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its natural

Why don't you just have an open relationship? I don't get why you wouldn't just bring it up.

I wish my boyfriend would allow it. He is kind of not very sexual and I am very sexual, I need more than calculated sex...

>>17103823
Here's the thing OP.
Every one has thoughts like yours in long term relationships.
Acting on those thoughts is what makes you shitty.
If you love her, and you're monogamous- don't do it. You'll hate yourself.

>>17103811
Accept your loss. Remind yourself that's it's better that it happened now then 10 years down the road when you have kids and a mortgage. Understand that what he did wasn't your fault. Grieve, accept and move on. There's really nothing else you can do unfortunately. Learn from it, would be my biggest advice. Don't let it make you bitter or resentful.

What do u need help with? It sounds like that this will be a learning experience and you gave the relationship more time but it didn't do well. Time to get over the guy, it will suck. But it will be over, and you can focus back on your life.

>>17103811
Shit happens. It's going to hurt for a long time. Try not to do anything stupid. Focus on your life and your goals. It'll hurt less over time. Then move the fuck on with your life. If you wanna cry or scream go cry or scream. If you wanna punch something go to a gym and beat the shit out of a bag. Feel the feelings as they come but always hold on to the idea that you'll get through it before too long and focus on something, a project, a goal, to help you get through it.

Yup it's that simple. It's not easy. It's gonna hurt like fuck. But there's no magic cure type answer. That's all there is to be done about it.

You know she probably leaves early because she has somewhere to be, right?

>>17103808
*local man arrested for sexual assault on campus...*

sounds good to me, go for it anon

>>17103804
Yeah, you learn to control your impulses you fucking monkey. If you can't, seek help.

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You can't stop because you're addicted to the dopamine being released by your brain as a reward for you looking at things you find appealing. Why do YOU think it's creepy? I bet you just think it's creepy because you've been told so many times, and take their opinion for the truth.

I oogle the women I want, whenever I want.
If they have a problem with it, they can go ahead and fuck off. Or they can come complain to me about it, and I will calmly tell them why their opinion is worth jack shit.

>>17103809
When girls will stop only wearing booty shorts or tights.

Either the chemistry is there or it's not.

>>17103776
Don't make small talk. Talk about things you actually care about and are interested in. The whole point of conversation with a new potential partner is to get to know each other better. That doesn't happen with small talk. There are things you are interested in, things you know about, things you can talk about for days, and there are things you want to know about her, so talk about that. The big talk.

>>17103776
The more you practice the better you get at it. Just talk to more girls in general even though you don't like them it will help you get your skills up

Don't seek revenge, just end the relationship- you already don't trust her. Stop wasting your time and GTFO.

she swore up and down she didn't do anything and she's had other chances to have sex and turned them down (one girl) but I don't know what to believe. 3 years ago we broke up and she fucked another guy the next day and we got back together and a couple months later I found a fwb on Craigslist and I fucked her for like 6 months while we were dating as revenge so I'm kind of just as bad but I stopped a while ago.

>>17103758
>technically not dating

Case dismissed.

>>17103757
Wtf is wrong*

my name is Brad and I have no friends

>>17103757
2 cool 4 u.
fuck em.
not worth your time.

You should like....
tell HER about it.

>>17103670

o dude i tried. Total meltdown. Wasn't enjoyable at all. Started crying, begged me to "not be sick of her" or something. Made me feel real bad. Manipulative as fuck dude.

>>17103673
Hmm. Seems as though you've stuck your dick in crazy.
Buy the ticket take the ride.
I would try talking to her more... beyond that you're pretty fucked.

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>>17103659
Not soon enough

>>17103649
What's the rush? We all die eventually, might as well enjoy the ride while you're here.

>>17103639
find some gay boi to bang and move on. Trying to convert a straight person gay will only damage your friendship and possibly reputation.

I'm so sick of gay men liking me. I'm not gay, fucking stop it. Lost my best friend, I thought I could trust him, I talk about girls with him. He told me he's not gay. One day sleeping over at his place he started hugging me and trying to touch my dick. Since we're best friends, I tried really hard to put things to normal, but I can't. Barely talk with him anymore. Wouldn't have cared if he was gay or not. But I felt that my feelings have been betrayed. He knew I was straight but pulled that shit on me. I felt I've been deceived and somehow lied to. If you can, just tell him you're gay. Any good person wouldn't care. Don't start touching them out of the blue.

>>17103689
Welcome to what women deal with daily.
Scumbag sneaky-Pete bullshit.

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smoke some chronic weed for your chronic pain.
>inb4 DUDE WEED LMAO
just try it, and start with an indica dominant strain

>>17103634
>>17103634
>>17103634
way ahead of you on that one. it really does help when I can get it but I live with an ex cop right now so I have to be really careful, and I can't get it too often.

appreciate the tip about the strain though, I'll try that next time I have the opportunity.

fucking hell no idea why that triple happened but whatever

>>17103581
Think about the long term- if you can put up with her bullshit and get a free place to live it's probably worth it.
If you do stay, get out as soon as you can- she sounds abusive as fuck.
Typical controlling behavior on her part- she wants you to be vulnerable and depend on her so she can control and manipulate you. It's a power thing, makes them feel good.
Dealt with this sort of bullshit with multiple women. They all turn into complete nut jobs once they get comfortable around you.
It's a behavior thing that's extremely common in men too. People are fucked.
Good luck OP.

>>17103581

>Bothers me she has no trust
>Nudes from another girl

Moving in together in the midst of all of this?
Have you guys talked about having an open relationship? Works for some people. You don't seem too upset about her sexting. And this way you could do what you want on the side.

leave, there's literally nothing else to say

I tried brushing them off, but then, my roommate (who is also friends with her because of me), told me that he was upset with how I had handled the situation with her.

I was upset, but I don't like operating on heresay, so the next day I asked to talk with my boss after work again. I asked her if there was something wrong, as I'd gotten the vibe that there was, and she told me that she took what I said (that I would be willing to take legal action against the company) as me wanting her to lose her job. She then told me that our friendship was "tenuous at best".

again, in an attempt to not mess this up any more, I told her that I just wanted to know what was going on, and that I would try and get a hold of her later to talk about it.

As of today, a month later, I have tried to contact her 4 times outside of work (2 skype messages a week apart, then 2 text messages a week apart), simply asking to talk with her about it. I even asked her at work if she'd been getting my messages, to which she replied that she never saw the skype messages and saw I'd texted her but didn't have a chance to look at it. Over the last few days, I have specifically seen her on her phone texting and skyping my roommate, and have even heard him talking about talking to her on skype and through text, so I know she hasn't "not seen them".

I don't know what to do from here. She's someone I consider a close friend, and she won't even talk to me. She's judging me for words and intentions that I didn't say or have, and it pisses me off. I've lost sleep, making me grumpy at work because I can't get this out of my mind. I don't want to talk to her about it at work while we're working, because it's often way too busy, making anything but small talk a misery.

Can you suggest anything I should do or be doing?

>>17103572
That sucks bro, you should have really demanded to speak with the "higher-ups" about that, especially if you were prepared to threaten legal action. Either way, you should have at least given her an opportunity to resolve the issue before you threatened her. Ultimately though, she probably wasn't much of a friend if she was willing to let you get keelhauled like that.

You've learned a lesson: don't be too close to someone who's your boss. Sorry.

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>>17103558
i do actually need your gender though. i have to compile stats from both genders and need to see which likes french fries more

>from 1-5 how often do you eat potatos
>no frame of reference or time frame given
>just a completely subjective scale of 1-5
OP I think you need to relearn how surveying works.

>>17103477
male or female ?

>>17103477
>ex was a fatty
>you have to live with the reality that he is imagining her while doing anything sexual with you
>you're losing to a fatty because you fail at the most basic of sex mechanics

Hahaha oh wow, I hope you have a good career planned out, because life is going to be hard for you.

>>17103479
both, obviously

>>17103482
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