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I finally came out to my girlfriend of 5+years as polyamorus. She sensed that was the case and gave me the OK to test the waters as it were. Problem is, I have no experience outside of monogamous dating, I'm back in junior college because my place of employment closed down, and my car recently broke down so I'm a busfag for the foreseeable future (USfag.)
I'm broke, carless, ambition less, and starting my late 20's. How do I get into poly dating so I can stop feeling dead inside and hopefully find the motivation to focus more on getting my worthless degree?
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>>16902212
You aren't polyamorus, you're just an idiot
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Yeah, you're not polyamorous, you're bored. You don't wanna break up with your girlfriend, but you wanna fuck other women.
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>>16902239
Fair assessment, I wish I could definitively tell you if that were true or not.
Anything of worth I've done with my life was primarily motivated by meeting women. (I have issues.) When my gf gave me the green light it was like opening up a gilded cage to find an empty wasteland.
The affirmation that comes from intimate conversation an validation that another human could be interested in me are the only things keeping me going. I can't distract myself with booze fames and 4chan forever. What do Anon?
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What is charisma?
Is it possible to learn charisma or you must be born with it?
How does one become a charismatic person?
I'm asking because i know this man who is incredibly charismatic and i'm gonna be sincere, i envy him. He's average looking, he doesn't have a great voice, he's not rich, he's not fit and he's even short, but still when he talks everyone in the room listens to him, people like to have conversations with him and women particularly enjoy being around him, even women far above his league seem to be easily captivated by him.
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Go to prison. A year in there will break your shell.
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>>16901915
whoa.
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Bump
Am also interested in an answer
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Best friend broke up with girlfriend because of me 2016-03-11 04:24:23 Post No.16901872
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Best friend broke up with girlfriend because of me
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My best friend and I have been really close friends since we were kids. He's a guy and I'm a girl. He recently got a girlfriend and she hated my guts pretty much immediately. Every time I was around she had an attitude and giving me mean looks. We had a private talk and she wanted me to go away and I'm taking attention away from her and she feels uncomfortable with me being so close to him. She said it's unfair that he still divides a lot of his time to me when she should be getting all his attention.
I didn't want any trouble honestly so I kind of respected her wishes and kept my distance from him. I didn't want to interfere in their relationship or rock the boat. I still talked to him online and we played games and stuff but I didn't see him much in person. My best friend noticed because we see each other all the time so it's really weird when we just don't. At first I just kind of passed it off as being busy but eventually he got concerned. He asked me if he did something and of course I said no and he said I should tell him whats up then since we're best friends. I thought about it and I decided to tell him his girlfriend wanted me to keep my distance because she was uncomfortable with me.
He was very mad and he talked to her. They had an argument about it and he eventually dumped her. She was absolutely livid with me. She called me a slut and a bitch and she said I ruined her relationship.
I feel pretty bad. Did I do the wrong thing?
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Nope. Your hands are clean. Let her words float by like so much hot air.
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You didn't do anything wrong, you saved him some trouble by being honest.
Don't let mind games with other people complicate your friendships, just be straight up if you go way back.
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>>16901872
No. If she literally can't understand that you have zero romantic intention towards him that's on her. And I'm sure your friend feels the same way.
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When did you realize it was time to end a friendship?
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>>16901775
when they stole from me and lied in my face about it.
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>>16901775
When someone thinks Asuka isn't better than Rei
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>>16901775
When i got into a fist fight with one of his other friends and he snitched on me by the police ...
3 people were against me in court but i managed to get off with norhing ad their stories didnt match.
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Switching Majors in College 2016-03-11 03:46:17 Post No.16901759
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Switching Majors in College
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Hey /adv/ mathmajor fag here.
This is my second semester in mathematics, at an engineering school, and I'm honestly pretty disappointed with what I do. I don't really see myself working where I want 5 years from now, and I don't really see myself at all 10 years from now. I came into college loving mathematics, but started to question the point in a lot of it, pretty much lost the "beauty" that I felt for it.
Thought about switching to CS, but also can't see myself just being a software engineer for the rest of my life. Cybersecurity seems pretty nice, but I have a feeling I'll get stuck doing some monotonous shit, and dealing with tons of retards.
I've been thinking about switching into Geology and Geophysics, but I'm concerned about finding a job. I've read that most are in Texas, which is fine because I was planning on moving to Arizona or Texas when I finish school. Geology, field geology in particular, seems like it will be my gig, because I've been wanting to do something exciting. Also getting paid to innawoods would be pretty tits.
Any other Geo bros willing to give some advice? How was finding a job?
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>>16901759
>have a feeling I'll get stuck doing some monotonous shit
Welcome to the 21st Century
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I'm a math major about to finish my degree in a good school. I came in loving math. Now I'm ehh. Pure math is great, but applied math is boring af, but pure doesn't pay. You can switch in geophysics easy enough from math, if you wanted to stay in math, esp if you take all the main physics classes (I met a PhD guy who did that at a networking event).
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>>16902115
Just want to know what the job sector is right now, mostly for field geology.
I looked at Linkedin and indeed, but just wanted some input from guys who're in the field right now.
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So, my friend (like a brother to me) and I recently started a sort of FWB situation. We are both guys. No anal sex (although he has hinted that he would like to try it) but we have done oral. I feel kind of guilty, as he has a girlfriend. I'm just wondering how I can end the sexual stuff, while remaining friends.
TL;DR: Gay FWB situation, want to be friends.
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>>16901738
tell him you don't feel comfortable doing it anymore because it isn't fair to his gf
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1) why did you start it anyway?
2) tell him you are uncomfortable being the other man
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>>16901776
We started because I was drunk, and he's always been a little curious. It was brought up before, but I was uncomfortable. Then, when I was drunk, he went down on me. Later, after it was brought up again, I decided I'd like to return the favor. Since then we've done it a few times. Earlier he asked if I wanted to, and I lied about being in bed already to avoid it.
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Developing a stutter ? 2016-03-11 01:12:48 Post No.16901288
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Recently I've begun to develop a stutter. As time progresses it gets worse and worse. I've always had a hard time socializing with my friends , or really or knowing what to say but now I stutter when I talk to them. On top of that , once I heard them talking and they are worried I might attempt to kill myself and are depressed. I wasn't but that in itself makes me feel shitty. As for the always being awful a socialaizing with people , I don't know what to say at all to continue a conversation. Throughout life I've had problems figuring out what is appropriate to do in social situations.
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See a speech therapist, perhaps?
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Because we've spent too much time alone in our lives and not enough socializing. Not comfortable enough with it.
I've developed a stutter because I got so used to needing to say things twice to get anyone to listen, and also my mind gets clouded and I repeat fragments trying to remember where I was going with my sentence
Just own it. People will obviously be aware that you stutter, but no asshole is gonna make fun of you for that alone.
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>>16901297
I had to do that all the time. No one would ever listen to me and Id have to say something twice to get anyone's attention. Ive also developed stupid /weird habits now.
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So my girlfriend suddenly, out of blue told me following:
"I don't think you can ever be happy with person like me.." I asked what she was talking about and she changed conversation and said she was going to sleep, I blew up and sent her bunch of angry texts and she replied "Thanks for showing me your true face"
Did she just break up with me?
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She did something she feels bad about
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>>16900905
She was being needy (or else she wouldn't have said it to you; she would have kept the thought to herself) and she clearly has low self esteem.
She was hoping for you to blow up at her to prove to herself she was right about being worthless or w/e. She basically did just break up with you, yeah, except she's going to act like you're the one who's terrible (the "true face" remark).
It's entirely possible she wants you to crawl back to her and make her feel better and this was all a stunt for attention, and she just didn't realize it consciously.
She's nuts. Moving on would be best.
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Let me ratify the situation.
She comes from small village, she used to be virgin before I met her.
Long story short. She is lower class village girl, though I consider her to be a wife material and I'm planning on marrying her.
She told me this after talking to her parents on phone, whom I suspect are stupid hicks, who doesn't exactly appreciate me..
I told her that even if I did 1/100 of things I do for her all the girls would swirl around my cock and she should just fuck off if she's not interested in me anymore
My fiance family are not coming to our wedding because they do not like to travel.
I have a serve anxiety disorder so I can not handle being in a building with that many people looking at me. So we are getting married on the beach. My fiance and I have everything planned and my fiance really angry that they are not coming.
My fiance family is now asking for us to buy extra photos to give them and also to send them invitations even though they said they are not going.
How do I deal with this bullshitery? We just wanted our wedding day to be comfy and relaxing. Why do they want invitations if they are not coming?? I am going to have to pay 100 dollars just to send them invitations.
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>>16899871
>Why do they want invitations if they are not coming?? I am going to have to pay 100 dollars just to send them invitations.
You're paying for peace. And they'll prolly stuff the invitation into a shoebox and keep it as a memento. How smart is antagonizing your inlaws?
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>>16899871
don't send the invitations, just the photos. if they insist say you can't afford it on top of other wedding expenses and that they'll have to send you money to cover those costs if they want to lie to people say say they came
odds are they don't want to pay to travel, it's not that they don't want to.
your wedding is about you two, not them.
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>>16899871
Listening to retards and autists like >>16899985 will result in your inlaws resenting you. Sometimes life shits on you. Bite the bullet and chose the least damaging path.
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To keep it short, I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend for a few months now. The first times sex was great and there was no problem in it whatsoever.
But lately I can't seem to get it up, I feel like it's a 'head-thing'. You know, anxiety, stress, pressure. Need urgent help, it's really affecting my relationship..
Somebody got any idea how I can perform well again or just get these thoughts out of my head?
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>>16899469
Stop masturbating and watch porn. No matter what the actual issue is this will fix 99% of them.
Add in cardio for that last 1%
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>>16899469
Blue bombers.
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>>16899476
Trying that, last time I did is some days back, having the next go on the weekend.
>>16899478
I'd rather not.
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So I just found out that plants are self aware. Should I turn my cheek to keep my sanity of thinking about it? I mean, FUCK.
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>>16898937
The fuck is this shit?
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>>16898937
Stop reading shitty popsci articles and you'll be just fine.
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>>16898937
I guess you could fuck. Some mood lighting, a glass or two of cold water, some dirty talk and you'll be rooting before you know it unless some grub eats her out first.
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For, anons that have spent 5+ years alone, how did you do it? Advice?
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>>16898791
I usually just breathe
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>>16898791
i became stronger then i thought was possible, but i also became colder and more calculating.
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Out of necessity i guess.
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Just sent a girl a text asking to hang out. Shes probably a work, but its been 15 minutes with no response and I'm nervous as fuck.
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>15 minutes
Wait 24 hours, then come back.
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Start drinking
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>>16898750
NEWS FLASH: Some people have lives.
Believe it or not, even today, not everyone spends every waking moment glued to their phones.
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Alright /adv/ got a situation
>Be me
>date girl
>things are going good for first 3 months
>lots of sex, almost every time we see each other at least 2 times if not more each time we see each other.
>all of the sudden out of the blue she tells me she doesn't want to have sex and that she doesn't feel horny
>said she wants to wait 2-3 weeks
I have a high sex drive, and she has to have one as well, there's no reason she would say something like this out of the blue.
What do /adv/? Break up with her because she's getting ready to snip my balls in her purse, or stay with her and pray it's merely coincedence she isn't feeling horny out of nowhere.
She told me at the start of our relationship she wasn't shy about sex at all, now she's telling me she isn't one of those girls.
I feel like I'm getting trapped /adv/ help.
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And It can't be sexual performance related, I've made her cum multiple times, she said she loves my dick, I'm the best she's had, she let me eat her ass, spit in her mouth, do all sorts of crazy shit. So it has nothing to do with performance.
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>>16897915
Why don't you ask her, dude?
We don't know her. Maybe she caught the clap from a side piece. Maybe she's abstaining for fuckin' lent.
Maybe she's trying to figure out if your relationship is worth more than sex.
If the only reason you are with her is sex, get out now. If you care about her, talk to her about this.
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I would just tell her to be straight up with you, man. She kinda owes you some form of explanation.
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Help understanding 4chan 2016-03-10 05:02:58 Post No.16897910
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Im new to 4chan and would like to learn to use this site better
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>>16897910
>Click the big red X in the top corner
>Never come back
>Profit
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>>16897936
idk how to delete the post Q.Q
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>>16897910
Go back to 9fag, this place is not for you.
Also, sage.