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25 year old here. Been alone all my life. Over the last two months I met and fell in love with another girl. Lost my virginity to her. She told me she loves me. Then she got engaged to her boyfriend, I had no idea she was in a relationship. She told me she does love me and she had been in tears when I found out. It's possible to love more than one person she tells me. Fuck her.

I was happier when I was still a virgin. I feel fucking dead inside.

And this is not the only issue in my life. It's just the most recent issue. I am living with chronic pain and fatigue so severe my quality of life has plummeted, I'm going to lose my job because I can't focus any more. I lost all my friends. I stay in every weekend now. They tried for months but they must think that I think I'm too good for them now or something. So now I really am alone.

I don't get enjoyment out of anything in life any more. All I do is take a lot of painkillers to get high and drink beer. I've started cutting myself again for the first time in two years. I don't think I'll get on top of it again now.

Two years ago my mum died a horrible death and I'm still thinking about it every day. I missed a call from her the night she died because I was sleeping. She was probably terrified and knew she was going to die. And the phone rang out.

Fuck I'm in so much pain right now as I type this.

I can't take being alone any more. Obviously I'm not at all boyfriend material.

I'm not going to kill myself, not directly anyway. But I really don't give a shit if I die right now. There is no light at the end of this dark tunnel.
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>>16647585
Well go get a handle of jake and coke that will help for a couple of days
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Have you been to grief counselling? It sounds like something you may need as I don't think you are handling what happened to her very well on your own.
I wish you well OP
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>>16647585

You know why girls move on so easily?

because they always have many possibilities
start talking to more women, not to fuck everyone of them, more about to have wide options, practice your flirting skills, don't waste your life crying for one pussy who is for sure not worth your time.

Also, if you could tell her fiance that she is a slut, you would save that dude's life.

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Hi /adv/,
So I've been out of college for break and away from my boyfriend of 1.5 years. I've been feeling so anxious and paranoid due to the way he's been acting.

It's been a month and a half and I've been giving him space, because we live together and do everything together, and it makes him angry that he doesn't get alone time. Since I stopped messaging him first, or at all he will send me a few sweet text here and there. It feels really good and makes me happy.

I can't help but to feel lonely though. And lately I've noticed he doesn't tell me he loves me as much as he use to. And I could just be really paranoid over it really.

But all day yesterday he didn't text me at all, he didn't even mention that he was spending the night at a friends house. I'm not mad over this, but would this concern you if a girlfriend/boyfriend did the same to you? I knew he was out, but I didn't know the rest.

I've been so scared he wants to leave me, I go back home in about 6 days. But he's just been so distant and it doesn't even feel like he's my boyfriend sometimes.


It just really upsets me that he doesn't think about talking to me, like it feels like he doesn't miss me at all or thinks about me. I could just be paranoid. But guys, do you think you can tell me what he might be thinking and what I should do? I know this is a common behavior with guys.

Also, just so this won't come up, he isn't really the type to hide what is bothering him with his family at least. Usually when his dad or mom does something that bothers him he will text me asap just to vent about it.

But if he's bothered by something else its really all about winning the lottery with getting it out of him, but he'll also be really moody and you can tell he's upset. I don't think he's upset about anything right now.
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Oh, my mom told me that listing good things that he does for me helps, so I'll do that here.

>He asked me to watch clannad because he said it reminds him of us.
>After I watched it he bought me a pink and blue dango plushies for Christmas because the represent us
>We were talking about how this guy is in love with me and he said "well, who wouldn't be" and it gave me butterflies
>He calls me qt a lot
>When I heard someone trying to open my front door he told me "I love you please be safe"
>He mentioned going on a date when I get back a few weeks ago
>He went to a party on new years where everyone had a boyfriend/girlfriend there and he said he felt left out.

Thats all I can think of right now.
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>>16647526
>>16647545
Not gonna lie, this could turn sour (just like everything, so no need to stress aout it)
What I belive is that, at his NYE party, he did remember about you and he possibly would like to see you. Ask him about it, maybe it'll do the trick.
This aside, maybe you should just talk about it with him...
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>>16647526
It's just a phase imo. I went through the same thing a while back with my gf of 2 years. I thought I needed space. In reality since it's been almost 2 years he's probably nervous about the future. Like panicking over whether you're "the one" or what to do about marriage. Continue to tell him how much he means to you and talk to him about how you feel. As for the friend's house deal, that's being a little overly paranoid.

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Hey /adv/, I'm 19 and I'd like to start building credit.

What should I do? Tips and don'ts?
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pay your bills on time all the time
get a credit card with a very low monthly limit, something that you can manage, ideally in the low hundreds
make small purchases, don't blow your limit on a single purchase. maybe some clothes or little items, nothing you won't reasonably have the money to pay back later
pay the bill when it comes
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You apply for a credit card with no annual fee. That's the most critical thing. If for some reason you get turned down by fucking everyone (which these days is nearly impossible) then you can go to your bank and get a secured credit card. But that's almost certainly not necessary.

So you take this no-annual-fee credit card and you charge only the things you would normally buy: gas, food, etc. Basics. How much do you charge? 20% of your credit limit at most. You can get up to 30% without slowing your credit building but I leave you 10% wiggle room for emergencies.

You wait until the monthly statement comes in the mail in order to pay the balance. This is because the credit rating bureaus only get periodic snapshots of your credit usage. If you compulsively keep your balance at zero all month, every snapshot will show zero utilization. This is bad.

You also pay the balance in full. There is absolutely, positively on benefit to carrying a balance over to the next month. All you're doing then is just paying interest for no reason. Fucking retarded. Pay the full balance due and, for heaven's sake, PAY IT ON TIME. That above all else is the single most critical lesson. If you fuck up everything else I wrote, it'll only slow you down. But late payments will actually ruin your credit. NEVER PAY LATE.

That's it. Then just watch your credit score and history grow. You can call every so often and ask them to raise your limit if you feel that your regular expenses can accommodate it.
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>>16647515
(Apparently two things are "most critical." Derp. No annual fee isn't critical, it's just smart. You shouldn't pay a bank for the pleasure of making them money. Paying on time, however, is absolutely essential.)

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Gather 'round, everyone.

>Be me.
>Have friend of like 6 years.
>Finally convince her to fuck.
>Blow her away.
>She cried as she orgasmed.
>"I was really hoping you would suck so we could go back to our lives."
>Next time, we were sober, but it was just as good.
>Third time, came too early.
>She apparently only wants the dick, so I can't appease her with anything else.

Now, finally, the kicker.

>I pass by for the fourth time.
>We decide to make something that uses jalapenos.
>We make it, we have fun.
>We wash our hands.
>I go to bathroom.
>Come back, sit down on the bed.
>Dick is suddenly on fire.
>A half hour later, after having dipped my dick in cold milk I'm good.
>Okay, we should probs not have sex today.
>Doesn't care, wants me inside.
>I do what I can, but I'm about to come to quickly, so I ask for a break.
>Suddenly, her vagina is on fire.
>After like 15 minutes of her being in pain, she comes back.
>I mention how we shouldn't do anything with jalapenos for a while.
>She says she doesn't wanna do this anymore.
>This kills any boner I had.
>She leaves and comes back again.
>"If you're not gonna fuck me, I need you to leave."
>Well, fuck.
>Force a boner. Try fucking her.
>It does not work.
>I lay next to her, she falls asleep on me.

Did I blow it?
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>>16647342
Holy shit you're both functionally retarded. Please do not breed.
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>>16647357
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>>16647357
What? Like it's common sense the oil in these fuckers sticks to you like your mother on a black social worker?

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my stepfather used to hit me a lot when I was a kid.

Now I'm back home after 4 years of college while I'm looking for a job and I keep getting the feeling that if I stand up for myself too much that I'll get punched again.

Should I report him if he does? When I was a kid I threatened I would report him and he gave me a beating, so I don't know if it kind of stuck with me and I'm not seeing it clearly.
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>>16647322
Time to punch daddy back now that you're all grown up
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>>16647326
I'm way smaller and he'd probably strangle me to death
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>>16647334
Time to unload a magazines worth of .45s to Daddys chest

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How am I supposed to meet girls if all I do is school all day, work all weekend(nights specifically) and my hobbies are mostly solo or with guys

soccer,skateboarding,photography, cooking

I'm doing fine developing myself as a person, my people skills are good (service industry) and people like me but I have no idea how to meet new people/girls with this schedule
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You expand your hobbies.
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Make effort to have time for that? Duh
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>>16647321
Tinder?

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Is it considered shady if you have a friend of the opposite sex, but haven't mentioned it to your SO? There's no flirtation, no sending of nudes, no skype sex, or anything like that. Just conversation.

I can't bring myself to tell my SO because he's jealous and controlling to the point where I can't have any friends independent of him, and if I told him he'd probably go nuts. I've never cheated on him, but somehow I feel like I'm doing something wrong, even though it's platonic. Am I just being a huge faggot?
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It's not wrong at all to have a friend like that, and don't let anybody here tell you otherwise, but it is wrong to not mention it to your partner. OK, you have reasons -- the appropriate thing to do in this instance is to tell him that level of possessiveness is unacceptable, or to just leave the relationship. You know what he's doing is abuse, right?
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Yes. It's also a huge red flag if you feel the need to be shady because you openly admit that your boyfriend is controlling.
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If you feel like you're doing something wrong then you probable are.

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Hey, so a bit of back story is needed.
I was having a little giggle with some people and this buzzcunt brings up she was raped at a party.
We were discussing our dogs.
She calls me her best friend.
She's been my only friend for a few months, I never really had friends before this point.
I'm sitting here, just going over what she said.
She took away the good vibes and I'm just stuck in a miserable slump over the thought of her in that position.
...Should I still talk to this person?
She's making me feel sad, but if I don't talk to her I'll be alone.
She constantly says depressing things and it's taking it's toll on my happiness.

I don't know what to do.
I care about her, of course but she has other people to talk too so she'll be fine without me.
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You probably shouldn't. Shitty people are great at taking advantage of the inexperienced and naive. You simply don't have a reference point to understand how warped this person is.
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OP, if she is really this much of a drain on you, you're better off not talking to her.

Does she realize that she's being a downer? Maybe you could talk to her about it.
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youre such a shitty person, do her a favor and cut contact.

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I want to go to the gym but it's like -10 degree outside. I only have one good enough coat. I know that I'm gonna be drenched in sweat until I get home to shower but I really don't want my coat smelling like sweat all the time.

What do?
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>>16647158
Gyms have showers, you know.
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>>16647158
Fucking man up and go anyway. If you have to wash your coat after then that's what you have to do. Nobody ever got in shape by sitting around making excuses.
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>>16647167
I want to work out to improve my life. Smelling like old sweat is not an improvement. I'm planning to go almost daily but can't wash my coat every time and have to wear it everywhere else I go.

>>16647161
The ones at my gym are absolutely disgusting.

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How do you mend a broken heart/ get over someone?
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Do other shit and surround yourself with new things
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>>16647132
Time and occupying your mind.
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The better question is, how do you open up and trust again when you were betrayed?

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Is empathy dead?

It seems like everyone is either a psychopathic nationalist conservative or a hypocritical egocentric liberal.

Maybe I just don't have any friends and spend too much time here but it seems like the world is progressing towards being a giant Machiavellian arena
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>>16647006
>Maybe I just don't have any friends and spend too much time here

ya think?

you really think the shitposters here are real people? representative of the entire fucking world? you're so fucking retarded you belong here with us.
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>>16647006
Maybe you should catch a bullet to your head? That'd be the best solution imo
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>>16647006
>Is empathy dead?
Empathy is alive and well. Perhaps too much so, even. What seems to be dead is the skill of knowing when, how, and to what degree to apply it.

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Its been a month of zero comunnication, can i talk to my ex gf now? I really Miss Her...
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No. It's just going to make it harder to move on. You have to let her go bro. Work on improving yourself, meeting new people and having fun and the rest will follow.
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Who cut the contact and how did you break up? If she has no interest in reconnecting you'll just hurt yourself more.
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>>16646984
Not only will it make it harder, you'll just be even more depressed by how cold the interaction will be.

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My dad died 10 years ago and I just coincidently ran into one of his best friends who started telling me all these stories about him and I started blubbering like a baby. He wants me to meet the other people from my dads old crew and I feel like I'm going to cry again.

How can I not let sad emotions hit me so hard when I talk to them? I don't want to come off weak and whiny
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>>16646939
its your dead dad, the fuck are you supposed to act like?
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>>16646939
Perhaps you should try a hefty dose of man the fuck up? Crying about your dead dad won't do shit.
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Cry a lot before you go see them.

But this is such a nice way to honor your dad and learn more about him! Stay strong, OP. And I'm sure they miss him just like you do, they'll probably cry too.

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Do tall women (5'9-6'0) like shorter men? I'm 5'8 and it's my dream to marry someone taller than me, but don't know how I should start.
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Depends on the woman. Some are fine with dating a man shorter than themselves. For the most part women in general like a man taller than them. Your goal is doable though, just harder than finding someone shorter.
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>>16646720
what a shallow dream anon =/
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>>16646720
I've had a lot of women crush on me, most of them were taller than me. But I'm also very good looking and confident.

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Help me guys. I need advice how to chill the fuck out.

I feel incredibly hateful as of late. I did a full dive into what's happening in the world, every day for the past months I've been keeping up with what's happening in the world and with Europe. Every day again I find myself looking at independent media and from time to time I visit the /pol/ board on this website.

I've been getting depressed with all that is going on. I actually fear for my freedom and way of life now that the EU is becoming more and more undemocratic, and now that my country is invaded and my culture being censored because it might offend some people I just lose the will to live bit by bit.

It wasn't like this before, how can I stop caring?
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stop being retarded

read books intead of /pol/ infographics
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>>16646696
I do read books. Lots actually.

Stop being retarded is what I intend to do, I'm asking if someone has advice on how.
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>>16646676
>How can I stop caring?
You can start by not visiting /pol/ that often.
It's a fun place and all but all that vitriolic mess just corrodes away at you over time.
Go out and drink with friends or something. Don't bring politics into the conversation.

>I actually fear for my freedom and way of life now that the EU is becoming more and more undemocratic, and now that my country is invaded and my culture being censored because it might offend some people
I know this feel but there's naff all we can do about it. Not effectively, anyway.
Gonna guess you're German.

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