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>>17089470
>I don't think I have any intention of ever marrying her

This is a very good reason.

This is the time of life when you should be finding a person to marry.

She either
A) thinks you're going to get married, in which case you're doing her a huge favor in breaking this news to her ASAP
B) thinks you're not going to get married, in which case a breakup is probably something she's planning on at some point as well

Do it m88

You should have a reason to stay with someone, not the other way around. People seem to believe they NEED to be in a relationship, even if they have no real emotional investment in it. The truth is there's absolutely nothing wrong with being single until you find a reason to be with someone

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Well, what is it that you really want?

If you're looking for long-term commitment with an eye towards a traditional marriage, you've already given the most important reason to end the relationship: there's no future there for you two.

If you're just bored, that's OK, too. Ultimately, if you can't give a full commitment or aren't letting your gf know that you're not feeling a strong desire to stay together, it's a pretty solid form of dishonesty to withhold that from her. She deserves to be with someone who truly wants to be with her, just as you do.

But don't frame it as you doing something for her- be manly and honest and gentle with her. If she's not expecting this, it'll probably suck for her, but it would suck more for you to be dishonest about it.

I'd suggest taking a minute and really taking inventory about what you want out of her, and out of life, and out of sharing it with someone. "I don't know" is a legit answer, and it doesn't mean that you should choose to stay with her, if that's not what you want.

Chances are, you already know what you need to do, and are looking for support or justification; forget it. You need to own your decisions, OP. And good luck. Listen to that little voice inside you.

This is a blue board, asshole

>>17089467
lol such a simple yet effective pun

>>17089467
That's hardly a NSFW image.

Well, she was under the influence of behaviour altering substances, but there's usually a grain of truth in them. It's quite possible

>>17089448
which*

why didnt you just drop everything to trip with her?
lsd with a special lady is otherwordly

It's easy if he doesn't live with you. Just send the poor fuck a quick text.

cut his balls

>>17089416
Fuck his dad. Works every time.

rich in a 3rd world country
no its not as bad as people say, laws are just more relaxed so corruption is rampant
people is so friendly though

>South Korea
>3rd world

kys

Why don't you post this on /int/? It doesn't belong on /adv/.

Why not OP?

How much did you pay that prostitute?

>>17089308
I smoke, drink, and punch walls. Not that it fixes anything. Feels good in a fleeting kind of way, though.

Talking about parsely at work with a temp on a break. He pulls out his and looks up facts about parsely. One of them is that massive quantities of parsely can cause miscarriage. Pregnant woman nearby gets offended and tells my boss. I received a reprimand. I have never seen that temp again, and we ALWAYS have temps around.

Yeah, that sounds pretty ridiculous. What advice are you looking for?

>>17089265

Her:
>I'm jewish
Me:
>Do you mean that in the religious way or the hereditary way?
Her:
>What the fuck is that supposed to mean?
Me:
>Well there's the whole Jewish set of religious laws, but there's also Jewish ancestry related to Abraham and so on
Her:
>bristling subsides, she still doesn't answer question

Now I know that 99% of the time when someone says they are Jewish then unless they are wearing the goofy hat they are talking about heredity and don't know shit/give a shit about the Jewish faith. At least here in America. So I don't bother asking.

You do things, regardless of what excuse you come up with to procrastinate. And you keep doing things, until it becomes habbit. If you can't do that, you're fucked. The brain wants to be lazy, working is hard and it would rather not. You either accept that not wanting to do something/putting it off isn't a vaild excuse ever, or you keep being lazy. Most people stay lazy, but as a spoiler productivity is the trick to life. Brains, looks, skills can all be nearly zero, if you can actually work hard and not be lazy, you can get almost anything you want.

>>17089256
You fucking torture yourself into doing it. No other way around it. You yell at yourself. Curse. Beat yourself until you learn.

Do it.

I've been on 4chan for about 8 years and went from young lazy fag to ambitious career driven individual. Part of the desire to well personally came from a fear of not being like my parents, another is the fact that we're only alive once so fuck, might as well spend our time productively. It happens gradually but over time your inclinations will change and you'll actually dislike loafing around excessively.

To get started I recommend reading more, and nailing down goals you want to accomplish- in the very short, short, and long term

What kind of things do you normally talk about?

Does your brain just trail off thinking about something else?

>>17089249

instead of saying 'yeah' you are supposed to first volunteer more information on the subject, then ask a question.

if they are trying to invest as much as you are, they do the same. if not, its okay to call it quits imo.

>BUT ANON I ALREADY KNOW THATI JUST LOSE TRACK OF IT AND SAY YEAH INSTEAD

nothing we can do to help that.

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>>17089249
I have that problem as well.
It began recently.
Along with some other problems.
And yeah, it's frustrating as hell. I want to talk to people, I just seem to have lost the ability.

Does a conversation with you sound like pic related?

>>17089232
>walking down the street
>see two asian qts
>they see me
>they literally turn around and run away
WHY

>>17089232
Anxiety. Creates stress. And gives your heart pain and heaviness

>>17089232

I used to get that sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, I write it off to unrequited lust. I would always get triggered by girls with fine asses wearing those tight little cotton shorts that had stuff written on the butt, those really hit the streets while I was in college back in 2005 or so, and yes I'm an oldfag, now I have a lovely wife with a fine ass so I don't get bent out of shape as much anymore.

>>17089227

It wouldn't hurt to check on her to make sure she's ok. A random act of kindness might be what she needs right now.

Police non emergency number, ask for a welfare check. They'll knock on the door and talk to her a bit.

>>17089241

If the police showed up while I was grieving I would tell them to get the fuck out.

Your gf is a cuck, get rid of her

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Swinger's club. They're awesome. My wife and I go sometimes to watch people fuck and for us to fuck other women together.

>>17089186
get friends that like drugs, there always the type to be around threesomes

>>17089146
If you really wanted to marry her, the fact that she has 'let herself go' shouldn't be a deal breaker.
Also, how old are you?

>gf gets THICK
>this is somehow a bad thing
Kill yourself my man

>>17089151
>the fact that she has 'let herself go' shouldn't be a deal breaker.

Fuck off. Come back when you have standards.

>>17089110
Pic is semi-related

My god man, you're not a robot. Dress how you normally dress, if it looks good, drink responsibly to loosen up and just have fun

Step 1: feel good about yourself. You got invited so someone thinks you're worth having around for FUN.
Step 2: make yourself fresh for the party
Step 3: go to the party with the intent to have a good time.
Step 4: have a good time!

Addendum: ask the host or whoever invited you of you should bring anything to the party. Usually your own drinks.

I would just stick it out instead of it showing up on your credit history for not paying. How much is it? 10-20$ a mo nth?

>>17089123
It's £40 which is around $60 I believe. I don't get paid as much as I did since I changed jobs so now it takes a chunk out of my pay every month which is a hassle.

I'm not overly concerned with my credit score since it's been excellent so far and I always make sure to pay but just not this time.

>>17089147

Shit. In that case yeah, I would stop paying. Not sure if that's a good deal or not where you're at but if the issue is that you can't afford it then I think you should save your money/spend it on more important things than the gym. Obviously the gym won't want to hear that but i would do it anyways. I would first TELL a manager that I'm going to stop coming because I can't afford it whether they like it or not. They might possibly give you some kind of exit path or discount and if not well you're not asking their permission.