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Maybe the North off sets it by a bit? As they probably average smaller than the South

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>>17175746
This is not surprising.

>>17175746
They obviously don't know every penis size in each country it's just the sample size etc. I think the average American is larger then that but we won't know how they run their population samples.

Workout. A long run will do

Exercise and meditation

alcohol

>>17175564
No, but you can lose weight.
Work out and count calories.

If that's you, you look amazing.

>>17175582
But then my tits look ugly, I don't like the way I end up looking when I lose weight (even if I lift weights)

>can I change someones' opinions and thoughts
>I'm too lazy to change my eating habits

>>17175045
I should be studying and I don't know why I'm ruining myself by not studying.

All of these job rejections/no replies and being told I'm too light for the job is making me feel like a real piece of shit. I can't get the goddamn job experience because you won't fucking hire me! Even so, if you'd look at all the shit I learned in school and would just give me a chance instead of assuming that little job experience = not fit for the job, you'd know I'm not a dumbass. And now I feel even shittier for sounding like a self-titled brat

We hung out all the time and I thought we were going to be official, but you fucked with my emotions and instead asked my friend out and left me to be destroyed by all of my built up feelings for you that are still strong to this day and I still have a high love for you and it literally kills me that I have to sit back and watch someone else take my place. I'm glad I'm still in your life, but this whole best friend thing just tears me down. Ah well. Life goes on

You determine how much rent you can afford and then check apartment listings like a normal person. Why does your age matter?

I got 8000 saved up but no car and I plan on moving in the city to attend community college and work.

>>17178875
I mention age cause a lot of listing want 21 years older

I'd probably just get it covered in big black block

But I would never have a tattoo I hate.

>>17178841

>If you'd be covered in vomit after a party, would you clean it up, or put more vomit on your body?

>>17178829
A guy who's hygienic, not fat as fatass, and isn't obsessed with the gym to the point where most of his stories have something to do with the gym as if I give a flying fuck.

Wat category does that fit into, honey?

>>17178829

>caring what women want

>>17178873

Stick to his question aspie

>>17178794
Ahhhh, Los Angeles

the only place I've ever been able to get laid

have fun

you're from philly? yoooo
Where from in philly? I'm from the general hospital/center city area
but good luck on your endeavor man <3 good for you for getting out of this hellish city

>>17178794

>What are the odds my bike gets stolen if i leave it unattended for an hour or two?

98%

>odds of run over
50/50

>odds of traffic
100% whenever the sun is up and when it's down

But you get to legally split lanes in CA so you're gonna have a blast rolling through dead traffic like a boss

There is no way, you're a fucking human being it doesn't work like that

If you're really serious, and not just a whiny bitch seeking attention, talk to a doctor about castration.

>>17178715
You can't turn asexual, but you can just remain abstinent and reject potential mates.

Turn your energy towards something else.

You should probably get medication and see a therapist. Therapy seems to have kind of worked, so I would say continue it and be totally honest with your therapist. The medication could help the anxiety and panic that you can't work on

Damn, OP, that sucks.

Medication for anxiety is a band-aid solution; it is meant to help you reach a point where you're receptive to therapy. It isn't made to simply cover up the symptoms that result, to allow you to avoid fixing the underlying issues, but that's what a lot of people do.

I'd absolutely suggest getting back into therapy immediately if anxiety is negatively impacting your life. Behavioral therapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can work wonders, if you're willing to put in the time and effort to build a good program in conjunction with a mental health specialist.
Your agorophobia crosses a line, making your anxiety a true mental health emergency, in my eyes. Embracing that by accepting it is a shame, sinful, even, in that you know it is the worst possible thing you can do for yourself. As much as you might want to, running and hiding indoors specifically to avoid anxiety is about as self destructive for you as hanging out in bars is for a confirmed alcoholic.

OP, if you're not getting much out of therapy, is that your doing, or the therapists? Either change therapists or reflect more on what you're doing right or wrong for your part.
Talk-based therapies are a mutual effort. It requires careful, attentive work on both of your parts- it's more than just talking on your end, OP. You're talking, reflecting on your responses, but you're also supposed to be doing exercises and reflection outside the office, aren't you?
If you do Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, you'll be doing thought exercises, physical exercises, and discussing the results in your sessions, as well as getting assignments for exercises- most of the work you do will be on your own, and eventually the psychologist becomes a coach, helping you focus and adapt the therapy as it progresses.

Don't give up hope, OP. I'm a ship's captain, and I did CBT for anxiety. My doctor introduced us, because he went to the same specialist for anxiety, too.

>>17178711
>Therapy mostly feels like they are just getting me to talk for an hour and then they tell me to go outside.
Then get a better therapist. My rule of thumb: if you're not feeling anything after 6 sessions, switch. You have to have something called "rapport". If you don't feel like they understand and can help you, you might as well go pay a hooker and talk to her for an hour, it'll be cheaper.
Ask about CBT like Bob said, it's a structured approach (i'm guessing you've been using straight talk therapy so far?)

Go to a psychiatrist too, tell them what you're dealing with. They'll figure out whether medication is a good option in your case, and what to use if it is.
Ask them about Asperger's as well, get tested and diagnosed if you actually have it. Don't screw around with uncertainties, tie up that loose end.

Does the anxiety stem from social difficulties? If so, then it's the classic SA associated with congenital social defects, and the best treatment (imho) is to take a mild physical anxiolytic like propanolol (a beta blocker) and go out and learn social skills as best you can. It'll take you 10 times as long as a normal person, and will be 20 times as embarrassing, but that's what the beta blocker helps with: it slows imprinting of painful/traumatic memories (our brains deeply hate "social pain", they treat it like physical pain from wounds). I'm early on in this process myself right now, so you have company OP. Know that you're not the only one that has to struggle with it.

Otherwise, it's likely GAD and you'll likely need at least 2-5 years of therapy to exhaust the anxiogenic processes (every time you get rid of one, your brain will focus on another, you have to keep playing whac-a-mole with them until your brain runs out of primal fear pathways to exaggerate). This is often done with the aid of long-term anxiolytics like SSRIs, buspirone, benzoctamine, etc.

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>>17178500
Nothing to lose. I reconnected with a girl on a dating app after a year once. It didn't go anywhere, but she responded and engaged for a while.

>>17178500
Text her for a bit then ask her out or wait for a local event that interests you both and ask her if she'll be there. If she isn't already going, there's a chance you'll meet up.

Texting a girl too much turns you into their friend. Facebook messaging is even worse because the site reinforces the idea (new message from friend).

Dude you're still really young, how can you give up now if you haven't really started anything? There's always time and opportunities but you have to do it now and live your life how you really want! If you don't do anything you'll really regret it, and if you don't get to where you really wanted to get then you'll be happy that you tried. Just go on its Never too late!

dw i was 21 when i reached the same conclusion

just quit games now and find something good to do. especially if you go to college, i wasted my whole university experience playing games rather than banging girls

>>17178491
19, holy shit you've got the rest of your god damn life to be miserable. Life has this weird way of working out, I didn't fall into a 'proper' job until I was 30, until that point I was fucking around with drugs, alcohol, taking low paid shitty jobs living with mates and having a pretty sweet time.... some shit times too but man, chill out, things happen if you let them. Quit worrying about this stuff.

The real question is how didn't you lose interest after 4 days?

>>17178494
I went on a few dates last week. None of them really worked out. I'm keeping my options open.
I haven't had a gf in 5 years.

>>17178455
>I'm playing games
>she's playing games too
Sounds like a match made in heaven.

Useless answer but is there nothing you can whistle blow about? Fight Club it and smash your face up infront of boss and then run out making it appear that he has done it!

>>17178377

>implying that will really work

>>17178377
not really... :/ I have start some discreditation back then (like real CIA vs. Cuba style) and it didnt help

Seriously, it's not as bad as I'm making out but point me in the right direction here!

8 beer? I think a 90lb girl could have handled it better

>>17178505
>8 cans.. I used to sink 12 before even getting a decent head on