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You're going to get aids you dumb fuck.

I feel like killing myself.

>>17182965
whats up?

I know you are probably not interested. When I asked you out, and you said yes, that put me over the moon. Then your friend tagged along, hijacking the thing, while trying to keep us from getting too close. And then we never could properly talk around him. It seemed as if he was trying to control you to a degree.

Now that we are finished with class, I won't get to see you again. Unless we hang out like we agreed, but every time I offer up a day, you are busy with no other day offered. Granted this happened once since we agreed to do something.a

If you are not interested, just tell me. Please just tell me.

I love you.

L,

Let me start by saying you are flawless in my eyes. The way you move is so gentle, but at the same time you exude this confidence that I admire so much. I absolutely love your hair, and your smile, my god, your smile is so gorgeous makes me want to rip my chest up. I'll be honest, when you giggled at my snarky remark in choir a year ago, my heart stopped, and I felt so happy, so satisfied for the rest of that month. I know this might sound creepy and slightly fedora-y, but you're not reading this so what the hell.

All that being, I'm never going to ask you out, partially for the reasons I had before (Low confidence and self esteem, etc etc), but mainly because I'm going to a university on the other side of the country, and chances are I will probably never see you again come the fall (I can't do long distance, I've tried). I'm not writing you to win you over, but to help you. I really do think you're misunderstood, and I really want to help you.

First, you really need to talk to people. I already know you're an incredibly nice person, so when one of your "friends" calls you a bitch because you didn't talk to them during one of their mental breakdowns, you can imagine how that makes me feel. But I've been in your shoes before; my first two years of highschool when I didn't talk, people assumed I was emo or something and I guess that intimidated people, because when I eventually came out of my shell, some would say that they wish they knew me sooner. So when one of your friends is having a personal problem, just say something. I know you may think you have nothing helpful or inspiring to say, but make your presence known. It will go a long way, and people will appreciate you more for who you really are.

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>>17180010

On a similar note, if you're invited to a party, don't leave early. I don't like parties either, but by leaving early, you're saying that you have better things to do than be with your friends. So even if all they do is play a lame game of Cards Against Humanity, just stick with them.

Stop talking to those three guys, the lacrosse players that are twice your size, you know the ones. I've talked to them. All they talk about is sex. And memes. They are toxic.

This may be my personal bias, but I think you look best without makeup (I think that's related to the confidence thing I mentioned earlier), but I've been noticing that you've been putting it on more frequently, and in heavier amounts. Personally I think you're wasting your money

That's really all I can think of right now. You are a wonderful woman and you deserve the best. I don't think I'll be getting over your soon.

-A

Contact both. There's a lot of lines being crossed to the point he's going to your place of residence. Who cares if he loses his job

>>17176333
Is it enough evidence though? Should I take a picture of him standing outside of my apartment? I started writing down the dates and times he comes by. I guess I should clarify: he usually stands outside of the building, but one time he managed to get inside and walked up the stairway to my apartment door. I checked with management and no one by his name live there. I also moved since last year, he knew my old address but I have no idea how he figured out where I live now.

It's summer and we both live in the same town the university is, so I don't know how active campus security is right now, or other parts of campus "justice." I just don't want him to lose his job but keep on harassing me, I don't know if the university can actually detain him-- and I don't know if the police will think I have enough evidence to do anything about him.

>>17176314
Has he written you any emails or contacted you otherwise?

depression is a real thing and treatments really work.
You have depression. Go get treatment.

>>17191608
I don't want to be another person saying I've got depression and treatment is like $150 a session where I am and takes months to get n appointment. I can't help but avoid help because it's so hard to get

>>17191559
Yep, sounds like depression. The actual medical kind, not the "i'm sad" kind that goes away on its own.
Go see a psychiatrist.

>>17191622
>$150 a session
>takes months to get n appointment
pick one, you either have govt-funded healthcare or you're in the US (where you pay and get it immediately)
Unless you're in Niger or some shit.
If there's a gigantic waiting list, go write your name on it anyway basically.
Chances are you'll still have this shit in 3 months when you get your spot.

And oftentimes you get meds instead of therapy, meds don't require constant weekly appts

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once you cheat you can't go back anon, you will be no better than the person who cheated on you. I have friends who have been cheated on and it destroyed them and they start an ugly cycle of cheating on their next partners. Tell her how you're feeling anon and if it comes down to it and you still want to cheat dump your gf.

Almost cheated on my girlfriend yesterday, but then when it became an actual possibility I started feeling like shit and stopped.

Yeah sometimes when I can't think of the answer and I know I'm not gonna be able to get the question right, I consider looking at my classmate's test, but I just can't bring myself to do it. I probably haven't cheated since elementary school. I would at least try guessing the answer first as opposed to cheating

doors can be replaced so smash through that fucker and give your mom a hug

I would at the very least not leave the door, talk to her.

make her food

You're an idiot because you didn't tell her you liked her or ask her out. She thought you weren't interested and felt like she could confide in you as a friend.Literally no reason to get butthurt at someone because they can't read your mind. I bet you didn't even tell her why you're bothered

>>17191406
You aren't attractive or just not her type. You're angry because she hurt your self esteem by not reciprocating your actions. Don't show your jealousy or hurt. Just slowly phase her out of your life without being a dick to her.

Your goal is to eventually not care about her or who she likes. Let the friendship fizzle and die out.

>>17191414
"hurr durr im a stupid caveman fuck who assumes". rage more at your own issues. I told her plenty of times, she gave me mixed responses but none were negative

>>17191418
sounds about right. I'm sure she'll hit me up in the next few days and wonder why she's getting no response

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>>17191259
bump

>>17191259
eh, well pick a hobby I guess, I read novels, at least that keeps you from killing yourself, do it for 23 days, could be painting or art, someone crazy enough might buy it, I do not k now, try new things, that's what I've been doing, it's hard, but you never know future is unknown to all.

>>17191286
true true, i have a hobby. Been a musician since i was 4. Andn thats kinda my problem i dont see much for the future. Can't get stoked on it. You work then you die. Thats okay, but I'd like to at least have some happy instead of existential cynicism

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>>17191073
Bang her in the ass.

>You'll thank me later.

>>17191073
Yeah, I think a lot of people have made that mistake of getting into a new relationship too soon and being emotionally distant out of fear. And if they keep up the emotionally distant act it only ends in one way: hurting the other person to the point where they become emotionally distant as well and the relationship implodes.

There are two possible fixes to this: 1 - Admit to yourself that you're not ready to jump into a new relationship because you haven't worked on yourself enough yet, and you'll only unnecessarily hurt this person if you stay

or 2: Realize that your fears are irrational and as long as you hold on to them you will be a self fulfilling prophecy, stop being emotionally cold, and open yourself up to this new person

I appreciate the advice. Also, she is an extremely nice person, her ex keeps texting her and to my knowledge (i've seen her do this) she ignores or tells him she doesn't want to talk. However, she never really blocks him or deletes his number. Do you think this is something to be concerned about?

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Yeah, you both are inexperienced doofuses.

>>17190962
Why the fuck do you live with your mom if you make 28$ and hour?

>>17190989
New job as of January and it's piss easy to save money when I'm only paying 250 a month for rent.

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Sounds like a real condition. What do the doctors say?

Yeah, it sounds as you can't control it by will, scary.
Go to doctor.
At least I succumb to dreaming spinelessly, but willfully.

>>17190963
Debating if I should go to one, desu I think they'll just chalk it up as an add like symptom and just prescribe amphetamines or some other adhd medicine (which I'm fairly certain I don't have) which idk if it'll help

get a life faggot

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>>17190969
I'm curious.

>>17190956
Having cum on my body is hot but also a nuisance. It's hot, but then you gotta clean it up and that sucks. So more cum would be both more hot but also more of a nuisance afterwards. The moment would be worth it though.

They're fun as shit to watch though. One time my guy got close enough to orgasming that when he tried to take a break, he couldn't help but let a few spurts out. Then he was like "fuck it" and jerked himself off to orgasm right there. Seeing so much cum come from him, especially when it was so much more than normal...I was literally mesmerized.

But I want someone I can rely on, someone I know will be there for me, on every level, emotionally, physically and financially.

I want a solid foundation as a partnership, one where we are both equals, right now I'm not feeling that.

So.. what do I do /adv/, I'm dreading talking to her about this, because she got so pissed at me for being honest.. but if I can't be honest, is the relationship worth it?

Help me out here please.

Nobody has any advice.. seriously, come on I need some help here. Please.

bumping again.

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>>17190837
says OP who is a 20 year old virgin neet with no social skills. come on buddy, nobody believes you.

>>17190837
Whoa guys watch out! This dude is edgy as fuck! He deals with drugs and strung out whores. This guy is real and edgy. Let's not question him!

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>>17190837
Ignore the haters OP, they're either cucks, or bitches trying to justify a system that gives them an unfair advantage over you and lets them ride the penis carousel for free. They can't know what you've been put through, nor do they care. They will never understand of feel justice from words...

There's only one thing left for you to do

>>17190796
>Is it honorable to die for ones country?
If you believe in what you're fighting for.

>Do people still even care about honor?
I do, I imagine I'm not the only one.

>>17190796
Is your country Israel?

>>17190810
Israel is a based country. Anyone who says otherwise is a sjw or a terrorist sympathizer.