Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 5263. page

File: 1525415_983354838406312_5520055446869164630_n.jpg (82KB, 960x912px) Image search: [Google]

82KB, 960x912px

College student here. Before summer break, I told the girl I really liked my feelings after I had a few drinks. She reciprocated, and told me she felt the same. A couple of days later, she sent me a text saying that relationships are not a part of who she is, and although she likes me, she just likes to hang out with everyone, and doesn't think she'll ever bother with relationships, despite many people telling her that she'll grow out of it. I also found out that she doesn't drink, nor like alcohol at all for that matter. We're both on good terms now, but we haven't seen each other since that night as it took place just before we all broke up and went home for summer. Is there anything I can do in my current situation? Summer is 3 months long, and I can't stop thinking about her. I'm thinking after summer, I ask her out on a friendly date. What do you guys think? My buddy told me i'll be over her by the time I go back to college after summer, but I don't know. I really like this girl. Any ideas on how I should go about things?

File: 1450301f-62c6-4e69-9053-c6f6884cff69..jpg (1MB, 1456x2592px) Image search: [Google]

1MB, 1456x2592px

>has 1 close friend and 1 "stand-in" since middleschool
>everything always had been ok with close friend
>this year, stand-in started hanging more and more with close-friend
>i got a gf
>stand-in acts weirdly possessive, wants me to dump gf because "bros be4 hos!!"
>still with gf
>hanged out with my friends less because of gf
>close-friend turned 18
>he also started to act weird when we hanged out altogether
>he does not reply to my messages anymore or try to avoid me
>stand-in's mom think i'm his dealer when i'm clearly not, can't go to his place anymore
>stand-in tells me weird stuff about closefriend, i start to believe he tries to keep closefriend for himself LOL

>>fast forward: a week ago

>hangs with stand-in
>closefriend joins us
>he barely talk to me
>stand-in tells closefriend to come to his place to kill a rat or something
>tells me to wait outside, & that closefriend would text me when he'll leave
>got back home cause i knew i wouldn'r text me and stay there, and that's exactly what happens

>>f-f: today

>stand-in calls me at 10am tell me to come over and smoke a joint cos he home alone
>get to his place, smoke a bit and leave at 11
>gf come at my place from 12am to 5pm
>text closefriend at 5pm, ask him if he want to hang out
>obv no reply
>text s-i : "n-n-nah my mom's home"
>tell him to stop his bullshit
>no reply
pretty childish stuff but i dont know what to do. i've always tried to be cool with everybody and i dont know why this happen, closefriend was actually a close friend, i was cool with all his family and shit, i don't get whats going on.

help pls :]

File: pathfinder.png (535KB, 960x450px) Image search: [Google]

535KB, 960x450px

So I recently started playing a tabletop RPG with a group. It's fun, I like it.
Everybody's obviously pretty nerdy, but there's one in particular that seems like he's not at all used to interacting with women.
He's super awkward and doesn't really seem to be able to filter between what's something you can say on the internet and what's something you can say IRL to someone's face.
Mostly he makes a lot of "jokes" about women at my expense - they're not really jokes, more intended to be witty remarks "haha are you going to try and seduce the enemy?" (in a situation where that wasn't even an option and nobody was suggesting that), "is [character name] on a diet?" (when I asked about what foods were stored in d building), "I bet your character could seduce anyone, male or female", "I never thought I'd say this, but I guess we'll have to follow the woman (me)", "since you're a women, do you think we should stop and ask for directions haha" etc etc
Also a whole bunch of blond jokes, all directed at me, even though we have three blond guys as well.
It makes me uncomfortable. Not hurt or offended really, it just makes me feel awkward and out of place. Like, I know I have a vagina. You don't have to keep reminding me.
I get that he's not trying to be mean or anything. He's socially awkward and in his mind it's probably meant to be playful banter. Nobody finds it funny though. I don't know how to react, so I usually just pretend I don't hear.
So how do I get him to stop?
Should I tell him in person?
Or in text?
Right after a "joke"?
Or before/after a session?
Should I instead ask the DM for advice? (a super reasonable guy who he might be more comfortable getting criticized by since he seems to go into brainfart mode around women)

File: 1447599503718.png (1MB, 1308x696px) Image search: [Google]

1MB, 1308x696px

Hey anons.
27m here. Love wincest and everything about it but i've never had the luxury of doing anything.

awhile back i "accidentily" sent my mom a dick pic and she seemed to like it, i convinced her it was an accident and when she said it looked like my father's i said "thanks, glad my mom like it?" and she was saying "no no no not like that ew"

what i'm coming here today is i want to know if i should tell her that it wasn't an accident. I'm not sure if it'll blow up or just be a little awkward.

File: image.jpg (410KB, 1193x1600px) Image search: [Google]

410KB, 1193x1600px

I have a problem that I need to get fixed ASAP, which is causing me massive, lethal amounts of stress.

however, I am told that the problem cannot be fixed while I am under such massive amounts of stress, as they believe fixing the problem would be more stressful to me than not having it fixed.

How do you stop being stressed in order to have the source of stress fixed when the problem at hand is the literally only source of stress in your life?

File: MckaylaMaroney.jpg (71KB, 600x813px) Image search: [Google]

71KB, 600x813px

live in london suburbs

wanna get a prostitute

best go visit in to them or get them to come to me?

pros/cons?

thanks

File: MtcI69A.png (186KB, 368x575px) Image search: [Google]

186KB, 368x575px

>Be me
>Birthday tomorrow, planned some stuff
>Girlfriend reminds me that she's kept her schedule open
>Have no fucking idea what to do
>All the movies playing are bad in general

I'll have a couple hour window to spend time with her, but it's tomorrow and I planned on the movies, but they're all shit. Have plans with friends today, but not tomorrow, so I can't exactly invite her to tag along in a bonfire or something.

I'm all out of ideas

File: superthumb.jpg (36KB, 300x250px) Image search: [Google]

36KB, 300x250px

> be me
> be in an abusive relationship for far too long
> not know how to leave because every time I try to they blackmail me into staying

meanwhile

> abusive partner spends 99% of their time telling their friends who barely even know me that it's all in my head
> their ex reaches out to me and tells me it isn't in my head and that they did the same thing to them for years before they could get away
> abuser went to the point of trying to sabotage their next relationship with the guilt tripping and threats
> they tell me it's best to cut them off
> little attempts towards cutting them off gradually fail as they try to claim to my friends that I'm crazy and don't really want to break up
> going behind my back with other people they've been unfaithful about and those people threaten to beat me up without even knowing me

> partner is basically taking the typical abuse route and claiming to others and everyone who will listen that it's me being abusive

what do I do?

I have all of the proof of their abuse, lots of it.

My first question is how do I cut them off without them going full stalker and harassing my friends further?

my second question is how can I stop it affecting me? my shitty partner and their friend's abuse affects me so badly it gives me full blown panic attacks and yet somehow they're still the victim

And when I break up and cut them off, is it better to just say nothing more than goodbye or do I make a point of standing up to them (again) and telling them what they did wrong when I know they're only going to use my words against me and twist them to their growing army of equally as unpleasant people?

My friends can see through their bullshit but their friends don't know their true nature. This is a very particular kind of abuser, who is very charming and acts like the kindest person in the world but behind closed doors they are malicious and cruel,

File: tumblr_o309kw0xf41u92b71o1_1280.jpg (250KB, 1200x800px) Image search: [Google]

250KB, 1200x800px

Hey guys, first time poster here.

I started seeing a girl I've known for roughly two years running. About two months ago we became a couple and started talking more frequently and seeing each other on a once a week basis, which I always made the plans for and always engaged first due to not having a clear schedule ( though before we began our relationship she always engaged first ).

Just last week during a late Skype call we made a deal ( I can't say the details ), of which I did my half and expected her to do hers. She told me once she was done eating she'd pull through, and I messaged her telling her I'd wait for her for that night. However, she didn't message me back so I went to bed about two/three hours later.

I wasn't needy so I waited about the week mentioned ( it was about eight days though ), of which she didn't message me back nor hit me up at all. Once the eight days passed, I sent her a message about it in a friendly and playful manner ( how I usually act around her ) with literally no response at all. Which isn't normal for her since she's always replied to me a few hours after.

I should also mention before we were in a relationship, we were supposed to Skype one day and she flaked on me, then we didn't speak for about a month. I dropped her without telling her, then she came back more willing to talk. So it makes me think this is the same case, but as my girlfriend I didn't expect her to behave this way, so I'm considering dumping her as I find it immature.

Long story short - We had a deal. I filled my end. Waited for her to fill hers and she didn't. Didn't message her back or made a scene about it. Waited eight days with no message from her. Messaged her after the eight days with no response. How should I handle this?

File: image.jpg (37KB, 500x404px) Image search: [Google]

37KB, 500x404px

What does it mean ti truly be a man?

So i have these urges to play with toys i havnt played with since middle school. Id feel pretty autist plaing with them but, would a real man not supress his emotions?

File: lawfag.jpg (9KB, 150x239px) Image search: [Google]

9KB, 150x239px

Hey there /adv/. Lawyer here, in Ontario Canada, mostly family law. I'm in my office kinda bored on a Friday. Ask me anything.

File: 1461175961141.jpg (93KB, 400x559px) Image search: [Google]

93KB, 400x559px

How to move out of my parents house?
I'm almost 19 and still live with my mom.

File: image.jpg (539KB, 400x300px) Image search: [Google]

539KB, 400x300px

Woke up this morning. Hungover.

Girl I had 3 year relationship and walked the globe with unblocks me on Facebook after emailing me and seeing eachother downtown since she has a new boyfriend.

Her new boyfriend sucks ass, so I don't know what that says about me, but she's super hot and smart. I don't feel like I'm glorifying either of them.

Anyways. Just talked to her on the phone for the first time in like 6 months because I blocked her on everything. That's a long time. If I go back to her I lose a certain friend who is a girl.

But we have a dog together. And she wants me to call her. She's the only girl who's strangled my heart since I was 6 years old. Cute and blonde.

What the fuck do I do? The "Game" sucks," and everyone l in it potentially has AIDS.

I really don't know if I should call her today. I woke up and got super stoned, took like 5 shots, and now I'm at work when she tries to call me. The timing feels off. Or perfect?

File: IMAG0013.jpg (1MB, 1836x3264px) Image search: [Google]

1MB, 1836x3264px

My current gf and I have had a relationship since highschool and after we graduated we went our separate ways temporarily. In that time she had been with one other guy who she had sexual relations with and when that didn't work out she came back to me. My dilemma is what she had only known the guy for a few weeks or so before they had sex and that makes me feel as if I shouldn't be with her (keep in mind that this is the only girl I've been with my entire life). I don't really know who to turn to since all of my irl friends say that we were "made for each other" and I really do love her, but at the same time I can't get over how easily she gave it up to another guy and I feel like I'm missing out on something you know. I feel like if I end the relationship I'll never find anyone like her again but I don't want all of this other stuff on my conscience anymore. This isn't to say I just want casual relationships, no, that not my thing, but what if there is even the smallest possibly that there is someone else for me out there? Should I take the risk or should I just buckle down and deal with it?

File: mj.jpg (138KB, 1200x726px) Image search: [Google]

138KB, 1200x726px

Here's the deal /adv/. I've been smoking pot recreationally for well over a decade, since before I met my wife. She herself doesn't smoke (she's tried it but never smoked regularly). Recently, she's begun to get upset when I do, and she tells me that she thinks I have a substance abuse problem.

That's complete bunk; I take care to make sure I smoke responsibly. I smoke maybe 2-3 times a month, never when I have to drive, never when I have work the next day, never when I'm upset about something, and never before our son (2 y.o.) goes to bed. It also isn't a drain on our finances; a 1/4-oz lasts me well over a year. I know that I don't have a substance abuse problem.

But I know that people who suffer from addiction often don't understand their own situation and will offer all kinds of rationales to try to show that their drug use isn't that bad. So to offer the above information is useless, she treats it like a refusal to take accountability.

I don't think she's intentionally gaslighting me; she was in a long-term relationship (before we met) that ended disastrously, primarily because of her ex's alcoholism, so she's super sensitive to the issue. I'm not sure what I can tell her. Help please.