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How do you deal with people leaving?

I'm fully aware a man should be prepared to endure false friends and what not. However, it's happening too much, too fast, and for no reason. People are just stopping contact with me. I read all conversations prior to them stopping talking, and i never find a reason. They just suddenly lose all interest, and stop talking. Recently, an old family friend, who helped me a lot by her own choice(she's the same age as my mother), just stopped talking to me. I was never clingy, i never am. But sometimes if i don't start conversation, people don't.

This woman was always so lovely, and suddenly, she avoids talking, avoids meeting(i only offered once, and she just kept changing the dates, now she didn't even bother, she just went with ''I'll tell you when i can'') and whatnot.

This isn't the first case. People , usually females—but not just them—just have been stopping talking. I'm not clingy, i'm not overly feely, i don't even mention my problems, and i always can maintain a good conversation in person. But whenever i'm not in person, people just stop engaging, and like in this situation, they avoid contact altogether. What is happening? Am i failing to keep friends?What am i doing wrong? How can i keep friends? It is feeling like i suddenly know nothing about friends at all.

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Here's the deal

>guy and me we've been flirting for 3 years.
>he said he liked me when we were in hs
>said I looked prettier before (the same day he told he liked me b4)
>I like him so much I feel bad and sick the entire day

So I thought I would give him a present on his bday with a card inside with "I like you. Do you like me? Yes ( ) No ( )"

Like kids do, I thought it would be qt.

But im worried cus Idk if he means it when he says I look ugly because we talk a lot like insulting each other and he says that now he wouldn't ever like me. But he always joke around saying stuff like "bad girl, I wont marry you anymore" or "when we marry well go to so and so" or even when I told him I can't cook he said "you can't cook, I can't marry you!"

So it's fucking with my head because for the entire fucking say I feel bad because I think he thinks I'm ugly and then he plays with me saying he'll marry me.

Tl;dr Does he like me or no?

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How do you tell your boyfriend that you have saggy tits after they've made a saggy tits joke and laughed really hard about it.

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I had unprotected sex with a girl 2 months ago and I've heard through the grapevine that she's pregnant (she found out just today.) I don't talk to this girl anymore, and as far as I know, she's been fucking some other guy shortly after me ever since. Chances are it's his kid, right?

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When a therapist says "your parents did the best they could" is that like code for they abused/neglected you?

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Why do parents forgive one sibling for everything, and the other for nothing?

>Be relatively affluent family, given every opportunity, father and mother somehow fluked being pretty well off despite lack of college degrees or significant holdings/estates etc
>Mum and Dad love sports, outdoors etc, my Dad always wanted to be a sports star
>Younger brother is football prodigy
>Basically my childhood is my Dad hanging out with my bro and buying me a PC because I suck at sports

>After school my brother does not become Maradona, Dad starts drinking religiously

>Best he can get is a low tier club because politics basically, not his fault
>Decides to stop playing football, and get a normal job. Dad resents this and gives him never ending shit for being a failure. Even though it was a decent enough job and paid fairly okay.

>Brother fucks up job because basically our Dad has taught him nothing but sports his entire life. Fucked up by basically telling his boss the truth and not being a yes man, when he really needed to be a yes man.

>Brother starts drinking and dealing drugs. Dad's response is to drink more and take jabs at him.

>Whole situation comes to a head when the police get a warrant to search our house for drugs. Dad is fucking full drunk mode when police show up, mother in tears. I end up having to convince the police there was nothing else in the house and it wasn't worth their time tearing the place apart.

>Brother leaves country to go to the US, because he needs help. Family there. /1

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Last night my boyfriend and I tried to have sex. We were both up for it, but he kept missing my vagina, and after five to six attempts he was really flustered and embarrassed, so I suggested he just go masturbate instead. He got really upset and has been sulking and refusing to talk to me today.

What did I do wrong? How can I get him to cheer up?

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I need a bit of advice on becoming a man, my father divorced my mother for a blonde succubus who took him to Texas and turned him into a MAJOR cuck when I was about 8.

He used to be my definition of manliness, 6'5", beard, slicked back hair, and the stereotypical dumb and brutish manly attitude. Now hes a sad, controlled, beardless shell of a man...

But enough about my father, I am the one who is now in need of help, there is no saving him sadly...

I have lived with four girls my entire life. I have learned many things about women, signs of periods, a few differences in psychological aspects between men and women, what makes them happy or sad, and so on and so fourth. So I generally make friends easier with women and until I got my girlfriend my sisters always assumed I was gay (my mother never admitted it but she was the most shocked). However, on the flip side it is not as easy for me to make friends with guys, even with non-threatening men I feel feminine in their presence and I absolutely hate this.

I have never had a big male role model in my life and I honestly do not know how to be a man, it has kind of warped into a goal or obsession to become a manly type figure to be looked at and labeled as a MAN and not just another guy.

I guess in the end I am just looking for tips to improve my self-confidence when it comes to things like manliness and absolutely ANYTHING you guys have collected on fatherly advice on life, I don't need that relationship shit you learn that from girls anyway.

Tl;dr Post tips on fatherly advice and tips on how to improve my manliness, self-confidence on the matter of manliness, or even manly-esque things I should start doing.

Thanks guys.

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What do you do once suicidal thoughts has become the white noise and ambiance of your thoughts?
It's become independent of my life and future.

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Ok, anons, this feels like the most retarded question, but then again I am retarded

Does anyone know any example ever, of a guy and a girl going traveling together, for over a week, to somewhat warm potentially-with-beaches-relaxing places, only as friends? Or would anyone suggest such a plan with absolutely no romantic/sexual interest? Like "oh yea it would be fun! and sometimes you really get to know someone when traveling"

What if the aim is for this to happen in 6 months?

>I wish one of you could slap me over TCP/IP so I could get on with my life
>inb4 retard

Or at least just tell me that they'll flake before that happens so I don't have to deal with all this fucking drama

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Hi adv. I have a problem. My dad is lazy, and won't collect money to pay rent. He does jobs for people then is lazy and doesnt collect the money. I have to constantly harrass him to get blood from a stone. I don't want to kick him out because he's my dad. But i have two jobs now and its to the point where i'm considering it. He won't give me rent money on time or try to. He even lied to me and used my money to take this idiot woman on a date, spending 40 instead of ten in gas like he said. Should I just kick him out?

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I have an issue that started recently that I could use help with

>be 19-year-old male
>be fit
>be full-time general science student at community college with a part time job
not sure if I'm going into biochemistry or programming yet
>have no friends after graduating high school and going through serious breakup
>make friends with female in my microbiology class
>she's 31 and fat but really cool and not offended easily
let's call her A
>everything is great for a while, interested in the same things
>she invites me to see Deadpool with her friends who have already seen it because she knows I haven't seen it and I wanted to
>have an awesome time, some of the most fun I've had since breakup
>one of friends is really cute and my age and into the same stuff we are
let's call her B
>after me and A exchanged numbers to coordinate the movie watching, A texts me daily
>actually intelligent and interesting conversations
>begin spring break
>she texts me every day even if I let the conversation fade
>last night she invites me to see Star Wars (which she'd also already seen) because again, I wanted to see it and had no one to go with and she knew that
>wasn't sure if there would be others there this time or not
I get there late because of construction and felt like an asshole, but that's beside the point
>she's totally fine with me getting there late but I still feel bad
>turns out to be just the two of us
>notice she's wearing some makeup this time which I hadn't seen her do before
to be fair she was at work that day so it could just be from that. I can understand why she wouldn't wear it for microbiology
>movie goes normal and we have fun watching
>a bit of chatter afterward and then we go home separately
cont.

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Hey,boys and girls. I've been learning the english language on my own for half a year and now I'm at a crossroads. On the one hand, my eng is far from perfect and I still need to work hard and spend a lot of time on improving it,which I genuinely like to do. On the other hand, I study at university and I've recently realized that I don't have enough knowledge of my profession and I need to significantly expand it. Unfortunately, I can't do both at a time so I have to sacrifice either the language skills or career prospects. Just wanna ask a wise anon which way to pursue as it's very hard for me to drop out something where I haven't reached the goals i set up.

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How can I suggest to my teacher that I think she has a really nice arse?

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I'm a 22 year old guy - I've never had a girlfriend and I've never been on a date, but I'm really starting to get upset about it and now I really want to find someone to date. Obviously it can't just be anyone, I do have standards, but they're not huge or anything, I just really want someone to talk to, someone to actually feel for me and what not.

I don't know where to start. First off, I'm in my second year at university, I'm originally from northern europe, but I'm studying in the UK, I'm on a software engineering course, there aren't any women here so I'm really at a loss as to how to meet attractive/interesting girls.

I try to dress as nicely as my pocket can let me, I look after my hygiene, I workout, I'm 6'1, I speak several languages, I have a variety of interests from politics, to history, to electronics, psychology etc. I just don't know why, but girls are really turned off by me, I'm starting to think that one of the major reasons is because I'm just not attractive enough for a relationship.

I also have a bit of anxiety when it comes to talking to people and my accent can get pretty bad sometimes, but I'm working on it, I'm still pretty bad at talking to british people for some reason, I just don't know what to say to them or what to talk about with them, I don't know why, but my mind just goes blank. Whats wrong with me guys? Am I undateable? I'm interested in girls that are younger than me, mostly 18-20, is that a problem do you think? It's getting to a point where I feel genuinely bad about myself. Why can everyone find someone to go out with, multiple women even sometimes, but I can't even get a single girl to look at me?