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I'm a 21 year old, diagnosed with depression when I was 11, not sure I ever healed. Was in therapy/took meds for awhile but stop maybe two or three years ago and I'm not really sure why.
Anyways flash-forward to now I've "had" about 3 jobs now; All fast food/customer service jobs, which I left around the first month every time. I'm not really a people person. I wouldn't say I'm shy, just that dealing with people stresses/drains me. Now I found a job as a Night Clerk at a local grocer which suits me just fine. No customers, no rush.
Lately, the past few months to be more specific, I've been feeling really depressed for no reason. Not catatonic, but maybe half way there. I feel no joy about anything. I don't feel like doing anything. Usually I just stay in my room and play video games but I haven't even felt like doing that. I don't even feel like getting out of bed these days. I don't want to do anything.
I feel like I don't even want to go to my job which is finally something I can tolerate but I just feel so...dead...inside if you'll pardon the drama of that sentence. I feel as though it would be easier simply to just "die." I don't know what the fuck to do anymore.
Can anyone relate to me? What can I do to get past this mental fog? What should I do in regards to my job and...well, my life? I don't have friends to talk to, no supportive people.
Help, if you can.
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You work shifts don't you?
Maybe that is your problem. Look into it.
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>>16642869
If you mean to ask if I work Night shifts or the like then, yes, I do. I appreciate the comment but I Know that isn't it. Even if it was, it's the only job that suits me.
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Kind of relatable to me.
I think what you need is a purpose to live for, find that special someone and get to know them, talk to your friends or visit your family.
what does it mean when I tell a girl I've been dating that I love her?
It's the first time I've ever actually said that to a girl. It kinda came out on accident, then she asked if I really meant it so I said yes. Now we say it all the time to each other.
We've only been dating for barely a month. At what point do you tell a person you love them?
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When you feel like you love them, dickhead.
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>>16642268
>barely a month
>love
its called infatuation, come back in a few years(if you manage to keep with her) and ask again
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>>16642268
>so I said yes
But...did you mean it?
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Tomorrow is the day /adv/...
I have decided to break up with my boyfriend of 4 years because of our sex life. We've been through so much together but I can't do this anymore.
He has had a porn habit since he was 16 and it didn't stop when we got together..when he was 22. He has tried to see therapists and it didn't help, I have tried to talk about any fetishes he has, tried to be prettier/sexier, tried to be patient and understanding but nothing is working. I suggested a diet change and exercise but he didn't stick to it either. We've had sex once in the past 3 months and I am feeling very unwanted and neglected.
He is a good person and a great friend but it's just not working for me. I need sex more than once every 3 months.
My friend told me I am making the correct decision, especially since she has witnessed my self esteem plummet since I found out about his porn addiction a year into our relationship. I think I have been more than patient and understanding, I guess I just want reassurance that I am doing the right thing here, that I am not being irrational or crazy... or going about it the wrong way.
Any advice/tips would be really good right now.
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Damn. If you loved him I think you would try harder. Instead of just dropping him like that, if it's an actual addiction you'd stick through it together. Just touch yourself? Try to be more understanding if you actually love him, but I mean probably not right?
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>>16642243
She tried for three years, how is that not enough? You can't help someone that won't help themselves.
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>>16642245
This. 3 yrs is a fuck long time to wait for him to get his dick straight.
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How often should a man get a Blowjob during the first year of marriage? 2016-01-04 07:47:39 Post No.16641439
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How often should a man get a Blowjob during the first year of marriage?
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How often should a husband get head?
So getting oral sex drives me crazy. I love it. But since my wife and I have gotten married it has been pretty lackluster. So my wife and I have been married about almost a full 5 months in that time I have only gotten 4 blowjobs--This time includes a honeymoon and my Birthday!
In her defense she got extremely sick on our honeymoon due to seasickness (we went on a cruise so it was pretty terrible). But she didn't even try to "make it up to me."
She also felt sick on both veterans day and my birthday (I said she only had to go down on me one of those days Nov. Birthday--yay scoripio). But I had to remind her my IOU.
She doesn't like receiving but will give.
We had sexy time well before we were married.
I just feel like my wife isn't giving me enough head. And we don't have sex nearly enough either--oh and she hates handjobs thinks they are disgusting so won't even just give me handy instead of a bj. FML
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>>16641439
easy.
cheat on her.
i'm not even trying to be captain edgelord here.
if you're making it clear that you want more head, and she doesn't want to give it to you, she has no right to prevent you from getting it elsewhere.
unless you're just being passive aggressive and simply expecting her to KNOW you want more.
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>>16641442
I suppose that is an option. And I have tried to be open about it. When I do she then gets defensive or gets uber depressed/sad.
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Be more aggressive, not less.
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Go for it, my nigga.
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How do I approach her?
I just wanna message her, fuck, then leave.
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>>16641433
She's not gonna fuck you unless you show her a good time. Jesus what is wrong with you.
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You'll probably feel really guilty and disgusted with yourself afterwards.
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>Be me
>19 years old
>Playing league of legends all day or browsing 4chan or shitposting on twitter
>2/10 look (3/10 at best)
>Ginger
>Kinda fat..but im 181(5′11″) so you can't really see
>Virgin
>Lonely
>One irl friend but not really close friend we only see each other to get drunk or high
>Socially awkward,hard for me to make new friends
>Mild stutter but its still hard for me to start or keep converstation
>Failed education
>No idea what to do with my life
>Mom threating me to kick me out if i don't find a job
>Quickly losing motivation on everything..wanted to start driving lessons but gave up on first day...same with gym or few other things
Im thinking about suicide every day..honestly nothing stops me from doing it..im not looking for attention here on 4chan but I have nobody to talk about my problems or ask for advice..
Why I should stay alive? I feel hopeless
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By all means be a pussy who takes the easy way out or manup and face the harsh realities of life and eventually slowly find happiness.
Your call faggot.
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>computer
>family
>driving lessons
>gym
You're first world, white, male. Come on man, don't fuckin give up just because you're lazy. Laziness put you in this rut and it's not going to get you out (giving up on the first try). Half the shit you listed to describe yourself doesn't even matter. I've got a friend who plays league of legends non stop, but he works full-time. So that doesn't count. He's fat, so that doesn't count. Ginger doesn't matter, get a trendy haircut and clothes. Virgin doesn't matter, you're fucking 19. I lost my virginity at 22. John fuckin Mayer lost his at 24. Lonely is easily fixed. Stop fapping, stop shitposting and get out there. Find a job. Give it 30 days. You CAN DO 30 days. You are not weak. Baby steps. Nobody expects you to go out and become CEO of Pussy & Money INC overnight.
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>19 years old
So very young. I got my shit together in my late 20s.
>Playing league of legends all day or browsing 4chan or shitposting on twitter
I don't do twitter, but I still do this.
>2/10 look (3/10 at best)
Learn how to dress. Get a good haircut. Workout.
>Ginger
Me too. No problem with that.
>Kinda fat..but im 181(5′11″) so you can't really see
You're not short so that's a plus. Being fat gives you the advantage at the gym.
>Virgin
Only 19.
>Lonely
Meet someone on Tinder.
>One irl friend but not really close friend we only see each other to get drunk or high
About the same as me. How many friends do you need?
>Socially awkward,hard for me to make new friends
So who cares.
>Mild stutter but its still hard for me to start or keep converstation
Okay, work on that.
>Failed education
Dropped out of HS? Get a GED.
>No idea what to do with my life
What do you like?
>Mom threating me to kick me out if i don't find a job
Apply for jobs everyday.
>Quickly losing motivation on everything..wanted to start driving lessons but gave up on first day...same with gym or few other things
The hardest part is the beginning.
Just sounds like you're complaining.
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Can friends "go out" or is it more a dating/relationship thing?
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They can. I've shared totally platonic evenings with women.
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>>16639789
You can go hang out, but buying someone dinner and doing romantic things implies something a lot more.
I have also hung out platonically with women, but "going out" is a different thing.
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>>16639789
Like invite a friend to dinner? Sure? Why the fuck not?
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Alright this comes up whenever theres ever an interaction with or about a tranny near me.
>he/she/it
Say theres a mtf. What always triggers a conversation about it is that when I refer to them I use he. Now before I just tried wording my sentences so that I dont need to use a pronoun but Im not really a fan of tip toeing around things. When I say that someone challenges me about it saying she and I give my very straight forward view about why I use he and the person is unhappy about it. This usually triggers some emotional appeal argument which triggers to other side of the controversy and then they start throwing around it. Now to me calling a person 'it' is incredibly disrespectful. I know we do it to babies for some reason but for adults it just seems unreasonable.
This comes up a lot because theres a mtf at my uni.
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Why do you insist on using "he"? It's a completely simple thing, doesn't even cost you a second of your life, to say "she" and that's that.
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>>16660003
Id use 'it' before I use 'she'. It comes down to how I associate concepts. While it may not cost a second it can cause unwanted effects to how I associate things.
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>>16660019
I get it, you're autistic.
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How to pick up women on the street?
All input welcomed.
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You don't. That shit is annoying as hell. Don't inconvenience complete strangers in an attempt to get your dick wet.
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Depends on how much they weigh and how far you need to carry them.
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>>16659874
This. Even if you're very attractive it seems desperate is is annoying.
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how to stop nipples from showing in gym clothes? 2016-01-08 02:33:41 Post No.16658031
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how to stop nipples from showing in gym clothes?
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i'm not used to wearing bras. only ever tried sports bras and i guess maybe they were bad ones? because my nipples still show through them. mtf with weird chest makes bras awkward and hard.
suggestions welcome
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why does it bother you so much, its a gym everyone is going to be more focused on their workout than on you
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>>16658034
i want to feel as comfortable as possible at the gym. terrified of being there in the first place and i'm not even sure i'll ever make it. but when i do go i don't want to feel self-conscious about my nipples.
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Pasties, the stick-on type.
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Manipulation/persuasion advice 2016-01-08 00:36:16 Post No.16657660
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Hello /adv/
I come to you guys in need of insight on a very particular situation.
I am in a great relationship with a girl who is madly in love with me. The sex in our relationship is pretty damn good too, but the problem is she does not like my cum in her mouth.
Its a weird one, she doesnt mind me finishing on her body, or even when it gets on her face/hair. and she gives me oral at least once when i visit her every week, during which she's extremely enthusiastic and seems to be enjoying herself. But when it gets to the end, she outright does everything she can to avoid getting it in or near her mouth, and it ruins it for me.
I need the twisted minds of 4chan to come together and figure out a way of manipulating/persuading her to do this for me.
I have sat down with her and spoke about it, telling her things like how much I love it and that she looked hot as shit when she previously did it. but all's I ever get out of her is "I just dont like it." I have a gut feeling theres a mental block here... I can provide any more info needed that may help solve this problem.
>tldr: In a great relationship with great sex, but she wont let me cum in her mouth, wat do?
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How the fuck is that weird lol? Cum is hot and all but is smells gross. You try it and then we'll see.
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>>16657667
I have tried my own cum, it tastes like nothing which is why i dont understand the fuss.
And by "weird" i meant i find it strange how she doesnt mind it anywhere else in/on her body.
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Don't cum in her mouth.
Bam, solved.
Actually respect what she doesn't like and enjoy the otherwise great sex and relationship, you whiny pissbaby.
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Is it normal for girl to not be able to orgasm?
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Vaginally? Yes, it's normal. Most women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. They require clitoral stimulation to orgasm. If a girl can't orgasm from clitoral stimulation, that's not normal.
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>>16656657
Yes.
The more appropriate question would be "Is it normal for a girl to find it SO INSANELY DIFFICULT to orgasm that it feels like they can't?"
They might have very specific requirements in order to achieve orgasm, such as needing both clitoral and PIV stimulation, or perhaps they can ONLY get off on clitoral or ONLY get off on PIV. It can vary greatly from girl to girl.
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Yes, most girls need clitoral stimulation.
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Relationship/Dating Advice for men 2016-01-07 19:29:26 Post No.16656564
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Give as much info as possible about the girl, ask questions about relationships.
Here's some advice for bad breakups, for starters.
In relationships each partner should itleast do equal work right, 50/50. If you ACCEPT getting anything less than 50% from him/her for 3 months or more, you deserve what happens to you, whether your partner cheats on you or dumps you without no remorse. If, you did 95% and she did 5%, you had it coming buddy. If she gives you 3 months of shit you have all the reason to leave her. Relationships are team effort and you should feel like you're too good to settle for less.
You may say that, "but i want to make it work.", you can if your gf 100% ACTUALLY believes that you will walk if they don't change.
Here's a few ways to show that:
>In the very beginning of a relationship(very important), say things one time and one time only.
>Don't bother/allow yourself to be around your partner if they aren't contributing, it's a waste of time and makes things worse.
>don't beg, yelling at her can be seen as a form of begging because if you were really mad, rather than yell about it, you'd actually leave. Don't yell and act like nothing happen the next day either.
>don't make ultimatums if you're so deep in shit, like you've let her take advantage of you for 5 months, she is not going to buy it.
>Very good one is to get space from them like a week to a month, let her be on her own to see if breaking up is really what she wants and it shows her that you're serious, that you're at a breaking point ready to stay or go if things don't change.
If you believe you will leave if treated badly, she will believe. You got to have self-respect to get respect from your gf.
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Created a thread last night for advice, but didn't receive any.
>been in relationship for 5 years
>own a house
>no kids
>she wants to move to a neighboring state for a job
>I don't think it's such a great idea
>I've been working with my counselor to communicate better
>still don't feel like I'm being heard
>I don't know how to correctly say 'I think you should take the job, but I should stay'
I know I've struggled to communicate in the past, but lately I feel like I've been very on point with saying how I feel and what I want. Just not feeling like it's reciprocated.
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>>16656611
so your want to tell your gf of 5 years you think she should move for a job but you won't move with her.
basically you want to break up?
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>>16656651
Yes. There have been other things contributing to the degradation of the relationship. Differing religious views among other things. I think it'll be a minor shock to her, we've had our struggles before. I took about a three week break two years ago, and things improved for a bit, but it's back to the same path we were on before. I can't see it working out long-term now. Any advice on how I need to approach this scenario?
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Guys: do you like long hair or short hair better? 2016-01-07 18:30:42 Post No.16656290
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Guys: do you like long hair or short hair better?
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Just wondering what you guys like better?
My hair is a little up to my elbows atm and I was thinking of getting a pixie cut (not a lesbian or a feminist or anything) but I felt like I'd regret it horribly later bc I've been growing out my hair for too long now. So yeah what do you think?
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>>16656290
Well it's a matter of opinion. Personally I prefer long hair on girls over short hair. But it's up to each individual
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I think for most part, guys don't care.
I have seen this one girl with short and long hair and she looks good with both.
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long hair long hair long hair. short hair makes you look like a young boy/not a good look
Tell me something that hurts to put in words and make concrete
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>>16656127
I'm a fat late twenties nerd who deserves his virginity.
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>>16656127
My dick
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>>16656127
I'm a weak person who's scared of a hard day's work. It'll be interesting to see what happens given I'm starting a proper job soon.