I really need advice. It will be easier if I greentext.
>be 23
>have severe social anxiety
>lost all my highschool friends 3 years ago after I broke up with gf who I suspected was cheating on me and later admitted to it
>had to start all over
>managed to make 4 new friends in 3 years yay!
>decide to move to a new town for study and a new start
>left my 4 friends but we still talk every day
>last week
>inherit 220k
>tell my friends, they were happy for me but didn't make a big fus
>one of them told their gf and she posted it on fb saying I'm a catch without me knowing (I don't use fb)
>she knows I'm an autist and was just trying to help
>the next day
>start getting 10-30 texts/calls a day, some from old friends asking how I've been but the calls are mostly from private numbers or ones I don't know
>don't answer and ignore all texts
>tell friends about this, they mention her putting it on fb
>today
>ex called twice
>on the third call I answered because I'm weak
>she was really nice, a total change from our breakup and wants to meet up since I'll be back in town this weekend to celebrate
>agree
As soon as I hung up I realised how stupid I am. After 3 years of not talking she can still just put it over me. Is there any chance she actually cares for me?
I find this whole ordeal revolting in all honesty, I want to see my old friends and talk to them even though they chose her not me and although I'm socially screwed I really cared for my old friends and still do I often think about them when I'm in bed trying to fall asleep.
Could it be that everyone just forgot about me and when they saw my friends gfs post it just reminded them I exist and they aren't thinking of the money?
What would you do? Call her back and say fuck off?
Say you cant make it, then ignore her forever. You never really tell anybody if you get into a large sum of money. I learned that the hard way and a majority of my family hates me but it revealed how much they actually care about me. But anyways as for your old friends, they're old and theres no point in try to relive the past high school friends never last anyways.
>Call her back and say fuck off?
Do it right fucking now.
You sound like a nice guy but your friends are just out for the cash, unfortunately money is part of social status. You're now one of the cool kids anon.
>Be socially inept guy
>Room with an old friend for a while
>The whole while we've lived together, her BF has been kind of an abusive jerk to her sometimes. Not quite domestic violence levels, but he frequently yells at her, berates her over stupid little shit, and insults her in front of pretty much everyone with no fucks given
>She's clearly bothered by a lot of it but she puts on a smile and bears it
>It's been going on for some years now, and she lets it slip to me that she gets really annoyed by it and sometimes wonders if they'd be better off as just friends
>Think nothing of it for a while and tries to give helpful advice
>The whole while I qq about being one of those guys who is told that they give good relationship advice but is still single
>A few days ago, we're venting to each other and she says cryptic shit about how she wants to 'follow her instincts, but she doesn't want to be a selfish and horrible person for doing so'
>Her BF the past few days has been getting worse about the yelling thing
>My mind immediately assumes the worse and creates this thought that she's dropping hints that she wants to leave him for someone else
>My body starts following suit, and now every time I see her or something that reminds me of her, my chest gets tight and my breaths shorten for a bit
>This stops happening if I'm doing something that keeps me from thinking about her and her situation
I'm starting to think that my subconscious is trying to tell me that I have a chance of picking this girl up, and while I would love to since I pretty much owe my life to her, at the same time I believe it'd be impossible for me to get with her even if she did happen to leave her current BF. How do I get over (what I can assume to be) this situation that I assume is me catching feelings for her? It's kind of hard to keep myself distracted long enough to not think about anything pertaining to her, and I'd rather not try to catch a date with the trashy girls in my area?
Sounds like you just have a crush on her. Try to forget it. She's already taken.
Any longboard riders in here
I'm a complete beginner and I'm having a tough time choosing which one I want.
It's between this
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00F9UIFLC/ref=mp_s_a_1_16?qid=1457500360&sr=1-16&refinements=p_36%3A1253557011&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65
Or this
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00FHWZY1Q/ref=mp_s_a_1_20?qid=1457500360&sr=1-20&refinements=p_36%3A1253557011&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65
let me guess you push mongo and cant ollie sounds like the classic longboarder
>Just remembered I had a late 4 page essay due tomorrow at 11:00 with citations
>Haven't even started yet, can barely stay awake now
How fucked am I on a scale of 1 to 10?
>>16893959
Get the fuck off 4chan and write your fucking paper
4, because it's only a 4 page paper
>>16893959
Better post about it on 4chan instead of actually doing it like an underaged faggot cunt.
>gorgeous 9/10 girl messages me on tinder
>we start talking
>she's intelligent, kind, kinky
>instantly hit it off right away
>talk throughout the day every day for 6 days
>she sends me nudes on snapchat
>asks me to send some naughty pictures for her "me time"
>i send them, she says she's excited and is gonna wait until she's alone to open then
>opens them the next day
>within 30 seconds i'm unmatched on tinder and blocked on snapchat without a word
feels awful... makes me want to give up on life since a matter out of my control is making it hell
here's a pic, is it really tiny / gross? i dunno. i know i won't be doing porn anytime soon but i didn't think i'd be instantly rejected like that...
http://imgur. com/BYaItVw
>>16893956
>http://imgur. com/BYaItVw
its not bad at all. i wouldnt say its in the top percentage of ratatas, but its not a big deal. how long is it? looks at the very least to be average. who knows what she was doing. the bigger issue is you are chubby. if she was really a 9/10 she might have been a pic collector.
Its an alright cock. Chances are she just wanted a quick thing or just didnt want to keep going with it. Bright side is you got nudes
>>16893963
>>16893970
yeah, I don't know, she was super fit. she knew I was chubby, she even said "don't worry, everyone can improve their bodies". I go to the gym 3x a week and eat a very low amount of calories so I should be losing weight.
I'm just afraid now the next time I go to have sex I'm gonna be laughed at and humiliated. I've slept with one girl who never complained or said anything about it but I've always been super self conscious. it's like 5.75inches hard but a little on the thin side.
what's a pic collector?
Hey /adv/, I'm looking to finally move out of my parents' house, but I have no idea how renting an apartment works. I mean, you obviously pay your landlord rent and whatnot, but how does one pay/hook up utilities like water, hydro, electricity, heat etc.? What if I wanted Internet? Would you have to clear that with your landlord if installation and shit is involved?
Just find a place that advertises that all those utilities are available already. (They typically are, but it simplifies things if it explicitly states it in the ad listing which ones the landlord pays for and which ones the tenant pays.)
Sometimes utilities are included, sometimes not. Sometimes rental properties might come with furnishings or whiteware, and sometimes they won't. It really depends on the place, it'll either say, or you can just ask when you go to see a place. Generally speaking, if it's a higher price than similar properties in the area, it'll probably come with something extra.
>>16894044
though don't assume that, a lot of prices are just arbitrarily higher in my experience
I'm 20, he's 35. He's from Europe, but is here in America on business. We met because I work part time at a hotel. We have been talking and having sex for a few weeks.
I found out that he's technically married but hasn't been with her in a year. She followed him to America and is obsessed with him. She also keeps calling him and somehow she found out about me.
He says they're separated, so it's not a problem. He also gets mad when I refer to her as his wife and not ex.
We had unprotected sex a few times. So that just makes this whole thing even worse. He has two kids.
pic unrelated
So... what's your question
OP that's wrong and you know it.
How do you get over a break up over a girl you really loved
Drink, eat, cry, theres never been a sure fire way of getting over a breakup quick or effectively unless you were just doing it for the poon. Just gotta wait a month or two until you feel better.
>im 21m
>betafag
>furfag
>ponyfag
> I thought my friend was interested me
>she 19
> she was giving me the female signals saying that she liked me
> I asked my other female friends if I was reading the signals right
> 3 are straight
> 2 lesbian
> they told me to go for it
>asked her out
> she said she was not ready for a relationship
> I was fine
> One of the main reasons I asked her out is because I wanted to try actually dating a real woman
> A month later
> she still on my mind a little
> I had a dream last night that we made love
> my feelings for her are flip-flopping I don't know how to feel about her
> I don't know if I should give her time and then see what happens
> or stick with ponies and furry females.
> what do you think I should do /adv/
Clean your teeth with bleach, just pour it all in there until your teeth start to sizzle
>>16893905
You either read the signals wrong, or she's not interested in you.
Credit to you for trying. You can't be that beta if you had the confidence to talk with her.
But put her out of your mind now. She knows you're interested, so if she changes her mind, she will come to you. If you ask her again, she'll just start to get creeped out.
get tinder and be honest with your profile. Keep putting it out there.
A place were you can sit in a tub a just relax. Hearing the water pour on you or the tub while listening to the mist fog....like a jungle. Except your being attacked by a tiger. Whats better is that the i can pet the tiger :)
Anyhow. Any place that i can go? Im surrounded by endorphins
1520 Summit Ave, Seattle, WA 98122
>coworker sets me up with one of her friends
>start talking, great chemistry and have sex 2 weeks after meeting her
>mfw it's been 2 weeks since that time
>last 3 or 4 times we were supposed to me she either flakes out or doesn't text me back
>I know she works 2 jobs and goes to school so our schedule doesn't really mesh well
>try to tell her that if she doesn't want to see each other anymore then it's fine etc
>get a 3 page response saying that she's just been really busy and we can hang out whenever she gets off of work/school
>was supposed to hang out yesterday
>no response
>was supposed to hang out tonight
>no response
Am I missing something here? She always texts me first thing in the morning and seems genuinely interested in me when we do text or talk on the phone. But whenever it's time to actually go do something she leaves me hanging 100% of the time.
>>16893887
just "friendzone" her mentally, don't expect to hang out anymore
respond to her texts until you get fed up with it
if she starts asking why aren't you responding, just say you're busy or w/e and let it die off, simple as that
>>16893896
If she wasn't so adamant about keeping in touch with me I'd suspect that's what's she's doing to me lmao
But ya I can try that approach and see where it goes from there.
>>16893921
but we really can't say for sure she isn't interested in hanging out with you if she's really as busy as she sounds; maybe she's stringing you along, maybe she likes you, can't tell for sure for now, but you'll find out sooner or later
My father seems very dissapointed in the fact I don't have any friends.
It eats at me when he brings it up. How do I get him to drop it?
>>16893881
move out.
So I recently moved off to college and am making a handful of really meaningful friendships that I value tremendously. Really, I'm having friends for the first time in my life, and I love it. I have never been happier.
But now I'm realizing that... well... what happens after college? When we all move separate ways, get married, move away, never see each other again? What's the point? Why make friends if eventually they're just going to... be gone?
I'm struggling with this idea. Like I mentioned, I've never had any close friends until now, and that's it's own set of insecurities. For instance, I feel like I want these relationships to get too intimate, too fast (not sexually, obviously, but literally intimate - close). I feel like I need to cling to them in fear of losing them. That's neither here nor there though. Another post, another time.
My real concern is this feeling eating away at me that is like "this is so fleeting and not permanent." That depresses me.
Anyone else feel like that?
>>16893877
something isn't beautiful because it lasts.
>why make friends if eventually they're just going to.. be gone?
you are alive now, correct? you can enjoy moments that are happening now? you can enjoy that cake that wont be there in 15 minutes. you can enjoy that show that is being cancelled this year. you can watch a movie that doesn't get a sequel.
you have friends in your life because they are where you are. after this a lot of them are going to go their own way. some might stay close. some might stay closer. some might never even talk to you on facebook after the fact. its life.
but why do they have to be there when you are sixty? why? wont you have new friends then? whats wrong with having new friends then?
nothing lasts forever. you shouldn't have to submit yourself to a friendless life just because they dont either.
>>16893877
I went to five highschools because I was a military kid. should i just not have bothered having friends because they wouldnt be there when i moved away? we enjoy the people in our lives because they happen to be there and we happen to enjoy them. it doesn't matter if they are going to be gone tomorrow if they can make you smile today.
>>16893913
>>16893918
These are excellent points, but it still kind of hurts, I guess. I've been told I love fiercely and completely, and it feels like if I invest my heart into the hearts of others, and life takes them away, the pain is too great. That's why I'm not concerned with, like, dating relationships. When I find the right one, I can fucking marry her and we'll always be together. Male friendships and platonic female friendships, that's a different story.
Am I weird?
In an alarming turn of events I have realised I'm not actually an introvert but an insecure, depressed extrovert with no social skills and no friends.
What do I do now?
Bump because I need help.
Work on it. I dont have social skills either but just uttering a Hi here and there is enough to get someones attention.
Fix the depression
What does /adv/ice think about paternity tests?
There are an estimated 3 to 6 million *married* men in the US raising children they think are theirs but really aren't. Genetic analysis of other countries shows the same 1-2% rate of involuntary cucking.
To me, this means that every man should get a paternity test for each baby he and his wife have. To me, a little swab and $100 bucks is a cheap price to pay for peace of mind, especially given the state of the law in the country. Under most State laws, a man has *at most* until the kid is 2 years old to get a paternity test. After that, if you signed on the dotted line, you're financially responsible for child support.
A woman can literally defraud you, cheat on you, have you raise a baby that isn't yours... and if you take her to court and show the baby isn't yours? The court will take away your parental custody rights and force you to continue paying child support.
There are cases where a man gets cucked and then has to pay child support while the biological father is *married to the cheating wife and living in the non-biological father's ex-home.*
Every woman I have ever brought this up to has had a violent and negative reaction to the idea of taking paternity tests. Men are expected to enter into a legally binding contract with the government that's totally unnecessary for anything except tax breaks (marriage), but can't take a paternity test?
Am I just never going to be able to get married? Because that seems very selfish to me. Women see it very differently.
You're getting a negative reaction because if the rate is only 1-2%, you are telling the other 99-98% of women, literally millions of women, that you're just going to assume that they are also cheating liars. Most would find that personally insulting.
That's like saying since the majority of rapists are male (with either female or other male victims), that means all males should wear a warning sign or be tracked at all times, right? For peace of mind? Because obviously if there are 6% of men who are rapists, the rest of the male population should consent to GPS tracking at all times, just to make sure they aren't out there raping. You would find that suggestion personally insulting, yes?
Or, you could just not ever get married if you can't get over that 1-2% of women. That's what I recommend.
>>16893867
I have no input to help but just gonna post another oscar meme
>>16893926
> you are telling the other 99-98% of women, literally millions of women, that you're just going to assume that they are also cheating liars. Most would find that personally insulting
Point taken.
As far as the rapist shit, that's just a false analogy. Getting a paternity test is a father's right under the law. The law also offers no protection for men that fall into the 1-2%.
>the rest of the male population should consent to GPS tracking at all times
That's no one's right and the law offers protection to rape victims.
The law does NOT offer protection to defrauded husbands....except paternity testing at birth. It's very different.
Furthermore, all men DO pay for the 6% - it's called stranger danger. Men put up with it all the time even though we're not rapists. I don't find it insulting; I'm tolerant of it even though I'm not a rapist because I want the girl to feel safe. So I change the way I act - I keep my cool, I stay away from large hand gestures, I do not creep, etc. So men DO modify their behavior because of the 6%.