Hey,
I was gonna live the basic life in a Van for a few years, and park/sleep in it in a GF's backyard over night's for safety, instead of on the streets, and head out to work each day.
I'm a recovering alcoholic, got 6 years sober coming up in June, and I just found out my GF is letting people drink at her place. I spoke to her about it being a problem for me, and she said its not her problem. Which I thought sucked but its her place, so what ever.
I am not sure I'd be comfortable living in a Vehicle on the streets, with NO friends who's backyards I can stay at, cause they all drink.
Right now I can not think of a solution other than ditching the Van Life to save money plan, stay in rental housing, and forget about saving for my own Land before I'm too old to enjoy it.
comments and suggestions welcome.
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>>17104269
Make yourself a tiny house. I can't imagine trying to live in a space I couldn't even stand up straight in.
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park it in nice residential neighbouroods, secluded like next to a park so theres not much traffic through
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Mainly commenting to say well done on being sober for so long, anon, im sure its not easy.
However, I wouldnt give up on the van life just yet, could maybe ask on some online trading sites or the council or something if anyone would be willing to let you park on thier land?
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How tf do I get a girlfriend, I've been single for a long ass time and its boring not having someone to talk to. Any advice???
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Please tell me that pic isn't you.
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Go outside for starters. Interact with people. Be social.
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>>17104256
Leafy is beefy
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The following is what I consider worthy information. It is general advice, which I would love to know as early in life as possible. They're my personal opinion and I expect many people to not agree with me on various topics. They are not sorted.
- Sleep at least seven and a half hours.
- Create a pre-sleep routine, including wearing glasses that block blue light and meditation.
- Restrict eating any sugars, grains, beans, legumes, seed oils i.e. the primal diet.
- Don't do chronic cardio.
- While weight lifting, perform the exercises in a single set and until you can't do a single one with a good form. Choose the weight so you can do between 4 and 20.
- Sprint at least a couple of times weekly for 10~30 seconds.
- Walk few kilometers every day.
- Read and understand the labels of every cosmetic product that you plan on using. Dismiss if possible any fragrance. For reference use a cosmetic ingredients database.
- Don't eat great looking fruits and vegetables because it's likely that they're GMO. Pick from the farmer's market the ugliest looking produce which is fresh.
- Eat everything home-made if possible.
- Supplement with fish oil, vitamin D and multivitamins.
- Instead of reading books, listen to the audio version while driving or working.
- Read/listen to "The four agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.
- Read/listen to "The power of now" by Eckhart Tolle.
- Read/listen to "The seven habits of highly efficient people" by Stephen R. Covey.
- Read/listen to "Getting things done" by David Allen.
- Read/listen to "Things I wish I'd known before we got married" by Gary D. Chapman.
- Read/listen to "Good calories bad calories" by Gary Taubes and "Grain brain" by Kristin Loberg and David Perlmutter also "The vegetarian myth" by Lierre Keith
- Read/listen to "Think and grow rich" by Napoleon Hill.
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- Be confident. The opinion of others about you is not what defines you.
- Demolish your ego.
- Know the flaws of your character and your personal problems. Learn more of those from the people around you. Analyze those flaws, explain the reasons behind them and define each solution and the relations between them. Try to fix as many as you can and find a way to work towards solving the rest.
- Don't fall in love with a partner, with which you didn't have sex with.
- If you're sure you've found your life-mate, do everything in your abilities to make it work.
- Learn how to learn.
- Train your reading speed. It's not only useful for books. Articles, forums and almost anything on the web is written.
- Improve yourself in any way you can think of.
- Make few good friends from the same gender as you.
- Avoid aggression when possible but be ready to go to extremes for the right reasons.
- Don't share your time with people that you don't deem deserve it.
- Civilization is a virtue. Use all technologies available to you while having in mind their impact on your health.
- Don't always make no-risk choices and don't try to live a perfect life, because that way you miss on all the good imperfect bits (which are almost all of it).
- Make yourself a vision board. It'll come true only because when you're faced with a life changing choice you'll know what to do.
- Pick a mentor for each stage of your life: primary school, gymnasium, university, work, family.
- Find out the essence of your life and leave all unnecessary things out of it to avoid clutter in any aspect. I learned that from Leo Babauta.
- Prepare to die. Be ready for it so it could be any moment now and you can feel fulfilled within.
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Excuse me for posting this again, but I forgot to mention in the topic something important. This is also me:
>>17093781
In it I say that I made a site with those advice without ads or anything I want in return. In the site I share some more advice and there are added links to sources. There is also my story of how hard it is to share your thoughts with many people. The site is:
iwth86 wix com/advice
By editing the advice list I answered the two people's comments from the second topic:
>>17101186
So If someone could remove those two topics from archive and add only this one, I'd be very thankful.
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I have some things to add.
-Wear sunscreen.
-Put aside a little bit of money to treat yourself every once in a while.
-Don't lose weight too quickly, your skin will sag.
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Why is it that marriage appears to still be so important to the large majority of women in society? While inversly it seems that a growing propotion of the male population share a view that getting married is less than neccasary. It seems this is leading to greater clashes of views and interests in dating society.
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Stop!
HES USING LOGIC!
Someone stop him!
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Women don't give a fuck about marriage. What they care about is a wedding. Big difference desu senpai.
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Because marriage is generally a very bad idea for men. Along with having children in most cases. We tend to pick pretty shitty women for copulating with, which is why its better to just avoid women all together, unless you are just trying to get your dick wet. Best thing to do just masturbate.
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My coworker, a 30yo married man, is into me, when i revealed that i was bisexual over some after work drinks and he said he was curious but never tried anything, and now hes like buying me anime that ive always wanted to see and stuff like that, he totally wants my dick.
Should i go for it? Or nah, im 21
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no, he is too old and too married. I'm 30 and it makes me real sad to type that, but yeah.
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>>17104125
Hes buying me stuff though and i havent exactly told him to stop, i kinda feel obliged to suck him off at least
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>>17104118
It wouldn't hurt to get more free shit.
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Will I get fat and lazy as fuck if I take antidepressants? Life makes no sense, everything seems unreal. I care about nothing because nothing seems real and I'm observing everything from someplace else. I've been like this for 6 years.
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Anti-depressants will only make it worse.
>Been there, done that.
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>>17104116
My dad is also depressed. He's been taking them for years, but it really help him much. In fact, he just turned into a plant.
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If you are concerned, then I think reconsider after being on antidepressants for like 6 months. Your body won't change that much in such a short time.
The way I looked at it, my choice was that I take them or I probably would have killed myself.
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I have a gf, and I love her so damn much. But she seems so distant. I don't want to overwhelm her but when I sometimes say that I love her I get ignored or she just says 'I know' That hecking hurts.
She said this this morning 'I do care about how you feel, but it's not really priority for me to think about that. I spend way to much time caring about other people and ignoring my needs. It's now time for me and maybe that's egoistic but I deserve it.'
I didn't know how to respond to that, first thing i wanted to say was 'what the fuck' She used to write stuff like 'It frightens how much I need you sometimes' but that part seems so far away away now.
She says stuff like she overthinks a lot and stresses and because of that she's distant, but still it hurts and I don't know what to say when she has episodes like that...
I started selling some of my stuff too to save some money for her to start her own business.
I care so damn much about her... But it's like I get no love in return...
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That's what you get for depending on another person's affections.
Nothing. You actually lose valuable time and effort.
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>>17104085
Should I just ignore her till she chats with me?
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>>17104089
I'm saying you shouldn't care.
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Asking a girl to be my GF
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Tl;dr there's this qt 3.14 that has sucked me off, gave me a handjob, been talking for a few months now and it was all awesome, but I am still unsure about her since I think she still has feelings for her ex.
I don't know if she wants to be my GF or FWB ( which there's no fucking way im going for it ) since I have feelings for her but I said fuck it to myself and will ask her asap when I go to her place because I need a Yes or a No, I can't feel this anxiety about her anymore.
If i get rejected what the fuck do I say and how do I leave to not make it awkward or pathetic? Don't want every girl in my city then talking about how I fucked up.
And any tips in general about asking her, I got an idea, but any small tips appreciated.
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no one?
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>>17104060
background info
how many times do you see eachother what do you do etc?
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>>17104060
this girl is a literal whore.
For your own good find someone else.
Hey guys, will u help me with GF? She is probably going to break up with me if i'm not going to talk with her more. Wanna give me /adv/ice?
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move on to something that will actually work to make you happy/successful
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>>17104055
Dump her. Spend a month or two on your own. Start trying to find someone else after that.
You'll get over it. You sound like a fucking kid, so you don't have much in life which is why you think this is so important (if you have less, what you have seems more important), but trust me, this won't be the mother of your kids. Just move on.
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>>17104066
Yeah, you got me. I'm not experienced at all.
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Well pol I'm about to decide my major but I'm extremely unsure. Which is actually more important money or happiness? I'm either going to major in Early Childhood Education or Comp Sci.
Comp Sci
>Have a highschool foundation of mathematics and engineering that easily lead to this.
Early Childhood
>Volunteer every Sunday helping out at a church Awana class helping take care of 3-5 yr olds
Also, I'm a white christain male and inb4
>pedophile
I'm not a fucking degenerate
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Comp Sci is a better bet. Just learn to talk well do you get your internship. Hell you don't even need to talk that well, because a lot of your major mates are spergs and it shows.
Remember, the #1 decider for getting a job is if the interviewer LIKES you. Nor if you're the most qualified
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It really depends on who you ask. Some people will tell you to go for the "safe" or "sure" bet like the poster above me. Others will tell you to do what you're really interested in. I'm lucky in that I pursued a major that I was really passionate about that has plenty of career prospects. I advise everyone to find something they genuinely enjoy and study that, not whatever will make them the most money. Life is too short to be trapped in a job you hate, but it can also feel incredibly long if you are.
Happiness over money has always been my goal and it's worked out better for me than most others. If you are active in your field and differentiate yourself from your peers you will find a job. The best people will always find jobs, regardless of their major.
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Don't pick a career just for money. That is a sure path to a miserable life.
Keep thinking about cheating on my girfriend with both men and women
She's never cheated on me but she's hurt me plenty.
Don't know what to do
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Just dump her, that will hurt her and improve your life.
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>>17104040
I don't want to dump her though, I love her
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>>17104049
Not if you're dead set on cheating on her.
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Why is life so boring? It's just so repetitive.
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drop some acid
see how "boring" shit is after that.
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>>17104027
I don't even have a dealer.
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>>17104031
>what is the internet?
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Is this how it really is?
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Yes.
Now focus on something more important, like science.
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yeah except for the part about the headphones.
Women don't know anything about sound.
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>>17104012
I think the point is that she wants people to see her wearing expensive headphones, not necessarily that she thinks they're that great in and of themselves.
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Hi /adv/
normally I don't have a problem getting a boner and whacking one out but whenever I'm with my girlfriend I get too nervous to get it up. I can get hard while my pants are still on but as soon as they're off the panic sets in and I get soft quite quickly. I can easily get hard alone but I've had an extremely low libido for the last few months, so I've barely wanted to fap anyway.
I'm starting to worry her patience will run out soon and she'll find a guy whose dick actually works. anybody know how to deal with this? without drugs preferably
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Did you try getting hard in another room and then charging in and jamming it in before it can go soft?
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>>17103938
Ugly as fuck girls a dick wont be getting hard for
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>>17103938
Try not whacking one out for a couple days before you get her alone. Guaranteed to stay hard if you haven't came in a couple days. Focus on your breathing, it will keep you relaxed and distract you from the task at hand. Good luck.
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My gf and I are surely going to be separated next year, because of our careers. We were separated this year but the cities were pretty close, so we saw each other every weekend.
But next year would be different. We would see each other, maybe, one time every three months.
This year was pretty difficult to us, we had a lot of problems personally, but next year would be horrible.
My parents won't let me go to her city.
None of us have drive license.
I understand my parents bc I have to take care of myself but I know that if we are separated again, the relationship is going to end and I'm so afraid of that. So so afraid.
And maybe this summer won't either be a happy final time to us bc we are going to be so sad.
I have no choice, I know, but I just don't know how to take it. Help /adv/
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>My parents won't let me go to her city.
You're an adult, I don't see why this should be an issue
>None of us have drive license.
So get your fucking licence and stop whining.
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>>17103873
I'm pretty young, I still depend on my parents. That's the problem.
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>>17103890
Assuming you're old enough to be here, you shouldn't have to depend on them.