I've had a girlfriend for a couple months, she's my first girlfriend, and I'm trying to make it so that she's possibly my last. Everything in our relationship is going extremely well, but I feel like our sex just isn't what it's supposed to be and I've never even done it with anyone else.
What concerns me is that she's had sex with 3 guys before me, and she says I'm the shortest guy she's dated (6'1") so I'm really conscious about my penis size. I always thought I had an advantage there because i'm easily half an inch above average and it curves up a little which is apparently like a holy grail for women, but I can't help but think I'm the smallest she's been with.
I also can't stop thinking that the guys she's dated before me were much better in bed than me, which makes me really concerned whenever we have sex. Even with my curved penis, which is supposed to be amazing for her, I can't make my her orgasm even once. I've gotten her to have a small orgasm by fingering her but never through intercourse.
Then the other night I was asking her if women have something like a super orgasm, and she said she's only had two, one by herself and once her ex was fingering her in public place.
since she said that I just just can't stop thinking about being worse than the other guy. I want that to be able to do that to her, and yet I can't even make her have a small orgasm. Not only that but the other night I managed to stay erect for almost an hour and I just kept going hoping that she'd have a super orgasm, but as the night went on she not only didn't have a single orgasm but instead she just got drier until it started to hurt her and we just called it quits.
I just feel like such a failure in bed and now I'm having dreams about her cheating on me, and quite frankly even in my dreams i'm not blaming her for doing it.
everyone always talks about how amazing sex is, but at this point I'd rather just cuddle with her on the couch and watch a movie then masturbate later.
I think you're kind of worried about nothing. Girls love big dicks, and that's to be expected. But they're also looking for a real man in their life. Sometimes having both is a good combination. Hope that makes you feel better.
>>16850876
Tell her to fuck off. It's your first relationship, unless you are 38 you can get better. You will regret continuing this relationship if you let her put you in this submissive position, given the fact this constant nagging and guilt will drive all the fun away. She is an abusive bitch who doesn't respect you.
P.S. If you are 38, I can recommend /b/ or /r9k/.
>>16850876
Find the little man on the boat
Need a way to psychologically break down my cousin's ego. Any ideas?
How about coming back to this site when you are 18.
>>16850893
suck my dick. or say something useful.
>>16851361
We'd all benefit from you coming back when you're 18
It may not help you, but it's useful for us.
Take one for the team
If there is infidelity in a relationship, and they choose to stay together, is it expected that the cheater forfeits all privacy and freedom? Is it understood that it will never go away or be gotten over, and be treated as such the rest of their lives?
I know how disgusting cheating is, but even murderers are sometimes released from prison and forgiven. So why should someone be treated like a domesticated animal for the rest of their lives, by their partner, because of what they did? Why would the partner even choose to stay in the relationship if they knew they'd have to be on top of the other person 24/7?
>>16850872
The cheater betrayed the trust of the relationship and is therefore beholden to whatever the person accepting them back dictates. Don't like it? Get out of the relationship. You should have done that before you cheated in the first place.
>>16850880
I understand that. But what if it never stops? How an you be with someone who will treat you like a child your entire life? One partner will forever feel like they are on a leash, the other will never be happy not being in a relationship with an "adult".
>>16850891
That would, in fact, suck, but it greatly depends on how long it has been. How long has this been going on?
I've been texting a girl recently and she barely makes any conversation. I have to repeatedly ask questions to get her to say anything and even when she does she replies with conversation killers like 'yeah x'.
I know for a fact that she likes me so disinterest isn't the problem but I have no idea how to get her to open up and stop being so blunt in conversations, any advice?
what kind of questions do you ask her that you get blunt responses to?
yeah, that's annoying. she only gives one word answers and never asks a follow-up question. maybe she's just autismo.
try to ask more open ende questions thought.
Quick question:
I'm going to try to rent out a room that someone is subletting, somewhere near St. Pete, FL. Any pitfalls I should worry about?
I'm primarily concerned with giving them money and them kicking me out.
>>16850834
Sign a contract
Ask if you can call someone that rented the room
Ask if you can rent payments weekly instead of monthly
Ask if you can pay the deposit over time
To make it brief:
My father has taken multiple loans without me knowing,
I got real fucking mad and stopped supporting him alltogheter, turns out he's not able to withstand the payment because I was giving him money constantly.
As much as I wish to just leave his fucking ass in the middle of a street and not give a shit,
I still live with him and now he's trying to leech off the rest of my family.
I was thinking about using the money I have set aside (about 24k) to pay them off,
but today I found out that he might owe more money that I've immagined, he owes this company 18 fucking thousand euro,
and on top of that has at least 4-5 loans going on.
Eventually even if I let this shit blow in his face it would come back to bite me in the ass at some point,
so I need to figure out a plan of action right now that doesn't start with bashing his goddamn skull in.
>figure out how much money he owes in total
>start paying off the smaller ones with the money I have
>take credit, debit cards and Cheques off of him
>use his pay (about 1.5k € month) for bills and house expenses
>hopefully at this point we can save something even if I didn't pay all the loans off
And then I'll have to fucking treat my father like a school boy giving him his weekly pay to eat and go to work,
he's a year from retirement and he's going to have even less income at that point.
Would it even be better to pay the loan off in one payment? or should I just stick paying the monthly rates?
Or should I just kill him and spend the rest of my days in jail?
Why are you obligated to pay his loans?
Move away from him. You don't have to live at home I'd imagine.
You have 24k in savings, and you aren't ghosting on him?
Alright, maybe that's a little harsh. The fact is, you already paid him a wage for existing, but you can't cannibalize your safety net because of the hole he dug himself in. He needs to declare bankruptcy, and you need to realize you aren't a miracle worker.
Is my bank going to hassle me, or freeze my account, or even outright reject me if I try to deposit $1500 in cash on the other side of the country?
This isn't anything shady - my friends and I are meeting in New York and are splitting a hotel for 5 days. They're all going to pay me when I get there, and I'd like the money in my account before the hotel charges my card a bunch of money.
I just don't want to be stuck in New York with a frozen bank account.
Which bank? And no, they wouldn't care about a deposit. It's a small one, too, not gonna raise any flags.
>>16850865
Wells Fargo. I didn't think it seemed like much, I just don't ever deposit cash into my account. I do almost all of my banking online.
Oh, also, if you're super paranoid call your bank before you leave and confirm that they won't care.
anyone wanna make out what this is?
>>16850815
>anyone wanna make out
was that a sneaky pick-up line?
We're not even given context here. Part of the body? Is it you or someone else? Any specific activities concerning that body part?
>>16850815
Some fiber from slavshit apparel
I lent my place to a friend not long ago until he finds a place next week, and I noticed he eats a lot.
My food has undenibly lasted less and that's coming from a guy who does $1xx purchases of organic food while the friend in question just buys chicken, fries, eggs, and coke.
He uses all my condiments, I don't complain, he eats some of my meal-preps, I don't complain, but when he single handily eats the last straw of cereal left I kind of ticked.
Not because he ate it all, because he ate it without telling me. I called him out of it and told him about a story he told me about a friend stealing his perfume and how its the same thing if you don't tell me.
He said that he didn't know I was this selfish and how did I care since it was just a little of the cereal that was left. (which he used my milk of course)
I didn't want to call him out on him using my bottled waters, condiments, and milk/sports drink that I tend to use while running in the mornings, and just brushed it off by saying that he should've told me before hand because if you keep doing that you're giving me a message that I have to hide all my stuff since you blatantly told me you didn't know where the cereal was when I asked for it and I saw it hanging in the trash can.
Like man, why lie if you ate it, and I know where I put it? That gives me the idea that you probably have done much worse while I was not home and just telling it to me with a straight face.
Wht do you guys think? Do you agree that I'm selfish for calling him out just because I'm rich or do you think I was in the right.
Right now he went downstairs pissed to the market and buy his stuff because he wont be touching my stuff anymore, even though he'll probably use all the condiments and drinks since he wont buy the spices for his foods and doesn't buy anything but coke..
Thanks for the input.
no, you are right. having a roommate and having to split food-bills is a tricky thing to do. since he's only there for a short time it's obvious that you two haven't worked out the conditions propperly and that's backbiting now.
it's especially hard to get on one level when you have such differing eating habits. but him using up something and not telling you/replacing it is just rude. i'd be pissed too if i got up in the morning and find that there are no oats left. fuck that shit. i'd say just stand it out for the few days left, maybe try to invite friends and have a dinner party (with "everybody brings over something"). eat out a few times. don't stock up your fridge untill he's gone again.
You're not being selfish. Just ignore that remark.
You were naive to let him live there and not set any ground rules. You probably never let a friend live with you that long before, right? Sharing a house can ruin a friendship.
Don't stay quiet about anything that bothers you. It will only escalate and you will grow to hate him more because he will keep doing the things that bother you.
Next time you let someone stay at your house, really think about what you are comfortable with and lay out some rules. Be upfront.
>>16850806
you are in the right, you have your stuff, he has his unless you've agreed on some shared assets in the food department
your friend is a cunt
I coughed so hard blood shot out of my nostril. Is this bad?
>>16850772
could be a sign of hypertension, take your blood pressure
Maybe you're a protagonist in an anime and you seen a hot girl.
membrane in your nose is dry this time of year
snort a fingerfull of vaseline up in there
I had a GF 4 years ago, stuff ended badly and i blocked her. 1 month ago i talked to her again and i had an axiety crisis(never got over her) and blocked her again. A few days later i realized i was running away from the problem and talked to her properly. She also still had feelings for me but had something with another ex that was complicated. She stayed with me for a a few weeks while we had drama over these 3 people, i got hurt and she ended up saying she still loved her recent ex and was going after him.
Problem is she was the only person i really cared outside of my family and really loved...these things that happened made my feelings of love come back completely at full force.
We're really close and we both have fun just talking to each other for hours but...i'm getting depressed when i'm not talking to her. My friends told me that the pain will only go away if i block her...but i can't do that after what i did 2 times to her, i just can't. And also i still love her and care for her(a small bit inside me has hope for the future and i'm trying to kill that).
I wake up desperate that i'm alone(this just started), i get depressed all day and can't pay attention to university classes. i talk to her a bit at night and i feel better while talking to her(we're playing games).
I said to her i was trying to be her friend, and not talk to me in the morning and afternoon, just at night when i can do other stuff to keep my mind off. I was thinking of trying this at least till the 10th of march(her bitthday)
I don't think i cam stop liking her, i just can dull my emotions.
Do i just give up on trying to be her friend? Anything i can do for this to work?
My bottom line on this is that i want her to feel free to talk to me about her problems because i really care about her and want to help if she has problems(even if i wouldn't talk to her anymore)
sorry for typos, if the story is not enough i can talk more
I feel bad for this girl, you sound annoying as fuck.
>>16850798
Yeah, i could be. She still wants to be my friend though
look at yourself in a mirror
change the things you can
accept the things you can't
If she likes you but she chose him because he has a job, you can get a job.
If she chose him because he is more athletic, get off your lazy ass and hit the gym.
If she chose him because he has a bigger penis, move on. Plenty of other girls have never had bigger penises before, and until they do you have a chance with them.
How do I improve my communication over the phone? I'm fine at talking face-to-face and through text, but I cannot keep a conversation going on the phone. I kinda zone out. It fucks me up on phone/skype interviews and when I talk to potential QTs.
like what? you are supposed to answer and then just zone out? or you run out of topics to talk?
>>16850762
Eh. You gotta just start feeling more comfortable. Get experience talking 1 on 1 with people.
And you've probably heard this a million times but treat women like people, not goddesses.
>>16850762
Why even have a phone convo with someone if you've got nothing to talk about?
My roommate's been really weird since the beginning of this semester. Just to give a general idea of previous events:
>graduated high school, going to college
>a guy I kinda know is going to this college too, offer to be roommates with him because I don't want to do roommate roulette
>don't really make friends first year, only person I hung out with was him, though not much anyways
>we print out both our schedules and post them on the wall just for convenience on the first semester, only I print out mine on the second
>he talks to nobody but me
>at this point I just assumed he was socially retarded because he was so introverted
>he literally stops me whenever I say something or type something wrong in his eyes
>"it's not color, it's colour" "it's not lie-te, it's loi-te (for pronouncing light)"
>he hates anything American and is obsessed with anything British, we live in the USA btw
>I watch any TV shows, anime, YouTube videos, play games, anything, he comes up to me and says, "this is stupid, why are you watching this?" and proceeds to stuff some British show in my face to the point that I only play 2 games while he's around
>I'm ranting now, half of this is probably irrelevant to the question
Cont.
>moving on to first semester sophomore year
>I make friends with people because I decided that I shouldnt be an antisocial little shit
>I still talk to my roommate, but I'm not in the room as much
>he asks for my schedule again, I ask what the point is if we never use it (my schedule second semester disappeared within a few weeks)
>he just wants it, so I eventually give print mine out
>"this isn't what I asked for, it's the wrong format, and it's crumpled, print it out again"
>at this point I'm kinda scared about what he's doing with my schedules
>turns out he laminated my schedules and stored them in a binder that he protects like a baby
>wtf.jpg
>be more cautious, this is nearing the end of the semester so let it go for now
>winter break, he texts me constantly And I eventually tell him to shut up
>spring semester (now), he comes to the room and looks like he has a spiked club up his ass every time he sees me
>has become more introverted and starts to live under his bed
>I once walked in the dorm and he's scrunched up with a bottle of painkillers in front of him
>under his bed is a sheet of paper with a bunch of skulls printed on it
>he also drew a skull, I've got pictures if you want to see
>I once woke up on him muttering loudly in Arabic, he notices but pretends not to have noticed
>starts saying "I want to kill myself, I need to kill myself"
>typical attention whore behavior, suicidal/depressed version, or at least that's what I think, need insight on this
>I knew he has some mental disorder because he gets extra time on tests, seems like asperger's fits his quirks very neatly
My question is, what should I do? I'm considering reporting this to the university medical services so he'll get therapy, but I'm pretty sure it won't work because he hates people and thinks he's better than everyone else. Also, I don't want him to want to murder me in the middle of the night because I revealed his secrets to someone else. Luckily, he's too "proud" to go on /adv/.
>>16850695
And why didn't you switch roommates after the first semester?
That kills the credibility of the whole story.
>>16850709
Because other than his occasional asshole behavior, he didn't do much to make me worried.
Hey /adv/.
I'll be short: How do I make a resume?
What goes on it? Is there a specific format? What's most appealing?
>>16850673
Ask that exact same question to Google and you'll be sent to several how-to sites.
Wat do?
What's with people not using proper capitalization anymore?