I've had these weird memories about when I was a kid which I've always just passed off as delusions, but this weekend I was going through some shit on my dad's computer and found some videos of me being molested by my uncle when I was like 8 or 9. I still cant believe it but it also explains so much. What would you do /adv/?
>>16922209
depends on who you are now.
who are you, anon?
>>16922209
cool.
i would definitely try and get some money out of it.
>>16922231
I'm in college now, but I can't remember all of the details about what happened to me. I've watched the videos and now I now a little more but there's still someone else in the them besides just my uncle and I don't know who they are. I mean, my dad had them on his computer so maybe he was involved?
My boyfriend always wants sex and I don't know what to do. I've been dating this guy for 4 months and he is THE best boyfriend I've ever had. He's extremely nice, respectful, charming, funny, trustworthy, great looks and he has a great career but I just absolutely hate how pushy he is about sex and how much he wants it. He wants to have sex every time we see each other.
Then he makes me want it so bad by playing with my clit. Every time we see each other, he asks before hand to have sex and I usually have sex but he just makes me want it so bad. He's not using me for sex. I know for a fact he's not, he just has a really high sex drive. Every time I turn him down for sex, he doesn't get mad but he just gets annoyed. It's like he's a different person when he's horny.
Who's in the wrong here?
>>16921660
You are, you made the mistake of not posting your babylons
>>16921660
Don't see the problem here fampai.
young men are crazy. Older men won't pester you for sex. That's why most women prefer older men.
How do I get over knowing that my GF's ex had a huge dick? I'm below average and now I feel completely sexually inadequate. Like I feel like I lost my sex drive completely and I can't even look at her or myself.
We were really drunk and talking about random things and pregnancy came up. My mom is a labor and delivery nurse so I've heard some horror stories and I said "I can't believe a vagina can recover from that." and my GF laughed and said "A vagina is pretty resilient, I mean if I can take a dick almost the size of my own wrist and walk fine the next day" then she realized what she said and kinda trailed off and we kinda awkwardly laughed it off.
But now I'm just dead inside. How do I get over this. I have a fucking pencil dick.
Forcefully fuck your girlfriends ex boyfriend is the ass to assert your dominance over him and show them both who the real boss man is.
>>16920126
Sex God Method book, don't ask me how to get it. That's all. If she thinks about him while she's with you then it's time to find a new girl; as the problem is way bigger than dick size. It's a mental issue she has that is her problem, not the shape of your dick
Maybe you shouldn't be dating someone who drinks enough to let her tongue get that loose. Your mom is an educated and respected member of society. I imagine the fruit did not fall far from the tree in that respect. Pencil dick or not, can you not do better (and more respectably, for the sake of your upbringing) than a girlfriend who gloats about another man's dick to her own boyfriend? I know she was drunk. I've been drunk too. I've also managed to respect my responsibilities and dignity by knowing where to stop drinking and stop talking.
Please I need ways to stay fully mentally immersed for hours. I need to be NEET for 3 months and have nothing to do, I can't leave the house, I'm bedridden. I need time to move fast, and for that I need to stay fully occupied mentally.
Netflix and reading
>>16925473
Netflix, anime, do you have any videogame consoles at your disposal? How good is your computer/laptop? I can recommend some games. Rogue-likes can consume hours and hours of your day for instance.
>>16925473
Play an autism game, like Pokemon or Terraria. Each can easily sink several hundred hours in 8 hour bursts.
With Pokemon, your time would involve:
>determine a team, possibly using spreadsheets and damage calculators
>breed the team in-game to have idea stats and or be kawaii as fuck
>train the team
>grind post-game points to give them the proper equipment and moves
>test them online against others
>refine team lineup and repeat
Terraria would be more like:
>collect equipment
>establish base
>fight boss
>repeat until you find neat blocks
>build an autism base of style
>back to square one
If video games aren't your style, and you're not the binge-watching or "heavy reader" type, consider chess. There's plenty of websites where you could get several dozen games running at once, and pouring over the strategies/playing several turns in advance could take up a lot of hours.
Last resort: creative writing. Let cabin fever be your muse.
Ok so this chick I know was killed with her bf while they were having sex in the car. His car smashed into the back of a semi truck. It was pretty bad and they had to cut open the roof and side of the car to get them out. They tried to cover them up but when they removed her I saw pretty much everything. The dude was still hard and in her and when they lifted her off him all this stuff came out. Was wondering if maybe it was his cum and if it was is it from after he died. Anyone know?
>>16925465
Why the fuck do you care?
Total bs thread. No one would have sex while driving
>>16925465
lol
Why is deleting your entire porn collection so difficult, especially after spending many years gathering the hard to find stuff, waiting on slow download speeds etc.
If feels like its a part of me, so getting rid of it means im losing a part of myself.
Does this sounds weird? I wanted to do an experiment but it could affect my life.
I dont know what to do.
>>16925308
>why is deleting your entire porn collectio nso difficult, especially after spending many years gathering the hard to find stuff, wiating on slow download speeds, etc.
probably because you spent many years gathering the hard to find stuff, wiating on slow download speeds, etc.
>does that sound weird
kind of. not a whole lot weird. I used to be the same thoughts with junk food. i was never fat but i wanted to be healthy, and more than anything, fit. but being that guy who could eat an entire cheesecake and never gain an ounce was like my 'thing'. it felt like part of my personality.
but now im on the other side of that and i like being the guy who eats asparagus and avocado (just typing that made my mouth water)
if you are having trouvle iether
A) have someone delete it for you or
B) put it on a hardrive and give it to a friend. dont let them give it back to you for X amount of time (wherein X is the experiment time you had in mind)
>>16925321
This. I wouldn't delete it, just make sure you don't have access to it.
>>16925308
My bf deleted all of his. He seems like a much happier person now, and he enjoys fucking me more than jacking off now.
Feeling really shitty more and more lately.
I dropped out of uni last year after two years of not going to classes because of depression and anxiety. I entered a college program this year just to get the student loans to make rent.
It's starting to go to shit again. I've been missing more classes and feeling worse about myself. I can't afford meds and I'm not sure if they'd work this time, anyways. I don't know how to get crazy bux where I'm located.
Even writing this is making me nervous, but I can't vent on Facebook. I guess I'm just hoping for some "I know that feel" type anons to post.
I wish I was a NEET again.
>>16925304
The structure of college classes is pretty tough to get used to. Listening to people talk for hours every day takes a toll on you, and you have to worry about everyone staring at you when you go to class and when in you're in class too.
My advice would be to take care of yourself and see someone about getting your finances in order. I don't think anyone would suggest medication if you don't have good sleep, healthy diet, and exercise. Also, I'm pretty sure there's someone you can talk to on your college campus about money problems, you just have to ask.
>>16925357
I'm thinking of trying therapy again.
The college I'm talking about is technical college for a trade. Thankfully no big endless lectures. Canada-speak, I guess.
>>16925372
That's a good idea. Having an actual person to talk things out with relieves stress and allows for a second perspective on things.
I've never visited a technical college. What are the classes like?
>be me
>had a good 2y long relationship
>didnt get laid. The relationship was complicated
>after a misstep, get into "the talk"
>Gf explains that she is the one to blame for the faliure. (Which is partly true, even if my friends claim she's the only one at fault)
>We decide its for the best to end it.
>I cant hold back all the repressed feels and anger anymore, it ends with me pushing tons of shame on her making her very uncomfortable.
>We didnt end on bad terms tho, i had already accepted the end was near.
Fast forward a few weeks
>i get an offer to study abroad
>Im not gonna see anyone for a long time.
>My now ex feels its a good time to invite me to stay over.
>Because i still love her (or atleast thats what im telling myself) i agree.
>we have a nice evening together, not different from our usual dates.
>She still calls me honey and all the nicknames from when we were together.
>She tells me that were gonna sleep on different beds. (Atm, i dont feel its appropriate to make a move, she is obviously in emotional turmoil (or thats what i keep telling myself).
>She jokingly tells me that she wont wake up if she passes out on my bed, she is lying on the corner.
>As the gent i am, i tell her that if she wants to share the bed its fine with me.
>She gets quiet and makes some faint noices, then stands up and tells me shes going to sleep.
>Im lying here now. I know she is very tired and probably sleeping.
What do you guys think is going on in her head right now?
Do you think she is trying to get me back?
Because im moving far away, we wont see each other for a few months making a definitive move right now is not really fair to me or her.
>>16925299
Make a move dumbass.
>>16925310
If it was any other girl I would have done exacly that. But this one is different to me.
I see here as more precious than just the avrage gf. I dont want to waste any future chances with her by having her reject me in this very awkward moment (i really feel indifferent atm)
>>16925332
You're putting her on a pedestal. Don't do that.
So a few days ago, I found out that this girl whom I am fond of has been into me the past few years. She told me through her friend so she knows that I know she likes me and that I like her back. But for some reason we just don't seem to be hitting it off well at all. She's usually outgoing, hilarious, and very confident, but she's been acting pretty distant around me. We have a class together that's basically a study hall and for the past two times in that class she'll come near my table as if she's thinking about sitting with me but then sit somewhere else. Today she actually chose to sit by herself instead of sitting with a me and a girl I was with. She acts totally different around her friends than how she acts around me. What do you think the issue is? What should I do?
>>16925264
Maybe she thinks you'd rather be with the girl you sat with. Maybe you give off subtle signals that say you don't want her sitting with you. What's stopping you from asking her out?
>>16925298
This. Anon remember that healthy relationships involve two people who both contribute. Sometimes you have to be the one to move first.
As for her acting differently, she could be insecure around her friends.
>>16925298
I've asked her out on a date twice and she had work both days. I'm waiting for her to make a move
Hey /adv/ any ideas on how to damage control this situation with my parents?
I am a rich fag and my parents pay for my credit card. As of late i met a girl and started doing things so my cost on my card costs has increased by about 500$ a month. While this isn't a whole lot they told me they want to talk to me about the card usage sometime.
They aren't talking to me immediately so i guess its not a huge issue. But how do I talk to them about this situation? I don't want them to take the card away or limit it so i can keep doing activities and eat out with my girlfriend thanks.
>>16925161
Tell them about ya gurl homepai.
They think you're on fucking drugs or something.
>my cost on my card costs has increased by about 500$ a month.
That's more than my monthly rent.
Kill yourself
>eat out with my girlfriend
Eating out your girlfriend will save you money. Do that instead.
Hi /adv/isors,
I'm twisted up by a girl who said she loved me last night. She isn't in a position to act on those feelings as she only recently got out of a long term relationship and is exploring single life. But I won't bore you with the details.
I want to look out for myself. I'll still be involved with this girl for a few months, but I want to do stuff for me in spite of what feelings I have that are still hung up on her.
So I guess what I'm asking is: what's the best way to put yourself out there? I'm a bit of a blank canvas. What I know is that I'm not a clubber, but I have played a couple of open mic nights recently. I'm starting to get out there, but I find myself restless. My brother told me I need to exercise my curiosity for this stuff, but I don't know how to invoke my curiosity, if that makes sense.
I know this is a vague request, but I'd appreciate anything you have to offer. If you need any more info about me, just ask. Thanks.
bump
>>16925142
first and foremost, she either wants to be with you, or she doesn't. there is no 'OH I WOULD IF I WASNT JUST RECENTLY SINGLE'
if she actually wanted to be in a relationship with you, she would be. she said what she said because she wants to keep you as a supporter without limiting herself to you.
the minute she finds the right guy she will no longer want to explore being single.
that being said, go put yourself out there. clubs arent everything, they arent even close.
open mic night is a good step. the best thing you can do is sit down and make a list of all your hobbies. things you like. yes, even just reading or other 'introverted' activities count. then you reverse engineer them.
generally speaking the best ways to do that are
>school clubs
>local hobby shops / groups
>meetup.com
meetup.com has something for everyone. even managed to find a geek hangout in israel for an anon. so whatever your interest, its there. and if its not, you can make one.
>>16925193
Yeah, I know it's bullshit, but the feelings I had for her don't. I'm trying to work around that.
That's good advice, though. Thanks for giving me some direction.
I'm one of those shitty little theater kids and the last play of my college experience is over and I just don't care anymore for the rest of the semester
I get enough guilt to do my work, eventually, and I'm still getting good grades, but I put off work for so long that it's really just plain old senioritis/procrastination
The problem is I'm avoiding doing anything I enjoy or hope to do instead of my schoolwork. How do I get that drive for self-improvement back?
>>16925101
we can give tips and tricks but if your response to any of this is going to essentially be
'id just not do that or find a way around it' then go to /x/ cuz ur not looking for advice, you are looking for magic.
that being said
>make a schedule
schedules help. organize a list. take the time to cross things off. its satisfying.
>buddy system
friend in your class? do the homework together. explain your situation. just having someone there saying 'lets do it' can be a motivator.
>slave system
you give power to someone else. they take away your internet, your food, your fun, your phone or whatever distracts you and forces you to work. gotta find agood master for this.
>reward system
tell your gf to with hold sex unless you submit your homework for her to double check that oyu did it. if you miss class, you miss your next blowjob.
>put up a sign
this helps me. ill tape a piece of paper to the wall and just write 'DO IT' or something more specific about what i need to get done. this motivates me to well, do it.
>put childblocks on your computer
>give roomamte the password
>>16925110
nice advice but the only one that'd work is schedule because
>gf
>roommate
>friends
where do you think we are?
>>16925163
you are in college so assumed you had dormmates.
friends can extend to classmates.
but if you dont have the prowess to get a study buddy then you dont really have what it takes to do college. i mean fuck you're in theater, you wanna pretend you arent on good terms with anyone in that class?
Ive been using the compound w wart remover band aids and honestly it just made it worse. This is honestly so disgusting i have no idea what the fuck to do and it hurts too bad and bleeds so damn much to just rip it off.
> i have no idea what the fuck to do
go to a doctor you idiot
First off, let it heal.
I used to have gnarly warts on my hands and had the best luck with OTC freezing kits. Eventually though, I had to just pony up and get them frozen off by a doctor.
I don't know about cutting them off. You'd have to cut deeply, to remove ALL the wart tissue. I don't recommend it, especially not for one that big and located where it is.
Are you sure it's even a wart?
Go to a professional.
>>16925079
Gross dude go to a fucking doctor before your finger falls off.
Today my firends and I were sitting together eating lunch. We are just making Jones as usual, and I made a joke about someone. My one friend straight across from me says "Well and you're a creepy pedophile who spends all his time on 4chan". My heart sunk when I heard that. He had his serious face on and didn't look like he was joking when he said that. I don't know what to do. I'm really scared, what if he tells other people? That was a fairly out of character joke for him to make.
>>16925034
Are you?
Wouldn't bother you if you weren't, pham.
Maybe you should renounce your wicked ways.
>>16925043
I am..... I don't know what to do...
ew, fix that shit dude. the fuck's wrong with you? are you that guy that posts about his cousins all the time?
How should I come up with a half-decent / original message for girls that barely write anything on their profiles?
Like literally < 20 words
I try to leave these for the last of my 10 messages per day quota, but I'm always like "yea so uhm...uuuh....who the fuck are you?" (I obviously don't say that lol)
Ideas? I'm rather new to this and I think I'm coming off as a bit too much of a nice guy but eh, I don't think there'd be much point in pretending to be a chad when I don't look like one
What has worked for you guys, in general?
>>16924952
online dating is a waste of time
>>16924956
thank you anon, that was some useful help you provided there
>>16924961
There are statistics that of 1000 message sent women only reply to 1 or 2 regardless of content
Its a waste of time, but suit yourself