I really don't know what it is, but i'm pretty much invisible to girls. I think of myself as an alright looking 18 year old male, and just find it so hard for women to even notice me. I go out of my way to talk to them, and all I either get is the cold shoulder or I'm just ignored. whats going on? Is it just me? Help! lol
>>16645976
>go out of your way
How? What do you mean?
>cold shoulder or ignored
Again, how?are you complaining because girls aren't all over your dick, or because they refuse to engage you in any conversation?
I go out of my way as in, they never initiate a conversation with me, ever. Also yes, they almost 100% refuse to engage me in any conversation.
>>16645976
Lurking.
This is me too.
How bad is it to drop out of university? I don't like what I'm studying and I feel it's just a waste of time. Some people are telling me university is supposed to suck and I should just man up and get my degree so I can have a decent job later. I feel like this is just a trap that will lead me into being a wagecuck doing something I don't enjoy. I'm thinking of just moving to the UK and working some jobs, saving up money and trying to get an idea of what I want to do in life.
>>16645969
Hahaha.
>you aren't a special snowflake
>you don't have a dreamjob
>there is nothing in life just waiting for you
>there won't be a sudden rush of happiness when you drop out
You are a failure, repeat this to yourself. Every single half-minded person in this world went to uni and got their diploma, family and enjoyed their life.
You will never amount to anything you fucking r9k dweller.
>>16646390
Thanks for the quality post.
>>16646689
If you wanted someone to comfort you and lie to you maybe you should've went to reddit.com.
How do I tell someone I was "friends with benefits" with to piss off? I was fucking a girl for a few months but she decided to get back with her ex. I don't really care but she still messages all the time and I'm just not into it. I don't want to be mean but I'm sick of pretending to care about all the bullshit she talks to me about. Most of the time it's just about her ex or she's just being a cunt. Which makes her a drag to talk to. I've also known her for a great many years so it's difficult to just cut all ties. If anyone can offer any guidance/advice, it'd be greatly appreciated.
>>16645904
You cant cut her off without being mean. So decide which is more important to you.
>>16645904
Yo either act needy as fuck that dries up pussy or just tell her the truth
Look blah your an ok fuck but your a dumb bitch so have a nice life.
Maybe you still like her? But she is talking to you like a cunt. Does that make sense? Im intrigued
>been happily married to my husband
>we finally decide that it's time to try having a baby
>i just found out i'm pregnant
>husband is a smoker, he's been smoking since his teens
Only now did I think about this. I don't know if I want my child to grow up in a smoking household. Would it be fair for me to raise my concerns about this to him? If he refuses, what should I do? I mean I'll probably have to compromise yeah?
>>16645903
Of course it's fair. Smoking is literally bad for the kid. If he gives a shit he'll be willing to compromise.
>>16645903
You realise smokers can quit right ? What about getting a vape?
As long as he's smart about it (no smoking in the house/car/when holding the baby/pushing the stroller/washing hands often) i would not say a thing. You see, nagging is the way WAY bigger treat to your baby than smoking. Rather grow up
with a dad that smokes than no dad at all. And you know that trying to change somebody is the beginning of the end
I JUST BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND OF 2 YEARS
WHAT CAN I DO RIGHT NOW SO I DONT START CRYING AND THINKING ABOUT HIM PLEASE AND THANKS
post his stupid picture and ill insult his dumb face
>>16645836
Go out with a friend to any kind of activity. Mini-golf or something. And after that you treat yourself to some food and then drunk and cry. Tomorrow you'll be way better.
May I ask why u broke up?
Distract yourself by going out with a friend and doing some activity... Mini-golf!
Then eat well and drink and cry. Then sleep.
Why did u break up?
Hey /adv/,
So please tell me if I'm wrong, but is being 5'3" and weighing between 117-120 lbs considered fat/out of shape for a 24 year old female? My boyfriend of 3.5 years seems to think so and he believes I should weigh somewhere closer to 105 or less. He constantly makes me feel like shit about my body (he says I have a pretty face but my body is 'disgusting') when he knows I'm already incredibly self conscious of my appearance to begin with. I've asked him if he would like to work out with me so we could motivate each other, and he told me "it isn't his job to keep me motivated to look good," so obviously, that conversation sort of just drove itself into the ground.
Earlier today, he teased me about my chest (I'm a 32B--definitely nothing to be proud of), and he couldn't understand why I was upset. I mean, lets be real, my tits are clearly fucking tiny, but he claimed to be into flat chested girls when we got together so I never really thought this was an issue? I've always been made fun of for having a flat chest, but he's the one who talked me out of getting a boob job years ago and now he's reigniting that deep rooted insecurity.
We hardly have sex anymore because he's 'stressed' (this guy is currently unemployed and is taking one class this winter semester--which just fucking started today) and doesn't have time to pursue his personal goals. I know he faps instead, which normally I wouldn't care about, but it's clear he's disgusted by me and it only adds to the problem. (cont.)
I've already decided I'm going to start working out more frequently and change my eating habits and whatnot, but by the time I'm up to his definition of what looks 'ideal' in his eyes, I wanna kick him the fuck out of my house and dump him... childish, I know, but being told I'm not good enough almost every day is emotionally taxing and I honestly don't know what else to do with him.
Our relationship is incredibly toxic and unhealthy by all means, we argue probably anywhere from 2 to 3x a week and he gets in my face and throws/breaks objects around the house at least 1x a month.
I'm absolutely terrified of him when he gets angry, and I literally have to keep pepper spray on me to get him the fuck away from me if he threatens to hit or push me. He has done both in the past, and our neighbors have had to call the cops on us once because of how loud he was yelling at me and because they heard him destroying shit in my house.
He makes me feel trapped and tells me I'll never find anyone better than him... which I know is total bullshit, but my self esteem is so low that I can't get myself to just dump him.
What the fuck do I do?
sorry this was so disorganized--I just have a lot to get off of my chest.
If this isn't bait, you need to get rid of this toxic asshole while you still can. You still have some self awareness, don't develop Stockholm Syndrome
>>16645804
It isn't bait.
I want to get rid of him ASAP but we live together and I feel guilty as fuck about kicking him out, even though I know I really shouldn't.
His family wouldn't be able to take him in (they're literal white trash), and none of his friends live close enough for him to continue his schooling out here. How can I tell him to get the fuck out? I'm also afraid that after kicking him out, he'd do something horrible to retaliate. I'm honestly afraid he would hurt me or my pets.
Anyone with stories or advice?
I'll start
>Be me
>My family starting to become more distant
>Brother moving to Hawaii
>Haven't talked to my friends for weeks now
>Lost all motivation to sleep
>Barely eating food now
>Everyone I know is getting girlfriends or boyfriends and shit.
>I know this is a shitty feeling and I've been through it before, but it always gets me down when I realize how low I've stooped, and if it may be true that I am a lonely fuck
tl:dr I'm feeling depressed and lonely, and I keep feeling this way.
Pic not related
OP here, in case you guys actually care, I'm willing to elaborate
I'm there too and I've been here for a long time.
>>16645809
How do you deal with it? I don't even have the motivation to confront it. I just blame myself
If you're dating a girl who has been cheated on, abused, made to feel worthless etc, how exactly do you convince her you're not like that?
Obviously opinions from women who have experienced this is more useful.
Birds of a feather
You can't. But actions speek louder than words. Just try to be the best bf you can. It won't help her to shower her with compliments. She won't believe you anyway. Instead of telling her she's beautiful. Make her feel how attractive you think she is. You know, random hugging/kissing/maybe even groping.
Instead of telling her how awesome she is, show her by being proud of her. Go that extra mile to make her feel valued and special. She will be floored. You know, that cheesy stuff: surprise her with roses. Drive 2 hours just to see her fo a few hours. When you wake up next to her, tell her you love the way she looks when she just woke up. Send her random "thinking of you" messages. Stuff like that.
>>16645700
try helping her for 4 years and find out she cheats on you at that point because "things were so hard" when she had to move a couple hours away... because a great person (me) couldn't help a shitty person heal, as they clearly weren't mature enough to not do it on their own. fuck op, i was in my teens. now i'm 24 and my life's shit because i tried to accomplish what you're trying to. even if she's not immature, she's clearly not ready for a relationship. you want to be the best person you can be here? tell her that and don't start a relationship until she's ready. due to the fact that she isn't now, jumping into one is just going to probably mix her up more like it did with my gf
can hear my neibours plotting agaist me to each other because i smoke weed a little bit too often, can feel a conversation with parent coming alone as they will probably tell her very soon. help
>>16645697
Grow up and stop being a neet junkie
>>16645697
Don't smoke in a place where others can smell ot of you can't deal with people complaining.
>>16645697
explain you do it for nausea or back or hunger problems or to help with meditation. if you don't do it for those or beneficial reasons, lie and quit or start being productive with mj. it's a disgrace not to
It's been about 2 and a half weeks since my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me. How do you get a girlfriend back?
>>16645625
Why do you think she broke up with you?
Has it changed?
Then why do you think she would get back together?
>>16645628
She said she didn't love me anymore. I'm not really sure what happened.
You don't, especially when it was she that broke up with you.
A wise anon once said "an ex is an ex for a reason"
Grieve, cope, grieve some more, listen to some embarrassing anime music that makes you cry or something, and then move on.
I wish somebody had told me that before I wasted 3 years of my life wondering what would have happened if I hadn't dumped my 5-year, so now I'm imparting it to you, whether it'll do any good or not.
>summer 2013
>been hanging out with a whorish girl for a couple of months due to homies moving away
>has a beta male boyfriend
>says she likes me more than her boyfriend
>tells me how deep I am and how he is stupid and is friendless with real autism
>tells me that she stays with him because she says he will kill himself
>he is addicted to alcohol and will go into replapse if he doesn't drink
>constanly cheats on him, but says she wasn't in her right mind and he always takes her back
here's the shitty part about the girl that lead to a situation
>addicted to herion
>always needs five dollars
>sucked dick for money in the past
>been caught recently prostituting herself to a couple in the small town we live in
>kicked out of her parents house
>is leaving town to live with a drug dealer
>wants me to drive her to a bad town 40 miles away,
>I refuse
>says she will suck my dick
>hang up
2014
>she comes back to town,
>wants me to drive her to live with another drug dealer
>been kicked out of her house again for stealing money for heroin
>gets placed in a psyche ward for three months
> holds me accountable because I didn't drive her to the dealer
>I cut her off completely
>she is still dating the beta male bf
Should I have taken sex from her and did what she asked?
I was honestly afraid of STDs and didn't want to risk it,
pic related
that's her
>getting your dick sucked by a street whore junkie, ever
i suppose you'd eat eat a burger out of the dumpster too
She's nasty. Stay away. Heaps of other women out there.
>>16645536
This is the dumbest thing I've read. It was 2 and a half years ago and you're STILL wondering if you should have let a drug addict whore suck your dick for a ride somewhere?
Get out and do anything else. Literally anything else and move on.
I just got dumped after a 4 year relationship because she didn't love me anymore. Pretty fucking bullshit. Anyway, how the fuck do you meet good girls out of college? I'm not really into the bar scene.
Maybe she didn't love you because you're homosexual, what's your opinion on the "gay scene" instead?
if you want women to notice you, you have got to show the dick as soon as possible.
this will get guaranteed reactions.
Library, museums, places where smart people hang out. Go for an intelligent girl. Good thing you are avoiding bars, there's no girls worth dating there, just sluts.
Just wondering if I am average looking, good looking,handsome,cute, ugly, repilsive or whatever, how would you describe my look as. I'm 19. I just want honest opinions on my face.
>one eye on the titties
>one eye on the streets
what the hell is wrong with your eyes.
i bet you can see into the future with that shit.
Why is there a carcass dangling on your wall?
>>16645447
Hi op! I remember you from before!
You look SIGNIFIGANTLY better. You're moving in the right direction!! Good job so far
>6'0
>65k income
>work out at the gym constantly
>can lift 280 thus far
>work at major studio everyone wants to work at
>have a car with good gas mileage
>good family with no issues
>speak 3 languages
>most popular dude in high school and college class
>personable, people usually come up to talk to me first
>I have never bought a woman a drink at a bar, but women have gotten me non alcoholics beverages at bars
>people smile at me in passing
despite all this Still a virgin
I honestly don't put as much effort into it as most dudes, but I should have acquired something by now. (Only got as far as second base in college)
Normally this would bother me, but for some reason tonight after reading this board, I am having some apprehensive thoughts. Because none of their logic seems to apply and I keep getting in stupid situations.
I will give you some examples
I will give you some examples
>Girl complains about beta male
>tell me how much deeper, ambitious, and handsome I am than her
> he still lives at home and doesn't shower
>goes with him because she says that he needs her
>girl will give me a handjob and kiss me
>make me feel her tit
>but still claim I am "ugly" and won't date me
>Women have chosen mantels over me
>the manlet even likes me
> asks me to me to walk with the couple because he is afraid he cannot protect her at night
What do you make of this robots?
You have self-esteem issues. Desperation is an instant turn-off.
First thing you do, leave /r9k/ and don't go back there. That place is toxic and makes your desperation even worse. Whatever you may have learned there about girls, forget all of it.
>>16645444
not really,
I stand up straight, hold my head high and speak with a somewhat bold voice, I am just saying what has happened doesn't make any sense.
I just am wondering why this
I thought that /R9k/ is the place to ask this question. I really haven't been there since 2009, I just heard it was the place to ask.
I really never gave much thought to relationships, I have mainly been focused on my craft since 07'
>>16645389
>>16645473
You clearly do. The only things you've said are so overwhelmingly positive that your story literally doesn't make sense. There's something you aren't telling us, or aren't aware of.
You claim girls have bought you drinks. Where? Why? When? How did you respond?
Please rate my Tinder profile and suggest improvements.
crop your feet off
jesus fuck thats so gross
Barefoot skier?
>>16645391
Surfing obviosuley jesus christ