>just turned 23
>still a kissless virgin with no gf
>90% of my friends in relationships
Beginning to worry. I think it might be my ISFJ personality and height 5'5" that is making my self esteem go down. I don't think I'm ugly either just average looking.
Anyone in the same boat?
Lol you place value in that shit i aparently have 'Anti social Personality disorder' but most stuff like that is bs
>>16656091
Yeah I'd figure as much. I'm just grasping at straws here
Just saw kissless virgin lol oh well either
A) rape someone kiss them problem solved
B) get a gf somehow
>24
>Been with GF for 2 years
>Basically just found out she has been cheating on me for 2 entire years, with some dude she met right before me
>Found out because she forgot to clear her texts and I was using her phone and saw her say exactly this:
>"Look, me and you are done for good. I can't keep doing this to him, we actually have a future together, and I can't jeopardize that anymore, and me and you have never been anything but sex, that is what we agreed on. Goodbye, its been fun"
I know who the guy is, because he was introduced to me as a friend of hers a while back. She told me that she has known him for around the same time as me. So she has been fucking this guy for a long time. I confronted her about it, and she told me the truth, that they had in fact been having sex since we've been dating. She swears it was a good thing, because he "taught her new stuff she could do to me". But basically pleaded with me not to end things, because she "actually loves me".
So this entire two years, she has been getting stuffed by some other guy, without me knowing. I kicked her out of my house. I'm so fucking furious and sad, I'm like violently shaking right now. I'm basically on the verge of suicide at this point.
What do I do? I don't see me getting over this.
>>16655915
kick the bitch to the curb and never talk to her again
>check
get over her completely and never EVER talk to her again because she is a foul human being that put up a shitshow for you
>add time and busy yourself at getting better in anything
Right now you don't see it this way, but this is actually good. You dodged a bullet here. Imagine if you had been married.
This is how women are, I'm sorry to say, better to learn this now than later in life. Cheer up, mate, it will get better.
>>16655920
Who are you quoting?
>be me
>in college
>virgin
>gf not a virgin
>mild tramatic sexual history
>we sleep in the same bed every night for like 3 months
>playing around naked most nights
>she puts penis to vaginal opening
>okay nothing wrong with that
>somehow I didnt realize the difference between being against opening and tip barely being in
>she get incredibly aroused
>gets on top of me and puts the tip in her
>I give her an expression like what the fuck
>shes like dont worry its just the tip
>I tacitly let it go
>she full on mounts me and starts riding
At some point my reason kicks back in and I go limp. She freaks out and is about to cry saying stuff like what have I done. I try to make her feel better by saying I could have stopped it.
Now its a few days later and Im reflecting upon the situation. Im mad at myself for getting so engrossed in our activities that I didnt notice how far we had gone. And that when she mounted me instead of kicking her off I was too busy thinking to myself that this is how a vagina feels. But Im also mad at her for taking it so far without permission. She also thinks that we should just do it since we crossed the line but I dont want to. Like I was a virgin by choice and now I dont know how to deal with this. I dont want to be mad at her, and I do believe that I should have kicked her off as soon as it started, but that doesnt really excuse her actions.
I cant think straight right now, I blame myself but the more I think about this, the more Im starting to see it as her fault. Im a reasonable guy but my thoughts are starting to be come a mess. Any thoughts. I cant honestly talk to her because Im either going to try to console her or lash out. And if Im left to myself theres a chance Ill become unjustly resentful. Please talk to me.
Fuck that. Yeah, it was rape. It wasn't consensual. If you have to lash out, lash out to get your point across. You have every right to talk to her about this. Especially if she knew your past.
>>16654062
Sorry, didnt elaborate that well. Shes the one with the past. Which is why at first I consoled her because it looked like she was about to break down.
She was trying to do something nice for you. I would not view it as a hostile action.
I don't hide mine since I have nothing to be ashamed about and want a partner to accept me for who I am fully. But why do I see so many women on here furiously claiming that it's none of my business? Girl, if I'm going to be your boyfriend with the eventual goal of marrying you and sharing everything with you, nothing less than complete honesty is going to work. If I don't want to be with a promiscuous girl, I don't want to be. You made your choices in life, now you have to deal with them just like I made mine-you don't get to hide crucial information from me and then expect full commitment and all the emotional and economic support that comes with it.
>thousands of threads on /9k/ talking about how non-virgin girls are disgusting, how if a girl has slept with more than 5 guys shes "worn out" or a "whore", etc, etc.
>"hmm, I wonder why the average girl, who has probably had sex at least a few times in her life, would be reluctant to share this fact with me?"
>>16652402
because idiots ask, and boy's judge.
I've never once heard of a man asking a woman about her sexual history, for the love of god .. if we did, then we might have to divulge some of ours too.
>>16652402
>why are women so irrationally defensive about their sexual history?
>you made your choices in life, now oyu have to deal with them
>you dont get to hide CRUCIAL information from me
this is why. why is it 'irrational' to hide information from someone who literally says 'i am going to judge you on it'.
Find out GF of 11 months did porn
How the fuck do I deal with this?
We had moved in together into an apartment and planned on climbing our way up together. Theres so much shit going through my head right now. I havent been back to the apartment since I brought up the topic. Shes been calling me and throwing me a few text messages asking to talk but Im just not there. In a place where I can have a reasonable conversation with her.
We dont have family where we live and if I just leave her she doesnt make enough to live on her own. But I dont know if I can stay with her. As I am now its not going to happen. I tried to stay calm when I talked to her even though I was furious but I probably hurt her really bad when I brought it up and she tried to defend herself which made it worse in my mind.
Thoughts?
>>16651375
What kind of porn?
>>16651375
She made money by fucking? Big goddamn deal. Did she give you herpes or something? The hell does this bother you for?
If you guys are in the midwest and you can't get past your hangups, I can support her in exchange for blowjobs. Hell, if she's a good cook, maybe I can treat her like people too.
Oh hey, can you post her work? I wouldn't mind beating off to her tits and your tears.
>>16651375
Did she do porn when she was in a relationship with you, or was it before? Why didn't she tell you to begin with?
As of now, it shows she doesn't need you. She can fuck strangers for money and that's how she'll make her living. What's the problem?
do the majority of 6'3"+ men actually prefer short women or is this something short women have deluded themselves into thinking? I always see articles on why tall men love short women and countless cancer facebook posts like pic related but they are clearly made by women so whats the truth??
I'm not tall myself but I once asked a friend of mine who is quite tall about this and he said that he prefers tall women or at the very least 5'6"+ because otherwise everything becomes too awkward.
But he's just one person so who knows.
Kek those posts used to piss me off so much. So many short girls on the internet have that narcissistic complex. I'm going to guess anime did this.... And no guys do not care as much as the posts say they do.
how can i get ambition?
my whole life people have been telling me i would be rich or happy or something. i graduated top of my class in high school with the highest SAT and ACT scores out of over 450 students. i got into the top ranked uni in the state and basically all but $5k was paid by scholarships and i graduated a few months ago.
everyone says i am wasting my potential but i don't even care. i have a comfy $15/hr web design job that asks very little of me. i have a car, pc, and tv so i don't really see much use for money besides food and rent which is cheap.
but i'm not happy. i don't remember when i ever was, i never had a gf. but who would want to date a guy who does only the bare minimum required to get by? i mean i don't equate money with success because i dont care about material posessions, but girls do.
how do you find the desire to even try when no gf? i'm finding it more and more difficult to work out as well
The reason to strive is not for the money or the approval, but for one's own survival. Your asking of this question shows that you recognize that you are on a downwards trajectory.
>>16651610
>>16651610
>>16651610
but i am surviving fine. i can afford all the food i want and a place to live with water & electricity. what else do i need to "survive"?
>>16651871
A girlfriend, according to what you just said here.
I'm really fat
Should I ever bother existing? Cause you know even if I lose weight it'll still leave me deformed and people will hate me either way
>>16651170
How will you be deformed? If you're talking about your OP pic, that's extreme weight loss.
Depends on how fat you are? You don't have to be really skinny, just lose some of it to be more healthy.
>>16651197
I'll get loose skin just like she did. I have to lose like, 70 pounds to get to a 21 bmi
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Ladies, what is good in life?
Got an impractical question for guys here:
If you woke up one day as a girl, would you let your best friend fondle/fuck you?
If your best friend woke up as a girl, would you want them to let you feel up/fuck them?
>>16650207
I don't have a best friend, but if we were bros, yes.
Holy shit my mind is fucked /adv/.. I am 25 and a black guy and I have ZERO confidence. I have been reading /pol/ since its fucking creation.
Today, I met a really cool girl. She had this long curly blonde hair and hazel eyes. and.. quite a bottom(not that her bottom matters in me liking her.) Anyway, I talked to her very briefly and I wanted to ask her out and then I heard two of the most powerful voices in my mind... spoken by fear and paranoia, my mind killers...
All I could hear was "YOU HAVE NO FUCKING BUSINESS TALKING TO HER. YOU ARE LITERALLY PART FUCKING APE!" Over and over and over again.
So I didn't ask her out. All I could think was that even if I did date her, her parents would probably either kill me, kill her OR kill both of us. Again, fear and paranoia have a stranglehold on my life and I feel like I can't escape.
They have sapped every drop of confidence I have.
Can /adv/ help me? My mind is not healthy and I don't see a way of it getting better.
Well, stop going on /pol/. Those losers represent a minority among white males.
>>16653214
I wish I could stop going but despite what people say.. /pol/ has posted the FBI stats and shit. Black people are STATISTICALLY awful according to the stats. I of course try not to be like the stats but I am just one guy.
I feel really uncomfortable talking to women. especially women who come from cultures that would typically not appreciate some black guy talking to them.
>>16653248
>especially women who come from cultures that would typically not appreciate some black guy talking to them.
Then don't.
Stick to your own culture.
Just give up, they're worthless.
>>16653096
>board about dudes who can't get girls
It goes deeper than that.
Also you are a faggot.
>>16653132
Meh, he's kinda right.
I still stick around to see if interesting dilemmas pop up outside of beta faggotry.
>>16653096
Think about the demographics of fucking 4chan. A lot of the guys on here are kissless virgin neets who would be laughed away if they went anywhere else for help
I accidentally told my boyfriend that he had a small penis during a fight.
He punched a hole in my wall and just left and now he won't talk to me.
>>16652893
>accidentally
Well, does he?
What was the fight about? His anger management issues, or you being a bitch?
When talking about concepts of good and evil there is always one point that comes up that disturbs me.
It'll go something like,
>"Nah man, don't torture the animals, torture the humans."
I'll ask why.
>"Cause man humans are fucked up, and animals are cute and innocent."
There seems to be a flaw in logic here.
It's not like ALL humans are bad. Are you saying you're going to just purge them all because you don't want to take that chance, or take time to differentiate?
Or do you argue that all humans in fact are bad irredeemably so?
Because if that second option is true, guess what buddy, you're irredeemably bad too.
Bottom line, if you were going to save one group from torture and death, shouldn't it be the humans? Humans have sentience, and animals are, just animals. You could be pedantic and say humans are animals too, but that's besides the point.
It's ethics/philosophy. Why are you surprised that people don't agree with you about something?
Seems like you recently lost an argument OP, lol.
I'm with you though.
Humans should be saved. The only people who should be punished are those who mistreat animals. But people who kill animals to provide food/clothes/whatever are not bad guys.
Why do women describe themselves as shy or quiet?
guys usually do all the work around pretty girls so they often never find it necessary to develop conversational skills
>>16647826
>why do women
>all women
Why does OP make retarded threads?
>>16647831
What's wrong with mentally disabled people? Shame on you
Do it guys. It might make you feel better.
I wish your friends would stop feeling the need to inform me of what you get up to these days, skippy. You pulled a neat 180 from how you were acting for all of 2015, though. Just be sure to realize that you set yourself on a one-way road. Enjoy your love life in 2016, though my wishes go to the girl you fawned over and proceeded to disregard for your newfound love. Mean what you say and say what you mean, now that you've said certain things, I trust your 2016 will be filled with your commitment to your new lover.
Do stop popping up where you shouldn't be, though. Like, really you and your friends stop. You focus on that commitment, you'll never have a reason to skulk about somewhere else now.
I'm a fat kissless virgin piece of shit who's addicted to strippers and has zero life goals now that I have a stable job and a degree. I eat like shit and don't exercise because I hate myself. I act happy and nice on the outside but inside I'm bitter and angry at myself and the world. All I want to do is hurt people but I'm too weak and stupid to even do that. I'm thinking about getting a whore for my birthday in a few weeks to break out of this virginity.
I fucking hate myself. I fucking hate myself. I fucking hate myself. I fucking hate myself.
I'm happy since a couple of days, life is good! :)