I need someone to tell me what a fucking idiot I am.
I have a relationship with 2 girls at the same time
Girl A
>She loves me for who I really am (or thinks I am)
>She doesn't really care about my looks
>She has done things for me, that not even my mother has done
>She is not that pretty, maybe a 6/10
>She is extremely boring at sex
>She would gladly die for me and loves me more than herself
>I love her too
Girl B
>She is with me for my looks, and maybe money
>She doesn't have nice personality
>She lies
>She is awesome at sex
>She is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen (10/10 for my taste)
>She is married (getting a divorce soon)
>I have a huge crush on her
Now, I guess you all know that I should stay with girl A, but I just can't get girl B out of my mind.
Please call me a fucking idiot.
>>17185210
>I love her too
Sure doesn't sound like it.
You're a fucking idiot. Grow a pair.
>>17185230
I do. I started the relationship with girl B planning to use her as my fuck toy 2-3 times a week, because my sex life with girl A is completely dead. But now I can't get her out of my mind
Hey, I'm only 5 inches fully erect. Is there any penis growth shit that actually works or am I just fucked for life by genetics?
It impacts my confidence with women because, well, there's nothing to be confident about.
>>17185205
5 inches is plenty to satisfy most girls. You fell for the porn meme.
>>17185211
Well, I mean exactly five inches.
>>17185205
What is girth? That matters a lot also. 5 inches could be stretched , if you think the length is that bad. Google Indian yogi penis stretch
Is financial infidelity a reason to get divorced? When do you know it it's time to move on? How do you know if you reach the point of giving up on somebody?
We don't fight usually, only over money. I am generally happy in my marriage, we have lots of things in common. I can really see a future with him if he only stops messing up with money. We generally have a blast, he is a very nice person and very affectionate.
He has major depression and ADHD. I forgot to pay his bills for almost six months and didn't tell me. Then we decided to work it out and pay the debt. I helped out, his mother and father and himself. He forgot to pay one more thing and we just got another HUGE bill he promised to pay. It was basically just a tiny little bill on a loan, but since he didn't pay in time the interest... I had the money to pay that bill also if he only told me about it.
This isn't the first time this has happened. I am completely shattered.
Depending on the state you may still responsible for the debt even if you divorce. Look up your states divorce laws and stipulations and learn a bit more before making a decision. If you do decide you want a divorce you should plan it out extensively and be prepared to spend more than you think, especially if you have children.
Finances are a big deal imo and it shows a lack of caring on his part. His debt is your debt, and putting that strain on someone in a very careless manner at that, doesn't show you much respect.
>>17185200
>you forgot to pay his bills for 6 months
>he's horrible with money!!!
>>17185221
For that particular loan he is only responsible for it, student loan.
>>17185228
He is yeah...
I don't love him any less, so that's why i am conflicted about it.
Since I was a little kid, I've had a lot of weird rituals I had to do or else I'd have panic attacks.
I felt the need to count things constantly, repeat mantras and prayers to myself, and check repeatedly if my body/clothing was clean. I also have serious anxiety issues around cleaning my house or workspace and keeping it it organized. I carry around a notebook and have to write down everything I do each day.
My parents and teachers didn't really understand what it was, so they would just tell me to stop because "only crazy people did those things"
I learned to hide it, or to simply zone out/deal with the massive anxiety attacks that came on if I didn't follow through with my rituals.
I recently realized that I probably have full-blown OCD. I am also starting to realize that a lot of my compulsions are not harmful, and I'd probably be better off if I just let myself count random shit or tap my desk a certain number of times.
It's not like I have a germ phobia or something that would cause me to wash my hands until the skin flaked off. Mostly, my compulsions just involve organizing and counting things this relieves stress for me.
I'd like to get a diagnosis, unfortunately I have poor-person socialized healthcare so this would involve seeing a GP and getting a referral to another doctor.
Here is my problem:
Doctors fucking hate it when a patient comes in with an idea of what their diagnosis should be. I don't know how to bring up my weird-ass rituals to my doctor without it looking bad. The symptoms don't distress me. If anything I've come to peace with being a crazy person. I am afraid my calmness will make it look like I am faking.
and secondly
I don't really want to be medicated. I don't mind seeing a counselor or going to group to learn coping mechanisms or something, but I don't feel like my quality of life is harmed by my compulsions. I am afraid if they send me to a psychiatrist I will be required to try medication to continue treatment.
Thoughts?
>>17185188
Yep OCD.
You know what OCD minds are usually good at? Benign magic rituals, because basically your mind is attempting to practice ritual magic. Get some books, and read up. Also stay away from summoning. Just work with earth elements to start with.
>>17185336
Interesting. Thanks, anon.
Religious rites have always fascinated me, even though I don't follow any particular tradition. I like reading up on the topic, though. I will look into this.
>>17185188
Psychfag here;
Given what you've said, it seems 99% likely you have OCD. No harm in bringing this up with a GP, they're not going to hate it if you explain that you have rituals you feel an overwhelming compulsion to perform/complete, and if you don't you have extreme anxiety. The GP will more than likely want brief information, such as an example of the rituals. I'd also make a point to say that it the compulsions and rituals don't distress you or impact your life in any meaningful way.If you ask politely for a referral you're good to go.
As a side note, OCD or in fact any mental illness doesn't need to be "fixed". So long as you're comfortable with what you have and can manage without it impacting your life drastically, therapy most likely isn't going to have a profound effect on you beyond helping you understand what you have, which seems like it would give you some closure. Also, I highly doubt medication would be suggested. If it is, you can always look for another psych. You have no obligation to do anything against your will.
Good luck OP, I understand your apprehension but be open and honest. Everything should work out well :)
My long term girlfriend was a functional alcoholic she finally finished rehab but the problem is I met and fell in love with her while she was drinking, she was funny, easy going and everything we did was a big adventure. Since she got sober her personality changed and I no longer feel the same way about her...I don't want to be a dick and break up with her because she stopped drinking please help.
How long have you been together?
Almost 3 years
>>17185158
I mean is she capable of drinking responsibly at this point, or is she so destructive that it's sober or binge drinking?
Fiona keeps on being a bitch about how I smell like onions, sweat, and go on the internet too much. It makes me want to kill everyone in my swamp.
How should I kill them all?
Make it extremely painful - you're a big guy.
>>17185110
blow your ogre load in donkey tonight ;)
>>17185140
FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFOR YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU
>GF breaks up with me cause "don't want a boyfriend right now"
Whether this is bullshit or not (probably is) and she's lying, Why do I keep thinking about it? I keep saying to myself "It doesn't matter, I'll never see her again anyway" but it never stops it, as autistic as I am I even had a dream about her last night and I don't even like the bitch anymore
Channel your rage towards the pursuit of things that will make you better as an individual
>>17185005
Its just human biology. It sucks and its gonna continue but for a mentally healthy individual it will pass.
Do what>>17185009
Suggested and channel it somehow into something positive.
>>17185005
she might just honestly not want a boyfriend and wants to get her life on track first. That would be great and all but if she's still getting railed every weekend that's a little fucked up and shit like that happens.
my ex who I've been talking to tells me she still loves me and has sexual attraction to me but just doesn't want to date right now so we're stuck not doing the things we both want to do just because even though we love eachother she would only have sex in a relationship. atm I'm trying to figure out if that's a load of bullshit and she actually just wants to keep me around in case she can't find someone better in the time she just "doesn't want a boyfriend right now".
Give it to me straight, /adv/...
How important are contacts and just generally knowing people to getting a job?
I have no particular area preference, just something easy and with as little human contact as possible. Pay can be very low, I'll only ever be supporting one and I have cheap tastes. It just seems like absolutely nowhere will take me, even things that don't fit my criteria at all. I get the feeling it's because I'm invisible online and have no friends, as I can fake sociability well enough for long enough.
>>17184987
Contacts can get you in the door. Someone who owes your father a favor may agree to interview you for that reason. But he won't hire you just as a favor to your father.
Having a friend in a particular company means that he might alert you to an opening even before it's advertised, so you can be the first to apply. But he won't get you the job. You still have to sell yourself and deliver what you promise.
>>17185193
This. Unless your contact is a god king or owns the company he's not influential enough to get you more than an interview.
not important as long as your local job center isnt complete shit
Can I get anyone here to agree with me that depression is weakness?
Before today's politically correct, SJW bullshit, "depression" was stigmatised for a very good reason - it is a sign of weakness. Everybody gets depressed at some point, but you don't fucking rabbit on about it, you get on with it. Think about those who fought in the war, did they complain about "being depressed"? No, because they were more concerned with NOT BEING SHOT.
You realise why these lies are pedalled these days don't you? Because it keeps the population pathetic and compliant. If a person ignores their anger and frustration with their position in the world, and instead just cops out with "oh I'm depressed", then they don't fight to change things, or have emotional outbursts like getting in fights or whatever (something which has been a natural part of human life forever). They stay compliant, they sit in their shitty little office job where they generate revenue for their boss, and then spend their whole wages on consumerist crap that they dream will make their life better, but actually it just makes more fat cats even wealthier.
Please say I'm not the only one with sense... please say there are others who see the truth as well
You're either 14 or on the autism spectrum. Probably both.
War veterans didn't talk about their mental illnesses. But a disproportionate number of them did kill themselves over them. Being able to talk about mental illnesses saves lives. Fact. Glorifying violence and fights, which have no relation to the topic at hand, is just stupid.
>>17184982
FUCK I KNEW IT. The lies have infested everywhere
I'm 25 actually
Your lies probably kill more people than they save to be honest because suicide rates are higher than ever
Also I bet you're the kind of guy that likes watching somebody fuck their girlfriend aren't you
>>17184993
Suicide rates are higher than ever because suicides were covered up in the past if the deceased had any family. Because suicide was a crime.
You moron.
And nah, I'm too alpha to be a cuck. I'm just not completely ignorant as to the science behind mental illness like you seem to be.
>graduated college as a high achiever
>burn out, drop out of grad school one week in
>work a couple shifts a week as a bartender
>spend the rest of my life in bed
>feel like I'm wasting my life but no idea what I'm meant to be doing otherwise
I feel like I always had a clear goal up until now, and working towards it was what kept me going. After realising law school wasn't for me though...there's just nothing. I've got nothing. I feel like I'm barely a person any more. How do I fix this?
I feel the same man. After college was like a race to the finish, and since I've just been...free falling. Like the ground has been pulled out from under me.
Hope you get better soon. She's hot btw.
>>17184970
Sounds like you need to figure out what you want to do.. obviously..
Easier said than done, I know. I never figured it out and just by luck ended up spending 10 years as a field rep for medical equipment company.
Now I'm faced with the question again.. what to do. I know maybe 2 people who work doing something that love. The rest just earn money to live.
>>17185016
Just wish I knew how when I don't even feel like a person, senpai
I've heard people say " its the best 4 years of your life, it'll pass in no time. Yeah, the latter is true it's gone soo fast . Still I really do like it. It's not like I am bullied everyday , I go to parties I have friend but I'm awful at academics . I failed the standardized test for algebra and had to retake it. Also I'm taking geometry and algebra two my senior year, when ask if my friends are have taken trig and statistics. On a side not I've had a sort of "mental issue" I decide to ignore and its really bad now but I suppose I could embrace it.
>>17184958
nigger it's 8:50 am you're supposed to be in high school right now
also no, if high school is the best part of your life you're in for a shitty ride
>>17184964
Lol that's what I've been thinking. If this is literally the best part of my life fuck that .
>>17184958
>the best years of your life
College (assuming you're young) are the best years of your life; once you graduate quality rapidly declines as everyone settles into jobs and families, but you remain unemployed and friendless as student loans and anxiety suffocate you until you expire.
Enjoy your life while you have one.
How can I keep my erection during sex? I am 110% diamond hard while cuddling with GF, eating her out and fingering her but as soon I slip inside her I gradually lose it, going down to about 80% and sometimes completely.
I am only 25 and no-fap didn't quite work. It did make me cum much faster though.
>>17184952
try a different position, try kinky outfits on gf, have her be more vocal and dirty talk, she should put out some effort to keep you into it...
is she ugly/is her pussy loose?
>>17185064
.gif related
>>17184952
Poster above brings up valid questions/ideas. I'll add onto that by saying "If you masturbate at all you might want to stop having any sort of sexy-times for a while."
The reason I say that is, as somebody who masturbated a lot, I found my "natural grip" was tighter than a woman's crotch which made it harder for me to stay erect and/or climax ( which, as it turns out, is not a bad thing when you manage to stay erect but take forever to climax ). When I tried to hold off and not satisfy myself I found I was able to please the lady I was seeing better because I wasn't as used to my own tightness. This not only made her seem tighter but the fact I wasn't being satisfied as often made being in her ( sorry for this wording, I'm sure somebody else could find better wording ) more special or enjoyable.
TL;DR: If positioning, costumes and vocalities don't work quit being sexy for a month.
>>17184952
Do you use condoms? If you're both cool with it and trust her, try sex without them during her period.
Long story short: I kind of had the same problem with my second gf, introduced her to the "calendar method", she enjoyed it so much more, that she was the one, who brought up the pill. Went better from then on out.
I'm 6'3", am I too tall to dress like a girl?
Also, what does a feminine penis look like?
Not shitposting btw, legit question.
You are a boy
Do not dress like a girl
You will never be a girl
You have X and Y chromosomes
You do not have a uterus
>>17184936
I want to be pretty.
>>17184939
You're brainwashed. Stop looking stupid tranny shit up on the internet. Go out into the real world and do something not fucking retarded.
I've been with this girl for 9 months, I loved her more than anything, but she had problems with heroin use because of which she hooked up with her dealer. I broke up with her a year ago, it was ******* hard but I know I had no other choice.
I thought I would stop missing her after a while, I've slept with other girls with no string attached, I've even had a new relationships with ones who really loved with me, but each time I ****** up because I was emotionally detached and ended up hurting them in the process.
On some of my better days I feel like I'm over her, like I don't need her, but I simply can't open up to anyone else, I just don't want to talk to anyone. I like several girls I know but I just don't want to bother building a relationship again from scratch, it just doesn't seem worth it.
It's been almost a year now, we broke up in June last year. I've had depression problems and I've been on SSRI's which helped, but now I'm having slight problems with amphetamine use and I don't know if I'll ever love anyone else.
I just finished high school with good grades but I don't want to study anything because I just don't see a point. Nothing really makes sense, but I have a little half-sister in a city 400km away, so I thought I could move in there and find a job to be with her while she grows up. It's the only thing that actually makes sense in my life.
I don't know what to ask. Not even my psychologist knew how to help me, she wanted to send me to rehab.
Please help.
why the fuck did the board censor my fucking words
>>17184916
Yeah rehab sounds about right. You weren't even with this girl for a full year, she was a heroin addict, and you're still hung up on it? Not to mention you trying out these other relationships where the other person supposedly loves you, while you're an emotionally distant little shit - meaning you're fucking over other people just because.
Fuck you
>>17184916
>I loved her more than anything
No.
>she had problems with heroin
No.
>I thought I would stop missing her after a while
You would.
>ut I simply can't open up to anyone else, I just don't want to talk to anyone.
If you weren't this much of a emotional faggot.
>I've had depression problems and I've been on SSRI's which helped
Muh teenage drama.
>I just finished high school with good grades but I don't want to study anything because I just don't see a point
Yeah let's wallow in self pity.
> but I have a little half-sister
Add broken family to the mix.
> she wanted to send me to rehab
Because she's a jew preying on your stupidity.
>I don't know what to ask
You're lost yes?
Cut the crap out of your life. Save up as much as you can as quick as you can. Move. Start fresh. Go to uni with you supposed good grades. Lift yourself out of that shit pile.
I need to buy loads of 'things'. If I am a bit short on my rent can I even be evicted? Even if I was a bit ill? In Uk, ta.
you don't need those things. You need to pay your bills like the responsible adult you're pretending to be.
You can be issued a section 21 by you landlord, if your tenancy agreement has expired, and you will be evicted by the courts in 2 months, provided the landlord has complied with several standards.
If you are still in your tenancy agreement you can be given a section 8, which as long as you aren't 2 months behind in rent you wont be evicted by the court.
>>17184978
>hich as long as you aren't 2 months behind in rent you wont be evicted by the court.
Great thanks
bye!