my boyfriend doesn't send me texts in the morning anymore is he less interested ?
he just doesn't seem to contact me as much throughout the day anymore and I usually end up calling or texting him and putting in more effort. he doesn't realy take me out frequently either. I don't know if he doesn't wanna be with me anymore but it feels like it and idk how to act in response. I did talk about it with him and he said nothing's wrong and etc etc he said I overreact and stuff and I said okay do you think we should break up and he said no or whatever and I asked him again and he said I don't know and he was crying and I said if you don't know I should leave and we should break up and I don't remember what happened but we didn't break up..
help??
>>17188531
oh and he also makes a lot
of promises he can't keep. we've been together a year and it's new behavior
????
Sounds like guilt. Either from an unkept promise or infidelity.
Hey /adv/,
Is anyone here a believer in Christ? If so, I really want a thread to hear about your hardest struggles with your faith and your own personal struggles.
Even if you don't believe in God, I want to hear your story. This isn't bait.
This isn't even a thread to put guilt or shame on people or even push people into a belief in God or any religion.
Pls, no bully.
>bumping
Bumping again. I know there's gotta be someone out there that wants to be heard.
>>17188514
I'm not a Christian (I'm a polytheist), so I'm not sure what exactly you're looking for here. Care to explain what you want to hear?
Why is /adv/ filled with turd people who give genuinely bad advice?
>>17188462
people on here often give advice that works for them with out realizing that its hard for someone else to positively apply it to their life. for example people often say shit like "meh, go outside" but what the fuck does that mean? just because they can go outside and talk to people, and form social circles doesent mean everyone can. Also, people on here like to pretend they know shit with out looking into it.
what is bad advice op?
Because it's 4chan.
What do I do if my neighbors literally do not stop mowing lawns. Every single fucking day I wake up to the fucking sound. That retarded awful droning engine and the grass being cut and the mower running into shit. Even at fucking 9 am they are mowing lawns. They literally never stop. I live in a retarded hick town where people mow their lawns literally every single fucking day. I'm literally at a point where I'm just going to walk up to them and rip them off the fucking lawn mower this needs to stop. I wake up to a lawn mower literally every single fucking day.
>>17188437
yo, same. tis the season I guess.
wake up at 6 am tomorrow and mow your lawn.
after it enrages your neighbors maybe they'll gain some understanding and realize that other people sleep too.
>>17188443
Well I think the guy that does it early as fuck is taking care of a house that no one lives in. No one is ever at the house but there's always some fucking hillbilly over there at like 8 or 9 am mowing the fuck out of the lawn for hours
The problem isn't that people mow their lawns.
The problem is that you fly into rages that are taking over your life.
Seek professional help.
Does anyone here ever struggle with a sense of destiny to greatness?
Like that one day you will do become a historical world figure?
I realize that is unlikely and unrealistic but I have always felt it.
desu I think it just might be some undiagnosed delusion or megalomania.
The issue this causes me is that it kind of makes choosing a career difficult. I have 4 options:
>hydrologist: Serve the people, doing important work and it is science related and has amazing job security and decent pay. Takes away time from studying math in uni.
>actuary: Make great money, I like math. Work isn't important as hydrology
>major in applied math without becoming an actuary: get a job in consulting or start a business(I have tons of them, my interest in business is not motivated by money but by my desire for independence). Work isn't important as hydrology
>become a comedy writer: I think I am funny, I would thoroughly enjoy this work, great money(if successful). Work isn't important as hydrology.
I am attached to the idea of serving the people. But I am also a nihilist. In the end everything ends. So why not pursue money? But I don't even like money that much. If anything I would like to use my money to have some autonomy and control my own time. Add to this my nagging sense of destiny, which pushes me toward doing whatever the fuck I want(because I will eventually be the hero I imagine), and puts me in suspense for a moment in which the stars line up and I will be able to be this hero I idealize myself to be.
sounds like existentialism to me, not nihilism.
anyway, delusions of grandeur can be healthy if you pursue with logical steps and turn them into motivating ambitions. what's stopping you from trying to achieve those things other than you insisting that it probably won't happen? you don't only have 4 options, you only have 4 convenient options.
can you guys at least answer this?
>Does anyone here ever struggle with a sense of destiny to greatness?
>Like that one day you will do become a historical world figure?
I want to see how common it is. Answering 'no' is just as insightful, to me, as answering 'yes.'
>>17188448
what's stopping you from trying to achieve those things other than you insisting that it probably won't happen?
I think it is unlikely to organize third worlders into destroying religion and pursuing glorious communism. Yup, that is my edgy dream. I am motivated by a strong sense of justice, I am from the third world and I have seen the abuse and corruption, my solution is atheistic communism. But what is the likelihood I will go back and organize the people into a better future? I am a realist and acknowledge I am just an individual.
Let's avoid any discussions of ideology, I share it just so you guys know how 'out there' my dreams are.
I am still unsure of my 4 regular options.
What is the likelihood that the liberator of a third world country posts on 4chan?
How do you actually make friends with someone? In the past it just used to happen because other people chose to include me in stuff, but now I can't seem to make friends on my own.
I've tried to be friendly with people, start texting them, etc, but I find that 99% of the time texts back are just one liners or sometimes they don't even respond, and then I don't know how to go on from there.
No one texts me first to ask me what Im doing except one girl that Im friends with. its like no one thinks Im good enough to be friends with.
>>17188369
I have the same problems
People only talk to me if i talk first; even my own friends...
I also can't hold a conversation so i don't talk to people and the the snakes bites it's tail again and again.
>>17188403
>Meet girl through friend.
>She adds me on facebook.
>says "you're cool" 20 minutes into the night.
>Is playful and makes conversation with me.
>friendly at first on facebook after that night.
>slowly becoming more glib with responses on facebook.
>hasn't responded to last text asking how her finals went.
fml. I ruin everything somehow. Its just like with plants too. I keep watering them if they look sick and trying to mess with them and they die.
Same here. I mean im pretty shy but im super nice to everyone but now that im out of school and all that I never get invited anywhere. Its depressing. I am 23, live in a college town and basically my only friend is my boyfriend
Friend who is girl that I've known and crushed on since age 12 (I'm 21) decided to basically throw herself at me.
But I'm in a relationship.
She stripped herself fully naked (I kept all my clothes on and had no part in that) and then she took my hand and then guided it over her breasts and had me squeeze them. Then she masturbated and I just watched, then she held my hand to her vagina and I felt it briefly.
I am mortified now. I couldn't turn away... so I just watched this.
No kissing. No penetration or anything like that, and I wasn't into it.
Should I just pretend it didn't happen, never contact that girl ever again, and move on with my girlfriend?
>>17188352
You were sexually assaulted. Report it immediately.
>>17188353
this.
If a girl said
>friend stripped himself in front of me.
>made me touch his dick with my hands.
You'd go to police.
>>17188353
Kek technically you were. Try and push that you were raped.
But also it sounds like you didn't do anything. You say she grabbed you and guided you. At no point did you pull away? Unless you were shocked to a point of being petrified.
Hey you guys. Is it normal is it to think about your first ex often?
I feel like after my first girlfriend I haven't been able to connect romantically with anyone. Even with my most recent ex- I never felt anything when I kissed her.
But... I have near-vivid memories of all the time I spent my my first girlfriend that still bring a big smile to my face even though that was 5 years ago.
Is anyone else like this? Any advice?
I know the feeling it sucks
You still love her. She dumped you, an I right?
>>17188280
Actually, I was the one who broke up with her. We were both girls so it mostly stemmed from insecurity issues...
Right now I'm living on campus, on decent terms with most people (well, I can carry on a conversation) but I'm not in a legit social circle (e.g. right now, I more or less turn up to the dining hall by myself and sit with whoever). Not socially retarded by the way, I just tend to keep to myself.
Cheers /adv/, have a great day
think of what purpose does a social circle serve
easily, the only reason to get in a social circle is because you share common traits and interests with such circle. For example, if you are a /tg/ enthusiast and find a roleplaying group then you will just naturally fit in. If you like videogames find people that like videogames as well, etc.
lets suppose you like anime, ask people if they like it and if so start from there. This, sadly, may seem kinda difficult for introverted people like you, but keep in mind that university isn't like high school, meaning that people do not look down upon others hobbies and thus you shouldn't worry about asking
Go to gym?
>>17188253
Definitely this, going to the gym helps so much with meeting people
When I was at high school I was depressed daily because of being ugly. When I moved to college I just stopped to think about it somehow and I just didn't care. It was all fine until now.
Since yesterday I don't know what happened but I started to hate the shit out of me again, I'm angry and depressed. I'm so angry at myself that I don't know how to release the steam. It's like it's boiling inside, I just fucking hate myself so much.
It's so fucking overwhelming when you have to look at yourself in the mirror and know that that shit of a face will be there starring at you for the rest of your life and you can't do shit about it. I'm so fucking jealous of people who are atleast normal looking.
Post pic
>>17188076
If its that bad you should get surgery, what is your ethnicity?
>>17188080
I don't have to post a pic, it's based on objective standards of beauty. I've got a big nose, fucked up jawline, uneven face and to top all that I'm balding in my 20.
>>17188081
I'm not a millionaire.
I need some serious advice guys. I'm in a situation I never thought I'd be in and I don't know what to do.
I think my cousin (19f, 6 months older) wants to marry me (19m).
I've been sleeping with her/secretly dating her for three years. Both sets of parents know that we're close, but they don't know this is going on (my mom suspects I'm seeing someone but she doesn't know it's my cousin) When we aren't in school we don't live that far away from each other, but we saw each other pretty infrequently before we were fifteen. Infrequently enough for GSA to take hold. As soon as she got her license we became very close, and after I got mine six months later we were all over each other. We've kept it mostly secret, minus me taking her to prom because she didn't have a bf (because she's dating me). Recently she's been dropping blatantly obvious hints that she wants to marry me, and I'm nervous about the whole thing. What do I do? Should I do it? How do we inform our family, if we do at all?
Just a few more things to clear it up a bit,
>We're both in college, just finished our first year. Our schools are within driving distance
>She's absolutely gorgeous 8.5/10
>We live in California, so it's legal for us to marry
>I'm infertile, so there's no fear of retard babies
>This isn't lust or puppy love, I genuinely love her and she genuinely loves me
>I won't post any pictures because she occasionally browses 4chan, including this board, and I don't want her to be mad at me
Due to the fact that I won't post pics, I'm sure a lot of you are thinking this is bait. It isn't. I genuinely want advice, and even though I'm a dummy for asking 4chan for advice, I still want it.
>>17187828
I mean do you want to do it? Could you handle your family casting you out, would they?
>>17187828
>19
>In love
>Married
>19
We can disregard everything else
That shit was normal back in the 18 hundreds
>staying over a friend's place
>wanna make a move but have never made a move before
Would it be too presumptuous to bring condoms? Is it possible that she'd be insulted in retrospect?
>>17187800
Don't "bring condoms." Just put like three in the bottom of your backpack. Make it seem like you always carry them around for whenever or for friends etc. Don't make it seem like you brought them specifically for this moment.
>>17187800
Do you normally carry condoms with you. Does she know if you do or dont.
If you dont have sex will she know you had the condom on you.
Just casually whip out your dick and see how she reacts.
How does one not become a misogynist?
All my life I grew up watching miserable marriages in my family and even coworkers jokingly tell me to never get married. Then there's all this crap everywhere on the internet, sure it's just anecdotal but there's literally millions of pieces of evidence against them. As if all of this isn't enough you gotta throw in some neo-feminism and tumblr radicals who're trying to make things even more "fair" for women.
I've had girlfriends who were okay but I'm worried about the future.
>>17187786
Being a realist is not the same thing as being misogynist. Stay MGTOW
Just understand that men are fucking stupid too, you just understand them better because you are one.
>>17187786
>How does one not become a misogynist?
One gets the fuck out of 4chan and never looks back.
I'm 20 years old. As a kid, I could really get into something and spend hours and hours doing it in one sitting, be it drawing, reading, or whatever else. I can't do that to save my life, now. It's like it's mentally exhausting just to focus on anything, even if it's something I want to do. I can work a lot doing less enjoyable things, like my shitty job, but the moment I have to focus and exert mental effort into learning a new thing or practicing a skill, I burn out in around 30 minutes and just can't stand doing it anymore.
I've been diagnosed with depression by two psychologists, but I don't get treatment because I had to convince them I was not to keep from being indefinitely institutionalized, and my family would think I'm batshit insane so I can't go to anyone as long as I remain on their insurance.
>>17187636
>Requires treatment
>Avoids treatment
>Wants help from people
>Avoids people
wew
I think your problems are bigger than finding shit to be interested in, kiddo.
>>17187649
The "treatment" was indefinite detention until at least my 18th birthday, Anon; so around six months, against my consent because my consent didn't matter as a minor.
My family are a bunch of jerks who stole my identity, ruined my credit, and have screwed me out of being able to finish my degree.
Neither treatment or the people surrounding me are valid options.
Bump since my /adv/ threads have a tendency to die with one non-response.
>tfw don't know how to seppuku
>tfw no doctor will tell you how.
Suicide bag or carbon monoxide poisoning. The former may be less painful.
>>17187592
Any benzo (its a class of drug, use Google to get a list of all of them) and alcohol will do the trick
>>17187586
You fill in boxes with the numbers 1-9 without using the same number in a row or column... god damn, you're stupid. You should kill yourself.