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That's not that bad. If you have a car, you can visit almost every weekend.

If she's worth it, I would try to make it work. Is there a possibility of you guys moving nearer to each other in the future?

>>17108790
How long did it take you to find someone on Escamoney?

>>17108790
My Ex GF and me lived the same distance apart from each other so i'd say you'll be fine if you really want to become invested in this person.

>>17108769
What happened was that people on /adv/ stopped asking for advice

I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that divorce is more socially acceptable and women have joined the work force they are able to leave unhappy marriages if they need to and vice versa. I would not say the quality has gone down, personally.

>>17108769

there have been great changes and strides in human relationships.

however i think the biggest change you are noticing is simply what you've observed vs what you experienced.

as in, you grew up thinking that something was one way cuz you saw it from a distance. you only saw the surface value and a lot of TV. now you are experiencing it and its not that different from what everyone has experienced. but now you see the inner workings, not just the surface.

on top of that the internet has made it easier to talk about such things. back in the day you only talked to people you knew. now you can type in your opinion and see a million people parrot it across the web.

as for divorce, the only reason its so popular now is because it is legal. it wasn't before. this isnt a shift in human relationships, just a shift in the execution of them. people always wanted to get divorced. the concept of marriage was always flawed.

another reason people are more lenient and bouncy in relationships is simply the ample access to them.

it was harder to 'date' before and it wasnt something you were expected to do until you got older. the farther back you go the harder it was, leading back to arranged marriages.

remember your first relationship? imagine if they had simply said you were stuck with her for life, and on top of that you had limited contact with any other women and virtually no porn?

cont.

Haha you're dumb

>>17108750

seems like b8 or you are retarded

>Why would he do this to me?

do you seriously think that this had anything to do with you? like if you were a diff person it wouldn't have happened? pls stop

i'm not sure how this is such a problem, you guys talk, you make sure he understands how fucked up that situation was for you and how much it freaks you out. you find out from him if he'd prefer to promise to never let it happen again and not change anything or if you need more access/oversight to his financials bc sometimes he has a tough time keeping with it.

or you guys work together to implement some tools (there are apps for budgeting, paying bills etc) so that he is a lot less likely to fuck up

but if your position is from boo hoo its about me and how i was betrayed. i'm just stunned at how stupid that sounds

women are a fucking meme

He probably felt too ashamed to ask, I wouldn't worry too much, just keep reassuring him you've got his back no matter what. When my boyfriend has a problem he finds it hard to ask for help because / he's the man and he's supposed to not need help//

I don't think this is a problem unless you're frustrated by having the initiate conversations about his feelings, but I'm telling you now that a man who doesn't need prompting to talk about his problems is just as much of a drag

>>17108749
seems rational to me.

>>17108749
Ya that's might be a dealbreaker.

Coconut oil is pretty effective in curing/fading most of it. I don't think it's a big issue.

So, yeah.... My family thinks I am depressed (what I am), everyone else thinks I am a weird guy who probably has some kind of mental disability.... That are great starting conditions for what happened recently....

Since I am also a 17-year-old guy, I of course am interested in girls, which kinda sucks when people think about you like this and you also look like shit... But yeah....
Basically, I am totally in that one cute girl (I will call her A), who noone knows about except for my best friend who isn´t even on my school...
Recently, another girl (I will call her B), started talking with some of my friends and me... Most of it isn´t really important, but one day, I found out that she was the best friend of the girl i liked... And even better, she told me "A" liked one of my anime shirts, which made me extremely happy, but I couldn´t show it, because my shyness dominates my happyness....
Since then, eveything went worse daily.... My self-confidence sank further and further as i always told myself; "she doesn´t talk to me because she doesn´t want to be seen with such a fat piece of shit like me"

Well, it happened again with my school bag and another shirt, I even saw her on an anime convention, but I just couldn´t talk to her.... I sweared to myself that I would as soon as she starts talking to me....
Soon, "B" random started talking with me about "A" when we met each other, she always instantly changed the topic to "A", no matter what I wanted to talk about... I thought, maybe, just maybe, "A" liked me....

But then I thought again... "Why the hell would she? I told my best friend EVERYTHING about her, maybe he knows her from somewhere? Maybe he wants to troll me, it must be all his fault"
Yeah... I suspected my friend of trolling me with such an intense thing..... I still feel bad for doing so...

But my life went on. I still was friends with him, still talked to "B", still loved "A". Everything continued like before, sometimes, "B" talked about "A" again. I was still feeling like a piece of trash... I am fat and I am ugly, and I know that, these 2 things are facts and noone can deny them.

But today, something really weird happened, and I still don´t know if it really happened or if it was just a hallucination caused by my depression and tiredness...
Before school started, I saw "A" and "B" in the middle of the hallway, waiting for someone.... Well, "A" is often in the hallway, standing there with her friends, and I just walked past them like usually.... But something was different... "B" said; "Hey, X, come over here".... I was happy, shocked, confused, but also sad...
But why sad? Well..... "Why should she mean me?! I am not the only guy at this school with my name, there actually is a quite attractive guy with the same name, who also likes anime... maybe "A" meant him all the time and "B" just missunderstood it and talked to me about it?!".... So I just walked by like nothing happened and ignored both of them

"But maybe - just maybe, she actually meant me" I thought in class.... "I´ll just behave like always in the recess, maybe "B" will talk about it with me, thinking I just couldn´t hear... And even if not, maybe "A" or "B" will talk to me after school, who knows"
It didn´t happen.... We wrote a test and had recess after everyone else, and after school, I just was too shy and literally ran to the train station, hoping noone talks to me....

After being pissed off and depressed for around 8 hours now, I came here...
I need help, help from real people, not "professionals", who fuck up my personality even more.

So here, now my questions;

Is there a way for me to fix my personality again?
How can I gain more self-confidence?
Did I completely fuck up the situation or is there a chance for me to make up for what i did today?
If so, any tips what to do? How to behave?

you had your chance

Reserve or terrortorial let in old cunts like you so go to a recruiting station

http://www.military.com/join-armed-forces/join-the-military-basic-eligibility.html

Since when are women in their 20's "older women"?

>>17108697
When you're 15

You have to be 18 to post on this board

>>17108681
Do you go around your friends telling them how awesome you are?

What is a narcissist. Educate me.

So do you have a tendency to excessively flatter ("love bomb") people initially, use them for sex, and then drop them immediately without explanation, blaming them for not being up to your standards?

This may be slightly different bc well, as a femanon I asked out another grill and it wasn't anything that special. Since I feel I'm the more dominant I had to make the move. Just make sure u don't ask her out on text bc that's just bs. Also it depends on the girl. If she's shy don't do anything too dramatic, but if she is very open u might want to take it up a notch. Since I'm the more shy one, I sorta held her hand, Bc that was somewhat normal for us to do and just sorta broke it to her. Whatever u do, I wish u luck m8.

>>17108624
im not a femanon but i learned again and again that being sweet doesnt work anymore in 2016

>>17108646
Ya, what's up with the "asshole" type?

Change what you don't like, keep what you do, and accept that you will always be a victim of circumstance if you do not steer the course.

>>17108588
You got yourself here and you can get yourself out if you work hard enough at it, without giving up when it seems unbearable.

Thank you for the contributions so far, bumping because I would perhaps like more input from people. I want to try to have a bit of a dialog here.

Well, i think it's perfectly normal that you progress with age. You might simply have outgrown the things that catched your attention. Imo, you are fastly approaching an age where you need other things to occupy your mind. And i hate to tell you this, but it mainly consists of building a family.
The way you are making yourself out, it shouldn't be that big of a problem to find a decent girl. Provided you did tell us the whole deal...?

>>17108477
Hi anon. You sound like one of my female friends who went to med school here in the U.S. She came from a pretty strict household (no dating allowed), so by the time she went to college, she was just focused on medicine - and she really loves what she does. But the work hours are crazy, so she doesn't have time to meet guys. (And all the guys she liked in school were taken by the time she decided to focus on companionship in life versus her vocation.)

They are out there - don't give up hope. But yes, they're rare. Apologies that I don't have specific advice for you. I just wanted to give you hope, because I hear this from a couple of my female friends IRL.

>>17108494
The problem is not that I outgrew a few adolescent interests, but that I get less joy from everything I do.
And I'm not really interested in building a traditional family. I want a partner to share my life with, but settling down and making babies holds no appeal to me.

>>17108852
Thanks for the encouragement anon. I know the kind of girl I'm looking for do exist, I've even met a few (didn't work out for various reasons). The question is mainly how not to go crazy/keep myself motivated in the meantime.

I'm not a guy, but edging is really doing a lot for me. I "safe my horny up" troughout the day. Meaning that maybe i play with my nipples for a while in the shower when getting ready. Then i'll masturbate a bit on lunch break, and so on. It makes for pretty amazing and intense orgasms in the end.

choke n stroke

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Prostate orgasms are more surefire. Unless you already know your nipples are really sensitive, I wouldn't go for orgasms off of nips alone.

Look into these items. They're supposed to be pretty good for prostate stimulation. I haven't tried it so I can't speak on it personally, though I want one.

If you have someone you sleep with, see if they can get into using it with you. These sorts of things are usually more exciting with a willing other person.

Do's:
>don't go

Don'ts:
>go

suicide

Don't go, this won't do any good for you.

Any info about situations like this or anyone who's had a similar situation and can shed some light on it would be helpful.

>>>/an/

How about you don`t imprison the cat in one single room that you onoly use to sleep?.
Idiot.

you deserve death

I know this feel.... I developed a similar fetish after I found out my bf cheated on me.

It is painful, so you need to decide if the kink turns you on enough to override the feelings of betrayal, shame, and pain that you'll feel. It's not for everyone.

>cuckolding