So I was with my girlfriend and she was on her period. Obviously we didn't do anything and I fell asleep.
Well the next morning I woke up and was joking around about messing with her in her sleep and she comes out and says the night before when I passed out she used my hand to pleasure herself.
Was I raped?
>>17186299
Did your hand look like it was grabbing at hot wing chicken legs when you woke up?
Depends, are you not ok with your girlfriend using your hand to jerk herself off?
I think we can downgrade this to sexual assault.
You weren't but your hand was used without its consent.
I don't know any good hand lawyers. None of them seem to want to take the hand jobs.
I can't leave the apartment without my girlfriend threatening to commit suicide because she wants to be around me
wtf
Like seriously
You're a boyfriend not a therapist. Tell her to seek professional help. Stay only with her if it makes you happy. Inform her friends and family members of her current difficulties so they take care of her.
Don't date a crazy bitch pham
>>17186289
Take her with you or don't leave your apartment. Get an online job and when you're hungry get delivery.
How do I get a therapist? Is it worth it? Could I pay for sessions with a fast food salary?
NEET bux from mommy and daddy tbhfamalam
>>17186277
Depends, are you on someone's or your own health insurance? If yes, make sure it covers mental at and then research the number of visits it covers and your copay.
If no, you're pretty well screwed. Session's are around $75 dollars per our of pocket. Psychiatry (if needed) would be far more, at least $100+ since they're medical doctors.
>>17186437
I have health insurance by my parents but I'd have to ask about if it covers mental health. Do you think it's likely?
I want to keep this short at straight to the point.
I was dating a guy for a long time, and I messed up, I mean really messed up. I wanted to make things work and make it up to him but he wasn't having any of it. We have not been together for a good few moths now, but hes decided it was only fair on him that he posted some of my personal pictures and contact into. Now what I want advice on is if I should report it or not because hes done it without my consent so its classed as revenge porn, which is illegal where I live. At first I thought I deserved it but after talking to a few people Ive realised I don't. I want to be the bigger person and just move on from it, but if I see my pictures online its just going to bring it all back up and I'm trying so hard to get over it all. It wants a military lifestyle so this is why Im hesitant to report it as it would give him a record, I still love this guy and don't want to mess his life up but what hes done wasn't cool.
Report it.
If you let it go and someone happens to find it, you're going to be questioned as to why you didn't report it when you knew it was illegal.
They'll think that you were willing and you'll come off even worse. Don't be stupid.
What do you want us to say, really OP? You want me to coddle your feeling and hurt emotions.
Fuck the both of you. That's a fact. You both fucked up and are terrible people. Let me guess, you cheated on him?
You want to be the bigger person? Then fucking walk away. You messed up, he messed up. Two wrongs don't make a right.
That's your lesson. Learn from it and realize that you are now part a vast understanding of the human species doing stupid shit to each other
When you msg a chick and you ask how are you, and she responds with working, is she getting annoyed if you talk to her more then?
>>17186150
idk specifically about girls but if I'm working and busy and you try and get a conversation out of me, it's at your expense
it'll only annoy me if you act like I'm obligated to drop what I'm doing and chat
it'll also suggest that you can't read social cues, so if you're looking to be more than friends with said girl, it's probably a bad idea
>>17186165
I guess Im confused because when a guy friend of mine used to work up at a hotel on nightshift, I could message him and he'd be chatting me up until he had to leave in 10 minutes.
>>17186614
that's because your friend probably didn't have too many responsibilities at work/didn't care about his job as much as the girl does.
I get so sick of my anxiety just out of nowhere taking over literally at it's worse making me sick and at it's very worse I start to feel like I'm being electroshocked whenever either randomly or due to stress. I mean I take meds and some ways have improved like breathing ive tried working on.
I just want this shit to end and I feel like it never will at least get to a manageable level where I literally won't get sick.
OP Here, any advice about coping would really help me right now. I really just want it to be at a point where it never sucks the life out of me. I mean I have to live life and not have this control me anymore like it has for 20+ years.
lay or sit and meditate
http://marc.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=107
the only advice I've got is to just analyze and get to know your anxiety, if you learn to know how it works you'll be able to identify it when it's coming, and you can train yourself to calm down because you know it's just anxiety
Is a 12cm erect dick (without pulling back the base) and a 13cm girth enough to pleasure women? If I pull back the base it grows to 15cm, is there a way to lose fat on that area?
>pic unrelated
>>17186128
>12cm erect dick
Tiiiiiiiiiny penis.
>>17186135
I know so what can be done?
>>17186144
Uh, nothing?
Is it possible to keep on fighting gender dysphoria? Being depressed and having suicide ideations are normal for me and I just don't know what to do. Physically, I am an attractive male, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'll be a conventionally attractive female, let alone pass as one in the first place. Day by day, I feel that my death is imminent and that I'll die as a young virgin. The most impact I'll have is the pain I'll give inevitable leave for my friends and family.
You need to explain your question with clarity and precision. Try again.
>>17186090
> go to >>>/lgbt/
> go to /repression gen/ (assuming tranny mods didn't delete it again)
> ¿¿¿
> profit
>>17186098
I guess what I'm really trying to ask is, should I keep repressing the dysphoria and live miserably, or commit suicide? Transitioning is fruitless due to my wide shoulders.
I'm 26, no work experience, no degree. How do I start rebuilding my life?
Obviously I'm only qualified to work min wage retail jobs, so should I start there? Although I feel like once I start working min wage, I'll be there forever. I don't think real employers give a shit about how fast I can flip a burger.
>>17186068
Learn to code
>>17186073
So he can waste his time? No one's going to hire someone who claims they can code over someone who has a qualification that says they can code.
OP, if you have no work experience, you need to apply for anything and everything, including wage slave work
>>17186077
I hear you. I guess I'm just worried that even at 40+ hours a week working as a wageslave, I'd never be able to leave my parents' basement.
I will apply for any demeaning position I can, but I dunno how I'm going to eventually pad out my resume to make myself seem hireable.
Im almost 21. Since I lost my first and only long term relationship (2 years) about 3 months ago I've felt really starved for intimacy. I really want another relationship, and I've tried, but I feel like it's kind of hopeless at this point. I've never been really good at wooing women (like I said I've only had one long term relationship) and most of the time when I try they usually just end up blowing me off, making excuses not to see me or just being really shitty in general. (Rarely do I get a straightforward, sorry I'm just not interested) to make matters worse I'm a sailor, so I'm never at home for more than a few months at a time, so I guess I can see why no one would want to get romantically involved, and the pursuit seems kind of pointless now. My family tells me it's good to have a job like this while I'm "free of attachment" but I can't help thinking how much happier I was being attached. I don't know what to do with myself I just feel lonely all the time. I would like some advice on what to do with myself if anyone has it.
Bunp
>>17186045
go find some intimacy.
>>17186642
Thanks?
I've always been apt to read for fun, but now as I go through the "classics" I'm shocked to find just how little I'm enjoying things. Here are all the books I've read this year:
Macbeth by Shakespeare
Stoner by Williams
As I Lay Dying by Faulkner
The Sun Also Rises by Hemingway
A Farewell to Arms by Hemingway
Of Human Bondage by W. S. Maugham
The Count of Monte Cristo by Dumas
Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain
Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston
The Great Gatsby by Fitzgerald
Those are just the ones I've finished so far this year, with other books like The Iliad (didn't finish), The Grapes of Wrath (read last year), and even The Wasteland (poem) that I haven't liked either. Out of all of those above, the only one I really liked was The Great Gatsby. I'm fine with not liking some classics, but there are so few classics I do like that I think something might be wrong with me.
Anyone else go through with this? From the lack of results I find on this on internet searches I can only conclude I'm in the minority feeling this way.
>>17186027
>I think something might be wrong with me
There is no objective list of books (hell even activities, anything) which every human being HAVE TO enjoy.
Because enjoying stuff is SUBJECTIVE.
Maybe you are just reading heavy literature which is considered by Wikipedia "worth of your time". Seems like all big novels.
Change genre. I always liked books with action. Like Tolkien The Lord of the Rings. You can try to read some red library, detective things.
Also
>>>/lit/ is a place for your brain gains needs.
>>17186050
I have already read all Lord of the Rings books and they were only okay. The weird thing is that all the people with the same problem as me ones that naturally read Young Adult books or action-heavy stuff or whatnot, but I feel more of an attraction naturally to stuff /lit/ likes.
For example I loved Hamlet when we read it in class and thought it the most profound thing I'd ever read, but nothing has given me that sensation since and I'm scared to go back and reread Hamlet since I'd probably not enjoy it close to as much.
"Real literature" is astounding whenever I can get into it, but it's so hard to get to that point of enjoyment and I have no idea how it comes to /lit/-types so easily.
Classics maybe classics, but writing styles, topics, conventions and the audience has changed so much that it would be super surprising if you sincerely like all of those. Not liking any of those is a bit odd, but seems like your just more honest with yourself and your taste then most /lit/ards.
My girlfriend has low self esteem, what can I do to help her with this issue?
>>17186019
beat her
>>17186019
Raise her self esteem.
>>17186019
lick her asshole after she has just taken a shit and tell her it tastes great.
How do you tell between genuine friendliness and making fun of someone?
I can never tell
i cant tell either. bump
Determine whether or not the individual is actually your friend
It requires decent intuition and intelligence. Experience builds on this.
You must be able to read body language, faces, subtleties...
Has anyone found a good relationship off of 4chan?
Maybe I've just been here way too long but it's getting hard to imagine dating someone who doesn't browse
>dating someone who browses 4chan
That's asking for disaster
>>17185993
hahaha yes! dating 4chan user is a horrible idea
>>17185997
Have an upboat xD
I literally need someone. How do I stop being emotionally codependent. My ego is extremely fragile and I'm over emotional. Been diagnosed with anxiety disorders and bipolar, I'm 19, a male, and so far my life went to the shitter.
How do I stop needing other people. How do I become my own person? I feel like I have nothing to call my own, no one to call my own, no one I can depend on and at the same time nothing I am a master of.
Going back to Uni after mental breakdown and two years of psych wards, homelessness, etc. this fall.
Any advice appreciated. I've been told to take it day by day and stop beating myself up over small stuff, trying but its hard. At this rate I'm not going to be able to hold a job and live on my own, I'll be homeless again. Please help.
I'll be your friemd, Opie.
I'm going to be honest with you OP. I don't give a flying fuck about you or any hope for your future.
So then why am I commenting? Because even through what you have been through (and it's not that much;19 years is nothing. I'm 28 and went through what you are going through..it doesn't get easier) seems like the end; it's not. And shit is going to get better. Even with anxiety and being bipolar.
You do need to take things day by day. And to add onto that, Do one thing every day that makes you happy. There's going to be a billion more small things to beat yourself up over to come. You just gotta focus on the ones that are debilitating your focus on life.
You're probably a really smart kid. You've already gone through an experience most kids your age won't even appriciate. And I'm not saying to be happy about it but you already have a crazy world view because of your disorders. You have a chance to use it to your advantage. Do you have any hobbies? Anything artistic? That's some relief you need to get out. Sounds dumb as fuck but art therapy of any kind can and will help for moments of lapse or for just the need of expression.
You become your own person by just taking a risk on yourself. I'm not saying doing a 180 lifestyle change. But how about instead of a burger with ketchup, get mayo. Instead of standing up to pee, sit down. Instead of regular milk, have chocolate. Does all that sound lame as fuck as examples? Good. Because that's what being your own person is about. You do shit YOU want to do. Decide what YOU like. Even if it means taking a risk and doing something small you don't normally do. From there graduate to bigger things. Go to parties, ask out that girl--actually fuck that; flirt with her. You need to gain experience in anything to gain that confidence..
Sure a lot of people suck, only a fraction of people you will run into are worth keeping around but at least then you can slightly have someone to depend on.
>>17185966
>>17186452
When I mentioned doing something artistic, that can also help you with something to call your own. It doesn't matter how shitty you are or begin with (Everyone has to suck to get better) it's more of enjoying the process of creating that is going to give you something to call your own. In turn, that usually attracts people to you, people want to be your friend, people want to get to know you.
If your upset about having noone to love or love you back, well the harsh reality is you need to work on yourself and it's going to take a while to bounce back from it but trust me when I say this. If nothing else, you need to work on yourself and priorities, and needs (you basically need to get your shit together) in order to be able to give yourself along with taking care of another. This is another human being with their own set of issues. Remember that on those desperate love moments. Don't do anything rash in that sense.
Are you getting any help? Are you activally fighting yourself/negative thoughts? If you can at least take a shower, get out of bed, and eat something; your already winning in the small steps book.
Small steps feel dumb as shit and yeah, they're fucking a trial and error thing, but you haven't given up yet. You're here asking for advice. Just asking is another small step. Just sitting there and reading this on your computer after I press enter is a win if you understand what I'm saying. It's all about perspective man.
And you lost yours along the way. There's nothing wrong, shameful, or shitty about that. This shit is going to make you stronger if you chose to be. You know all those gay ass quotes you see on facebook, those motivational quotes? As bullshit as they can seem, at some point someone else lost their way but in a small tidbit sentence, is letting you know it's going to be alright. It's hard to say that in a sentence when all of this is super complex to begin with but sometimes you need those dumb quotes to get better