck you over. Just seek help before the problem gets bigger.

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Now just very recently I just got out of a 4 year relationship with a girl I wanted to marry. She cheated on me, lied to me, emotionally abused me, and still let me bend over backwards to do her things(she didn't have a car or a license until very recently so I took her everyone and went out of my way to try and help the relationship.) I told her on date 1 what happened because I did not want any false pretenses and we made it work, but I could tell it never rested easy with her. She always used it as ammunition because of how vulnerable I was to it. It would make me cry without fail. I went to see her about two weeks after the break up to get answers because at the time I was unaware of the infidelity. I offered her compassion and forgiveness. I loved her. I told her that we can use that moment as a point to stop the rolling boulder and push back. She warmed to the idea, knowing that I'd still forgive her. But then she felt trapped for some reason and lashed out. She said a lot of hurtful things and again used my previous relationship as a weapon telling me that I should tell my parents. I agreed, but I told them now wasn't the time.

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So this has haunted me since, it's been almost two weeks since. This whole thing has riddled me with guilt ever since. I never told my parents any of this. At the time I was afraid to tell the truth because I was scared. And they had a slew of problems of their own. My dad's mother died two summers before that, his brother the summer before, and his father almost died that summer. He was slowly developing a problem with alcohol as his wife/my mom wasn't emotionally supportive enough at the time. Their relationship was strained. And my brother, who was about 27 at the time was living at home and about to be kicked out. The home atmosphere was tense. I haven't come clean because it's been 5 years since this all happened. They're extremely Catholic Conservative now, which they weren't at the time. I feel like the damage would be severe. We have a good relationship. I feel like I'll lose my parents forever, because their capacity for compassion is not what it used to be and just the betrayal and mental gymnastics on my part makes this all the more difficult to swallow.
I don't know what to do about anything. The first girlfriend is beyond contact(changed her number), the second girlfriend I believe still has feelings for me, but that's another story that's superfluous to this(though it makes me feel depressed), and I don't know how to approach the subject with my parents. If I even should.

What should I do?

Give me a fucking tl;dr holy shit I'm not reading an essay this early god damn.

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Finish anyway. Your motivation level is irrelevant.

>>16641912
Maybe I should rephrase. I really don't care enough to do it. I can't find enough reason to do it. In fact, doing it almost feels me with a sense of dread. Is dropping out really as bad as they say it is?

I dropped out almost a year ago, and my life has just gone downhill. I worked a minimum wage job for a couple months, then left because they didn't give me any hours. I've been job hunting for like 3 months and still haven't found anything. My family always says that I'll never amount to anything because I didn't finish high school. I still have the choice to go back to school, but I'm not going back. I'm taking my ged this week and I'm going to seriously look for a new job. I would say dropping out was a bad idea, but I don't regret it.

I'll shoot.
Seeing/dating this girl for about 2 months.
She's already stated she doesn't "want anything more" but wants me to take her out on dates and see what happens and has said were friends even though we cuddle, kiss and have sex.

Haven't seen or heard from her in the last couple days.

Do I keep going or forget about it?

Bro. Don't give her your all if she's going to be a sometime thing. Honestly you should be looking for someone else looks like she just wants you for sex and material things . Which might be okay if youre into that but, i would have other options if i were you.

>>16641922
Thanks bro.

I know you're right as well. I think I've gotten attached to the wrong one.

>Really, all jobs are boring in their own ways. Even if they are interesting at the start, they become dull over time.

That's just like, your opinion man. It's called passion and clearly you have none. Don't bother trying to understand.

>>16641857
Really all jobs are stressful and the passion they feel now will be sapped from them over time.

>>16641864

Yeah nah, talking to my professors discussing research and I can tell they have plenty of passion.

Sure work can be stressful, but it can be just as rewarding. The only reason you don't believe that people could sustain passion is because /you/ can't. It's really closed minded.

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Is it really true that she likes you?

Me and her brother both think she likes me. She's single right now and flirting with me a lot more than when she's dating someone. On new years eve, she was pretty much cuddling with me while we watched movies.

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How long have you liked her?

unless you both had a bleeding cut in the area in question its pretty low/impossible.
just get tested again.

>>16641825
The Chance she has HIV is around 60% I would say, the chance to get it from receiving oralsex is 0,04%. HIV test are pretty accurate after 3 months. Mate it is more likely that you have brain cancer so chill the fuck out.

>>16641830
no cuts or bleeding at all, i plan to get tested again but i literally cannot sleep / eat. im tired all the time and am at risk of loosing my job.

Now I can write what I said and there have been other problems with our relationship before. the 24th would have been our second year milestone.
I can write about those too, to make you see maybe what kind of person she was if you people are interested.

>>16641803
Those problems in greentext dont sound like problems to me if I knew you're kinda introverted. She probably doesn't read your face well, I used to think that the off, distant look my partner has meant they felt bored/not wanting to be there but that was just how his face looks and he can't help it. Same with the too-many-things-unsaid.
Anyway she seems impatient and silly to not take your word that you care, love her etc. Don't think you can help that kinda person.

You have insurance? what about a doctor? Has this ever been felt before?

>>16641703

It does sound like a uti. Hope you have insurance.

>>16641713
I have. But it has gone away.

>>16641718

Can this be treated at home? There are barely any doctors left in my area and I can't afford to miss work right now.

>my wife

For what reason?
How does one marry a woman who isn't even into men.
This is like one of those good old gay man marries to look good for family and shit.

>>16641702
She's into men. She's into women too. I'm straight. It's my wife who is into men and women.

What if you watch while she has sex with another chick?

>>16641649
and at the same time, it seems a bit too much to hit them. The situation isn't painful or treacherous, you're just powerless is all

stay there and don't laugh, don't move, accept it, and then when they finally let go walk away letting them know you didn't find it funny one single bit. They should understand by that that they fucked up. If they don't understand and do it again it's because they're fucking stupid and you hang out with stupid fucking friends.

It's the current year, force multipliers obsolete physical strength.
Just shiv or pull a gun on him and see how he likes that.

Being serious though you just want to make it so he doesn't get the "fun" from it. Don't struggle or make a big deal out of it.

Before the first date ends you should ask here if she would like to hang out again sometime.

I'd say 3-5 days after the first date ended you can ask for second date so you don't seem too eager or leechy. After the first "I'm busy" I'd forget about her.

>>16641671
What about her saying she would like to hang out again after the meeting and then saying she's busy? And what about her asking for another meeting two months after?

>>16641707
>What about her saying she would like to hang out again after the meeting and then saying she's busy?
either she said she wanted to hang out to be polite, she changed her mind or she really is busy. in the latter case she'll come back to it keep talking to you and propose another time herself. If she doesn't it's definetly one of the first.

> And what about her asking for another meeting two months after?
sounds like she had another guy in the meantime, didn't work out and went back to you... don't expect much because you are a backup to her, then again with only one date her choice to see you as a backup plan is not based on much. I'd just kinda let her initiate things then and just hang out a bit if it's not much effort.