I can't tell the girl I love and am deeply involved with that I smoke weed. And just some other shit. To start off, she is really stubborn on her opinions, and that no matter what, she is right, if you think and do so otherwise, you can fuck off.. Well, she thinks that about jerking off and I haven't done it in 4 years for her. I love her and I don't want to lose her. But weed helps me. The only reason she thinks it's bad, or I believe it is the reason is that her sister smoked weed too. But she also took fucking ket and shit. Weed helps me sleep cause I'm often up all night. It helps relax my mind when I'm stressed and keeps me calm. My anxiety is a lot better when I smoke it. And it helps me overall, take care of myself. But because she associates weed with such bad thoughts, if I told her, she'd leave immediately. I smoke cigarettes too but that's only because I get too stressed cause I can't really get weed that often. I want to quit them but shit just keeps getting worse and worse and I really don't want to lose her. What do I do, /adv/?
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Stop being a degenerate. And tell her to stop being such a close minded, intolerant bitch
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yeah dude, idk how you love someone who's so incapable of accepting other people's opinions
she sounds awful
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>>17109706
I have my reasons to love her. Deep personal shit.
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for some background, i'm 18 years old, just finished my first year of university 2 weeks ago. I live with my parents still. In 2013, a younger brother (9 years old) died from a drowning incident at a birthday party. My parents have become more neurotic ever since. In particular, my parents would always try to keep me home where they could watch me. I had a curfew of 9pm and was not allow to leave the home after 7.
A few days ago a friend of mine who lives about an hour away by bus (I don't drive) invited me with some friends to go out for dinner at 7. I was excited but my mother said she wanted me to stay home. After telling my friends that I might have to dip out, one of them said, "anon ur an adult". This made me realise that yes, I am an adult now, and that my parents shouldn't continue to control my interactions with my friends. How can I let my parents know that I'm grown up and can handle myself? How can I tell them that I should be able to do things on my own without them needing to constantly dote on me? I feel like I'm handicapped in some way.
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I don't think this is a case where it's as simple as "you're an adult, you should be able to do what you want". They've lost a child, and they're worried that something could happen to you. You need to sit them down and talk it out, and compromise. You're not going to get anywhere by refusing to compromise. Start off small, like negotiating a later curfew.
And if your friends can't see why your parents might be acting the way they do, they might just be assholes
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Assisting via bump
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>>17109703
Oh please, they're 18. They're not assholes for thinking he should be allowed out at 7pm.
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>be me, senior in high school
>prom coming up, didn't plan on going
>eventually decide to go a week before
>frantically try to find a date in time
>end up not finding a date
>already ordered tux
>accept going to my senior prom alone
>get a call from a girl the day before prom
>her boyfriend canceled on her and asked me to go with her
>holy shit, she's hot, easy 9/10
>go to prom with her
>prom ends up being boring
>invite her and couple friends and their dates to my house
>sit next to her on the couch and start watching movie
>she starts to cuddle with me
>feelsgoodman.jpg
>movie over, friends leave, she stays
>put in another movie just to spend more time with her
>she moves even closer, and is basically on top of me
>too beta to do anything more, but hey, who doesn't like cuddles
>second movie over, 7am
>take her home
>never really talked to her before that night
>she starts talking to me a lot after that
>talk/flirt for a couple days
>her friends say she likes me
>pretty juvenile but makes my life easier
>made it pretty obvious I like her as well
>she says she wants a relationship with me but she can't get over her boyfriend
>her boyfriend was saying a lot of fucked up shit through messages while we were at prom
>find out he was also emotionally abusive
>she only tells me she can't let go because of how long she's been with him
>says she confused because she wants to be with two people
>try to convince her that she needs to forget about him
>don't know if i made any progress
>also says we're moving too fast
>mfw she brought up being in a relationship first
tl;dr
A girl and I both want a relationship but she can't forget about her shitty (ex?)boyfriend.
I've been single all throughout high school, and this is probably my last chance to be in a relationship, and with someone very attractive too. What do?
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Tell her that her boyfriend seems pretty shitty and she deserves better. (i.e. you)
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>>17109711
Trust me, I have tried my hardest. I should be happy that she has some feelings for me but I feel like shit knowing that she also has feelings for him still.
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I am trying to figure out if this Girl I am interested in is with a certain guy. I know they are good friends, but I suspect they may be more.
1. Always Laughing and Joking with him
2. She has called him "Sunshine"
3. She does seem to have quite a bit emotion in her voice though.
But,
1. They don't get touchy really, in fact she seems a little uncomfortable at times if he does
2. If they are together, there are no public displays of affection (No Hugging, Holding hands, Kissing)
I guess you know what I'm asking. Well I am asking in your opinion, are they together or just good friends?
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>I don't have the balls to ask a girl out and I want to find any excuse I can not to
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>>17109524
I guess you are male:
Man up and either don't care or step in the game and go for simple question: Babe you are so hot, wanna date me?
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>>17109528
>>17109534
Already asked her out a few weeks ago. Just curious as to the situation with him
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What do you to vent aggression?
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I've been finding it more and more difficult to properly vent my anger. I go to the gym 4 or 5 times a week for the last ~5 years. Always workout very intensely, but I find that it isn't doing much of anything anymore. I'm worried that I might start to take out my anger on myself or even others, maybe even reverting to drug abuse (I am a recovering opiate addict). What do you guys do to keep yourselves distracted? I have other creative hobbies like photography, music, and drawing, but I always end up at square one.
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I masturbate furiously.
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It's a bit destructive, but I love using skateboarding to blow off steam. Flinging myself down stairs several times just for that one time I roll away feels pretty great, and in the process I tire myself out getting frustrated with the trick I'm trying to do.
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I play the saxophone, I'm not very good at it but it works for me as I have to focus at least a little to enjoy it and play well
Perhaps something along the same lines?
Even if it's just doing a puzzle or a crossword or simple maths
If I delete someone from snapchat, will this person got any notification/info that they are no longer my friend?
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>>17109502
prolly not
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>>17109514
prolly ain't good enough
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They won't, but if they send you snaps directly they'll notice you're not opening them.
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I'm a NEET 26 year old who badly needs a job. My last job was three years ago and I don't have an easy way to explain the hole in my employment history. I've been applying to every shitty retail position I can find, but to no avail. No one calls back.
What should I do?
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>>17109479
>employment history
I was traveling abroad with my rich partner / parents / relative. You might want to google some random country in case they will ask where you have been and what have you done there.
>retail position
What about flipping burgers? It is better than nothing...
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>>17109491
Traveling abroad for three years, though? That seems a little hard to swallow. Although I live in a pretty affluent area, so it might fly.
I was considering lowering my standards and applying for some food industry jobs as well. There's a Starbucks nearby that hires pretty frequently. I dunno what they pay, but I hear it's pretty okay-ish for entry level wageslave stuff.
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>>17109479
do you have any qualifications?
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My BMI is 26. How will anyone ever find me attractive? I feel like my boyfriend finds me unattractive and has been lying to me. I gained 22 pounds in a year.
What do?
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>>17109464
If you can gain 22 pounds in a year, you can lose 22 pounds in a year. Also you might not look that bad, depending on your body shape.
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>>17109464
go on a diet? its not that hard. count your calories. if you dont have the discipline to lose weight, you dont even deserve to have a relationship because you obviously couldent be a good mother.
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>>17109464
lose weight.
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I'm very insecure about the way my face looks and i avoid mirrors. I never wear my contact lenses anymore because i hate seeing my face in mirrors with bad lightning.
If someone ever calls me ugly it completely ruins my self esteem, even if they claim they were just joking. If anyone ever tells me i look good i just assume they are lying.
I've posted in countless rate threads on /soc/ and people usually rate me above average. I always assume they are either just being nice or i think that it's just a good picture with good lightning and that i actually look like complete shit IRL.
How do i stop feeling ugly all the fucking time?
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>>17109455
show us a picture of you? 1) because we'd be objective and 2) because we can give advice on how to at least improve your appearance.
/soc/ tends to rate people high because they of course want good ratings as well. if someone rated you a 4 its not like you'd give them an honest answer.
they rarely rate anyone below a 6.
your two choices are
>improve
>plastic surgery
for improve we need a pic to get you started. for plastic surgery you gotta do your own research. dont refuse plastic surgery for stupid reasons. why not do it? if you can save up the money id say you deserve it. other countries are proud of their enhancements (brazil mostly). i see no problem with it.
I'm lucky enoug hthat I am able to look 'good' simply by wearing contacts, dying hair, eventually getting hair implants, wokring out, adn a shit ton of a facial products.
but if i wasn't, id likely invest in plastic surgery. i actually probably will as i get older.
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>>17109465
Here is one of the few pics of me i don't hate, mostly because the pony mask is covering part of my face. I'm not an actual brony tho.
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>>17109488
>heres a pic of me to help you judge me
>its good cuz you cant actually see me
that being said, what i do see of your face you actually look handsome. not even kidding, if ur in socal id like to play iwth your nipples.
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Need relationship advice, guys!
Last time i had a girlfriend was years ago, and i didn't treat the relationship seriously. Now questions arise whether or not i should get myself another girlfriend.
Unfortunately i have great anger issues and will resort to beating when she won't obey me.
I don't know how far my aggression would lead, but i fear i won't be able to get into a relationship which won't result in a big problem for both of us. I do not believe in anger management and don't have the time nor will to try something like that.
What do?
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>>17109442
im bored at work so im gonna pretend this troll post is serious
>i dont believe in anger management
thats not a thing.
>plus i dont have the time for it
if you dont have the time for a 1 hour session twice a week how can you say you have the time for a girlfriend?
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Dude I can't tell if you're trolling or not but relationships are based on commitment and compromise, of you cannot commit to a couple hours a week or compromise to anger management, the relationships gonna die anywah
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>>17109463
i dont believe in anger management, going to a talk session every once in a while won't be able to change my personality from the inside
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Does anyone have any idea why would a guy act really clingy and share intimate thoughts with me one day and then ignore me the next day? Is it because hes not interested and doesn't like me?
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Maybe he was drunk
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>>17109434
Sometimes when I open up to someone and I think about it later I feel stupid.
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>>17109437
nothinng indicated that. Also its kind of a pattern in our relations really
I have a crush on this girl who sits at my lunch table.Lunch is the only period I have with her. We hang out with some other friends of mine. I want to get close to her but I get too nervous and timid to even talk to her. How do I approach her without making my feelings obvious?
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You want your feelings to be obvious. Talk to that girl, say you like her and ask her out on a date.
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by talking to her while supressing said feelings.
there isnt a magical solution that will make you not realize how you feel. the best you can do is purposely compose yourself and try to be able to do it on the fly too.
the more you do this the more you get used to it. she is a girl at a time in your life where you have a 'lunch table' ergo, she is by no means permanent. she is your practice girl. good luck
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>>17109412
>juzt do it
/adv/ like always
What you do OP is respond to everything she says in the table until you have a reason to talk about something outside of lunch.
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When should you be financially able to move out of you parents house?
Live in the UK but I'm really worried I'll grow old in my parents house, how and where do I move?
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I personally don't plan to do so until I've saved up enough for a deposit on a house.
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>>17109350
does it matter when you should? if you financially cant support yourself, dont bother.
every plan is different. some people are content to move into a 1 bedroom apartment and know that they will work minimum wage to live there for the rest of their lives. some stay at home for a few years to do college. some move out for college. some never move out.
decide what you want out of life (whether its to go hang out at a young age, or save up for a nice house down the road) and plan accordingly.
what doesn't matter is where you are, its where you're going. and if you dont have any plan for what to do with your life, than you shouldnt be worrying about when to move out.
if your plan is to just enjoy life as much as possible, thats fine, plan around that.
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>>17109350
You can ask yourself:
>WHY do I want to move out?
Personally I see no reason until you start hating your parents or when your dad is interrupting sessions with your partner.
If you have a GOOD reason, then you should ask yourself:
>How can I AFFORD having my own house / flat?
Because having mortgage and losing job isn't funny.
Because being forced to return home after you officially declared independence is lame.
So you don't care about WHEN, you care about acquiring good job and probably good partner to start your family. Because two people can pay rent much easier than one.
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How do I stop getting so over-excited during sex?
Not like, popping my load too quickly. But just, overall.
Every woman I've been with has at one point asked me "Are you okay?" during or after. I had a 10 second massage from a friend the other day and every time she touched my back and I twitched and tensed forward, and every time we're (not me and her, me and whoever) are getting busy my head goes completely blank and my breathing becomes really ragged really fast.
I get that some of that is normal but it just seems like I...am a little too much on those things?
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>>17109327
Have a couple shots. I'm not a drinker and during sex I can only last about 7 minutes or so. Mostly because I am WAY to worked up.
However when I get 3 or 4 shots in me, I calm down and can got at it for at least 3 hours.
It's all mental really, but a little bit of boozer really helps mellow you out.
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>>17109327
try pic related with your eyes closed. If isn't enough, instruct girl to take is slow and imagine something not sexy like broccoli.
You don't have problem. Keep sex and eventually it will get boring.
>my head goes completely blank and my breathing becomes really ragged really fast
You can have low blood pressure, weak hearth or something more complicated. Are you fit?
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>>17109327
ALso you may want to just try to monitor your breathing habits during sex, or any physical activity for that matter. You gotta breath comrade, or you're gonna pass out on top of your lady lol
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Should I ask her out or wait?
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Long story short, girl I've been meeting up with for a few weeks. We text a lot and hang out whenever she's town. She's coming back from school for a week before she goes on her study abroad trip over the summer. Should I ask her out in the little time we have or should I ask her out after the trip were we'll have more time to hang out?
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I typically don't like to wait longer than two weeks to ask someone out, especially if they're vibing with me. Problem is distance, not sure how to go about this.
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by ask out do you mean ask to hang out, or ask to officially go steady?
if you mean hang out, go for it. keeps you in her mind before she goes off on her trip.
if you mean ask to go steady, i wouldnt. regardless of her feelings the trip is the trip and shes not going to want to have much devotion to a guy she only started seeing five minutes before boarding the plane. im not saying this in a 'ALL GIRLS ARE SLUTS' kind of way.
but if i was single and planning a trip to virtually anywhere, i wouldnt want someone wlaking up at the last minute and saying i cant get laid.
ask her to go steady when she gets back.
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>>17109429
Yeah sounds like a plan. I didn't feel comfortable asking her for a lay before she went to another country either. Plus she's like relationship material versus drunk night sex type if you catch my drift.