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In HS I was in a relationship with this guy, I was 17 he was 24. I was comfortable with it so we're both our parents.

Currently yes. 21 and 29.

>my experience
Interpersonally it's fine, we get along and I like the older dynamic because I love learning. We have a lot of crossover of interests that age doesn't interfere (i.e. interest in the sciences etc)
Nobody so far commented on our age difference. They comment on other things, moderatly unrelated to age though (he's got a solid career in EE and I'm still working at McDonald's doing uni and that makes many of his friends/family uncomfortable)
The other problems I'll list
● more well travelled/experienced than me, so not much is surprising or new to him compared to me.
● Fear that maybe he only subconsciously likes me because I'm 21 and that's like a prime female age or something lol
● His concerns are more advanced in life, i.e. he's already looking into buying a house and I still haven't even moved out of my parents yet!

>something inherently wrong
Nope, just things get complicated with the things listed above. I think if the age gap were any much bigger though then it'd become almost separate generations. I'm lucky I'm technically the cusp on the same generation as him. So I don't believe it's all stigma.

>Largest gap
I thought 3 years either way was the largest gap but here I am now lol....

>>16643921
why are 24 y/o's creeping on 17 y/o's?
your parents must have been either delusional, didn't care, or just plain stupid

Talk about other girls. Have them talk about other guys. Gossip about dumb stuff.

There. You're now a conversation master.

>>16643884
I usually keep conversation short - maybe reply once or twice, then stop replying when I get bored. You are more valuable when you are not easily accessible / constantly trying to entertain her. Conversation isn't interesting? Let it die. Initiate again when you have something interesting to share.

>>16643899
This

Do NOT keep the conversation going.

Go do some manly shit and talk to her in real life at that place you told her to meet you at.

You DID tell her to meet you at a place right?

Your mother has a penis. Accept it. Enjoy it.

But seriously, no way to know if it's a bigger deal without knowing the history. Maybe she just wants to make sure her fine young daughter's not getting fat? Maybe she's a rapacious lesbian? Who knows?

Tits or get the fuck out

is your mom hot

post pics please

it'll help me generate a proper response

>>16643832

What is the bigger picture to you?

>>16643832
I'm going to replace my couch with her ass.

>I'm 19 she's 17

>13 months

>I would describe her as sweet, gorgeous, funny, intelligent, logical, and my best friend

>she'd say roughly the same except she'd say I can be an asshole sometimes

>see her every day, go on "dates" once or twice a month"

>text every day, but mostly see each other in person


For the past three months we've been having sex like twice a month. I always come on to her, but she always rejects me. I'm really starting to get angry when it happens. I ask her why she doesn't want to have sex and she say's she just not in the mood. But then other times she'll say she's so horny and how good my dick game is, but when it comes time to actually have sex she rejects me again.

Just typing this out I can feel my blood pressure raising. It's such an annoying and frustrating situation. I'm too young for this shit, I want to fuck random girls when she does this to me, but at the same time, I don't think the odds are good of me ever meeting another human being I care about like I care about her. I can honestly say she is the only person alive that I love.

Ayy girl want some fuck is a LOT better than what most bumbling virgins open with

>>16643822
I've gotten most dates with "hi how's it going" Yeah it's boring but I'm not one to copy and paste cheesy lines. Just let them know I want to take them out and get to know them and they seem to appreciate that. I'm well adjusted and good looking tho, so that's probably a big part of it.

>I want to not be so lonely
>Okay anon, so how do you relate to people?
>I don't. I share no interests with anyone.

Well Jesus fucking Christ anon, maybe you should delve into something that will actually interest or impress or amaze a girl before you expect them to lay down their affection on you. For what reason should you have self-respect? You earn that by doing something with your life. I hate to be that guy, but being a bump on a log isn't going to get you the things you seek.

>>16643813
Buy a tank for $70,000. Scare those fuckers away, even with a non-functioning cannon.

>>16643845
holy shit. tanks are only 70k? how much are fighter jets?

@op probably safest to start carrying. the only thing that stops a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun.

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>>16643813

Lukkeeee, use the spadddeee.

That picture pretty much answers your question. Keep your form like the one on the right, don't flinch and you are fucking free.

>>16643712
Yeah, I tried hanging myself but failed because my weight broke the rope. I was basically brain dead when they found me. Some one else is currently doing my typing. I should have shot myself. I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself I should have shot myself i should have fucking shot myself

>>16643723
I'm still pretty scared of missing or not killing myself and ending paraplegic forever.

>>16643644
is it out of character for you to get upset at this sort of thing?
then im going to go out on a limb and guess pregnancy hormones.
guess it just depends on how well you know the girl or whatever

Well it's natural to have heightened and reactive emotions during pregnancy due to hormonal influences. Also she's being a dumb bitch.

But on an unrelated note:
"When you find yourself hating someone (who did not directly hurt you) with blinding rage, know for certain that it is not the person you hate at all, but rather something about them that threatens your identity. Find that thing. This single piece of advice can turn your life around, I guarantee it."

Or you can probably just ignore that dumb bitch and get on with your life you better than that OP no sweat

good luck with the pregnancy you rockin' it

Because the hormones during pregnancy make you crazier. When I was pregnant, I sobbed because I read a story about a man who gave up his career to rescue mistreated donkeys. I also completely lost my shit over people telling me that I didn't look pregnant (I had already gained 15 lbs and had a belly). Both of these things are out of character for me.

Deep breath, eat a food you currently enjoy, and take it easy. You'll chill out again in a few months (you will likely continue to be crazy for a while after childbirth).

Good luck with the baby.

>>16643610
1. "When is your next lunch break, lets eat something together?"
2. "Got plans for the weekend? Im having a party at mine, you should come!" (You have to throw a party, effort involved)
3. " hey i noticed there was ~ insert town event you live in ~ do you wanna check it out?

If she has already called you a few times then she obviously likes you, reciprocate it back.

I meant rung me up at the register, whoops. She's very friendly and always smiles at me but it could just be customer service.

>>16643824
There is legit only one way to find out, ask her to have lunch with you on her break. She says no, well then you know she was just being nice. On the flipside if you pull it off, well then your in with a chance. If you dont ask her, you will regret it later.

I once asked a girl if she had a boyfriend when i was at a skin clinic getting a spot lazered off my face, turns out she did and it was kinda embarrasing at the time, but i dont regret it because now i have the closure to know that it wasnt going to happen compared to maybe it could of.

>>16643482

Yeah, she'll wait a couple weeks then call the police,

Drug addicts are predictable, you won't smoke for a week out of fear then say 'in the clear haha 420 blaze it yolo edm music 420 no scope' and light up

>>16643485
I wouldn't call smoking every now and then being a "drug addict," but I see your point. Guess I'll have to no-scope elsewhere.

>she had a complaint about a smell of marijuana coming from your place
>can she do anything to make you leave if she's only heard rumors

>landlord comes by one day
>marijuana smell in the air because you are fucking retarded
>no longer a rumor
>WHOOP WHOOP ITS DA SOUND O' DA POLICE
>WHOOP WHOOP ITS DA SOUND O' DA BEAST

Pick a new place to smoke, dumbass. My friend got evicted from his place for the exact same reason. I told him MULTIPLE times that I could smell the smoke in the hallway days after he lit up, but he thought I was just fucking around and thought they couldn't do anything about it.

Enough complaints piled up and someone called the cops on a day where the smell was exceptionally strong (a day he was actually smoking, surprise surprise). He got busted, and was shortly after evicted due to violating the rules which stated that it was a no smoking apartment.

>>16643365
forgot to mention, the pic is unrelated lol

>>16643365

Do you have any other symptoms? Fever? Cold sweats? Lethargy? Are you just vomiting or are you going to the toilet a lot as well?

Just try to keep food consumption to minimum for now, drink lots of water and if you have to eat..avoid dairy and eat 'dry foods' like toast or crackers.

>>16643403
id say lethargy is a symptom too. im only vomiting at this point, and the water feels good to drink but my stomach doesn't seem to like it that much lol.

>>16643121
Just stop caring about "feeling embarrassed". Nobody cares, and they'll care even less if you don't make a big deal of it.

Been with my girlfriend for a little longer than 3 years now. I'm still super nervous around girls, but i just don't let it bother me anymore. I noticed now that i don't let it get to me, they seem to show a lot more interest.

>>16643121
Just treat them like dudes at first. Turns out girls are humans too and act like humans also. Most of my hookups that I've had are because I talked with them like I do my guy friends. Joked around, talked, hung out, etc. I really wish we could lose all this bullshit about putting girls on pedestals. They're great, don't get me wrong, but they're just stupid humans like you or me, dude.

>>16643213
>Just treat them like dudes at first
never do this
you will have sex never

Nope.

Let me guess: She started it, because you'd never do anything bad to another person unless you were provoked.

>>16643080
Let me guess, if a woman strikes you, you are supposed to just sit back and take it?

>>16643064
Legally speaking, if it went down as you said, you should be alright. Or at least as fucked as she should be. But that's assuming 1. she *touched* you first and 2. you have credible eyewitnesses who can corroborate this and/or
a video of the event taking place showing her laying her hands on you first. But, then you aren't really in the right to slap her - you are legally within your right to deck the shit out of her because you feared for your safety and well being after what is legally defined as assault, but slapping isn't exactly enough to end a threat, so it would probably not be considered self defense in court and would probably just get both of you assault charges.

Morally and practically, you're likely to get ganged up on by white knights if you hit a woman for hitting you first. There's not much you can really do in that situation except avoid being in it, unless there is a police officer staring at you as the situation goes down.

Your gf is a big fucking red flag.

Abort it as soon as possible.

>Is she nuts deep down?
Define 'nuts'
If you mean she's going to burst into treats once a fortnight or so, then yes.
If you mean she'll flip out and threaten to murder you over literally nothing, then not necessarily.
If you don't think you can handle having to hold her tight every once in a while and tell her everything's going to be OK while she bawls her eyes out, please let her down slowly before she grows too emotionally invested in you.

>>16643019
Shes broken and you are not prepaired to deal with her shit. She has to sort it out herself and that can be years from now. Get out while you can.

Sounds like Stockholm Syndrome. She has your best interest in heart. You should cut off ties with the dudes, they fucking raped you!

>>16642861

what kidn of rape was this? were you all drunk and they threesome'd you without any real consent or did they tie you up and fuck you while you cried?

serious question here. in order to understand you feelings we need to understand the situation

Do you think a reasonable person would react the way you have?

I would say to you that most people would not consider your course of action reasonable, normal, or sane.

It is, I think, worth asking yourself why you currently feel this way towards your attackers.

Have you talked to any professional third parties about this?