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If you can't salvage your school, get an apprenticeship to be an electrician or something. They can make good money.

You've got to keep moving forward, OP

>>17108397
The degree is almost set in stone, I've done the calculations countless times, I always walk away with a 2.2.
An Apprenticeship? It feels pretty yuck to walk away from so many years of my life. Maybe that is the best Idea though, I just don't know.

>>17108390
is a 2.2 really that bad? what are you studying? from what i know people with 2.2 dont really struggle anymore than people with 2.1

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I was nearly in the same boat as you. Within a year I hardly ever think about her and my feelings for her have gone away.

>>17108332
Thanks for the reassurance. It has only been 1.5 months so I guess I still have some time.

>>17108328
Been there, done that

In the end I decided to just skip school

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Focus on other things. Eventually you will forget.

>>17108327
this. it will take work but you can do it.

broke down and messaged him. GG

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Wow, that pic takes me back. The 90s were fucking awesome. Big Brother was the shit. I miss the hell out of that mag.

Anyway, I'm an oldfag (31, started skating at 13). I don't skate these days because my feet, knees and hips are fucked from activities unrelated to skating. But I feel compelled to respond to your post because you kinda remind me of myself when I was first starting out.

>my buddy who is an experienced skateboarder (been skating for like 14-15 years
What's your set up like? Deck brand and dimensions, trucks, bearings, et cetera. And what's your height/weight/shoe size?

>my buddy who is an experienced skateboarder (been skating for like 14-15 years)
Well then, you have a huge fucking advantage over me. Skating was super unpopular when I started back in 1998 and I had to learn everything on my own. I was the only skater in town and there were no skateparks, there was no YouTube with myriad tutorials and if you wanted to see pro level skating, you'd buy a VHS tape from the skate shop for $20 and try to learn by replaying it and re-watching in slow motion.

It took me 6 months to learn how to do an ollie while rolling above 0.5 miles an hour. Add to this the fact that I lived in New England where it was winter 6 months a year and it's amazing I was able to skate at all. Enough self pity. The point is this--if I learned how to skate under these dismal conditions, you can learn as well and it should probably take you 1/10th the time.

Look, skating can be fucking tough. It's even tougher when you constantly compare yourself to other people who have been at it way longer than you and are way smaller/lighter than you. It was tough for me but that's what it made it kind of beautiful. The struggle gave it meaning. I mainly got better by skating alone in the early mornings in an abandoned parking lot. Just doing flat ground tricks ad nauseum until I felt comfortable doing bigger stuff at higher speeds. It worked for me and it can work for you.

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>>17108508
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I read about Rodney Mullen doing the same in Big Brother; he'd go to a parking lot with a broom, sweep away the pebbles and practice freestyle for hours on end. He's OCD as shit and so is Nyjah Huston. They both had the same methodical approach of skating 4 hours a day during the week and up to 8 hours a day on the weekend. Obviously that's a major commitment and you're basically dedicating your life to it when you're that serious about anything, but the message to take from it is that skating is about practice as much as it is about talent. Just focus on getting your reps in. I promise you, if you stick with it, you'll get better.

Some other things I wish someone had told me when I was first starting out:

1) Many sports favor power and size. Skateboarding is definitely not one of them. Figure skating is probably the closest analog. The average pro skater is about 5'8. This gives them a low center of gravity. If you're taller than this, you will have to compensate by lowering your posture to the point where you're almost bent over. Watch Jon Fitzgerald for an example.

https://youtu.be/0LofTFYVdRE

The average weight of a pro is about 140-150. Seriously, look at a pro skater and size them up. They're TINY. The best skaters in the world all weigh less than 180 lb and the only guys that can get away with being that heavy are the taller guys like Bob Burnquist and Tony Hawk. I got into working out freshman year of high school and gained about 15 lb of muscle. And while I got more attention from girls, it made me much slower and clumsier on a skateboard. Even a tiny weight gain is really going to throw off your technique and balance. Watch what you eat and keep weight training to a minimum. The most useful muscles to train for skating better, other than legs, would probably be your core muscles.

>>17108508
I got an almost deck size 8.25, 52mm spitfire wheels, venture trucks, shake hunt berrings. I'm 6'2 I weigh about 175lbs give or take, size 10
.5-11 show it varies.

And you're right I do have more resources at my disposal I guess what really gets to me is all the wasted time. I've always felt so close to the culture but never participated in it til now and when I get on the board I'm just like "why didn't I start sooner?" I feel like I missed out on a lot. I won't have all those cool teenage skating stories to look back on or all the crazy young and dumb shit. Idk maybe I'm overthinking it..

How old is your girlfriend? We can calculate how many guys on average she has been with and show you it isn't a big deal.

So you are a washed up 20 something then?
Fuck off with that shit.

>>17108264
On average, she's been with 20+ guys

They don't want to seriously date a girl with red flags but would be keen on fucking a girl who is damaged because it is easier.

Not hard to figure out.

/adv/ is not one person, and the most common posts are of insecurities

Because /adv/ is full of /r9k/, Nice Guy™s, and lonely frogs.

The r9k's and some Nice Guy™s will have lists of red flags while other Nice Guy™s an lonely frogs feel like "damaged" girls are more on their level, and some of both will pick "damaged" because they think it's easy to manipulate.

In the end, everyone is different and there is no collective /adv/ voice. It's a hodgepodge of loudest voices that you're talking about to begin with.

shameless self bump. I should mention that the reason there is an overlap is that my boss chose not to invite me originally and only did it at the last minute. Makes me wonder if he actually wants me there, but based on the goals I have for the year, I should go.

Don't go. Don't put more effort than needed if you feel the payout isn't worth it. Arbitrary ideas of what should be best for your career are meaningless at the end of the day. You have a vacation you saved up for right? Don't you dare throw it away to go waste your time on something that your boss was forced to take you in.

Don't go! It won't be worth it for your career. Standing up for your wants and needs gets noticed far more often than just following the crowd. Letting your boss know that u have balls and a life will get u where u want to go

>>17108183
youre a real bitter loser get outside and stay away from strangers.

>>17108205
sounds like your brain has been underdeveloped in the largest part which houses empathy

>>17108223
>stop acting like a blathering sack of crap.
fuck off you mentally challenged poster with ill memory. nice superiority complex

>>17108168
Ya

You are handsome as all fuck! Now pls, for the love of god, get a haircut with shorter sides and you are literally chad.

>>17108168
You might try smiling. And the tie, even loosened, suggests a serious guy. If that's who you are, fine.

Stop jerking off

Use that jittery energy to work out and get yourself a routine. Discipline is important and that starts with familiarizing yourself with a predictable set of actions.

Start meditating immediately. The first time will feel pointless but doing it again and again will allow you feel at peace. Highly recommend.

Read this

http://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/toc.html

It might allow you read people and therefore possibly approach girls in the future. Having a little handbook of information like this will be great for you to start to read body language.

>>17108140
Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

If all you want is raw sex, go out and buy some.

If you want romance, increase your circle of friends to include some female-type friends. Once you're comfortable with them as people, you can choose one to get romantic with, and sex will follow.

I just wish male heterosexuality were not seen as inherently violent or destructive. I don't even understand how people have healthy relationships involving sex.

I wanted to lose my virginity and experience love. I got that now at 21 so in not too sure. Perhaps visit another country or maybe actually focus on my career now so I have a chance of keeping her

>>17108132
Live. And I'm doing it as fully as I can.

>>17108132
Go to New Zealand.

My granddad and I always talked about going there, since I was a little child. When he got cancer, we said that when he was going to recover we would have left for NZ.
After he died, I have been saving to go there.

>>17108074
have you spoken to your doctor about these concerns, how do people normally manage this condition?

Here's an idea, try being selfish, use what resources you have to experience anything positive before youre ready to go. Maybe make a bucket list, because at this point its all about you, you cant afford to think about others anymore because you cant even look after yourself. Maybe after doing all this something might change. If you see an opportunity, take it

>>17108074
>What would you do?
well I can tell you what I wouldn't do, I wouldn't go die in a bedsit in east buttfuckistan. but then maybe I have more to lose than you, idk. I have a husband and parents and brothers and friends who would be pretty bummed if I was gone. anyway I can tell you what I did do, although again my situation isn't identical. and idk if you live in the usa or not. I do.

my issues are mostly mental health-related with some physical stuff (migraines etc.) I was able to power through most of college, but ended up burning out in senior year. then worked full time for about 15 years. basically used what youthful energy and willpower I had to keep working while going to therapy and docs, doing self-help, trying herbal stuff etc. basically trying to fix my shit any way I could. was functioning, but just barely.

then at about 35 age started catching up with me. I had reached my limits of functioning. life kept pushing me and I was looking for less stressful jobs etc. to make it manageable but had a breakdown before I could find a solution. and I realised I was just too fucking tired to do it anymore. I applied for disability, took two years to get it but I did it.

you will not find a lot of sympathy for disabled people on 4chan. which is why I'm telling you, as someone who paid social security taxes for 15 years: apply for disability. if not now, then in a couple years. talk to your docs and start a paper trail now if you don't have one already. and make sure to tell your doc that your condition feels so hopeless that you're considering ending yourself.

but honestly if I were you I'd at least give school and/or work a try. even if you're sure you can't do it, just suspend your disbelief for a bit. give it your best try. don't refuse to try just because you're scared it won't work. that's silly. maybe you won't be able to finish school or support yourself fully. if that happens, it will only strengthen your disability case.

cont.

I used to buy and give away games on Steam.

>>17108062
I've volunteered at my local soup kitchen before albeit somewhat unwillingly.

Very rewarding in the end imo.

>>17108062
i have bought homeless people food a few times.

>>17108061
One path has money, the other path has insects.

>>17108061
>unmotivated
>3.2

I wish I was naturally talented...

I'd follow your passion as opposed to law school which would be more a monetary oriented goal imo.

I'm a bit biased as I'm trying to into STEM myself..

If you are passionate about the law and can see yourself going down that road, then by all means.

>>17108061
Small side point. Calculate your GPA in your major, and use that (openly identified as such) wherever you have to mention it. EVERYONE screws up some intro or gen ed courses, and grad schools or employers are most interested in how well you did when you settled into your major.

Nah. Do graphic design or something, too.

No, that's the point of electives, they can be whatever.

OP here, thanks for that. I keep visualizing someone looking over my transcripts, future employer perhaps--and seeing one of those classes and being all, "the fuck is this?" like it'll damage my resume.