Ok so here goes my rant/question,there's me and two girls ,let's call them girl X and girl Y,I new girl X for a while we were friends and I always knew she was "easy" let's call it,I never really became friends with girl Y but I think it's because I love her,I mean acutull love n shit,I asked girl Y out and she said no (rekt) so I recently decided to go for girl X,as a recovery kinda,things Saturn V level rocketed forward we were doing shit on the first date its takes normal couples weeks to get to (not sex,but pretty close to it) but I still have feeling for girl Y in the back of my head,so my question id,did I Fuck up and what do I do
>>16863619
Do they know each other?
>>16863627
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First of all, you dun fucked up. But you didn't fuck up that bad. You followed your dick, and guess what this will only make your dick happy, temporarily. And then you won't feel happy at all.
From a female's perspective, this was a cowardly thing to do. You will never be truly happy with girl X. So go for girl Y. Make sure they never meet. If things go well with girl Y, you can tell her later on when you two are sharing previous experiences but maybe stay a little hazy on the time frame....
Anyone know a way to meet girls who like anime and don't weigh six thousand pounds? Other than a convention? Something like Blackpeoplemeet.com but for otaku trash.
>>16863571
the internet has made it slightly easier to connect with people. however even it has its limits.
the unfortunate truth is you are looking for an appliance. a toaster. you want someone who fits your wants physically and mentally, and on top of that you want it in a free site that lets you pick and choose from a line up.
try your luck at geek2geek, but you'll get better results using the internet to find geek themed meet ups and just talking to women there. dont go right for the date, women dont like that. actually take the time to look around and see what kind of women there here.
meetup.com helps for finding geek themed groups. even in israel i managed to find ageek meetup with over 60 peeps.
craigslist interest section will ahve a lot. local hobby shops and clubs and such too.
Ok, so I met this girl two months ago. She's 17, I'm 19. We went out on a date a little over a week later. We became official almost a month after we began talking. I lost my virginity to this girl and she's my first GF.
Anyways, she caught the feels for me hard. At first, I just wanted a casual relationship with her. I didn't expect to catch the feels for her because of her past and because I thought she wasn't GF material. As I started to get to know her more and more ( we talk on FaceTime 3-6 hours a day, meet 2-4 times a week ). She even got into a relationship with me knowing I was leaving for the Navy this year and still wants to commit to me.
She always tells me how great I am, how I'm the nicest guy she's ever met, how much I care for her etc etc. This weekend, she wrote me a massive text opening up her feelings to me. She opened up a little bit just a week after our first date and that kind of scared me a little because I didn't want anything serious with her but I started falling for her two weeks ago after she cried on my shoulder in the shower because one of her friends told her we wouldn't last, she can't an overseas relationship etc etc.
I really like this chick and I feel like I'm starting to fall in love with this chick. I just need some input and someone to talk to this. I want this relationship to work. She wants it to work as well. A LOT more than me from what I can tell. She even admitted she has stronger feels for me than I do for her.
My friends are all idiots who tell me shit like to cheat on her, use her etc etc so I can't really talk to them.
Woah woah how are showering together? Where are your parents? Sorry that was bugging me... Anyway, you just need to ask yourself if you can see her in your future. If you can, just let the feels flow.
>>16863566
>I NEED SERIOUS SOUL ADVICE
>lol should i keep dating her?
pick one and only one. that being said, date her til you leave? its not like you are going to find someone else who is waifu material, so much so that you'd literally wife her before leaving right? and keeping just a gf while in the navy is hard (its the reason military peeps tend to marry young. only way you get to see em is if ur married)
if you wanna be honest go for it. just tell her you do love her, and its been great, and you want to enjoy every minute until you go, but you're going off navy style, shes going off to college, and shes still extremely young. her first love wont be her last. but you promise to make it as enjoyable as possible.
then you go bang overseas sluts.
I just find it really weird that she's so into you. She seems like she's just trying to pull some fake damsel in distress bullshit when she is crying on your shoulder over such a little thing.
Long distance is tough. I don't know why someone would want to start a long distance relationship after having been in a relationship for such a short period of time.
How much relationship experience does this girl have?
How do you find out what you actually want to do with your life?
I'm currently studying a STEM field but I started to hate it and realized that I have no passion for it, after pursuing that field of education for the last 5 years.
Long story short, I didn't study anything for the entire year which will probably lead to me failing every upcoming test and getting expelled as a result.
How do you find something that you are truly passionate about?
Experiment with things,go out and do stuff you normally wouldn't,try to figure out what you really want I'm life,by forgeging about things such as money and family and pressure from others
"Passion" is a lie. Unless you're an animal freak or some other weird shit, your job will not be your passion.
You get the best job you can, for the highest pay, most comfort, and relatively good/not boring conditions, then you spend the rest of your time on your hobbies, skills, ect. That's where your passions are. Maybe you'll eventually be good enough to make money off it, but until then, focus on what I said.
Get off your ass and start studying so you don't waste the money you already spent. It's not that hard. If you don't work hard here you won't work hard anywhere else including in your "passion".
What are you interested in learning more about?
Is talking to girls over text/Facebook messenger usually a bad idea? I feel like I sound very autistic over Messenger and any attempt on my part to start conversation just appears desperate. Therefore, I try to avoid doing this. At the same time though I have a hard time seeing girls or whatever in person.
What are your thoughts?
No it's great practice.
I used to suck at messaging too. I used to double text, ask for a response, get too clingy, all the no-nos.
When I see a girl I like on Tinder or okcupid, I message her "How does this work? We're dating now, right..."
It works almost every time.
anyone here order a ton of food and throw like 3/4 out?
I know i'm a horrible person and I want to find the problem and stop doing this.
Thank you
Don't take so much food
I'm 18 and sleeping with this dude who is super nice, but I can't tell how far he wants to take this emotionally. We're not going to be living in the same country in a couple of months, as I'm going to study across the country and he's staying in our hometown (Buttfuck, Nowhere, USA). He's asked if I want to "go out" with him, even after we fucked so I'm not sure if he's looking for a gf or what, plus I'm not sure I can have a long distance thing with him because I'm a super big slut, obviously. Please advice, thanks.
You're 18, and this is barely fling level even if he wanted to "be with you"
Don't be stupid, don't get into a long distance relationship. Not worth it at all.
>>16863532
lmao but daddy i love him
Crush is in a theathre play tonight and she invited me to come and see her. The problem is that I've never been to a play before, first of all and second of all, her friends are going to be there and it will feel awkward for me to enter this group since I don't know anybody except her. I don't even know whether she rejected me or not, I'm not her bf and I really cant find any reason to be there. Shit, I don't know what to do and it is really annoying.
I'm thinking of not going, find some excuse...
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Just go. Your reason for going is to get some brownie points with her, and perhaps befriend her friends so future interactions aren't awkward.
At plays you won't be talking with anyone that much so if it is awkward it won't be that bad.
>>16863519
>I've never been to play before.
that sucks, you need experience seeing plays before you go see a play. otherwise you might embarass yourself. you wont know when you're supposed to go on stage and say your monologue.
oh WAIT. YOU'RE JUST SEEING THE PLAY. that means you can just sit and watch it. you know. like a fucking play.
thats literally all it takes. show up. watch. clap. leave. how hard is this?
>her group of friends will be there
you dont need to sit with them. even if you do, its a play, dont talk during it, so no thing to worry about
>whether she rejected me or not?
what? how do you not know if she rejected you? how? she either said yes or no yeah?
anyways, simply say 'sure, maybe i can take you on a date afterwards ;)' and see what she says.
This is the stupidest problem I've seen here in a while.
Help me out here my dudes,
New girl just moved into my sharehouse a week ago. I've always had a 'Don't get involved with housemates' rule because I've heard horror stories about it going very wrong. This hasn't been a problem in the past but I'm falling for this girl real fucking quick, and I'm thinking of breaking the rule. We've spent a few hours together each day since she moved in and we just click like nothing else, I've had girlfriends before, but they were never serious and I've never felt like this before, I'm literally feeling sick to my stomach typing this god damn.
Problem is how do I make some sort of advance? We're super comfortable around each other and she hasn't hesitated at all talking about pretty intimate shit despite only knowing her for a week, she'll come and knock on my room to see if I wanna go out and do something, convinced me to go to this gig with her next week etc. I honestly can't tell if she's just being super friendly because she just moved to a new state and she's trying to make friends, or if she feels the same way I do.
So I want to make some sort of approach, but I just really do NOT want to make it awkward between us if she doesn't feel the same way, since we're going to be living in the same house for at least another 6 months. I'd rather just get her out of my head and move on than make it extremely awkward if I don't know for sure that she's interested.
FUCK help me out here /adv/ idk what to do
>>16863488
posting all-time celeb crush to bump
There's a cute girl I see working every once in a while when I study at a coffee shop. A week ago when I went up to her to order something she started a convo with me about how she's seen me around before and how she'd be doing her last shift next week.
I meant to talk to her more, get her name and number but I was cut off by a friend in the shop as well as a growing line, so I let her slip away. I ended up talking to another girl later that night in the shop, and she had mentioned that she knew her, so I got her number, feigning interest so that I could use her to get the cute girls number as a last resort.
Anyway, her last shift came up Saturday. I eventually went up to her and got to talking again, she went real slow with the order and seemed to be pretty interested so I went ahead and asked her if she wanted to hang sometime. She said yes, and I ended up giving her a paper with my name and number written on it.
I went back to my table to study but soon left because they were setting up for open Mic, didn't see her on the way out.
It's been a couple days, no call or text yet. Forget about it or text her friend about it? And if I do talk to the friend, what should I say?
I'm 24, they're about 18-19.
I gotta say I'm confident about my looks, but the friend won Miss "city" 2010 or something and she's not really that cute, I think it's her extracurriculars.
Tl;Dr gave a barista my number, no call or text yet.
I meant to say two weeks ago at the beginning
eh, ill bump this once, posted it in the ask the other gender thread but no replies.
>>16863459
Bump
There's a girl I like, and I think I have the confidence to ask her out, but I'm 18 and never been on a date. I have no idea what I'm doing.
What percentage of the date are you comfortable talking with her? That's a good place to start.
>>16863468
Idk, I can handle a fair bit of conversation, but if it was 80%+ talking, idk how I'd do.
Is a movie and dinner a viable thing? I've heard that watching the movie first gives you a fallback for conversion, but I don't know of anyone that's done that for a first date.
>>16863457
Movies are a safe bet. Ask her if she's like to go to a movie on a certain day. If she says yes, then casually mention two or three films and ask her opinion. Gives her a chance to choose something she might enjoy. (You're lucky because there aren't many tearjerker relationship movies at the box office right now, so you might actually enjoy the film.)
We've had Academy award nominee films. Has she seen them ? I don't think Revenant or Spotlight might make the best films for a first date but, damn, what were the others ?
One of the great things about going to some kind of show, is that you can discuss it. Especially if the film has some cultural/discussion value. So that leaves out slasher movies.
Do you two share classes or activities or interests ? Always good for conversation over goodies at the snack bar or burger place after movie.
Just don't bring up the subject of 4Chan :-)
How do you enjoy anything in life? Everything seems dull to me, I started to lie in bed the whole day long for a few weeks and nothing is fun anymore, just bothersome.
Do you have any hobbies?
Sounds like what you need are some goals to work toward. I suggest finding something to do other than sleeping all day. I promise you will feel more fulfilled if you do.
>>16863461
I had hobbies, productive and consumebased ones, but they aren't enjoyable anymore.
>>16863462
What would be some good goals? I mean, it is so hard for me to just get out of bed, so I can't really think of anything.
At what point do you give up trying?
And yes, this is a very general question.
>>16863453
W.C. Fields:
If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.
Then give up. No sense in being a damned fool about it
I think many people would say, "give up when there's no chance of success" but I say, "Don't give up until there's nothing to be learned from failure."
Alright /adv/, long story short, I'm a college kid going through some stuff. I went my first semester and passed my classes, second semester I went for a few weeks but towards the end just stopped going because I just couldn't get motivated to go. I decided I should probably take a semester off and just work, and try to figure out what to do with my life. I tried to tell my parents that but they got pretty upset and basically made me register for the current semester. I intended to try to go but I never went, and now I have to withdraw from those classes because I have too many abscences, and because of this, I might get suspended from going to the school next semester. I feel bad because I know they want me to be successful and not waste their money, but I just can't be motivated to go when I don't really want to and I wish they could just try to understand where I am coming from. Anyway, they've been asking to see my grades for awhile and are getting pretty pissed so I'm gonna have to show them tomorrow. Here is my question; I know they are gonna be pissed either way, but what should I even say to them? I don't know how I should approach this or even possibly defend myself.
>>16863436
>i intended to try to go
thats a whole lot of 'meh' behind that statement. and thats not a thing. 'try' implies an obstacle.
you can TRY to lift that weight, but it might be too heavy. you didnt TRY to go to class, cuz that literally just takes getting up and going.
you decided not to go. there was no try.
better find a friend you can stay with while you hunt for a job. there is nothing you can say but
>im lazy and do not care
cuz thats what it boils down to. you did school for the first 18 fucking years of your life. college is NOT that much harder, especially for a first year. you chose not to do good by simply not going
I'm 18 and I live with parents.
I'm more mature than many others my age and want a committed relationship/partnership deeply.
I have school and a job, I live here to save money unapologetically. Until I have the $20k or more a year job to get my own place, it doesn't seem that women appreciate me doing this as it leads to the accusation of me being not independent.
I could spend $8000 a year I don't have on dorm rooms where I would be labeled an autist for making noise complaints on drinking parties. Or I could live in a ghetto area with shitty roommates and eat shit food.
Those are the options as I see them. Living at home is what I want to do at the moment.
Does this make it next to impossible to get an girlfriend?
Subpoint: how do I play it off if called out on it?
>>16863424
>im 18 and live at home
>impossible to get a girlfriend?
>impossible
>im mature
>want a committed partnership
do you realize how many college students between 18-25 years of age live at home for that reason. Unless you're going for older bitches nobody will care. You're young. I hardly know anyone who moved out right at 18 unless they went to a dorm or whatever for school
No, if you date people your own age, they probably won't expect you to have your own place. Know that if you want a "committed relationship/partnership" you'll probably want to have sex sometime and that will require a place. What i used to do was use a cool friend's house whose parents didn't live there, but if that's not possible, try and clear your parents out the house once in a while. Since you're legally an adult, you might be able to get them to give you some alone time with your partner after introducing them. Anyway, that's just how i managed my relationship when I was 18, before we both went to college and everything went to shit. Things change a lot at this age, so unless you're willing to get your heart ripped out, don't get too close to anyone who you don't know gonna stick around. Stay safe, kiddo.
- some bitter old woman who saw you on the gfd thread ;)