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>>17225190
Holy shit ask him and take initiative. It's 2016, you women destroyed all natural order of gender polarity between men and women so act the fucking part. Ask him. Make a move. Stop expecting that just because he's a guy he has to be some suave outgoing mother fucker.

You all made your bed now fucking sleep in it.

>>17225190

my advice? just be brave. i wouldnt ask directly, id make a move. maybe you think it sucks, but idk, i get katnis everdeen vibes from a girl who is bold. maybe thats dumb, but thats the way i think. perhaps this shyer anon will think the same way. maybe you can be his manic pixie girl. or whatever trope you wanna throw out there.

id start just by being a bit more rubby on him. if he doesnt go for anything after two weeks, id just kiss him myself.

but im a fucking faggot so what the hell do i know

>>17225194
>>17225195
Well yeah I want to make a move, I was just asking if there's something I can look for that gives me hope I wont be rejected. He's a dear friend to me, so I don't want to ruin things either.
He blushes a lot when we're alone but that IDK.
I'm pretty shy myself so approaching him is difficult.

>>17224951
Stop being insecure of your own face.

>>17224951
How old are you? If you want a more "manly" face, start lifting.

>>17225908
It's just that I made a goal when I was around 175 that I would improve my face but it's discouraging that not much has changed.

>>17226001
I'm 18. I've heard people on /fit/ say that losing weight is supposed to help your face but lifting won't do much for it. Have you had a different experience?

Tell her you don't like how she is when she drinks. If she says that it doesn't matter because she barely drinks, tell her it matters to you and it is a problem, that the way she treats you then is unacceptable.

If she isn't willing to consider your concerns then the problem isn't only when she's drunk.

Be blunt. Someone recently made a near identical thread, and made his girlfriend realise how bad she was drunk (he actually dumped her after she punched him in the face.)

You likely don't have to go that far, but put in on the table clearly that she can't go too far with the drink or you might end up walking out. She just needs a wakeup call to how bad she is drunk - and no shrugging it off can help.

I don't know you so this is a bit of a stretch, but it sounds like you're making an excuse to get rid of her. And considering how much you like her when she's not drunk, it could (emphasis on could) stem from abandonment issues caused by something in your past.

Most people don't find someone that awesome, and honestly as far as glaring flaws go, that's pretty fucking minor. I vote to talk to her about it.

Bet it feels good to post all that.

I was in the same situation. In many ways I still am. My wife is studying to take a series of intense exams which will let her enter the career she's spent her life working towards. She studies every goddamned day, 8-10 hours a day. It's nuts. And I'm really impressed by her.

Yet I, too, wish I got some alone time every once in awhile. The thing is, I don't *need* it. I want it, and I want it all the time, but I can get by without it.

What's really happening is your inner bachelor, struggling to regain control of your time. You want time to just goof off, de-stress. I get it. But left to your own devices, I'm willing to bet you'd waste a whole lot of time doing things that don't matter.

What you need to do is find an understanding with your gf, that sometimes you need alone time, when you can goof off. And at the same time, you need to understand that being unproductive doesn't help your relationship or personal situation. You need to want less goof off time, and she needs to let you have some.

Try 10 years of that AND being married. If she loves you she will agree to compromise your "me time" which is an understandable, healthy needed thing in your job field to help relax after being around people and noise. Just describe it what you go through outside your home and she should understand. If she has friends or relatives (i.email. sister, close female cousins or mother) maybe she can go out window shopping or just talk on the phone with them while you do what you want to do. Good luck

>>17224799
The god-tier solution would be a hobby for both of you

where the fuck do you get l-arginine

i don't even know what that is

>>17224693
apparently at any drug store.

according to wikipedia, it is
>an α-amino acid that is used in the biosynthesis of proteins.

bumping for ocean of jizz

the slightest hint of a belly, rolls, or thick thighs. fat begins very early in my eyes

>>17224655

the truth is guys dont actually care about what the digits are. they dont. they really really dont. those digits literally mean nothing to us. we dont hear that a woman is 100 pounds and go 'HNNNG SO SEXY SEND PICS'

guys like it when you look good. do you look good? better than most? metter than some? not at all?

the tighter the better but some girls work curvy.

if you are 5'6" and 200 pounds, you probably arent hot. if you are 6'6" and 200 pounds you are probably a big amazon goddess with thick thighs.

if you want to know where you fall post some pics of you in a bra.

my general rule is that as long as your stomach doesnt go past your boobs you are fine, but to be honest boobs do weird shit so thats not a great rule im learning

stomach crease when you're standing up straight.

beat that motherfucker for being so thick.

>>17224582
He is much larger than me.

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>>17224559
Oh my....

>>17224414
Also for what it is worth I've spent everyday of the past 2 years on /pol/ from sun up to sun down.

>>17224414
>>17224450
go back to /b/

>>17224504
This is /adv/ asshole that is why im asking.

Maybe you can ask someone to read your current draft and once they give you their opinion you'll feel more motivated?

>>17224691
Couple problems with that. First and foremost, I have nobody to show it to. And secondly, I feel like it won't really be worth reading until it's all done, considering how the book goes. It starts out as a bunch of random, seemingly pointless stories, but over the course of the book the interlocking threads become a spiderweb. Certain things happen a long time before or after when you're originally made to believe they happened, there's a really complex time travel element mixed into every single character's narrative that doesn't actually reveal itself until somewhere near the end, hell the entirety of part 4 takes place about 300 years before the main characters even exist. So if someone were to read the original draft so far, they'd have to be willing to spend the time to understand everything I have planned, and I doubt many people want to invest that much in something like that.

So you think someone who read it as is wouldn't be drawn in or intrigued at all?

What, nobody wants to talk about talk about why they think they are a neet? Millenials would rather bitch than admit they are doing something wrong?

>>17224113
>>17224659
This thread has a very fair chance at failing and you probably have no idea why.

What lead to my problem?

I was molested as a kid, parents had constant custody battles which they shouldn't have had because the father who was trying to gain custody wasn't my actual father, I was jumped in high school, my dog was dropped off in the middle of florida woodlands, my cat was shot in the head, people don't even stop by and say hello I have to initiate conversation first, and I generally feel unwanted. Both by life itself and the people around me.

tl;dr- Bad luck I guess bruh.

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Anyway my parents are very conservative Muslims and very strongly want me to marry a Muslim and discourage me from talking with nonMuslim females too much beyond school purposes. I am well aware of this so I dated my gf, who I will refer to as DS (not real name), secretly. I did not tell her that my parents were unaware of us dating, and I told my parents that I was off studying for AP's and finals with friends. Clearly this method is less effective when there is no school. That will come into play later.
Well, at my school at the end of the year is an awards ceremony, which we were both invited to. At this time I had shown to my mom pictures of DS, like her in a dress and her at Six Flags with me (it was a school field trip, not date) and told her good things about her like her grades and involvement in the club. Well, I walk into the lobby that leads into the auditorium at my school and there is DSMom (Japanese), was very excited to see me and basically ran to me and said "DS is already in the auditorium". This is when my mom began to suspect that I was getting "too close" to DS.

Go to college, don't let perfect asian waifu go becuse of hateful religion. Stand on your feet, become independent of parents. (Girls dig that anyway, even if you two go apart)

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However, it was the happiness of DSMom seeing me that made her most upset, because of a friend my mom and dad (I'll call him Mark) and the struggles he goes through due to a bad marriage.
So Mark is a fellow Sri Lankan muslim, friends with my parents. Well, Mark is an engineer so he makes pretty good money. The problem comes from the fact that his wife is a Sri Lankan Christian (not sure how devout she is though) and she is the laziest bum I've ever seen. She does not have a job, yet does no cooking or house work and only participates in Islamic Holidays, so Eid, and their children are not raised very religiously since they disputed on taking them to mosque or church, which to my parents is absolutely awful. So now Mark's wife basically leeches off his engineering wage and does nothing. In fact whenever we visit she is watching TV and does not turn it off until the episode is done (which is rude, no matter your religion) and Mark has to make tea since she doesn't. My mom looks at the situation and sees that Mark's wife basically married Mark only to leech off him since she knew he would be successful, which probably is true based on her behavior.

However, now my mom equates all nonmuslim women to being like Mark's wife, which is not true at all, I've seen plenty of nonmuslim women be housewives. But lately my mom has been warning me of women in college who will be looking for a "Mrs. Degree", in other words they are there looking for men who they think will be successful and have "honey come out of their mouths", then marry and leech off the successful husband (let me interject and say that the college I'm going to is fairly exclusive and costs $60,000 a year so going there to just get a rich husband would be pointless, though the mentality she has is something she applies mainly to white people and my gf is half white and my college is about three quarters white people and has awful diversity).

>>17222906
Breathing.

>>17222923
How funny.

Well, the first and only permanent change I have made in my life was to stop drinking sodas and instead to drink water all the time.

My second change, I quit using computers for long periods of time, my life got so much better. Currently using a PC to work on, but I'll be getting rid of it again for summer.

I agree desu

+1

>>17222359
wait are you a lady virgin?

>REEEing intensifies

why why why why why why why are you there

DID I JUST SEE YOU TWO KISS?

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

No matter how much I try to get M. out of my head, she always returns, either while im awake or sleeping.

These dreams stick out the most due to the randomness of them, and that the only two dreams I remember from the past month are of her. (Yea u don't really dream much )

I was looking for a job, and I remembered where she worked, so I applied there. Got hired, and was put on her "team." We were BSing in the employers van as we drove to what I think was a job site. I was sitting in the back, sitting next to someone who looked similar to her. But the girl I am interested in was driving. And as we were talking the car infront suddenly changed lanes, and we ended up slamming into the rear of another car at like 40mph. Dunno what happened after, woke up at this point.


She does not actually work at the place she did in the dream. I don't really know why I had that dream, or what it means.


The last dream I had of her was like 3 weeks ago. It is as follows

I was back at my old High School, hanging out with some friends, and the Girl was with her friends at another table. Soon she and her group leaves to go somewhere. I get up soon after, to go and do some stuff, and I run into her in the hall a minute or so after, and we begin talking, and then we walk to my old math room where her friends are, and we continue talking, and I think one of us brings up the idea of hanging out sometime soon. I don't know where it went from here, as that's when I woke up. (Music was playing in the background while I was in my math room. Stutter by Elastica, but I was listening to that when I woke up.)

I've spent the last hour and a half writing erotic fiction about the two of us. That alone isn't terribly odd, but it's all about my uniform fetish and is all set in some weird high school marching band alternate universe. Those stupid white gloves the brass instrument sections had to wear turn me on to an embarrassing degree. Good god what is wrong with me?

That sucks. :(

Hopefully things get better. I wish you the best.

I can somewhat relate to this, and the trouble with family is you often feel it is your responsibility to help, like if you don't you're betraying them, but as with everyone, they have to find their own will to live. Let her know you're there for her and waiting to listen if ever she needs to talk, apart from that I'm afraid there is nothing you can do, and that isn't necessarily a bad thing. If she is getting too out of hand, a danger to herself and others, maybe talk to someone about getting her help. I know suicidal attempts qualify as being a danger to herself, but as someone who has been there many many times, I can tell you that they can bring about a sense of realization, and a new will to live. As long as the things she is doing aren't too bad, maybe just cutting for the sensation, then you don't need to follow her around or stick her in a padded room. Hope this helps OP. xx

If she tried to kill herself she needs to be put into a psychiatric facility for her own safety. You should and whoever knows her should be working towards having her admitted right now. It might be possible to do this through the emergency department at your hospital. You and your family need to get off your asses and do this now if you haven't already. I mean that in the best way possible, it's for her own well being.