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You're at the point in your relationship where you shouldn't have to do anything fancy to justify it.

Getting upset means you aren't secure about your relationship and need the validation of it being special, despite having dated him for 4 years already.

What do you think that would be appropriate?

>>17187958
We started dating in high school so we never got to do anything fancy and he's never had a job either to get me anything fancy. I guess I wish he were just a little bit romantic or put a little bit effort into being romantic, you know?

>>17187842

In 10 days I leave to start driving trucks over the road which means I'll be gone for 3 weeks at a time and back for maybe 3 days before going out again. She knows I was hoping to spend as much time together as possible before I left but she has just been flakey, telling me she will be over at 5pm, then it turns to 7pm, then she'll text she's actually not coming over, she has to "clean" or "organize" or get stuff ready for next semester and set up her internship. Today I won't be able to see her, but yesterday we were both free all day, but she decided to just stay home because she "felt tired" and needed to do stuff, which I told her could be done today when we couldn't see each other. She only responded with "it's not a big deal, we have plenty of days left" knowing it's only 10 days till I leave.
She knows what it's like to be away for awhile because for 2 years of our relationship I was in the Army. I don't understand why she's acting like this, and when I bring up the fact that she's flaking on me all the time, she says that I'm "needy." All I want is to spend time with her before I have to leave home to drive trucks for at least a year and I feel like she's just flaking on me often, and not really prioritizing seeing me, when my most important thought at this point is to spend as much time with her as I can before I leave.
Am I being too clingy or something?
Sorry for the long story, but I felt I should explain it well.

>>17187844
>She only responded with "it's not a big deal, we have plenty of days left"
I forgot to mention, after that I tried to call her, but she ignored my call (another thing she frequently does if she's upset because I'm upset), and then texted "I just don't feel like dealing with it right now, I'm tired and we can talk tomorrow"

It infuriates me that she ignores my calls when I'm angry with her about something.

Sounds like she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, but doesn't know how to break it off with you.

Try associating her name and her appearance with an absurd story.

>>17187829
say her name in a descriptive sentence about her 10 times.
Sexy sarah in the red booty dress
Sexy sarah in the red booty dress

>>17187849
Good thought

Dont quit fapping just do it less and go completely without porn.

Try fapping 3x a week or experiment with different patterns. There is a point for me where I just get so frustrated I have to Fap.

>>17187809
The without porn part I can definitely do, but I'm finding it hard to hold off for even one day, let alone more than one. I've been through physical opiate withdrawal a few years ago due to constant surgeries and I weaned myself off of it and ended up fine, is it the same process with fapping? Should I focus on decreasing to once a day for a bit, then once every other day and work my way down, or is it better to just start off with the three times a week only rule?

Step one: Delete history, and go through all your saved files, bookmarks, external storage, etc and delete everything pornographic. Assuming that you will encounter porn again at some point, enforce the resolution that you will never save any pornographic videos or images again. This alone helped a whole lot because it turns like a 3 hour porn collecting spree into 10 minutes browsing tube sites and adult content aggregators.

Step 2: Get rid of all chairs in your bedroom. get a standing desk or some other makeshift arrangement where you only go on the computer standing up. I have found that simply sitting in a chair makes my internet addiction a whole lot worse, whereas standing it is 10x easer to peel myself away and go outside or go to sleep. If you absolutely must sit on your ass at the computer like for work or school. Make sure you have a window open where people outside can see you, and you are wearing pants and underwear. Better yet bring a laptop outside, which will further reduce procrastination/cyberslacking


There were originally more steps but I went into detail and covered everything. TLDR: Delete porn, stop looking at porn, go outside.

>>17187809
fuck you, fapping is the strongest correlate with porn addiction and the easiest way to quit porn is to stop fapping and fantasizing abut sex so you have no reason to go looking at xxx

Looking at porn while still fapping: Spend hours and hours looking at porn, while edging as long as I could and cumming several times a day

Looking at porn after I quit fapping: Browse porn material a few minutes, get bored and stop

probably has already
probably thinks you're not interested
probably gave up on loving you half way through the friendship but was too nice to drop you

>>17187709
Are you ugly, fat, deformed, retarded, or disabled? If yes to any, then no. If no to all, then yes.

Beta orbiters <33

Low test

Sounds like you're depressed. Pick up a hobby or maybe work out? Get that testosterone pumping.

>>17187705

I lift 3 times a week, and swim at least 3 times week. I used to cycle about 120mi a week on average but I'm down to low 30's now.

Fitness isn't the problem, and I have sex often. I'm a happy dude just cannot seem to find any girls that are more than just something to fuck

Why is everyone on this site so obsessed with their damn height?

>>17187643
What do you expect? Fanfare, women to throw themselves at you?
Just live your life the way you want, if you don't like it, change it. Only you can control that.

>living at home
>no job
>gets income anyway
>doesn't attempt an education
>literally gave up on finding a job after 1.5 years because late 30s
>thinks the 'friendzone' even exists at your age (it doesn't, they either like you or they'll keep you out of their life entirely)
>worries about taking care of parents while siblings live their lives
>hasn't had a job in 15 years

I'm surprised you even have the ability to cry anymore, your life is so dead. You realise this is something that can be changed, but you won't do it right? You've spent so many years doing absolutely nothing. I doubt you really have the ability. Most people would have given their head a shake a decade earlier than you and sorted themselves out.

Of course not. You'll look like, and rightfully be labeled a faggot and a douchebag

>>17187642
>I hate myself and want to look like a flaming faggot so everyone else will hate me and throw rocks at me
is that not what you want. For everyone to look at you with disgust?

Well shit I don't want to be a douchebag, though I am technically a faggot

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How can trees be real if god isnt real

>>17187603
Ask her if she wants to watch GoT with you and your friends.

>>17187603
>episode was cash
lmao plebs

>>17187603
>host a GoT watching party
>invite her
Its like you faggots have never hit on girls. Do not ask her to hang out 1 on 1 first unless you want to clearly make the statement that you like her and want her to return your feelings.

There is nothing we can do except for being there for him and telling him we love him, and getting help when he asks for it/we feel like its necessary. Its just so hard. It hurts so much

I'm sorry, Anon. For what it's worth, I think that everything will be okay.

I'm wishing your family the best during this difficult time. I'm well familiar how much suicide and attempted suicide can affect a family.

>>17187557
What I did when my roomie was suicidal
>STOP BEING A FAGGOT
>Bro gtfo the couch, were going to a party and meet some girls
But really just do shit with him outside the house. You cant change doing the same things youve always been doing. You need new hobbies to distract from the old bad habits to really change. Go pick up rock climbing with him every day or something. You know. Something he'll look forward too every day doing. OUTSIDE of the house.

What's his degree? Honestly if you want anything useful you are going to have to take some mth courses.

>>17187555

Bioengineer grad here.

I took a total of 5 pure math courses, those being Calc 1 (AP credit) ,2, and 3; linear algebra; and differential equations.

In addition practically every other class used math learned in these classes throughout the course.

>>17187555
Courses are distributed in 5 main branches

1. Classical analysis
Calculus 1,2,3 - including tensors, manifolds, differential equations and classical mechanics
Real Analysis 1,2
Complex Analysis 1,2

2. Algebra
Linear Algebra 1,2
Group Theory
Ring Theory
Field and Galois Theory

3. Topology
Point Set Topology
Homotopy Theory
Homology Theory

4. Differential Geometry


5. Partial Differential Equations

"Drawing on the right side of the brain"
has a chapter on improving handwriting. Applies those motor control techniques and you'll be all right no problem.

How could that possible be bothering you that much?

It's just a lot of practice, dude, chill out. It seems daunting at first but the muscle memory will come to you if you keep at it. You'll never be quite as strong as you are in your dominant hand but you can train yourself to use your right hand.

I started at 6

>>17187532
I've been doing it before I can even remember. Definitely since 4 or 5. And this isn't uncommon either.

http://www.summitmedicalgroup.com/library/pediatric_health/pa-hhgbeh_masturbation/

Dunno. I started actually masturbating around 14 but my first orgasm was maybe around age 12. I wasn't trying to force it and didn't understand what was happening though.

>>17187481
It's not a matter of morals. That's a bit of a strong word. It's also not a matter of business since you don't own the apartment and it's not profit. You just want to improve your costs and are too nice to want to have the conversation. Just tell him what you want to do - you don't need to justify it or explain yourself or give reasons.

If you want to feel better about it, give him a 60 day notice so he has a better chance to sort his shit out.

Why are you living in this area if you only make 16k a year? You are fucking yourself financially by not living someplace cheaper.

Anyway, I don't think this works the way you think: the lady that moved in to the other apartment is moving into her own place. That's privacy and freedom she's paying for vs. being somebody's roommate and having to put up with their shit. I don't know if you'll find someone willing to pay 300 more for just the bedroom, but if you REALLY think that's possible, just give him the chance to pay the 300 more or leave. Calmly explain your reasons why: your perceived value of the property and need for more money.

I really don't think you'll find someone willing to pay that much to rent a single bedroom though.

>>17187506
To add to this - considering your limited income, you need to look out for yourself first and foremost. Why are you doing him such a huge favor by letting him stay at such a massive cost to yourself? Like I said, it's not a matter of morals. Morals would be involved if you made him move out tomorrow because you needed an extra room to house your drug lab.