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How do you react when a girl starts touching you casually? Like if she starts stroking your arms or something like that.
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Do it back
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This
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What if it bites
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1)/Adv/, does purposely losing contact with people, because you feel lonely in their company okay, or should i compromise and fit in? I always feel like i wasted time on such gatherings. How do you stop feeling like shit, when you don't sense connection?
>All those "i'm 29 and have no friends" threads are pretty depressing.
2)How do you develop close friendships? I'm in college
Used to be an anxious nearly autistic teenager, who didn't fit anywhere and thus, rejected everyone out of envy.
So, i don't have any friendships from school, and, honestly, never had real ones there. I was watching anime about friendships and dreaming about it, but was too scared to trust anyone.
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>>17223155
>does purposely losing contact with people, because you feel lonely in their company okay
Yes, everyone does this. You can't force a friendship. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work.
>should i compromise and fit in?
Generally the answer is "YES, dumbass": that's kind of what this whole society thing is all about (go read about the hedgehog's dilemma). But not enough for it to make you unhappy or drive you nuts: basically, you compromise on the little things, but stand firm on a few important things.
Some people can't do this because they're freaks, but that's rare and often fixable (by psychiatrists).
>I always feel like i wasted time on such gatherings.
Then don't go to them. Don't waste your time doing shit because other people like it.
Go to social gatherings that you actually enjoy. Join clubs that are relevant to your interests, and go to the events they organize. That's why they organize them, after all!
>How do you stop feeling like shit, when you don't sense connection?
You don't. Everyone feels this feeling except psychopaths, basically (even schizoids do: it's usually one of the big reasons they even go to psychiatrists in the first place since they don't get lonely and are otherwise happy being by themselves).
Repressing it is a bad idea because it's a deep emotional drive, and this interferes with other emotions (again see schizoids as an example, most of them try).
>too scared to trust anyone.
Fix that. If you can't do it by yourself, see a therapist and they can help (your university probably provides one if you're in a 1st world country). Trust issues are ridiculously common so don't worry, they deal with that shit all day long.
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Thanks for the reply, anon, that's reassuring.
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>>17223155
>Go to social gatherings that you actually enjoy. Join clubs that are relevant to your interests, and go to the events they organize. That's why they organize them, after all!
Don't end up like us, a 26 yo loser with no friends.
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Should I get a male prostitute? I've tried wand vibrators, various other sex toys and free casual sex with guys on tinder and from clubs but I've yet to be able to enjoy sex. I desperately need release/sexual satisfaction before I go mad. Should I just get a professional?
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Get a boyfriend.
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>>17222996
You can't just get a boyfriend someone has to develop feelings for you first
But I have the money for sex.
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Why do you want to pay? Do you think it is yoyr guarantee to get good sex?
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Cliché question, /adv/ - how can I get over an intense crush? I've been crushing on a girl for over two and a half months now, and what worries me is that I've never felt something so intense for anyone; not even my high school crushes were this bad.
And no, I don't think that it's reciprocal. Aside from the fact that she constantly offers to do my assignments and that our friends tease us, I have no reasons to think that she returns my feelings.
Please help me, /adv/. This is seriously eating me up inside.
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>>17222956
Why do you doubt that she has feelings for you?
>Constantly offers to do assignments for me
That's a good sign.
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>>17222956
fucking christ man you sound like a man child. i'm going to give you the same advice that has literally been offered one million times on this board
.....wait for it
....this us "youge"
ASK HER OUT DIP SHIT
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>>17222969
Texting, mainly. Whenever we text, we both take a couple of minutes to respond to each other. To be fair, I am usually the one that starts taking time (on purpose); but still, if she also had feelings for me, she would respond in a fast manner.
Although I do the same, I suppose. But still.
>>17222973
That would just jeopardize our relationship, silly anon. And we have gone out before, but telling her what my feelings are is completely different.
And here I thought that college was going to be different from high school.
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Ugliness, Suicide and Plastic Surgery.
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Love is the most important thing in life.
It is the life's purpose. Sex and kisses are the most beautiful thgings in the world.
I am very ugly, in 0.1% of population of Earth. I want to suicide and start it all over again. As I am 21 and lost my youth in loneliness and tears thanks to greediness of my relatives.
I dont have parents that will give me money for plastic surgery.
Though it wont help me much, as my body is also ugly, and skin color.
Please stfu I am russian and want to be white, white is beautiful, other skin is ugly.
In order to earn money and do plastic surgery while I am still no so old, and get at least a bit of happiness with schoolgirls I want to drop out from school and start working at a supermarket.
If you ask why I am still at school - I couldn't go there being so ugly, I dropped out at age of 16 in the final year and wanted to kill myself.
I asked my relatives for money, but they didn't help. So I am still at school because of them not caring about me. Online school, though.
I am afraid I am too old and already missed 9 years since puberty. Never kissed, never been on a date.
So, I either find a way to get money fast, do surgery...Or die.
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If I will go on a date with you and kiss you will you not get surgery?
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Do not drop out of school.
Find a job that is going to get you fit. Men are not attractive based on facial beauty like women, men are attractive based from their power, finance and fitness.
You must find a way to get fit, 1 hour 3 days of the week for a year at your closest gym. Thats where you start. Go!
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>>17222880
>Love is the most important thing in life.
No, it's wealth and power. If you have wealth and power, you can have anything. That is the nature of capitalism.
Post a photograph, you're probably biased against yourself, you don't need to be white.
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Yo ive gotta ask this
My Bf is chronically fatigued and i'm worried heres a video that explains it better any help would be good please
Thanks
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHzbTE798T0
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"Chronically fatiqued"
Fuck your boyfriend.
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come on dude Anything they are un able to stand most days
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>>17222877
Married to someone with CFIDS (among other health issues). Maybe I can help; I can't speak for her, but I can speak from someone in a position similar to the one you might be in. What exactly is it you're worried about?
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My best friend hooked up with this girl I really, really liked. She's practically perfect and we both know it. He fingered her and kissed her, and it could have been me, but he just got there first.
He's my best friend and probably will be until I die, but I can't take this. I know it's too late for me to make a move on her now, and I just cant take it. I know; go find another girl... but it's not that simple. She's gorgeous and has a perfect personality. I thought this was the one girl I really liked, now this happened.
What the fuck do I do? I can't fucking take it. I love him like a brother, but this is just too much for me.
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Why do you put a slut on such a high pedestal? Do you have any standarts?
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if she were into you, she would not have let your friend finger and kiss her, can't you fucking see through that? if she's "first come, first serve", then you're better off without a woman like that. but if you think perfect personality == "yeah I actually like X but you're his friend you can finger me if you want :- )", then you're stupid
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>>17222908
This. She doesn't sound like a girl worth being sad over
Me and My girlfriend of 3.5 years broke up in January, we had 0 contact for about 4 month and I removed her from facebook because she was posting stuff like my picture constantly and it was just felt safer to try to get some space for awhile.
We ended up seeing each other last week when we both went out for a friends Birthday, ended up kissing alot and spent 5 hours sat outside a bar talking about everything ranging from the concert shes planning on going to, to saying how we've both coped with the break up and that we've both missed each other.
I called her about 4-5 days later when I knew she'd be free and asked her about her thoughts of that night and how she felt about the whole thing. She clearly said "It was a mistake" and we briefly talked about our relationship errors and that we both accepted we became a bit complacent by the end and how things could have been different but then we talked about all the fun times of our relationship and sexual jokes and past experiences that we both giggled at and hold dear to us, and I ended up asking her out for coffee which she agreed to. We talked from 11pm to 2am but both had stuff to do early in the morning so we called it a night.
We went out for coffee 4 days later. She was a bit awkward at the start but we just talked about trivial matters until she asked me what I exactly wanted to talk to her about and had been " avoiding" during coffee. We then both talked about what we felt the other person did wrong, our own faults and apologized for shit we felt we fucked up on. I never asked her out on a date, but during our talk she said that she accepted we aren't together and that she's alright with that now after 4 months apart, but commented that until recently that she'd been keeping our photos under her pillow.
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We both got teary eyes and she said that she still loves me, but doesn't really see us being together. And that its such a shame we now realise our own person errors that affected the relationship ( I was to stubborn and she over analysed small things and blew them up), and that she misses me and hadn't spent a day not thinking of me.
After the whole heart ache emotional talk about good stuff and that it was, for the most part, a happy 3 years we spent together and talked and joked about stupid pet names we shared, sexual stuff and happy memories as a whole.
We got on the bus and before she got off at her stop she said she'd recommend me a film, gave me a quick hug and ran off. I got home 15minutes later and had a message linking me to the film and we talked about movies and video games for an hour before she went to bed.
Be honest with me /adv/, have I over thought all of this and deluded myself into believing I have a chance and its her pride stopping her? Or is she fully done and just being kind?
( Sorry for typing so much)
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Why did you break up in the first place?
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>>17222878
The actual fight that caused us to break up was her going on my computer while I was out the house and reading my messages and yelling at me for speaking to a girl she hates.
No point in lying to you guys so I'll explain the whole thing.
Known this for for 9 years, met her online when I was 11-12 and she lives on the other side of the world, always had a flirty relationship even when we were kids, never really done anything about it other than just casual flirting, not even had a real webcam chat, spoken on skype a few times but mostly just talk on social media.
Obviously girlfriend hates the fact I speak like this to her and in hindsight I thought she was being dramatic and that I'd never cheat on her, its just how me and this girl have always spoken but Looking back on it It was a dick thing to do.
But we broke up from her being drunk and pissed off that I was speaking to this girl and I was pissed off that she went on my computer and we both were to stubborn to back down or take a break from the argument that we just called it a day
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I have a long distance relationship girlfriend who wants me to move 8 hours away to a Chicago suburb. She's an extremely motivated naturalized American citizen from Mexico and I'm an unmotivated slob who works a retail job and lives with his parents. Part of me wants to stay close to my family and friends. She loves me very much and I her, yet I feel like if I moved in with her she wouldn't understand my self depreciating sense of humor, the things that I do, and my obsession with games and browsing the Internet (specifically 4chan).
On top of that I have doubts about being able to support myself monetarily once I move.
Should I stay or should I go?
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>>17222823
Have you tried talking to her about your doubts? I mean, clearly you want to be closer to her, but having no way to support yourself when you arrive etc are going to be issues.
On the other hand, if you love her you should be willing to work those problems out, which should make talking through it easier as you compromise.
(I personally left my family behind to be with my gf, I talk to them online now and it's fine.)
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I can't even stammer the idea out that she may not like my personality.
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Moreover, she wants children and is in her 30's and I am 26 and not thrilled about the prospect.
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A girl just asked me if I wanted her to fly across country and be my +1 to my sisters wedding
>Did she just ask my date?
>Does she want to bang?
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>>17222816
Yes, and possibly. She also may just really love weddings, or wants to make someone jealous.
If you say yes, treat it like a friend coming to do you a favour and let her make the moves.
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She wants attention
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>>17222816
>What is joking?
Might not be serious OP, I say shit like that all the time.
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Why am i so attracted to fat woman? 2016-06-05 14:18:25 Post No.17222791
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No, it's not because i can't do any better (my 1st gfs were all skinny),it's not because of my self esteem(i'm pretty okay with myself), and it's not because i'm unattractive(i'm in now way saying i'm some stud, i am of average height-size-looks for a man of my age). I genuinely am more attracted to larger woman then smaller ones.
Though just because i like bigger woman dosn't mean that i will automatically like you if you're fat,(the fat has to proportioned the right way or else they just look like troll-blobs) the same goes for me not automatically hating skinny girls because they are skinny (they have to have a nice face and personality if they are ugly to me and or have garbage personality it's an instant turn off)
If i were to explain my attraction it would go like this: I'm more attracted to skinny girls for their mind and personality, while fatter girls it's more carnal and lust driven. For instance, in the title pic i would be more driven to engaging the women on the middle right and the middle left than the middle one and the far left one (Though a wouldn't be complaining if i was with the far right one thats for sure). I guess it's because larger woman have there more feminine figures pronounced but i'm not really sure. (So if i find a chubby girl with the right shape and great personality then i'm golden). Of course i like the body types in between but i'm just a sucker for a nice thick girl.
My attraction has always perplexed me because the way i was brought up i should hate fat girls. My friends would make fun of me if they thought i liked one, tv shows would always portray fat girls as lesser, even my mom wouldn't hesitate to show her dislike of other fat woman and their weight. Yet here a am, a closet Chubby Hunter.
So Anons, any insight? When ever i look up this topic the answer i always get is that it's just my personal taste, but that answer seems kinda cheap to me, but yeah, what say anons?
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Because you're a fucking faggit.
You need to stop.
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A girl like this is right up my alley to be honest
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>>17222794
Did Daisuke Toriyama Iwata Sensei censor faggot now?
Please tell me that's just a typo.
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is it even possible to date a girl from your work?
>work in software company since 6 months
>in another team there is a 9/10 cute girls with huge boobs
>does ton of sport, more fit than I am
>sociable, always nice to talk to
Most people in my company are males and most are average/beta but there are still lots of normies.
She goes running during lunch break with other colleagues once a week so for now my plan is to join them and see if I can socalize with them easily...
How do you guys recommend I approach this grill?
fuck, this feels like high school all over again
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>hey do you want to go running together?
>don't be a low stamina piece of shit
>ask her out on a date afterward
>don't be autistic
Godspeed, anon
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>>17223112
bad idea
don't date your colleauges perid
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>>17222723
>tfw OP will be the try-hard 60% beta who annoys every girl
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Alright, /adv/. I've always been browsing this place and now I'm actually in need of some advice.
I'm a 19 year old kissless virgin male who started to look on Craigslist for casual encounters. There was a post about this girl "who wants to have some fun" and she posted an image as well. I texted her number and found out it's not some bot/scam that I know of. Turns out she lives really close and she's hosting. Now, I did a backwards image search of the pic she posted and it links to an escort whose number that she posted on CL matches the escort profile. She didn't put a price on CL and I just assumed it was going to be free (and kinda still am).
I have 2 main concerns here:
1. If it turns out that she wants some money out of this (which I have no problem doing), could she be a cop? Her profile is http://goo gl/v6d8zn
2. Since I'm a virgin and kinda wanna get it out of the way/get some experience, what am I supposed to do? How would I initiate when I go to her house and do I tell her I'm a virgin or play it off like I've done this before?
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Also, if anyone had a similar situation, I would love to hear about it so I could get a better understanding of what to expect
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>>17222689
I've never paid for sex so I'm not familiar with the techniques women use to acquire clientele but this could either go one of two ways. 1) She just wants sex. You show up, sex happens. 2) You go there and she expects money in return for the sex. If 2 happens you'll have to make the decision there and then. It's not outside the realm of possibilities that she's a cop. This seems like a really sketchy way for someone to make money in exchange for sex though, but like I said I don't know the techniques used and definitely don't know what's effective.
As far as what to do if sex should happen, just do what seems natural I guess.
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With an escort online you are safer because at the end of the day they just want money and nothing else. Diseases are still a threat but usually depending on the area they are cleaner than a street hooker. Wear a condom, i say do it, if you are young and a kissless virgin chances are you'll fall in love with an online fuck friend. So just got for the escort
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INTP here. How can I stop judging people based on their religion? I understand that people _want_ to have some sort of final judgement. But I can't get a grip on people that fully commit, I mean this talking snake, invisible man in the sky shit is just so ridiculous.
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>>17222671
Think of religion as a preference.
You don't judge people based on which food / color / music they like. It is almost same with religion.
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>>17222671
ENTJ here. I don't see what believing in a religion has to do with your opinion of people, or why you felt the need to specify your Myers-Briggs type in your OP. Yes, the idea of it is absurd if looked at from a logical standpoint, but try to keep in mind that many Christians (especially younger ones) are doubtful of the religion themselves, and many simply believe because of an intrinsic fear of Hell.
There are also those who simply pretend to believe because our country (I'm assuming that you live in america) views people who are agnostic/atheist in a negative light.
There are also many psuedo-christians who do not live the lifestyle.
Simply put, I believe that there is a very fine line between Christians and "Christians." Try to grasp the reason why they identify with a particular religion, and draw conclusions based on how they respond.
I simply do not ask, because I don't care about religion. However, some of the most unintelligent people I have met are Christian, but they also happen to be good people themselves.
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>>17222671
You just have to get out of your edgelord phase.
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Fuck, you guys probably see this thread all the time
So there's this girl. Met her in college. When I met her, she was adamant that she would not date, so naturally I gave up pursuit pretty quick. We lose touch and reconnect several months later, she's dating this guy. Alright, cool. I'm into her, but nbd. Sort of lose touch again after a bit
Get back in touch with her more recently. She's still dating the same dude, but this time we keep talking, and we become friends. I've had platonic female friends before, no problem, but I find that I can't get this girl out of my mind. Clearly I want to be more than friends. I think her bf is a bit of a goober, and like they'll probably end up breaking up
But right now I'm torturing myself with this shit. On one hand, if I bail on the friendship again, I'll feel shitty because I do legitimately like her as a friend, and obviously its shit to do that. But on the other hand, I feel like a creepy loser sort of waiting, hoping, and wanting her to hit the inevitable break up with her bf so I have a shot
Need one of you guys to tell me I'm just being a beta fucking loser or some shit, and that I'm way too infatuated with the concept of this one human
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Do yourself a favor and break up contact with her. I've been in a similar situation and you'll just end up hating either yourself or her, and neither are correct obviously. You can't be platonic friends with a girl that you're in love with, you'll always hate her boyfriends and be jealous, and if you're like me you won't let her feel that but you'll suffer from it yourself. It's not egoistic to stop torturing yourself over this, it's the smart thing to do and she should understand that.
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>>17222692
Should I talk to her about it though?
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>>17222703
She should understand it if she's not a bitch. I know that the girl I was into wanted to keep me as a friend even though I told her that it hurts me, at that point I knew that she wasn't worth it. It's up to you really.