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Okay, so this is going to be a long post but please bear with me because I am desperate. I think I'm in a bad/abusive relationship but I can't tell and I figured I'd get other people's opinions. Also, I feel completely alone and my situation kind of sucks.
So here's my situation. I currently live with my boyfriend, however, this isn't ideal. My parents just kind of kicked me out after I was at his house for a couple of days. What leads me to believe he's abusive is that he's pretty entitled, blames me for everything, I've caught him in a lie once but it wasn't really a big deal, it seems like he just lied to lie. I do everything I possibly can to make his life better/make him happier but he expects me to blow him or jerk him off twice a day. He's not working currently and I'm on unemployment, so I've been paying for basically everything. Also, he's extremely disrespectful and literally goes out of his way to annoy me just to entertain himself. I don't know what to do because I'm kind of stuck, because I have nowhere to go. He literally said my anxiety and depression were made up and told me to "get over it". Also I've lost basically all of my friends because of the situation.
I'm sorry this is so all over the place but I'm really upset and I know I'm forgetting some details but yeah, any sort of insight/advice would be helpful.
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I never understand these sorts of posts. Surely when you're writing all this out you can see the situation for yourself? Do you really need other people to spell it our for you?
Break up with him.
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>>16949550
And be homeless?
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Hey, guys, please help me? I'm desperate.
Gf was bad mouthing me and my family last night, she has a ear ache and is mad that instead of visiting her yesterday I went with my family to the ER because my mom's sugar was too high (she is diabetic). She never told me she had a ear ache I had to figure out later from her mom. She went to school this morning and should be out soon, idk how should I comfort her?
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you should dump that clingy cunt and do your homework
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My gf had this and woke up howling in the middle of the night try eardroos and a heat pack on/ around the ear. Ended up staying up all night reading to her. Just try and be supportive in other ways rather than letting her mope about it, get her mind off the pain and you will be a A+ boyfriend
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I can't right now she is already suffering and also she signed us up for this cruise and put money down
I think I have tendonitis, but it's everywhere. My shoulder, cubital pass, knuckles, ankles, knees, etc.
I'm guessing if I go into the doctor I'll get some cortisone injections. What do I do if rest, ice, and elevation don't work or aren't an option? I'm sick of being in constant pain and I want to exercise/get in shape. So what the fuck? Is it even tendonitis? Sometimes when I shower I can feel my knees bend back.
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>>16949499
> I can feel my knees bend back
Jesus Christ go to a fucking doctor
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>>16949499
> dear /adv/ sometimes i spontaneously combust how do i not go boom boom
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>>16949499
That sounds more like rheumatoid arthritis, friend. Try taking anti-inflammatories for a bit and see if it helps any.
Also go to the doctor.
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What are some creative hobbies for someone who has no artistic talent and is a broke ass student?
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playing the skin flute.
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Lol post on business or gifs section, study, pirate movies or tv shows, eat rice, clean the house, talk to old friends from hs, shower, volunteer with animal shelter, etc....
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ukulele.
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How do I embrace loneliness?
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You don't. You learn to move beyond it and find happiness being alone.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKlSVNxLB-A
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>>16949478
>find happiness being alone.
That's... that's what I was asking?
I'm sorry for another one of "these" threads /adv/, but I'm breaking down more than I have in years and feel lost
It all started on Monday, it's around 2pm and I'm just sitting on the couch with my dog and cat just content. I check my phone and I get a Facebook messenger "chat request" not having a damn clue who it is I check. What I see instantly makes the room start spinning, it's my ex from two years ago. To give a brief back history we broke up with her calling me one of the coldest men she's ever met. She deleted me from every social media form and I sank into a hole for a month before I recovered. I got over her, moved on with my life, put it all behind me. Her message is a wall of text explaining how sorry she is for hurting me and thinks of me sometimes. Then mentions that "if we met today I know it would have worked out". This freaks me out to a level I can't explain. Why is this girl telling me this two years after the fact?
Here's the next tweak part. This message occurs not even 30 minutes before my friend comes over. i tell her what just happened and how much it sacred me since we've always been close. She starts talking about her exes texting her and how funny it is. Then out of the blue she start tearing up and says she has something to tell me. I'm freaking out internally. I have no clue what she's gonna say. She's smiling slightly and just balling. She goes on to tell me that a comment I made 8 months ago about stretch marks sacres her. She has body image issues and all of sudden just tells me this. Then she tells me "I'm in love with your mind" but what I said that long ago hurts her so much. I told her I would never care what she looks like and I have feelings for her. But no matter what I've told her the last two days she seems destroyed. Like so down on herself and doesn't believe anything I tell in the sense of "it doesn't matter, you're beautiful inside and out"
What the fuck is going on guys? I feel I lost my best friend.
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Women are overemotional and you would do best to consider yourself a rock from which they can seek composure.
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>>16949467
Yes, but me and this girl are practically best friends. I feel obligated to want to help. Yes, I have deep feelings for her. But I'm not trying to play the knight in shining armor. I genuinely care about my friend and want to help her and I don't know how.
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Okay, either I had a stroke reading this, or you did writing it.
What the fuck did the first half have to do with the second? What exactly do you want advice on?
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>hook up with guy
>message him later asking to meet up again
>no response for two wks
>send annoyed msg telling him to quit being a douche and at least respond
>"sorry havent signed on in a while"
>mfw
wtf do i do now
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you get some dignity and delete him
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>>16949426
Delete him, he isn't worthy your time.
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>>16949429
Was the "havent signed on" an excuse or the truth?
No matter how productive/social/happy/whatever I force myself to be, I always end up getting really down about the fact I'm not very intelligent. I'm studying towards a degree that's too difficult for me and as a result I have a pretty intense love-hate relationship with it (I couldn't drop out even if I wanted to), as well as a daily reminder that I'm just not that clever. What's the best way of coping with this?
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I'm weird, but I doubt you're too stupid. I think you probably imagine other people have it easier and you're upset at how much work it is for you.
The valedictorian of my HS (now in med school) was a very hard working girl. She wasn't stupid, but she also wasn't smart. She just worked really hard. And it's getting her farther that my genius IQ got my college drop out ass.
Other people aren't as smart as you think.
If you can't convince yourself of that, get bitter and hate the people you think are smart and decide you're going to beat them through your superior work ethic, tortoise/hare style.
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Maybe find a career path that isn't quite so intellectually involved? Not everyone has to be a doctor or an engineer, OP. Don't try to force a square peg through a round hole.
Are you good at working with your hands? You like fixing/building things, anything like that? You'd probably be better off learning a skilled trade and trying to build a career in that. Trades can pay really, really well and they're pretty much always in demand
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>>16949250
Hard work > talent
Success comes from effort. Even if you aren't as smart as other people (which I'm not saying is the case), if you out-work them you'll out succeed them.
Keep on keepin' on, bro
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Been talking and hanging out with this girl, but for some reason im afraid to make any moves, maybe cause i really like this one and she told me that she's tired of waiting and her ex keeps constantly messaging her so im afraid here that that things might end up badly.
Gonna go hang out with her later today and 100% sure I wanna go in for the kiss, been a long time coming, but I feel like a retard now since I'll do it after she told me she is tired of waiting....
Can you give me any tips /adv/? How the fk do i do this, what do i say or should I just go for it? Dont fail me now 4chan
all tips appreciated, dont wanna end up like pic related
WILL POST HOW IT WENT LATER
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Confidence.
You having all these second guesses and doubts are gonna show up when you go in for the kiss and fuck it up for you.
Just follow the heat of the moment, get in the zone and go for it. Keep us updated man! Hoping it goes well
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>>16949242
The only doubts are obviously if I get rejected and then the situation is hella fucking awkward, but I know she likes me so will try my best.
What do I say though? All previous girls just seemed to happen naturally, but Im getting nervous with this one.. I cant just kiss her out of nowhere
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anyone else wanna help a brother out?
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so for the past few days I've been playing checkers online on the second monitor while lurking, and I can't win for shit, and that's quite infuriating, I've played around 200 games, and won like 7. How not to be a retarded player?
>inb4 muh chess
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Checkers is what's known as a "solved game," which is something you should read up on. You should then read up on the algorithms used so that you can do the same and win every single game.
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>>16949230
>I've played around 200 games, and won like 7
wow
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>>16949237
This. Fascinating to read up on.
Coursera occasionally offers a "games without chance" combinatorics class that is fun and the math involved is easy.
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Hey /adv/
Experiencing some odd symptoms which I was hoping someone could shed light on. I know this isn't the place for sound medical information but any help would be really appreciated!
During my midterm last week Thursday, I experienced an extreme onset of dizziness and shallow breathing with fuzzy vision. I couldn't make sense of any of the questions for 10 minutes due to how impaired I felt.
Upon leaving the exam room I was told I looked ghostly and pale, like I haven't slept in days, etc.
Over the weekend, I noticed my face had sunken, thinning out from the upper cheeks. In addition, my legs and back feel much less muscular. I've also noticed my hair has thinned, but not through excessive shedding.
I have no chronic illnesses and am for the most part, in the healthy range of living. I am very stressed as of lately if that may help.
I know I sound crazy right now describing symptoms occurring so acutely but I just wanted some adv, please. Thank you so much in advance
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AIDS.
I'm only half kidding.
Maybe a thyroid issue.
Go get bloodwork.
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Yeah stress can hit your body pretty hard. Had you been eating/sleeping properly around that time? Do you remember if you were drinking water that day?
If you've been feeling shitty for a couple days now and it hasn't gone away, go see a doctor for sure. But if it was just a one-time thing and you're otherwise healthy, you could chalk it up to stress and get on with your life. I've had episodes like that before. Usually exhaustion/dehydration/stress are major factors
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sounds like you had an anxiety attack
Need advice for a group project thing.
>Team of 4 including me
>One member is totally mia think he dropped out or something
>Another one works two jobs, so its hard to get a time to work with him
>The one day he was available, the third member who is upset we couldn't meet on her terms, said they were "busy all day"
>I'm pretty much free for whenever, but trying to get these two to sit down somewhere for 30 minutes is proving impossible
So member two is pretty much busy as fuck, member three is being a pain in the ass for the sake of being a pain in the ass, one is completely missing, and I'm sitting here with my dick in my hand waiting around for these retards, trying to get something started.
Its a pretty big project, which also has to be presented, next Tuesday. On top of that, I have a huge algebra test to prep for, and that is on Monday. This test essentially decides whether or not I pass the class. So I have better shit to be worrying about, and these guys are sort of wasting more and more time. On top of all this, I'm hosting my family at my place for Easter on Sunday, and I have a feeling these fuckers are going to wait last second, which just isn't going to work for me.
I'm on the verge of just throwing my hands up, and telling the professor I'm out on this project, since there are a bunch of extra cred opportunities. This is really my first group project since I started college. What do I tell the professor? Should I show up to class next week if I drop out of the project? Do I throw them under the bus?
This shit is fucking infuriating.
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You need to put your foot down and make a calculated decision, not try to make the decision disappear. People being difficult will never, ever be a free pass in life to hit the eject button and bail.
Busy Guy is available one day? That's the day you meet with him. Send What's Her Face a recap of the discussion and her responsibilities. If she's available for the next group meeting and Busy Guy isn't, do the reverse. Start making decisions instead of letting petty drama dictate your schedule. If you need clarity, it's YOUR responsibility to insist on it. Get bossy.
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Yeah I tried that, on the day busy guy wasn't available, but she was I tried to meet her but she said she wasn't going to bother unless all 3 of us were there. I said fine, lets skype it out and assign what we need to do, and she literally just said "no, I can't do this digitally, I'll just get involved doing other stuff if we don't meet".
She is honestly an idiot, and I'm getting tired of it. Busy guy would meet with me alone if/when he has time. I know for a fact he works two jobs though, so its not often he can meet.
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Honestly, I don't even know how busy guy has time to come to class. He is 23, working two jobs, goes to college full time, and is raising his son alone, with a bit of assistance from his grandmother.
Meanwhile dumb bitch is taking 2 classes and works part time and can't find the time to meet, or just flat out refuses to.
I'm about to get rejected by the 5th university I applied to, to study medicine and become a dpctor within 4 years (basisarts) in the Netherlands, after my pre-med bachelor of 3 years, and I dont know what all my options are here. I want to become a surgeon.
I have a highschool Gymnasium diploma (so can go to university directly)
I am about to graduate with honors, doing a 3-year pre-med bachelor.
I speak fluent dutch and english, and a little bit of german.
Im willing to go wherever but I also do not have much money, close to none. I can affford Holland, but not America for example. as cheap as possible...
What are my possibilities here. (worldwide).
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Hungary? The degree is accepted throughout the EU, since it's a member.
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>>16949180
I dont know the language tho, maybe there's an international university there?
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>>16949228
You can do the phycisian training both in English or German too. Most of the books they use are also available in those languages.
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I'm in college right now and I'm more of a math guy than a Language Arts/English one.
I want to ask how to get good at writing essays, everything I write is so cringe-worthy, gay and stupid.
I don't read so much on my free time so that might be why.
I know in art you usually imitate the artists or photos to get gud, is it the same with writing? Do I just need to copy down some sections of a good book or essay and will the rest come naturally?
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You don't copy down anything, idiot. That's called plagiarism. As with anything, you improve through experience and feedback.
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Are you looking just at essays? That's much easier than becoming good at creative writing, although that is also a fun and doable thing.
Copy? No. I'd say...imitate the style off. Find an author for whatever kind of thing you want to write that you like and admire. Think about what sets their writing apart. Do they write long, flowery sentences? Do they write short ones? Do they use a lot of fragments? Metaphors? Are they sarcastic sounding?
Emulate it. You'll figure out eventually what style you are best at. But I developed my fiction writing voice/style by emulation first. As far as essays go, there's a lot of good academic resources to learn about what makes a good essay, essay styles, etc that go beyond basic, uninspiring pass-the-SAT type crap.
If you're interested in fiction stuff there's whole other dimensions to consider as far as making sure your writing is "good." Lots of resources though. I have nothing to do today and I'm in a good mood so I can add to your google power if you point me in the direction of what you want. Also happy to comment on samples if you're feeling up to it.
Does your college have a writing center? Mine does. English majors here will look over my papers for free, doesn't even have to be for a class.
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Are there even majors that students can pick that allow them to not have to write papers? I'm a polisci student, so for me college has been one paper after another.
I like to crack my toes and fingers a lot. Recently my pinkie on my left foot started to hurt. I looked under the blanket and saw this. What should I do
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Go to a fucking doctor , eww man wtf
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Your toes look like fingers lel
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Looks like athlete's foot or some other sort of foot fungus.
Enormous fucking pain in the ass to deal with if you don't take care of it properly. Can spread across your foot and will cause massive peeling and cracked skin all over.
Doctor will probably prescribe you with some OTC Clotrimazole anti fungal cream.
Keep your feet dry by using some sort of talc or powder, change your socks twice a day, air out your shoes. If you go to a public gym or locker room, wear sandals at all times.
Just look up tips on how to deal with athlete's foot.