How do I ask someone if they want to hang out? More specifically, how do I get over the anxiety that comes from expecting them to say no which then ends up with me never making an effort to ask.
Pick something chill to do. Like movie, or play video games at friends house. Lower expectation. And just have fun
>>16862868
This gets me into trouble more often than not, but I have a great method of getting over anxiety.
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Fuck it.
>>16862868
>how do I get over the anxiety that comes from expecting them to say no which then ends up with me never making an effort to ask.
You don't.
Or rather, you stop waiting to not be anxious. That's a vicious cycle: the only way to get over anxiety about a thing is to do that thing, so as long as you wait to not be anxious first, it will never happen. The only way to get over it is to fight through it. Even then, you usually have to repeat the process several times. But nothing else works.
Hey /adv/, my names fucked.
So one night, drunk, I posted on this anon. app, "I want a girlfriend that looks like a boyfriend." This girl replied saying she wanted to talk because she was a 'tomboy' so we have been on a different app(no phone numbers) for three days now. We are really hitting it off and we seem like a good match.
The problem is when she eventually wants to meet up. I am disabled and only have one arm, moderately bad acne, and I am 15 pounds over weight. The acne and weight I can work with but I feel like the one arm thing is too much. We haven't described to much about ourselves and all I know about her is that shes Euro/Asian.
What I am asking is when should I tell her that I am disabled or should I just stop? I really like talking to her but I am pretty sure her intentions are to meet up. I don't want her to think that I am trying to trick her but I also really like talking to her, what would you do?
Unless anyone has input I will just wait it out. Hopefully she'll be a dude or something and none of it will matter.
You should tell her about the arm. Don't worry about it too much, I think she'll understand. If she doesn't, well, she wasn't worth it at all. People who can't deal with your dissabilities should be out of your life anyway. In fact, if I have to be completely honest, I think the acne problem is more important than the fact that you don't have an arm, and you shouldn't be worried about it either because it's not that hard to get rid of it, neither is to lose weight. Just try it.
As I said: if she accepts you as you are, great. If not, she's not worth it. And think that if you really want to be with someone, that other person HAS to accept the fact that you don't have an arm. It's not a big deal anyway...
>Only have one arm
Mention that
>Moderately bad acne
A little foundation won't hurt, also drink more water and eat less trash.
>15 pounds overweight
Nobody's really gunna notice.
Basically
>I'd love to meet up, but before we do, I need to let you know. I've only got one arm
How can I help my friend? She's fifteen and she shows up to school almost every day on Mollie or some pills or some shit. Every day we tell he to stop but she doesn't listen. Advice?
>>16862850
>15
Im guessing you're also 15. Please vacate immediately.
>>16862850
Let her do her thing. The more you try to control her, the more distance she'll create. She'll wise up, die, or get knocked up soon enough, and there is nothing at all your boring ass can do to stop it.
>>16862850
She's self destructive.
She likes the sympathy and attention you give her, so you're actually fueling her problem by trying to help her.
The only thing you can do to actually help her is to tell her parents or an authority figure and to get her actual help from a therapist and a drug counsellor. You(who I assume is 15-17 years old) have not been trained on how to help someone in he way that she needs help. Please tell an adult and get her professional help
I wanna quit my fast-food job. It's taking a toll on my education.
How long should I hold the job for it to be "work experience"?
>>16862835
>fast-food job
>work experience
What.
Work experience is only beneficial if you leverage it as "customer service" "teamwork" or some other cliché business skill you see as a desireable trait in job ads. I'd personally think 3mo. is enough to prove that you've attained a skill, but résumés are there to get you interviews, not jobs (though they can be the determining factor if the employer is stuck between choosing applicants).
>>16862835
How long have you been working there
>mfw a girl approached me today
>sperg out
how the heck do I learn how to do the whole "talk to girls" thing?? I just want to be a fun person around them.
Motherfuckers answer!
Today changed my outlook on everything and I know what I want!
I'm fucking tired of being beta! Tell me what to do!
I want to be alpha! I want it! I'll do whatever it takes!
>>16862832
Talk to a girl like you would talk to a guy. It's not difficult.
Take da Pussy of the Pedestal. Its just a person. Be yourself, never stop being yourself (unless your a racist asshole or something). Problem solved
I lied about still being employed on the interview and now they're giving me a job offer subject to a background check.
If I tell them not to contact my previous employer can they still find out I'm lying? The new employer does not seem particularly thorough so I'm hoping I'm not fucked. I worked at my last job through November last year but then quit because they replaced my manager with a 23 year old blonde girl who was fucking retarded and abused everyone.
Maybe the guy in bluffing. You won't know unless u see what happens. But what's the worst that would happen
how do i stop cumming so quickly?
try cumming slower next time
Start edging
kegels
So this girl wants me to be her fake boyfriend so creepy guys won't talk to her (it sounds like a romantic comedy, I know).
is this beta?
Only if you don't have fake sex
>>16862786
Fuck thats funny and sad.
It's only beta if you actually want to relationship with her, even then it's not really that beta honestly.
whenever i have to think hard about stuff like maths, i become an autist who is unable to communicate with others, but after i force myself to socialize i become a retard and have trouble reasoning and using logic
These two states of mind are very difficult for me to switch between (can take up to several days)
Anyone else experience this?
How the fuck do i have to deal with this?
I basically need to choose between doing well in college but becoming lonely, or becoming more sociable and failing college.
Meditate, fampai
Your brain doesn't switch modes or significantly curb processes for something else. This is all in your head and will end when you stop believing that bullshit
>>16862784
I don't think it has to do with switching modes of thought necessarily, but more like not having enough ''space'' for both social skills and logical reasoning.
I have had both periods in my life where was the one with the highest grades in class and an isolated autist, and periods where i was very outgoing but had to take special needs classes
Any tips/ideas how to deal with loss of confidence when talking with attractive girls that seem to be liking me back? I mean, I got no problem talking with 9/10s and I do it on daily basis at work(working in a restaurant, alot of waitresses ) but whenever one of them shows smallest sign of interest in me im going dumb. Ive always been rather awkward with girls but since i broke through, started living on my own with decent job it improoved, not enought tho. My housemate keeps chatting, she wants to go out together, to the gym or w/e, some waitress chicks come to goof around from time to time giving me provocative smiles and suggestive jokes yet im not doing anything with it. I have no problems with confidence in any other situations, no problem talking with strangers, do speeches or doing important talks. I got no excuses other than this bit of a chub, which will soon be gone anyway, as im going to gym for a while already. Tried nothing and im all out of ideas. Pic unrelated
Bump for interest
>mfw fell for the self improvement meme
I was a straight A student and two sport varsity athlete in HS. I graduated uni a year early with honors. Now I'm 23 and make 60k year (over the median family income in my area). I've traveled the world and have friends on every continent. I like to do all kinds of things in my spare time with my friends.
And I still do not know literally any girls. Online dating is a bust.
Considering suicide after my parents die desu. Anyone else know this feel?
>And I still don't know literally any girls.
Nothing is possible untill you like the person you see in the mirror.
I can elaborate
I'm 29, a virgin, don't make as much money as you and have never been overseas...and yet I fucking love life and wouldn't give it up for anything.
Re-evaluate yourself, what makes you happiness and what you consider success.
>>16862785
What are your hobbies? How's your social life? Have you ever been depressed or suicidal?
I'm 21 and although my life isn't horrible, it's really not how I wanted it to turn out. Dealing with suicidal thoughts is such a struggle.
What do you do in a marriage or LTR when the love is there but the passion feels gone?
Background: my bf was an immature idiot guy type when we met 5 years later he is sweet and caring but I don't feel like he really loves me how he used to treat me and I don't enjoy having sex anymore. I am trying to get more wet and stuff but the whole sex act just feels so fake I cannot get into it.
bdsm
We have sort of tried that but come on at this point we cant pretend to enjy normal sex let alone something new
He says he loves me all the time and calls me from work and does sweet things but I just don't feel the powerful attraction towards me I got from all the men I slept with in the past.
And it makes me depressed and I feel like a constant failure and I can't get wet.
I didn't know where else to put this.
How the HELL am I supposed to use a Walmart gift card on their website?
I had a $25 walmart gift card my friend gave to me for christmas, and I still haven't used it. I heard Pokemon Red/Blue/Yellow came out on the eShop, so I decided to use my gift card on an eShop gift card. I go to check out and I look everywhere for an option to use a gift card, but it's nowhere! I look it up on Google, and the answer it gives me doesn't exist. Please help, I've been trying shit for like a half an hour.
>>16862754
From what ive been told, you cant use a gift card to buy another gift card. i had a similar issue on amazon.
So whenever me and my friend get in a car he always feels me up and asks if I have been working out. He squeezes me and tells us to cuddle for warmth, tries to sleep on me and wants to spoon all the time when we are sleeping over at the same place (only agreed to this twice so far). He's very persistent and makes a lot of gay jokes. He also likes to talk about our other friends and says how he thinks they might be gay. (i think he is just trying to get my response from this.) but it's literally every time he sees me he just feels my arms and chest and tries to flirt. At the same time he has had a girlfriend but I've still caught him taking a lot of pictures of me. Is he gay/hitting on me, or is this normal in a friendship. Some of my other friends act like this, but not to his level.
>>16862743
he is gay op
>>16862743
He is gay.
>>16862743
hes a little gay. male bonding has been a bit stunted and sometimes its hard to draw a line. sometimes all a guy needs is cuddling. i thought i was gay, but the sex doesnt do much. i become like a lesbian: all affection, no sex. but im not that way with girls.
but now im in this weird place where ive been 'gay' for so long that i dont know how to go back to banging chicks, so i just have a long line of relationships iwth men that i enjoy, but they eventually leave me cuz i wont fuck
dont let your friend become me. just give him a snuggle
so i have insecurities about my dong
i measure it multiple times per month because of these insecurities, every time i measure it i get between 6.75 and 7.25 length (dollar bill test covered everything but ~.6 inches of the head, rulers pressed into bone gives me 7+ inches)
i also always get between 5 and 5.5 inches circumference
based on facts, i should be happy. not ecstatic, but happy with my size
however the biggest thing that bothers me is that it looks small in my hands
i'm a relatively tall guy (6'2) and my palms are ~3.5 inches wide unless i'm measuring them wrong [pic related]
how much smaller are girl hands than meaty guy hands, and would that difference in size be night-and-day enough for my dong to look okay when held in two hands
basically are girl hands small enough that my dick would look decent in their hands
Ridiculously smaller.
You ever wonder why most girls think what they're getting is an inch or two bigger than what it really is?
One, they're getting a much different angle
Two, they have tiny fucking hands
>>16862742
true
i just can't shake the fact that it looks so small on my body even though, even by the lowest measurements i've gotten (i.e. 6.5-ish) it's not something to be worried about
>>16862742
Three, most guys lie their asses off (including on here) and most girls are gullible enough to believe them. I say that with no disrespect meant. Girls can't estimate dick size for shit.