>Be 32
>Professional
>Married
>Have my shit together
>Play prop for men's rugby league
>Little sister is 20
>Kind of socially awkward
>Dating a guy, he's a good bit smaller than me
>He's over at my parent's house for dinner
>Sister and her bf gets into it over god knows what
>He slaps her
>Big brother mode kicks in
>Grab his collar from behind to pull him off balance, hard hook to the base of the jaw from behind, kick him once while he's down
>Warn him not to stand up
>He stands up like he's going to square off
>Physically remove him from the house
>Guy gets hurt but he'll live, nothing he'd need a hospital for
>I'll admit it looks worse than it is because cuts on the forehead bleed
>I feel like I acted appropriately
>My sister is calling me a bully
>My mother thinks I overreacted
>My wife is staying out of it
>My father is thinks I "put my future at risk"
Should I have played it differently? Little cunt slapped my sister in my parent's house, that needs to be nipped in the bud, right?
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Nah, fuck it, man. I'd do the same for my little sisters and I'm a fucking twig. Respect.
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>>16990082
Thats what I'm saying. Its not like I pistol whipped the teeth out of him or raped him in the front yard.
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Won't be the last time so I'd suggest a more thorough warning next time involving tears and begging
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something we cannot explain to you.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships.
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
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A girl who I think is interested in me told me she is pansexual. She described to me what this means but I didn't really get it. Can someone (from either gender I guess) help me understand this/give me some tips on how to approach a pansexual girl?
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Your sex
Your age
How many sexual partners have you had?
Are you happy with it?
Why or why not?
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Hi ladies, my name is chad. What do you think about my name? It's a meme now, and sometimes when I'm banging a couple chicks i sit back and think about how mean the chad meme is, and it hurts my feelings.
What do girls honestly think of me? Am I just another notch on your purse handle? It's not fair... I'm so sick of netflix and chill turning into a group orgy. Sometimes I just wanna discuss the pathagorean theorem or watch ted talks, but every time I try, she starts unzipping my pants.
and why does every girl wanna be my cornhole partner everytime i go to the alehouse? I'm not even that good...
ladies?
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I'm slowly turning into a complete shut-in, /adv/, and it's because of college, of all possible reasons.
Greentexting my recent history:
>used to be social butterfly
>constantly went out & shit
>college started (havent switched cities for it or anything)
>everybody's already acquainted with eachother because of common housing
>i live at home and spend 2h for daily go+return commute
>can't find common ground with college mates
>time is always an issue
>avalanche of homework
>now I barely have time for my old friends
>Every day is: wake>class>gym>homework>sleep
How do I into socialising again? The only thing keeping me from becoming a complete shut-in is the fact that (thankfully) my pc is so shit that it can't run any games lol.
>pic related is my personality profile
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>>16991230
I understand, mate, I have type ENTP-T and I've gone through similar.
I used to be social, and I was told by 4chan that it would get friends if I had confidence and social skills. Everyone I spoke to seemed to loathe me for it, because I was in a tumblrina crowd. Unfortunately.
I didn't succeed, the failure and their words hurt as I never really insulted back, and I let it push me into being more of a shutin than ever, since I do have a computer that can run games from my new job's hire bonus.
My only advice is: Don't go down my path, keep trying to find people, resist the pull to being a recluse.
It's challenging because of your schedule, but you could consider taking less credits next term and using the spare time to join an on-campus activity/club.
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Everyone makes friends in college because it is so easy.
You on the other hand fucked yourself as you have 1h commute each way.
You have to make friends when you share 2 stoves with 16 people ha.
Group classes are great for friends but that is an upper 3 or 4 years.
You'll be need to get involve d in a club or something as well
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>>16991230
>extroverted personality traits
>complete shut-in
Pick one, OP.
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Alright guys I just found out that I'm pregnant.
I'm on the pill and I'm on the last brown one and it still hasn't come so I'm pregnant.
I live in Texas and I know the laws were changed recently but im not sure how it'll affect me. Also keeping it isn't an option because there's no way me or my boyfriend can take care of a kid right now.
Does anyone know how I can find someone to perform an illegal back alley abortion? Its either that or risk getting parsley toxicity/seriously damaging my already shit kidneys because if I can't find anything, I'm just going to use a crap Internet guide to abort.
Also any recommended abortion guides are welcomed...
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>>16990777
Nice bait friend
Use the googler. here, spoonfeed:
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If you don't want it, just give it up for adoption. If you and your boyfriend are white then you can probably find someone to adopt it before it's even born.
>inb4 BUT THERE ARE SO MANY KIDS THAT NEED HOMES
yeah but guess what most people only want to adopt babies and they sell like hotcakes if they're white
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>>16990812
Not gonna happen
I may not want this kid but I don't want to give my baby to a pair of strangers
>>16990806
ok?
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I'm 23 years old
For the first time in my life I'm seriously considering antidepressants and would just like to get some input.
I've been depressed for about 2-3 years now and severely depressed for around the last 6 months.
I can't relax, I can't focus, I don't enjoy doing any of the things I used to enjoy and I never look forward to things anymore.
I'm in great physical health, I run a lot and don't have many bad habits.
I never wanted to take antidepressants because I felt like it was a bad way to deal with my problems but I've talked with a therapist and he says some of the lowrisk ones he recommended are nonaddictive, can reduce my anxiety and help me focus and thus be more productive. My biggest fear is if I start them now I'll never want to go off but I've never taken them so I don't know if this is bs or not.
If anyone of you have or had experience taking them I'd love to hear your input.
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Usual disclaimer here
>Not in medical industry blah blah, so don't take this as profesional advice.
Anyways, I've had lexapro (SSRI anti-depressant), for me it just made me feel numb to the world. Anti-depressants don't solve your problem, they may help in the short term however.
For me, I came to the conclusion that - they werent helping, and it has been reported that the longer you take it, the harder it is to quit it (as soon as you start tapering off the medication, your body goes into withdrawal mode and feels bloody horrible and gets depressed and everything).
If you think you really, REALLY need it, then take it - but personally I would take a long hard look to see if there isn't anything else you can do to address the problems that you have - I still have my problems, but the anti-depressants didn't solve them - thats up to me.
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>>16990544
its going to be a month before it will work you should just tell us why youre sad instead
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Don't do it, these drugs are made to keep you buy more and they will make it harder for you to ever truly be free from depression challenge yourself, be it physically, mentally or both, find something you like doing, something you might nearly consider as fun in your depressed state and do that, become the best at it, and become better than that still. Achieving things is a great way to feel better. For me it was always martial arts, because there will always be a better fighter than you and it will always leave room for improvement, always something else I had to work on to get better. Find whatvit is that does that for you, inspires you to yo want to be just a bit better and in time your depression will be little more than a memory
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My medication just isn't working enough anymore. The pain continues to get worse and worse. The pain of who I am in this life is just swallowing me whole. I'm tired of struggling with my illness. I'm tired of being everyone (Including my boyfriend's) last resort. I'm tired of trying to initiate conversations with people and being treated as tool. I'm tired of always breaking down and crying. Why must I continue to stumble down this hole of despair and regret. Have I truly worked up bad karma in life to where I can't have the basic necessity of companionship and love?
My psychiatrist just continues to increase my dosages and give me different medications. He doesn't want to hear it.. it's not his job. My psychologist always derails our conversations so it benefits him. He tells me to do basic things I'm already trying. I feel like every door I open lies something inside that's meant to keep me in this state. It's gotten to the point to where my best dreams are dreams of suicide. Of finally having the power to end the pain. Finally having the power to say goodbye. I don't even care if hell exists at this point. I'd rather be a slave there than here. At least everyone will be slaves together without rest or relaxation...
I wanted to ask for advice, but I'm not even a person who could take advice. I have two separate medical professionals and I haven't even begun to fill the slightest better. I've read their shitty new mood therapy book from Carl Burns too. Please... let me die.....
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I can't give much advice here, I know depression and all that jazz can be shitty. But what else is shitty is that we have countless humans being guinea pigged around on different medications, dosages and other medications to counteract the side effect of their other medications. What you're describing is your medication not working, obviously and no more than that, and i'd find a new psychiatrist, therapy or new methods of coping. Plenty of people feel this way.
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Once your psychiatrist gets the right mix and dosage of medications you'll feel much better.
Your brain chemistry is off. Your brain is working against you. Your psychiatrist is trying to fix this. It takes a bit of time, but once you have it, it's much easier to tweak when your brain chemistry shifts again.
You don't have to chin up. Just keep plodding forward. At some point, despite how you feel now, you'll be in a much better place.
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>>16990366
I agree here. What I wish I had known when i started with therapy and psychiatry is that you don't always get the perfect fitting therapist and psychiatrist right off the bat.
You have to find one that is a personal fit for YOU.
Does this look like something that needs medical attention?
I have it at the back of both of my legs and it itches like satan's asshole sometimes.
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>>16990118
What the hell is it?
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Yep. Apply antihistamine cream in the meantime.
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>>16990120
I have no idea. Been there for like two weeks now. It itches.
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So I have a hairy back and shoulders and I want to get rid of it, I heard waxing it off is the best way to get rid of it long term but I have a few questions about waxing.
>Is it considered unmanly to wax?
>How bad does it hurt?
>How many times would you normally have to go there to get rid of it over and over?
>Is it expensive? Or better yet how much is it normally?
Also any general waxing advice is appreciated
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I'd advise you to try waxing at home on your arms to see how you tolerate the pain, then if you're good to really look into your area on yelp/google to find the most reliable (clean, near, friendly) but most inexpensive. Overall it may not be as bad as $200. Also groupon it
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>>16990143
holy shit 200? I was gonna guess like 50, damn man thats alot. Also idk about waxing my arms at home I dont want to fuck it up and make it look bad, what I do want is to trim it down alot since i am very hairy
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>>16990115
>is it considered unmanly to wax
does it matter? i hate when people ask these stupid questions. groom yourself to whatever degree you deem necessary. it is a back after all you arent going to have guys lining up feeling it and saying 'ohhh do you wax anon? you're such a faggot, real men have back hair trolololol'
>how bad does it hurt
you know how sometimes ripping a bandaid or tape off your arm hurts. imagine that, but instead its your entire back, and its ALL the hair not just being tugged but being ripped out.
>is it expensive
idk, it kinda depends how much your hair grows back. expensivei s relative. its an expense. its hard to do on your own cuz its a back.
my advice? dont bother. its a back. it is already the least sexual part of the human body regardless of gender. its like worrying about your toes. sure it'd be BETTER a certain way, but it doesnt really matter. ur not the one getting fucked doggy style after all
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Quick question /adv/. I had a good group of friends (friends since like middle school). We had a falling out about 4 years ago. I was going through a lot of shit and was a big needy dick. I ran into one of them at a concert, and we decided we wanted to stay hanging out again. I've done a lot of changing over the years.
So far, I've may back up with and reconnected with 3 out of the four guys. We're all cool, it was like i never fucked up. Good shit.
Fast forward to tonight. They're all at a bar down the street, and they asked if i wanna go. I said yeah, and one of them texted me and said that the fourth guy (let's call him K) said "If i see anon (me) I'm going to leave".
So i didn't go. I'm gonna go hang out with work friends. But i wanted to see my old group of friends. I really didn't want to cause any drama though.
Did i do the right thing? Or should i have went and is it "his problem"?
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What did you do 4 years ago?
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it seems to me that they universally agreed you were the problem in the last circumstance. so if you had shown up and said 'thats his problem' or just gave that vibe, it would have just been selfish. you did something wrong, you know you did, and you cant expect everyone to forgive you just because the others did.
you did somethign wrong, so instead of just expecting forgiveness, reach out and try to make amends to him specifically, see what can happen.
what did you do by the way?
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>>16989980
He let everyone fuck his (at the time) girlfriend regularly. She decided she liked me better. Shit was weird.
I guess i should just hang back when he is with them. That sucks. But ok.
/adv/, how do you make a girl become your sex slave willingly? Or failing that, how to get a BJ?
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Social skills
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>>16989735
It's more fun when they are not willing
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I find that giving her 10 or so orgasms in a single session tends to work well.
More generally, the goal is to send her into subspace. But that's tough to pull off without using some form of BDSM, and if you were doing that then you wouldn't be asking this question. An epic string of orgasms is the next easiest.
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/adv/, I am wondering about something:
Is Quadrosexuality a thing? I heard it from my friend and she said that it was-is it true?
And if it IS a thing, what is it?
/lgbt/ is not answering about this, so I need your help...
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>>16989601
Does that mean you only are interested in quadrilaterals
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Sounds like bullshit.
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I don't know me and my friend got into this debate.
I never heard about it, so...
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is being content with yourself without being in a relationship a real thing? are you happy by yourself or do you feel alone without a gf /adv/?
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I'm not in a relationship and am completely satisfied with this arrangement, though I am admittedly somewhat excited about the prospect of dating once I start school again in the fall.
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I've been single for 3 years (but I've been seeing girls off and on) but most of the time I've been alone. I've recently come to terms with being alone, like half a year ago. I think it comes from prioritizing other things in my life - like finding a new job and finding new things that make me happy. It's a lot easier. I am kind of seeing someone right now though, but I think being alone for so long has helped me gain clarity about myself so I can be a better person about dating.
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You need to be perfectly content with yourself, before you can be with anyone else.
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To those who have SOs or are seeing somebody, how did your meet your somebody?
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>>16989496
We lived in the same dorm at university. We were friends for a little while, she chased me for a year while I chased someone else, and we eventually got together.
>Spoiler: We've been married for thirteen years and have two kids
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>>16989515
I think that's so cool.
My ma and dad lived in the same tiny village in SE Asia and when I asked my ma how they met, she said it was inevitable that they would meet and eventually marry.
I on the other hand, I'm kind of seeing someone and I met this girl by chance at a concert while inebriated.
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I heard there must be something badly wrong with a woman if she can't even get anyone from tinder to meet her for coffee or a drink. I match with a fair amount of guys, I do small talk about whatever, but they never ask me out. On those occasions when I gather my courage and ask if they're free on the weekend, they don't respond. One guy messaged me actively for several days until I said I don't really use facebook, at which point he stopped.
I know it sounds ridiculous, but this is hurting my already low self-esteem. I installed tinder to meet new people and I can't even do that, yet I keep hearing women have it so easy. Am I that ugly or boring?
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That's my profile pic. I'm bad at taking pictures, but I didn't think it's THAT ugly. But what do I know
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>>16989434
you're pretty plain but you're white and normal looking with pretty eyes. you should be fine.
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Inconsiderate asshole or just cucked?
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>Been dating my GF for a year
>We're both 21 and virgin
>Known each other since junior high
>She's never had a BF but in high school made out with several guys and had a friend with whom she discovered herself sexually (father she went was a titjob)
>Never did it because she wanted "feelings involved"
>Had a GF but was really shy and made very clear sex was off the table
>She never liked the idea of intimacy but she always tried to make it up
>Broke up when college started
>Stay single for a while and start dating this girl
>Expect that everything would be great since we've know each other for a long time
>Finally get a moment of privacy
>Try to get her in the mood
>She's told in the past about the thing she liked with other guys
>She really enjoys it
>She get to spend the night at my place
>Try to go further
>Always stops me
>Try talk to about it with her
>Says she's really into me but there's something that traumatized me
>Tells me that before we started dating she went to a friend's alone one day
>Got really drunk and wakes up naked or her friend's couch
>Panicked and went to the doctor to see if she was raped
>Turns out she wasn't
>Says that's the reason she can't stand the idea of having sex
>Feel like an asshole for trying to push her
>Time goes by and she starts avoiding intimacy with me
>Talk to her and says I'm trying to push her
>Explain that I don't feel like it but explain that she hasn't taken my needs or expectations into account at all
>Says she's sorry and we agree to take things slow but try to be more intimate
>Comes to my place
>We are having a good time watching a movie
>Go out three minutes to make popcorn
>She's asleep as a rock
>Don't say anything and go to sleep
>Remember the fact that before we started dating she felt very comfortable about her sexuality and also the things she's done with other guys and get angry
>Also remember the story she told me and feel like a dick for not being able to understand her situation
>Don't know what to do.
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Your anger at her past experiences is understandable but not justified. I bet she would like to be that sexually open person again, too.
Having said that, wanting more intimacy IS very justified. I'd just bite the bullet and open up a conversation about it where you focus on at least wanting to make progress - if she can't do that by cuddling up more or kissing you spontaneously than by couple's counseling or individual counseling to help her get over this experience - for the relationship to withstand.
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You're thinking way too much about your "needs and expectations".
That line right there exposes you as a huge asshole. I hope you didn't say that to her, especially after she opened up to you about an experience that left her feeling scarred.
If you're so caught up on your needs, than leave her and let her find another person that can actually understand her and support her, because you ain't cutting it dude.
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>goes to male friend's house
>gets drunk
>expects that everything will be 100% platonic
>wakes up naked
>immediately assumes that she was raped
This is not a girl that you want in your life, OP. She makes bad decisions and then blames other people for them. Right now she is blaming you.