I last too long when I sleep with my gf. If I do things right I can get her to cum with like 10 mintues of penetration, sometimes less. Which is after a good 30 minutes of foreplay.
Even after she comes she remains adamant on continuing with penetration until I cum. Which can sometimes take anywhere from 30 to 60 mintues. So she ends up getting sore and it hurts her. The thing is I can tell she feels useless when I pull out and tell her it's okay.
How do I handle this? Is there a way not to hurt her feelings?
Is there something I can do to cum faster?
Women can cum multiple times in a row, just keep fucking her.
Most women I've been with appreciate lengthy sessions.
>>17107507
I literally have this same problem but I've learned to accept its a blessing
She's only had two guys who both lasted under five minutes with her so she's beaming with happiness whenever I fuck her since it takes usually an hour
I can only ever climax from fucking rough and hard, but she likes that so it works for her
Blowjobs and handjobs never seem to do anything for me which sucks I guess
>>17107507
>How do I handle this? Is there a way not to hurt her feelings?
>>17107033
>>17106992
>Also cut that porn and masturbation op. Completely. In a month or so you'll be completely healthy. Nobody realises that humans initially were not designed to consume pornography. At all.
Hey /adv/. This probably doesn't need its own thread but I just want to vent. It's five in the fucking morning and I'm clearly not going to fall asleep anyway
I got this girl's number at work and I feel awful about it. I told her I'd text her in a week when I get my new phone but what's even the point? I'll send her one text and she won't respond. Honestly I don't even care where things go with her, I just want to talk to her because she seems smart and different. I'm sick of playing this game, /adv/. I never win. It's like I'm not even allowed to be friends with half of the fucking planet. Whatever. Apparently I'm the only one who feels like this, OP is a fag, etc etc.
To that one faggot who is going to tell me to work out: I do. Please die
If you're complaining before you've even sent a single text, you've already self defeated yourself. She'll smell that from a mile away, no matter your intentions. If nothing comes of it, are you any worse off than you already are? Take a chance anon. You got this.
>>17107489
>self defeated yourself
My self was self defeated before the self of myself could even defeat myself.
At some point, me trying over and over again turned into going through motions. Now I'm wondering why I still bother at all. I'm just not feeling the smiley face disney poster attitude
>>17107514
Why did you get her number if you never intended on using it? You never really asked a question, only got down on yourself and why you should just curl up and die. How old are you anon?
I am a male, 24, and I have this problem with basically not thinking I'm good enough.
Despite people telling me I'm attractive or handsome, and people telling me I'm smart, I simply cannot convince myself that these things are true. When a girl likes me, I always convince myself that it's not real; how could an attractive girl like me? When I want to ask a good question at university, I always convince myself it is a stupid one.
As I said, people will tell me that I'm smart and handsome sometimes, but I always attribute it to my "charm". I am very good at speaking with people, making friends, and manipulating people (which I try to do in a positive way). I believe that I have convince people that I am smart, for example, because I have manipulated them to think that way.
My father used to call me ugly and stupid nearly every day as a kid, so I know that must contribute to things. However, there's no way that this is everything.
Has anyone else gone through this before? How can I get over this, or better yet, how can I REALLY find out if I'm smart or handsome or whatever?
>>17107464
maybe you aren't good enough
i have the same problem
Don't manipulate them. If someone accepts you then, you'll know it wasn't because you manipulated them. Because Logic. Or, if you think your social skills are all that, build them up then I dunno, do traditionally unattractive stuff like fart around them and see how they deal with it. If you are as good as you think, you should test it by trying to always be there for a bi-polar person.
>>17107490
but then again i know for a fact that im honestly not good enough
im stupid to believe i can find happyness and my soulmate
everyone always talks about things guys can do to treat their women well (flowers, chocolates, candlelit baths, etc) but I haven't heard shit on things you can do for guys other than sex and video games.
Any ideas?
What would you guys like for your girlfriends to do for you?
Act like his mother. He will subconsciously fall in love with you as long as he doesn't hate his mother. That's how you win us.
Let him be himself. Don't get clingy when he wants to spend time with the boys, by constantly checking up on him when he does. Try to take interest in his hobbies. Also, road head. That's a surefire, as long as he's a good driver.
>>17107455
He does hate his mother.
And I've practically taken over the role of being his mother anyways so that doesn't really work.
>>17107479
Any other specific things I can do?
He's big on history and guns.
I just want to have a list of things to do that I can surprise him with, but I'm not too creative.
Met this girl, she's insane. Should I even say anything else? No need to give details really, for some reason I care about this crazy heretic. Tell me to just stop.
>>17107422
how crazy we talking, friend?
>>17107431
Long story short I have known this girl for a couple months. We have had sex and all that fun stuff, she says she has feelings for me. She wants to take it slow, me too, all seems normal. Weeks at a time with little to know contact, hangs with friends all the time, not a problem. Asks me to hang with her and her friends, I do from time to time. However I would much rather just get to know her, without having to get to know all of her friends at once. I tell her this, and she goes into this long rant about how shes not going to be controlled and just be with me 24/7. I'm just like wtf, where the hell did all this come from? Logic and all reason seem to escape her. Like she can't fathom that I just want to get to know her a little bit more before I get to know her friends. Calling me controlling and all this shit. I'm 26 and this girl is 22, so maybe shes just still retarded from youth or something. Idk. Phew, feels good to get it off my chest though
>>17107444
1. nice trips
2. work on your writing skills.
3. girls that young are all retarded or crazy
4. you cant take it slow after youve already fucked
5. either shes afraid to be alone with you for some reason or she just likes drama. either figure it out and deal with it or drop her.
I don't really come on here and lurk alot.
But there is a minor problem in my life,and I don't know what to do.
Here's my problem.
I have, or had, a best friend of 10+ years (I'm 19 now so you can see this has been a friendship since elementary school.). Let's call him Jason.
Jason and me met in elementary school in my home town and we found out we lived literally a football field length from each other, we liked professional wrestling and anything else young boys like. we spent almost every other weekend doing things and riding the bus with each other.
We get into middle school and were still pretty good friends but girls and other friends kind of made us separate a little.(plus he was a year younger then me). still rode the bus with each other.
When we got into high school we were still really good friends and shit but then I moved to another state for 3 years because my dad got a job there.
I lost track of him for those 3 years.
And i still came home on occasion and passed his house everytime we came home, but never got to see him.
I graduate and come back home and go to college and I reunite with Jason when i was invited by another friend of our that he was having a bon fire.
We embraced each other like we never separated and it was all smiles.
Well....
We started hanging out and for a couple of weeks we were going out to parties every weekend and shit having good times.
I find out hes in a relationship with a girl that ive had bad history with (like we literally hated each others guts growing up) she's like a 3/10 with money.
Anyways I slowly find out that he has became addicted to Marijuana.
I know it can't kill you but from observing his lifestyle its addictive none the less.
He would spend any sort of money he got on it and i admit before i figured i out i was giving him money or buying ridiculous amounts for him, me, and whoever was with us.
Catch up to this year, His addiction has gotten to a point where he's hanging out with other pot heads.
Op here
cont.
Its gotten to a point where hes hanging out with other people who he didnt even like growing up but they have the connections to the weed.
I have smoked weed before and it cool and all but this is getting crazy.
he's told me before he needs weed to operate.
well i recently discovered he doesn't consider me a friend because i dont support his weed addiction and i never give him money.
even his girlfriend the one who is suppose to be the most caring about him wont stop giving him money for it.
He doesn't invite me over to the house to hang out.
The only i ever seen him is with a blunt at my neighbors house (and me and the neighbor have agreed he's fucking himself up)
Well the bottom line was tonight where i saw a facebook post.
now, i know what your saying, dont listen to fucking facebook but he posted this long ass paragraph about hows he thankful for all his friends......and didn't even mention me.
there is only one dude thats probably know him longer then me but the rest, are just other pot heads fueling his addiction.
All I want is the best for my friend but It's heartbreaking to see him just throw our long history out the window because i don't support his addiction.
hel hes still in high school, his senior year, and has pretty much dropped out because all he wants to do is drink beer and smoke weed.
What should i do?
should i just give up and let him go down the path of darkness and pretty much ruin his life
or try and stick with him?
>>17107381
also weed is illegal here where we live and im fearing its going to land him in jail
He let go of you already. You said yourself he doesn't consider you a friend. People change when they grow up. Just let him do his own thing. If you try and "save" him you'll damage your own reputation and image by associating with a person like what he's become and the company he keeps (which, by extension, will be the company you keep). Even so, he won't be the person he was before even if you did manage to save him.
Focus on your future.
I want to join the marines but I'm afraid to leave my whole life behind. At the same time I really want to there's nothing for me here anymore and Im going nowhere with my life anyway. Can I hear the good and bad in joining the marines I know bootcamps tough but I love that sorta thing and know I can make it through.
Have fun selling your life to uncle sam.
By the way, he doesn't value it as much as people tend to lead on.
"leave my whole life behind" if you think that is going to happen, think again. It is more like "bring all my baggage to the surface so that all these dudes will see it and possibly make fun of it and ridicule me..." though it isn't all bad...because "out of it, maybe I will make a few good bro's"
"nothing for me here" = "nothing for you there" it wont fix anything. Bootcamp isn't tough, it just is.
The good?: Financial aid, benefits, good skill's, brotherhood, oh, and not having to really make as many decisions until you get up in rank or if your going the officers route (which I can tell that your not). Leadership skills. Get to play with fun toys and new technology.
The Bad: To quote Ivan "I will break you". You will bleed, sweat, cry, yell, feel every emotion there is. Suck it up and then grow out of it (or wash out...but don't do that). It can test you in ways that you didn't think. It may make you an a*hole
>>17107306
Active duty Lance Corporal here, 0612 Field Wireman about to graduate MOS school.
I first went to bootcamp July last year. And so far my experience has sucked so much dick.
I've kept my nose clean, not even so much as negative paperwork. But the sheer amount of stupid bullshit you're going to wind up doing will start to get to you after a while.
>field day your room for 3 hours, clean literally everything
>scrub floor with bleach and scuzz brush
>wipe every single surface you can find, even that tiny 1/4 inch surface on the top of the mirror
>Wall locker clean and organized, coffin (storage under bed) clean, secretary clean
>bleach floor again, air is burning your eyes and throat at this point
>scrub walls of shower until the space between the tiles shines white
>use polish on sinks and mirrors, shiny as fuck
>go over every single surface again with one of those swiffer duster things
>final touch use 3 bottles of febreze in the air
K I'm done now. Ready for Sergeant to inspect my room.
>Sgt walks in
>"Your floor is dirty, it smells like shit in here, your shower needs to be scrubbed and there's smudges on the mirror"
>Sgt walks over to random part of the room
>"did you dust this?"
motherfucker I dusted everything
>runs finger over random spot
>finger magically covered in dust
That's every single Monday. (cont.)
So I'm in talking to this woman for the last couple weeks and it was nice at the start but now that we're really starting to get to know each other well now it seems that she just always thinks she knows what to say at the right time or knows the right answer or she don't she can figure it out pretty much she just thinks that she's the end all to be all.Why doesn't seem so many people think that they are just number one when they're just one of the problems. What does /adv/ think on this?
Ever occur to you that this person IS better than you?
Also, is punctuation better than you? Or are you better than it? Because my money's on the former.
Durrr sum womin think she better dan me!
Blame facebook, youtube, and every other attention whore advocate site.
>anon, I'm tired of doing what I want to do all the time...
>Let's do what you want to do!
>What do you like?
>>17107305
What does this prove?
>>17107376
Literally nothing.
Anyone else getting tired of 4chan? Should we just leave?
I'm getting sick of the consistent and aggressively negative and angry moods everywhere. Also, there's rarely any content to be found, it's hard to explain but it's like reddit where it's the same shit over and over again, even though it's technically new. I can't find anywhere that's worth browsing a lot like I used to.
>>17107273
It's an echo chamber, essentially.
This board isn't as bad but yeah 4chan is the cesspool of the cesspool that is the internet. Try real life interaction/friends you play games with
>>17107273
if i get tired i dont visit
How do I learn to overcome procrastination?
Every time I have a test in school, I end up waiting till the last possible moment to start studying. I panic and memorize facts all through the night and at the end of it all I end up getting a B. Then I'm so tired I can't think for the rest of the day. I could easily be a straight A study with just a little bit of pro-activity. But I never seem to get any motivation until the last 24 hours. How do I fix myself?
Worry about it later. That's what I do.
>>17107265
do you genuinely care about your studies?
>>17107265
I have the exact same problem OP. I was like this all through high school, and now it has carried on into university. I want to do well, but I procrastinate until the last day to ever get anything done. I could easily get excellent marks if I didn't do this. I don't know how to stop though.
Time to get banned for another drug related post.
I'm planning on taking acid and I have so many questions, mostly about how to ensure I have a good trip. Where should I be, should I be alone or with friends, etc.
TL;DR Taking acid, advice
don't do drugs they are bad and will cause all sorts of problems. I knew a guy who did acid I think he did a 10 strip whatever that is and had permanent tracers in his vision.
>>17107198
I did acid a couple times four years ago, no tracers to speak of. But this will affect you OP, be aware of that.
Go to erowid.
Have friends with you who know about drugs and stuff. The less people the better imo. It's hard to gauge people but try to screen them so you aren't tripping with a bunch of dicks. You're gonna be like a child in a way, unable to do any kind of math, so prepare for that. My advice is start googling "lsd trip advice" and "lsd trip safety advice".
imo this a drug you have to respect and understand to really appreciate.
>>17107198
Have you done it yourself?
Choosing a college, and I'm getting caught on something.
I'm interested in a college in the northeast US, (from the southeast here).
I found out about the school because I stalked the Instagram of a guy I met via kik. I liked the guy. Over a year ago.
I've looked at the university and applied, but I'm not sure if I'm going there because I like the school or because I want to see that guy. He's a year above me.
I really like the school but part of me feels like I'm lying and saying I really just want to go because of possibly seeing the guy I used to like goes there.
How can I approach this with a clear head? I'm also a bit worried he'll recognize me if I go, although it's been over a year and he doesn't have anything but my kik. I don't want him to think I'm stalking him...
Help •-•
Forget about the guy.
Pursue an education.
>>17107165
If you think about him this much there is a good chance it's about the guy. I suggest going somewhere else, wherever else you'd like
>>17107172
I've mostly forgotten about him, and I know nothing will ever come from the two of us.
I just feel bad and though I really like the academics and the school, part of me feels like I'm just lying to go see him.
I'm a bit worried about him recognizing me (although we only spoke for about a week).
I wouldn't be so worried about seeing him save for the fact that we're both gay, so if either of us were in any sort of gay related event or organization we'd be more likely to see each other.
Maybe I'm anxious that he'll see me and think weird of me even though I'm going for the academics?
>>17107180
It kind of was, I was stalking his Instagram, found out he got into the school. I was like hey, I want to go to the northeast anyway (I actually do, some of my family lives up there) and I thought I might as well look into the school he's going to.
And I like the school.
Sorry I'm typing so much
Can anybody explain to me the appeal of having a dog? For me, getting one is signing up to having a baby that won't grow independant for 15 years. Not to mention the costs and the fact that you can forget vacations. The hairs, the barking, the vomit, the shit, the odours, the damaged stuff.,. How would that ever be worth it?
I'm asking because the bf wants to get one and i'm not so sure about it... Seems like an unnecessary pain in the ass.
>>17107107
>I can't handle committment and responsibility
you could have just said that and saved yourself all those words
Dogs are for lonely betas who need constant companionship
>>17107118
Well, we also get married soon and then have a baby. I'm sure i can into commitment and responsibility. I just see not a single positive aspect... I'm not unnecessarily burdening myself "just because".
Sup /adv/ I'm sure there are at least 5 of this same thread here already.
To shorten the story a bit, I've been chasing a guy on and off since fall of 2013. I've finally come to terms with the fact that it's truly done, and never really "was", but it feels almost humiliating every time I think about it. Any way to attempt to kick the constant thoughts? Before you say it, I have lots of hobbies, friends I hang out with, things I'm interested in, etc.
To get it off my chest: (read or don't, I just want to ramble)
It started with him telling me he was in love with me, then ignoring me completely for a few weeks, then restarting that cycle continuously. We had a few episodes where'd he say we were together, at one point he lived hours away and we spoke every day, that truly felt like all of my efforts had paid off. Of course, that was over a year ago, and we just had another episode like that ending in him telling me there's no way we could be together due to his work (after I'd planned to visit him across the country). I really, truly give up now, but I just need tips or something on getting over it and accepting the fact that he lead me on.
I just don't understand, though. Why would someone spend so much time convincing another person they wanted to be with them when they very obviously do not mean it? It makes me feel like I'm crazy, I get these thoughts that we're "meant to be" and things like that, something very uncharacteristic of me. It's just that for three years I've thought of him so often every day, I can't seem to kick the habit. I'm generally very happy, but I want to stop wondering how he's doing, stop hoping one day he'll miraculously realize I care about him, etc.
I KNOW that one single person could not possibly be that special, especially if they fuck around with me like he did, but like I said, I just can't shake the feeling that he's "different".
God damn it.
Well, he is different. To you, at least. You've spent time with him and grown close. It's only natural that it is taking awhile to get over things.
And yea, I can see why you'd feel crazy. But I bet he feels crazy too. Between confessing his love to someone and then bailing for work, yea, he's probably fucking drowning in stress or confused as fuck about what he wants right now.
He's human too, ya know? He's probably squirming in his own way too.
Yea, it sucks it didn't work out. But you two had a good time together while it lasted, right? If it wasn't mean to be, it wasn't meant to be. No need to force things into place. Just be glad you had that brief time together. Wish him best of luck and then move on.
I say that last bit ironically, I guess. It will take time, OP. No matter what, it will take time. But you'll be fine.
>>17107082
OP i've been through this situation before and to get over it you need to know a few things.
> if he liked you he would have already dated you if it's been years
>don't trust the "oh i just am not good at relationships bs"
>it's a lie and he just doesn't like you.
>some people are sociopaths and get off on hurting people
>block him delete him don't talk to him
> he probably isn't all that
> love yourself enough to move on to someone who cares for you
>stop trying to justify his bullshit excuses
You don't need someone who doesn't know what they want.
If he treats you like this he obviously doesn't care.
I promise you OP my whole high school career i spent pining after some stupid nerd and recently a year after we graduatedd he tried to tell me he loved me. i rejected him and it never felt so good.
Please for the love of good just love yourself
there are plenty of others out there.
the feeling that you have that he's different is called delusion