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Piano

>>16924733
The harmonica.

>>16924733
Guitar. Then learn how to play wonderwall. Bitches will be sucking your dick before you even finish playing.

>>16924598
Because a 24 year old has more to offer: they're likely more stable, more experienced, more interesting, and in just as good physical shape.

Because what makes them good makes them more mature for guys their own age so they date older guys.

I'm assuming that by 'good' you mean sensible and mature, btw, not young and hot

>>16924606
Imagine how pissed he's going to be when he realizes how many of the 18-24 year old girls he's pining over end up with guys a hell of a lot older than 24.

Not much better in life than the look of realization in a bar when Chad Thundercock works out that you and your dad bod just poached the girl he was after.

Is your life shit? Do you have a job or anything?

>>16924592
Might be an actual biological problem that needs remedying, it might be manageable through therapy, friend or professional, but if it's not going away even with people's help then medical expertise might be the route you wanna seek

If you lack the appropriate people to help you through it I could suggest a support group, easier place to find compassionate people than anywhere else

>>16924592
Perhaps you should take all of that advice you giant pussy. Fuck you. I sincerely doubt your problems are so bad that ending your life is the only option left. Suck a giant dick, faggot.

There's a good chance that you just take bad pictures. Plenty of attractive people do this.

Online dating is ego boosting for attentionwhores. Don't take it seriously.

>>16924516
maybe, but i have had some girls say i am really good looking from seeing my pics.

>>16924472
pay an escort
get the first one outta the way

>>16924480
I've thought about that actually, but I have no idea how or where to find a reliable one with reasonable prices without fear of it being a set up.Any input on that?

Because it would absolutely SUCK if I got arrested for simply trying to lose my virginity.

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You have to be sociable in order to meet girls that want to have sex with you. Go out and drink with your friends.

Getting out there and meeting new people will give you more opportunities to accomplish your goal. Roll the dice and keep going 'til you're gone.

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V A P O R W A V E

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Stop buying alcohol.

>>16924467
Thanks, I'm cured.

Sounds like it's just a rumor that persists because you haven't replaced it with anything more interesting or positive. People who believe the rumor must not know you very well - I'm guessing people make these assumptions about your personality because you're pretty isolated. In the end, you're the one responsible for your own image.

Perhaps you are a compulsive liar? Or you are just surrounded by shitty people. People who talk.

>>16924449
I'd considered that it could be rumours, but it'd be spanning the best part of 20 years, and among people who, as far as I know, have never met or been in touch with each other.

>>16924463
I have genuinely wondered if I'm a compulsive liar. I thought that compulsive liars were aware of telling lies but just did it sort of automatically and without considering it beforehand?
I guess I do have the rotten luck to get to know people who are very stubborn, so when they wrongly assume something they never back down and would rather reduce me to tears than admit that they're wrong.

>we

speak for yourself nigga. i got out of that rut a long time ago. it's been a helluva ride and liberating to finally do things for yourself and not think of it as "work".

>>16924344
how do?

>>16924322
What are vitamins and diet like, is it balanced and healthy?

That old saying "You are what you eat" is true. >Eat shit feel like shit.
>Eat low energy foods have a low energy day.

I got over my social anxiety.

It took me half a decade plus of actively forcing myself to do things I hated until I got over it.

I went from scared to answer doors/phones/order food, to giving no fucks and being able to make friends with literally anyone anywhere and having it be one of my favorite idle pass-times (just go to a restaurant/microbrew, sit at the bar with a meal and a drink, and make idle chitchat with total strangers).

Anons right best advice for you is get out there and chat it up

>>16924321
honestly I did it by being friends first. everybody says "oh that doesn't work, you'll get friendzoned etc etc" but it has worked fine for me.

>>16924099
This is why they say not to shit where you eat. Congratulations, you fucked up and this won't go away until either of you leave the company. Oh, and you better act normal towards her, because otherwise people will say you're not good at working with other people.

>>16924099
congrats anon from your OP i deem you too competent to get help here

you know much much better than anyone here what you feel/want and i'm sure you can find a way to act that wont be pants on head retarded

gl mate

>>16924099
Optimistically speaking I would like to say that people are not static and maybe she has learned a lesson from this and changed for the better.

Alternatively this is her true character and chances are things like this might happen again. Long term relationships rarely turn out well and mixing romance with work is also a big risk.

I'd recommend trying to get back to being friends at least, but not going any further.

You will not have the time.
Period.

>>16924028
Ever heard of distance education? Comp sci bachelor programs at a distance are a thing, at least where I live (Scandinavia).

Är du en idiot?

Unless you have an eidetic memory, you can forget about it. And no, sheer will is not going to get you there

So? Kill yourself if nothing has value to you.

>>16923902

>I dont see why should i even try to improve myself.

for yourself.

>everythign seems pointless

the universe is pointless. life presents choice. choice is the only thing that can give our lives meaning, if we choose to let it.

>why should i make efforts to pursue long term happiness

you are a being with emotions. happy makes you feel good. its literally what happy is. to not pursue happiness means you are allowing yourself to feel at best 'bland', but generally sad.

being happy is a reason to pursue happiness. why would you pursue sadness?

>im an alocholic and an internet addict
>as such i have tried literally everything this world has to offer and have come to the conclusion that only these two satisfy me

just make sure you see the sun for 10-30min every day, make sure you work out to the point of feeling sore bc of it 2-4/wk, limit fapping to 1/day max.

if you are doing all those things and you feel like everything is pointless. its because it is. hopefully you'll meet some other people or find something online that temporarily distracts you and bc you've done those things you'll be a decent enough person to enjoy it/them/her

oh also make sure you go cold turkey on the drinking for at least 7 days every quarter, you need to track that and if going 7 days is really hard and stressful or even worse you fail at doing it you need to force yourself to do 10-14 days. You don't want to become a full blown alcoholic for real, for now i'm assuming you aren't bc you sound like some young fag just wanting to make things sound bleak, not believing your no-edge claim for a min son

How do I make actual small talk with a girl via FB chat? I feel like I can't ask something on chat without making it sound like that's the real and only reason I'm texting her. I want to ask her to meet me irl to hang out but I should chat a bit before asking right? Or is it better to just straight away ask her?

>>16923777

Depends on if you know her IRL. If you do, go ahead and ask her out.

If you don't... no one's going to be able to tell you how to have a conversation... That's something that can only be learned first hand... and at this point that's a skill you've either built up or you haven't... (fyi the way you build up a skill, is you do it and get something called, "experience"). So you may as well just ask her out.

>>16923823
Thanks. Yes I know her irl, it's just that I haven't seen her in a long ish while now. I'm not awkward talking face to face, I just really hate texting/talking on FB and never really had to rely on it but there's no other way to meet her by now.

I had this problem a few weeks ago with this girl I would see everyday.

I just kept being autistic and did nothing and within a week the attraction feelings went away.

Make words with your mouth. Go sit next to her. Reciprocate the affection.

Trust me. If you can just blank your worries out for 5 seconds and force your body to go do that, one of three things will happen
1) They'll have been flirting with you and be delighted you're flirting back, and it will be great and giggly and fun
2) They won't have been flirting with you but your confidence in approaching them will at least net you a friend, if not cause them to start flirting
3) They won't have been even looking at you and will be confused as to what is happening. Should this be the case, #2 is still a strong possibility, but worst case you simply excuse yourself and go back to your seat.

It's really not complicated; just smile back.
Talk to her if you feel like it but you don't have to.

>>16923112
>just suck it up and date her?
>not really my type at all
>embarrassed to introduce her to my parents

Uh...no. Never date someone out of pity. You're only going to end up hurting her more. Stop being FWB, end it and move on.

>>16923112

Women are similar to parasites.

She is using sex to lure you into a relationship.

Let me explain...
Women do not enjoy sex for pleasure's sake, it's either to validate her own ego and assuage her own anxieties about how desirable she is or it's to lure a man into a relationship so that eventually he will provide for her and her offspring.

She's probably not even that much attracted to you physically because if she was she would not have been as straightforward with you. Basically her ego could spare the rejection coming from you. To her, you're a safe bet. You're probably cute but other women won't try to steal you from here and you seem a dependable middle class type that can hold a job down the line.

>>16923112
>>16923112
Don't fuck her if you don't want to date her. If she's not your type why did you have sex with her? Srsly let the poor girl go.