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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2016-03-20 13:32:38 Post No.16937996
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical act/moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely. Preferences differ.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
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Femanons, would you ever consider being in a polygamous marriage? As in, one of three or four wives to one partner? And I don't mean the mormon secret breeding thing, I mean as in a modern marriage system but with other wives in the mix.
Why or why not?
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Guys-
Would it be weird for me to add a waiter I have a thing for on Facebook? I'm a customer, his co-workers have been calling him by last name around me.
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>>16938014
Sounds a bit weird. Why not write your number on the receipt and suggest he calls you sometime? Sends off fewer stalker vibes.
So this girl will have active conversations with me, and then not respond for weeks or even a month. It's probably the fourth time this has happened. This didn't happen before when I was rather depressed for a month. She sent me a message akin to "Where are you anon, I miss talking to you:(", and I appolgized and went on talking to her. Almost evryone I know in fact, especially girls, eventually stop talking to me. Why is my social life so fucking pathetic?
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>>16940645
Do you do anything other than talk?
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sometimes you gotta take initiative everyone else is probably sitting back and waiting for people to talk to them too people are lazy af
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>>16940654
We're in seperate countries at the moment, but that really shouldn't stop her from sending a message, as far fetched as that sounds. This happens with people in my country too anyway.
>>16940655
I do take the initiative, nobody EVER talks to me or shoots me a message even to ask what's up. It's always me trying to hold a conversation being funny and attentive, amd then it fails.
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I decided it would be best to lose it to an escort.
But I'm cautious about what steps I should take to prepare to make sure I come out of this unscathed.
What are some things I should look out for when I'm on pages like backpage or the like. How can I tell which girls I should stay away from and which ones are okay to proceed with?
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>>16940195
>I decided
Your decision is a poor one anon.
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>>16940199
It may not be the best, but I'm not getting any anytime soon otherwise.
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>>16940199
Agreed.
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I thought I was immune 2016-03-21 00:36:36 Post No.16939977
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So me and this girl from my English class from last year agreed to go to next week's prom together because we both didn't have dates. I found her very attractive and funny last year but didn't make any moves because she was a classmate and I know how girls waste money and time yadahyadah. So on Saturday we agreed to hang out together and get to know each other a little so that prom night next week wouldn't be so bad. The "date" went amazing to say the least. We are both outdoorsy people so we decided to go disc golfing and fishing. I feel like me and her had a great time. I didn't try to make any moves on her other than put my hand on her knee in the car because I was very cautious of fucking anything up but I couldn't resist. On the date, I treated her different than past girls and felt really good about it until 10 PM that night...
She sends me a text saying, "Hey I had fun today and I'm excited for prom but I just wanted to make sure that we're going just as friends"
I was stunned to say the least. I felt like we had something, something that I hadn't felt with any other girl in years. I simply responded, "I had fun too! Ya we are friends" because I mean we are just going to prom as friends anyways so I can't really give my red-pilled response which would be "No" or "K". I absolutely hate the friendzone.
So /adv/ what should I do? Do I try to make Prom one of the best days of her life? Do I try texting her again since it has been 24 hours since this has happened? How do I win her over? or is there no chance and I should just make the best of the situation and move on in a week.
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>>16939977
>wanted to make sure you were going as friends
That's pretty cold Tbqfhwyfam
You probably can't win her over in a week, or at all, but don't let this ruin your prom. Have fun, then cut her out after if you feel like it.
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>I am friend zoned for good?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSwsJtSfyXU
Lets see possible scenarios:
>Tell her I crave her, I want a date:
Success: FTW I have GF!
Fail: Meh, move on.
>I move on without telling her:
For rest of life / week / day I will be curious what would her answer be.
>I will be her best best friend.
Probably wasting more energy and time with no GF at the end.
So the strategy with 'text her confess my feelings' is the shortest path for instant death with no energy lost or instant win. Just don't go overboard with marriage, kids and house. Just tell her you want a date and how much you like her.
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>I didn't try to make any moves on her other than put my hand on her knee in the car
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I've been contemplating applying for disability for years due to my mental illness conditions. Every time I do manage to get a job, I only last a week because my mental conditions make it impossible for me to interact with society. Just going to the store to get groceries is a difficult task for me.
I have felt ashamed all these years about my mental illness conditions, which is why I have never applied for disability, but I'm at a point financially where if I don't at least try to get it, I'll be homeless within 6 months.
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this is why i support euthanasia.
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>>16939916
I have to honestly admit, my entire life, death has seemed inviting, because my life long daily misery would be relieved.
However I keep hanging there, not sure why though. It's doesn't make sense to keep hanging in there, but I do anyway. Maybe one day I won't.
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Those benefits are there for individuals like yourself, go ahead and apply. You will need to supply your professional, psychiatric evaluation, and in all likelihood you'll have to hire a service to push your case through. Try to have your psychiatrist's facility process your claim, or some other agency; whatever you do, don't go it by yourself.
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A friend of mine texted me while I was out of town saying that she spotted my boyfriend at a club feeling up some girl. I wanted to believe her because she's never lied to me but I also wanted to check with him. When I returned, I asked him what he did while I was gone and he said he went out with some friends. I asked if he was with any girls and he bluntly said that he hooked up with someone while I was gone. He doesn't see it as a big deal but I'm scared and confused. For the record, we don't have an open relationship and he knows that I've been cheated on before and would consider that cheating. I guess I'm just not comprehending this because he's treating it like it's no big deal. What do I do now?
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look on the bright side, at least his honesty policy is airtight.
keep him.
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>>16939584
You have to break,up with him, of course. You're in shock right now because he's not acting like it was a secret. It's incredibly bold, but not unexpected. Some people like to test the waters like pieces of shit. You just need to rely on your friends right now and lose contact with him.
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>>16939584
The unfortunate truth: he probably isn't thinking it's a big deal because he wants to break it off.
Get rid of him, he sounds like a shitty dude.
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If I compensate my habit of daily cannabis smoking with increased daily studying and exercise, does that make it more okay?
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all things in moderation
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lol no. weedsmokers are usually the biggest failures. by smoking you're already a statistic.
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>>16939559
Moderation of amount or frequency?
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I never had a job.
I want to be an office worker.
The idea of the job seems to be pleasant. Just sit in front of the computer the whole day doing repetitive work in an office in a tall building.
So my first question is what exactly do office workers do in their computers?
The second: what skills do employers seek from appliers?
Third question: if I ever apply to one of those jobs, with what kind of clothing do I go to the job interview?
I know the paying must not be high and I'll spend the whole day in an office but the idea seems fun.
What else do I need to know about this business?
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What should i major in for a decent paying (50000 - 70000 year) job in an office
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>>16939448
Thanks for trying to derail my thread.
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I've tried to challenge myself to not watch porn and fap for the whole week. I've learn something for this entire week of not watching porn and fapping so I decided to share with you guys.
The whole week of no porn and fap made me feel more energize and more vitality. At my job, I have everything done quicker. I also have improve my self-respect and confident, I had normal conversation and not the usual creepy attitude, with my female co-worker. I even got compliments from them. Overall, I've improve a lot just by not watching porn and fap. However, I failed yesterday, I stayed up really late last night because in my thought it's weekend and with long night of browsing 4chan and I tumble across the porn pages. I have mental battle with my mind of not to watching it and turn out I've failed miserably.
So I made this thread to have another challenge with 2 weeks of no porn and fap. I hope everyone would join or share any advice or tip to stop the urge of watch porn and fap.
Started from now.
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G fricken g m8
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>>16939348
I know what you mean. I hate porn, I hate having filthy thoughts about anyone, but especially people I know, and I hate the feeling of wasting time. I sometimes jerk off for four hours at a time. I'm worried I might be giving myself erectile dysfunction. I want to try and get with this girl I like, but I want to get my mind clean first.
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I only "no porn for a week" when I need to prove to myself that I have self control. I never found any other benefits. Longest streak was a couple days under a month.
Anyone want to share their records?
ITT Ask a guy dating 3 girls while they are aware of each other anything.
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Why the fuck you lyin'?
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do you suspect any of them are doing it in secret hopes of changing the relationship to something more long term?
and do you believe that if you found out that was the case, you'd be obligated to break up with the ones that thought that way?
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Do these girls have low self esteem
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Kicked out of a job because of not doing a tutorial. 2016-03-20 19:30:41 Post No.16939022
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Kicked out of a job because of not doing a tutorial.
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Help me, /adv/.
I'm 19 and currently a full-time student in university and I applied for a job a few weeks ago. Because of the sudden increase in work for uni, I couldn't do a learning module for me to work on. I got kicked out of the job because of that, and my dad was the one to get me the job in the first place.
So, /adv/, tell me. Why is it so hard to balance school and work?
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It's not if you don't take on too much and know how to manage your time.
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Stop gaming.
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>>16939022
Was it a full time job? Honestly, it was one module, man. It's the middle of March. What could have possibly been so important at school that you couldn't have put it off for work?
Does this thing look inflamed?
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>>16938609
Is it tender to the touch or sore? Is the skin raised?
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looks like there's some puss there. consider this>>16938661
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>>16938661
It doesn't feel unusual when touched or rubbed normally, stings a bit if I press down.
The skin isn't raised save for the scab. I taped it shut with a bandaid like ten days ago and it's been under that ever since. It only came off tonight.
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So lately me and my girlfriend of 6 years have been thinking of ways to spice up our sex life , we thought of the usual things like role play etc but nothing really seemed to jump out and seem interesting. This past Thursday we were at a friend's house having a couple drinks and they were very open to us when we spoke of spicing up our sex life and they told us they were swingers , we knew them too well to even dream of swinging with them but it planted a seem in my girlfriends head and she suggested Saturday after dinner to head to a swingers club (wasn't much of a club just a house) we walked in to this place and instantly I hated it , everybody in there was old and they all zoned straight on to my girl 28yo btw still as beautiful as she was at 22. I told her I didn't like it and wanted to leave but she suggested we stay awhile , not even twenty minutes after she told me to stay I left...alone , she ran out after me but still wanted me to come back in , I told her no , she left and I found out just now that she had planned to meet an older gentleman from there tonight , she said that it's kinda a sugar daddy type thing that he just wants to pay for dinner and a kiss nothing more , she said that if he enjoys himself he'd give me some extra cash and it could become a regular thing , should I let her go? It's nothing below the belt as far as I know and we need extra cash , she said it would be fun but I just don't know if I'm comfortable with this happening , any advice or any of you guys in the same boat? All advice appreciated
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>>16938604
>should i accept the cucking and pretend its ok if i get money
I feel bad for you man. Drop her.
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>>16938604
Needing money and spicing up your sex life are two different things. If you're not into it then it's not spicing up your sex life. Do not prostitute your girl.
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tl;dr - this is a cheating post
My wife(I'm 27, she's 28) has over the last year developed a severe and mysterious nerve condition, and about 6 months ago she just quit her job and has been under the care of a doctor almost all of the time.
We don't sleep together any more for weeks at a time because she's either at the hospital or, when she feels like she needs to come home for me or her or why ever she tries that sometimes, it just ends up being a heart breaking experience where if I touch her it hurts. I've had to go to the bathroom and cry more than once.
I love her. We had the most perfect 4 year marriage. We were just getting ready to have kids, then it happened. It's been devastating. I don't want to talk about it any more specifically because explaining why it is so bad for her is complicated and it's just a big deal to get through in a short post limit, but it's totally changed my life. I essentially live alone, and am back to going on dates with my wife when she can. I pick her up from the hospital, get an hour with her, then she's back.
Here's the point of the post I guess. I work in a pretty social job, and I'm a good looking guy. Girls flirt with me. I gave in three weeks ago to a particularly nice older lady.
My life for the last 3 weeks has been essentially: work, go on a little date with my wife, meet the other woman for comfort. Not just sex, I'm a physical person and it has been really hard to do simple things like sleep alone without my wife. I've never initiated sex with the other woman, and I know that's entirely meaningless, but I hope it gives a little more perspective to my problem. I just need someone to be with after spending so long with a partner, and I would give anything for it to be my wife.
I don't know what to do /adv/. I have no feelings for this other woman. It's not a conflict in that kind of way. The sadness has lead me to do something I would never do under normal circumstances.
Help.
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You're selfish. Plain and simple.
See a therapist to learn to cope with your wife's illness.
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Also possibly relevant,
the other woman knows the full story. my wife obviously doesn't. This situation seems awful and inescapable and irreparable and I would probably just kill myself if there wasn't hope for my wife to recover.
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For a start stop being such a co-dependant baby. Why not stay at the hospital with your wife? Why not go out with friends? Why not start some project or pick up another hobby?
Shit nigga, you have all the time in the world and you cry about my feels and go waste time with some old hag.
She probably feels as shitty as you do. Go support your wife.
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Bf feels like fuckbuddy 2016-03-20 14:45:35 Post No.16938176
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>have somewhat ldr
>can only meet once a week
>everytime it goes down like this:
>bf comes over at around 8pm
>as soon as he's here, we fuck cause we are way too horny due to being apart for a whole week
>cuddle and talk about our week
>fuck
>fall asleep
>wake up in the morning
>fuck
>sleep some more
>shower
>he has to leave again
Don't get me wrong, i really enjoy spending our time together like that. It just feels like we have detoriated to just sleep and fuck when together. I tried to organize doing other stuff but usually we fail miserably.
All i want to know is if i should even care. Is this going to damage our relationship in any way in the future?
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I have to add that there is an end to this in sight. He will not have to be so far away anymore soon. But then he will have to work at night/very late/very early so we will see how we can work around this. He also has to do military service in summer, so basically this will continue for atleast a year.
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Enjoy it, he doesn't think it's damaging your relationship. Slowly try spending one extra day together but it has to include sex. Maybe go see a movie but hold off from him and then fuck after. He'll be so horny by the end of the movie he'll probably be cumming in his pants.
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>>16938203
We tried that. We missed half the movie kek.
Problem is that we can't spend MORE time. We can only work with what we have. We could surely manage to do other stuff in the evening. But the question is, do we HAVE to if we want this to work out?