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I want to try to find an old internet friend from a few years ago. We were on fine terms, then one day her phone just disconnected, and someone new got the number. I just recently thought about her again and decided to try to find her.

I still have her old cell number, state she lived in, and first name, but I can't for the life of me remember her last name, and I don't have enough money for a private investigator/all the Internet phone lookups either have no data or look shady.

Any advice on who I should go to or what I should do? I'm not obsessed over this or anything. I just wanted to check to make sure she wasn't murdered or anything.

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What is a career/industry that is fast paced, high profile, cut-throat and glamorous? Cocaine-fueled parties, narcissistic executives, back-stabbing, high energy. I've just come to accept that I'm a conceited asshole, spoiled, obsessed with appearances and class, and a drama queen, so I need to go in an environment where asshole drama queens can thrive. Wall Street Banking/finance? Advertising? Entertainment?

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I need help.

Where do I find sugarbabies?

I'm doing well in my life, but my sex life and emotional relationship in my marriage is a problem. I would like to have someone I could have as an outlet, with them helping me and me helping them. Maybe a college girl who won't get attached, but also isn't an escort who might get a STD.

I have about 3.5k a month that I'm willing to put into this. Perhaps I can have multiples going at the same time.

Advice?

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Hey /adv/ 22y male here who needs some advice. I used to be depressed as fuck when I was a teenager, but I eventually dragged my self out of it. Been reasonably motivated and happy since I was 17, but I've always had problems with procrastination, which have been getting a lot worse latley. I've failed to meet nearly every deadline and I've been performing far under my potential and it's starting to get to me to the point where I've cried myself to sleep and can't get up in the morning. It's causing a negative spiral of underperformance and I feel like I'm slipping back into a depressive mindset. And it feels like it makes sense because my life kinda objectivley sucks.

I just feel like I need someone to talk to, but I don't wanna involve my friends or worry my parents... Do you have any advice for me?

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I went from reading a random article a friend shared to having an epiphany. Just realized yesterday that I'm asexual. Yet, I still love my current partner deeply. I'm not sure if I should tell them or not.

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I've lost weight and wear a good push up bra and lift weights/squat, but no matter what I can't get this guy to be enthusiastic when he has sex with me, like he was with his ex. He was always touching his ex in public and telling her how sexy she was, but with me he's not that interested in touching me, if we have sex he doesn't seem to be into foreplay

I'm not as sexy as his ex I don't have her mindblowing figure, but I wouldn't mind him treating me as if I turned him on, rather than just a cumrag

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Going to be long, but all the details are necessary.

Last Friday, I had a day off of work. I went to my guy friend's pool. We drank a little (4 drinks that I can recall- one mixed, 3 beers ). We were in and out of his apartment to refill/use bathroom. I drink a lot, so no big deal.

Flash forward to me being at my apartment. My roommate and family had apparently been calling me nonstop and I finally called one of them back. My roommate could tell I was out of it and came to pick me up.

I don't remember anything. Last time I remember seeing the time, it was 4:15. She picked me up at 8:30. I vaguely remember vomiting, but couldn't recall if that was a dream.

Text my guy friend to fill in the gaps. He says we just fell asleep on the couch and that the sun plus alcohol will do that to you. I figured he was telling the truth given I hadn't eaten much, and even though I can handle a lot of alcohol, we were in the sun for an hour or so.

Still feel weird about it, so I ignored his texts until last night when he says "do you feel weird about what happened?" When I ask what, he says you really don't remember? Then finally says we had sex.

I am floored by this, and ask if he used a condom. He says "he doesn't remember, but I didn't finish." He says he didn't want to get me into trouble with this guy I've been semi seeing, so that's why he said the sleep thing.

I feel so strange. I'm not sure how to react. Maybe I got hammered, and we had sex... But I have been blackout maybe twice and I drank much much more. I drink more than what I can remember drinking quite often.

He did fix my drinks. Idk. What do you guys think? Am I overreacting? Should I drop it? I'm just very confused and freaked.

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My GF (of 3 years) is incredible and the best gf I've ever had, although she's got a lot of fat above her hips (so much so that she doesn't wear pants normally, she pulls jeans and shorts up to her waist and it bothers the shit out of me). I've been trying to not be a dick for years and I havent said anything mean I've just made little suggestions to work out with me or eat healthier but I'm getting fed up and it's driving me insane. I hate when she dresses like she does and I'm sometimes embarrassed to have her around my friends. Please help. What can I do

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I wanna start lucid dreaming but i never remember my dreams (saying remember cuz i dont want the well actually u dream yadda yadda) so it feels like i never dreamed so i cant write them down. Anyone know a way to dream more often so i can remember and write them down? no vitamins or supplements

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Hey /adv/.

There's a girl that I've been very close friends with since high school, we went to prom together (as friends), and since we've been to college we've still been in close contact, texting every couple of weeks to update each other on what's been going on and helping each other through problems and sadness and stuff. In particular, she's been feeling really lonely, finding it hard to make friends and tfw no bf.

The thing is, I've had feelings for her for a long time, around the same time i asked her to prom in senior year, but I've never said anything since then for a couple of reasons:

1, I didn't know if she liked me back, and I was afraid to lose her as a friend by confessing and making things awkward

2, she's currently going to a college that is 300 miles away from mine

The semester is almost over and we're going to hang out a lot in our home town over the summer (she texted me just the other day talking about how once we're both home we have to do movie nights and stuff like that together and I agreed)

I'm seriously considering telling her how I feel at the beginning of the summer. I realize that if she feels the same way about me (big if there), and we want to continue dating past the summer (which I would want to do), it would turn into an LDR once we both go back to school. I have no experience with this kind of thing and I don't know if I would even be able to do it, nor do I know if she'd be okay with it.

Can anybody with experience in this offer some /adv/ice on the subject?

Also, would it be too cringe to ask her how she feels about LDR, pretending that I'm considering getting into an LDR with 'this girl I know' and then at the end tell her that I was talking about her?

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When I express what I'm feeling I hurt people. When I keep everything inside and be "nice" to maintain harmony that feels bad too.

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I started using tinder yesterday and i matched with a girl. We talked a bit and she asked me to use email to contact her, since her bf goes over her phone. So i email and asked if she wanted to meet up. She thank me for emailing back;mfw. SHE told me she is alone in her house until next week and said she can host in her house or she can drive with a ;) emoji.

I have a girlfriend she is cute like 8/10, with nonexistent sex though. We only have sex when she wants, she gives me does half hearted kisses aka pecks. We have been together for almost two years.

Back to the tinder girl is it a scam? Do any of you guys have an experience? Should i follow through? How careful should I be if go through it going to er house? Pic not related

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This guy broke into our apartment and stole my friends laptop. Got a few good pictures of him on security film. Anybody have any advice on what to do after a burglary? Already filed a police report. Anything else that might help like some kind of online face recognition?

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Girlfriend wears revealing outfits to raves. I don't care but as a result of my friends telling me how girls like that are sluts its starting to get to me.

So I never really cared about her wearing shit to raves. After all, they're raves. I wear revealing shit and she doesn't care either. I just go and have fun. I trust her and she trusts me. She turns down any guy who comes up to her and I walk away from girls that start grinding on me when I'm there.

My friends always talk about rave girls being slutty and shit.

Now I've been with my girl for almost two years and she's the best ever but my friends are opening a hole of insecurity for me. They talk about (as mentioned) rave girls being slutty and shit and how they wouldn't let their girl dress like that and by them saying that it makes me feel like I'm a cuck or something lmao.

I don't care about what she wears because nothing happens and she leaves with me for the night. She's mine and I'm hers.

We're both 20. I'm not gonna control her and she's not gonna control me. If the worst thing she does is dress like every other girl at a rave then that's perfect for me. She's hot as fuck and she's mine.

Help me with these feelings /adv/. Should I just drop my friends? My insecurities are starting to pop up because of them like forreal.. When they started saying shit like "id never let my girl wear shit like that" it kinda made me lose respect for them.

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My friend "Sanjay" his baby's-mama "Vanessa" and her new boyfriend "Asshat" had a bit of a fallout recently that is inspiring some rather deep seated anger in "Sanjay" that he wishes not to act upon, but would have no problem taking action if he so chooses to, this aside the point. Asshat threatened Sanjay with a hunting knife in front of Sanjay's son, when Sanjay had only attempted to have a conversation with Vanessa about their son. Sanjay has the upper hand and moral high ground, as he is approaching the situation thoughtfully and logically, and out of love for his son, and to create some form of arrangement to allow Sanjay to be the rightful father to his son. But Vanessa and her family had kept Asshat behind closed doors so far even to the point that Vanessa told Sanjay's son not to speak of Asshat with his father. Vanessa is someone who cannot see the logical and positive, constructive efforts Sanjay has tried to express through his actions as a father for the love of his son. Vanessa, like a stubborn child unfortunately has been uncooperative, chooses not to establish any coherent communication with Sanjay in regards to his son. Sanjay is in the process of taking legal action against Vanessa for the uncooperativeness, for inability to communicate, and for the type of enviornment Sanjay's son is being raised in with Vanessa and Asshat. Sanjay just want's to be able to see his son regularly with no problems, but Vanessa show's through a lack of effort and her inciteful, childish actions alongside Asshat threatening Sanjay with a knife, and his son in the front row seat.

What does a father have to do to make something like this work out, and to make it so there are no negative side effects? Sanjay is running out of patience, he has tried tirelessly to affirm his desires logically and in a non-threatening way to Vanessa is a coconut in a barrel of concrete.

What do? What do for father? How do go about?