>be me
>be 24
>graduated last year, but finally get a pretty good job (after a year straight of unsuccessful job search and part-time jobs) with good hours which feels more like play than a job with amazing benefits, retirement, insurance, et cetera
>finally 100% independent, overcame a ton of ridiculous obstacles, all of my problems have been theoretically solved
>I have everything that I could ever need, all by my own hard work
>more depressed than ever
Should I do drugs or something? I mean, I'm being a little facetious, but I don't know what to do. I thought once all this happened, I'd feel great, but I just feel worse. Don't get me wrong. I know how fortunate I am, but it's like, I would really be cool with being dead if it meant I could just "undo reality as if I never was," so that it wouldn't have a negative impact on anyone else in my life. I definitely don't want anyone else to suffer because of me. But I don't want anything from life. I don't want a house, or a family/friends, or any material things. I don't care about travelling, or doing anything meaningful. It's not like I feel cheated, wronged, or that life is unfair. I just feel empty.
Should I talk to a doctor about something to level me out?
Yes. Talk to a doctor. It's not about your situation man, it's about your brain's chemistry. I didn't appreciate my good situation while I was in it because I wasn't on antidepressants and I had suicidal idealization. But now, I'm on antidepressants and it's a subtle change but it's like taking off depression-tinted-glasses. I'd really recommend seeing a doctor with your hella good health plan, and trust in the support of your friends and family.
>>17228795
But I 100% get how you feel. I'm rooting for you anon
>>17228805
I might just do that. It's reassuring to think that it might be something tangible that can be helped.
I can feel myself getting irritable with the people around me, and I don't want to be a jerk to them at all. I've never even been an irritable person. But it's like I get so low that I get frustrated and confused as to why I'm not happy, and then little things set me off internally. And I don't want to push anyone away. I've lost people and I know what it's like to miss something good even if I didn't appreciate it at the time.
Thank you for the suggestion. I'll schedule an appointment.
I kind of want a puppy, but I'll admit, the most motivating factor is to use it to get girls. I like dogs and all, but I don't really need one - my roommate has one that I can play around with.
Can anyone convince me to get a puppy for better reasons than "bang bitches?"
Do you actually think a dog is going to get you girls?
Why not just use your roommate's puppy? Say "we have a puppy" when necessary?
If you really want to use animals to get girls, start volunteering at a vet clinic.
>>17228784
He probably saw this image, poor kid
>be me
>19yo kissless and hugless
am i destined to be alone forever? i dont really care about virginity, just the fact that ive never even kissed or hugged a girl. even the nerds back in high school had their nerdy gfs.
im scared that if i ever do find a girl, she'll be turned off because of my lack of experience. like, how do you even kiss? am i just done for, destined to be alone for life?
Dude you're only 19. Chill. You've got 11 years until you become a wizard. Instead of trying to find a girl to smooch, try and improve yourself, and with that you'll gain confidence, and then, chicks. If you're really only for the end goal of 1st base or maybe some tail, try taking chicks on a date. Join a site, tinder, practice talking to girls in public.. it's not as hard as it seems if you apply yourself.
Somehow, someway, you're going to find a wife and have kids. It's just statistics. The quality of your wife and your kid's future is up to your decisions in the next few years. Stop thinking so far ahead and focus on making decisions for yourself.
>>17228726
11 years is pretty short imo. I'm studying, have a job, and go to the gym regularly. I'm pretty happy where I'm in life right now, so far doing good. It's just what I mentioned in the OP that puts me down. Tinder/OKC never really got me anywhere. And I think my height (5'5") doesn't really help when trying to talk to women in public, I've tried.
>>17228752
Hopefully.
>6'2 white-ish guy
>date cute and petite filipina trap
>swarm of 5'4 filipino beta orbiters around her 75% of the time
>finally get to fuck and tear that sissy asian ass apart with my 9 incher
>word gets out that we fucked, am now receiving death threats by filipino orbiters on fb
Can I call the police over this?
yes you can over death threats
google it
>>17228689
Kek
>>17228689
Wait, wait... You know it's a trap, it's got orbiters and you still fucked it anyway?
Anyone been in an abusive relationship? I have. I called the cops to get out. After his release he said everything any girl would want to hear. So, of course the stupid girl I am went running to him. That fucker even bought me a ring. Sooo here I am drunk and missing him. I blocked him from everything. Idk what advice you can give me, but I can't really tell friends and family I saw him the day after his release.
birth a retard and he'll never speak to you again
Hahahha OMG . Right now sadly I want him to talk to me
give birth to a retard and he'll come crawling back, much like the retard
Im gonna me this short and sweet
How do i overcome my social anxiety? Preferably without meds.
Alcohol
>>17228645
Afraid i can't do that.
Practice. Put yourself in social situations, force yourself to stay in them, and react to what happens.
Can you be more specific about what you want help with?
I really want to have a kid but my long term relationship (6 years) ended two months ago. I was really excited to have a lil girl or boy but now that has been thrown to the wind.
At the same time, I am torn as to whether or not bringing a child into this world is a good idea. I think it's time to forget about it and move on.
How can I turn off this desire to be a father? I know it's easy for some people by thinking about how much freedom you get or how much money you save, but I genuinely would like a kid to raise. This dream needs to die for the time being anyway.
>>17228619
I'm not sure.
Man who has desire to be a father > man who does not
>>17228619
Just wait for the right girl, anon. You will know when. Unless you're like 50, you've got some time.
>How can I turn off this desire to be a father?
Spend a couple of weeks taking care of a newborn 24/7
He's 28, graduated college, has his life together, but he sometimes has a shitty tone and tends to be a know-it-all. I get that, I can deal with that.
The problem is, I'm only 20. I don't have a job and haven't started college yet. I don't have the money to pay the $145 enrollment fee and I can't afford cigarettes every day.
I'm afraid it's ruining us on my end because I can't take him out, I can't buy him anything, I can't even buy myself anything. I feel like I have nothing I can offer him in the relationship because I'm still immature, trying to grow, and trying to figure out what I want in life.
We've been talking since February, dating since early-mid May. I think I love him. But I'm terrified of saying it to him because I don't think he'd say it back and I think I'd scare him away.
We have lots of common interests, but that's not enough. How does one have a mature relationship? What are the components of one? How am I supposed to talk about our arguments and know what to do as an adult woman if I never know what to say or how to act?
I'm used to the tickle fights in relationships. I'm used to laughing and watching youtube videos of gamegrumps and vinesauce. I'm used to playing vidya together. But all of these things don't interest him. Am I wrong to date this guy? Am I too immature for him? What the fuck am I even doing, yo.
>I want all the things that another 20 year old guy would have.
All your insecurities seem to come from your age gap. I'd suggest talking to him openly about what you're worried about. You might not get any answers from him, but it's a start.
A piece of unsolicited advice: Experience doesn't mean anything. You'll learn, in time, that nobody really knows what they're doing. Just because your husband is doing something doesn't mean that's what you need to be copying in your life in order to be "mature."
FYI my wife and I are 30 and we love to watch Vinny and old Game Grumps. Find someone who can grow up with you.
>>17228571
He sounds like a standard guy his age.
Depending on his history with women, he may or may not just be wanting somebody to be there for him emotionally. Having a girlfriend who's employed and independent is nice, but I personally wouldn't put that in front of having somebody who is there for me, respects me, cares about me. Especially if the independent woman is cold, distant and uncaring in comparison. But that's me, and not him.
>We have lots of common interests, but that's not enough.
>I'm used to the tickle fights in relationships. I'm used to laughing and watching youtube videos of gamegrumps and vinesauce. I'm used to playing vidya together. But all of these things don't interest him.
Well you said you had a lot of interests earlier, so go with those. Typically you will not find a person who has absolutely everything in common with you. The issue could be him not wanting to explore things that you enjoy, and if that's something that turns you off too much you might have to leave. But bear in mind nobody is perfect, it's just deciding what you can handle and what you can't.
>>17228589
These are great points.
I think I'm comparing this relationship with my last one (3 years long) too much. Last relationship died out because I was a shithead and the love fizzled out due to my fuck ups.
The relationship was awesome. But he wasn't as into me as I wanted.
>>17228596
Also wonderful points. I understand I can't have someone who's _everything_ I want, I just feel like when I watch gamegrumps, he has too much to say about how it's childish and I'm rotting my brain because I don't watch documentaries and NPR every day.
I'm still trying to grow every day. I feel so stupid sometimes though because he seems to know all this stuff that's "basic knowledge", and I'm just a clueless idiot. I'm there for him emotionally, he just doesn't trust me enough to lean on me for support, I think.
Throughout my day, I will mutter random shit that is discerning for me and anyone that hears it. I'll randomly blurt out quietly "I'm want to kill myself", "I'm gonna jump off a bridge" or "fuck you", etc, (those ones I say a lot".
It's just random and I don't really try to do it, it just kind of comes out sometimes, and it makes me feel really autistic or something.
Should I be checked for Tourette's or something or maybe I'm just weird?
You want attention but don't realize it yet.
Saying those would make others around you ask you if you were okay, satisfying your urge for human interaction.
I do that too,
Nobody has give me weird looks or anything so I guess it's too quiet to be noticeable
>>17228577
It doesn't really happen all that often around people though. Maybe 30% of the time (still too much), but most of the time it happens when I'm home alone.
That would make sense to an extent though, I don't interact with people much.
I moved to a new town and met this girl, we've been hanging-out/having sex, but she just broke a long term, so she told me she didn't want to make it serious rn.
So I've been playing it chill, given her space.
The thing is she has been in trouble lately, her car got stolen, other day she lost her phone, and today she put on fb "that she was hving a pretty bad day and the world is against her lately"
I don't know if I should play it cool ignore it, or write her and talk to her about it, maybe offer some help.
Share some advpls
>>17228539
bump
What do you mean when you say hanging out? Are you guys just FWB or do you actually have a friendship/pseudo-relationship? Regardless of what else you do there's no reason not to treat her at least as kindly as you would a coworker. Imagine if one had this same shit happen to them, what would you do?
Never rescue a damsel in distress. It's only a matter of time before she needs to be rescued from you.
So I've been in a relationship for 4 months. I met the guy through work and at first it was GREAT. He was incredibly kind and I have never connected with someone so well. He showered me with appreciation, he would text me out of the blue telling me how lucky was to have me and how beautiful am I. Things were REALLY going great and I was just happy to chill with him.
Then his ex came in the picture. Now his ex did him dirty. She was a toxic person who cheated on him for her ex.
Lately he's become super distant. I get one word responses back if I'm lucky. While we're hanging out he'll be texting her and I SEE that it's long in depth messages. He has hung out with her a bit recently and just told me (he had been lying at first)
Every time I try to bring up that I'm unhappy with him he tries to turn it around and say that I'm just going to leave him like the rest. I'm PISSED.
>>17228528
I'm sorry for acting all autist here but:
YOU are suspicious. He is suspect.
>leave him like the rest.
Maybe he keeps getting dumped because he's a shitty person. I'm an unapologetic cheater and even I think he's being a cunt. If he wants to fuck around with his ex, he should do it on his own time and not stare at his phone while he's hanging out with you.
When you leave him, don't bring yourself down to his level. Don't spread the word at work that you left him because he wouldn't stop texting and hanging out with his ex-girlfriend. Just say you had your differences and leave it at that.
>>17228528
Well if hes going to be all victim mode maybe you should leave him. Your relationship is not fun for both of you anymore.
Of course try to talk with him about the problem first and try to resolve it. If that doesnt work out i think it might be time to go
Gonna be starting a band soon, will be the only guitarist there. We have no vocalist, and I might be the lead vocals as well.
1. How do I improve my singing? I don't feel like it's bad, I think it's around average/a bit above average, but I sound like shit compared to Alex Turner, Thom Yorke, Dave Grohl, or Matthew Bellamy. How do I improve my voice to be really good?
2. How do I think of lyrics? All of the lyrics I think of are either 3edgy5me or too melodramatic for an Ed Sheeran song. Is it necessary to get knocked up to think of non-shitty and good lyrics?
Thanks faggots.
>I sound like shit compared to... Thom Yorke
You've set the bar pretty low for yourself. Practice crying into the mic and add some echo to it.
>>17228524
lmao nice1 i kekd
>1. How do I improve my singing? I don't feel like it's bad, I think it's around average/a bit above average, but I sound like shit compared to Alex Turner, Thom Yorke, Dave Grohl, or Matthew Bellamy. How do I improve my voice to be really good?
The same way anyone else does, find some way of learning. I can't contain the amount of knowledge you would need to learn in this post. Find a teacher, or watch some videos online, something like that. Practice a lot. Recognize that your voice is an instrument as well, and should have some melody that's reasonably distinct from the rest of the instrumentation. That means rhythmically just as much as it means melodically. Also, if you're gonna have idols, have better ones.
>2. How do I think of lyrics? All of the lyrics I think of are either 3edgy5me or too melodramatic for an Ed Sheeran song. Is it necessary to get knocked up to think of non-shitty and good lyrics?
A good way to start is to maintain an objective tone. Rather than just having a three minute political rant with guitars over it, go into detail about a setting that shows some problem or larger societal issue you see. And rather jerking off about your sadness and depression, describe some situation that may make one depressed/uncomfortable. Lou Reed was a shitty singer for the most part, but if there was one thing he was good at it was lyrics. Heroin for example doesn't mention sadness at all, and it's not even told from the perspective of the singer, but at the same time it's incredibly somber. If you want to go beyond that into sung poetry, start reading a shitton.
Who were is obsessed with work? All my friends are gone for summer and I just kind of realized I have no ohbbies. Usually when I wasnt working I'd hang out with them. Now that they're gone for three months I don't know what to do when I'm not at work. I love my job, its gone to the point where I sign up for over time on my days off simply to keep me from getting bored because I don't know what else to do. Anyone else have this problem?
There's not really a problem, you're getting paid to do something you enjoy, you're living most people's dream tbqh
I like my job, but I also have more video games than I could play even if I was unemployed.
What do you do for a living, OP? Tell us in detail about some of your work.
>>17228483
Maybe, but everyone needs a hobby outside work, I don't think it's healthy to only work. I play vidya occasionally but it gets boring. Don't really know what else to do.
>We talk almost daily for a year
>We are very loving and open. Everything feels amazing.
>Now whenever we talk on skype or phone she awkwardly leaves with "be right back" or "gotta go."
>She dominates the conversation with stories of her friends.
>She randomly told me she gets jealous when others talk to me.
>She has to tell me when people compliment her, yet I tell her how beautiful she is.
What's going on? Why do I feel so cold when we talk? I love my girlfriend and I just don't get why she's been acting so distant and cold with me. Yet she tells me she adores me... I'm confused. What do?
Suck a dick black fat cock and then jump off a building or roof................................
Honestly I've had a situation like this with a LDR.
>Now whenever we talk on skype or phone she awkwardly leaves with "be right back" or "gotta go."
I usually got this when she would go and "talk" to someone else. She would go talk to this one dude. I was naive and thought they were just on friendly terms. A month later, I'm single and she's with him.
>She dominates the conversation with stories of her friends.
This seems like a lack of respect. Are you too nice? Do you apologize a lot? Etc.
>She randomly told me she gets jealous when others talk to me.
>She has to tell me when people compliment her, yet I tell her how beautiful she is.
She wants her cake and to eat it too. She tells you people compliment her to make you jealous. As for the you calling her beautiful thing I'm not sure. Maybe it goes back to respect and she doesn't feel it's genuine.
>>17228461
Yeah I don't get the random "brb" messages and never coming back until the next day...
Nah, I don't apologize. I just kinda listen and attempt to make conversation while she goes off about life.
I get it, I mean she lacks confidence. We were very flirtatious with each other and she just doesn't respond to it anymore. I asked her a few weeks ago if we'd move in together after school and she simply said "I don't know." which is odd because she went off about wanting me to live with her before... I feel like she's holding back and I want to move foreword with the relationship.
This is a somewhat made-up question, but i guess i really fucked up.
I behaved like shit towards a good person, because i was a dumb fuck.
Then i googled some stuff and it seems she has Marfan syndrome.
Abnormally high, long finders, frail health, scoliosis, speech deficits, used to complain about pains in her body.
Also she is an only child from a family of musicians.
Am I being dramatic wikipedia-reader or is it highly probable?
She is 19 and despite being social is depressed and stays at home am i overthinking anything?
I don't know if i should apologise or never bother them again to hurt more.
She has loving supportive family and parents, so it's not family issues.
Marfan syndrome has life expectancy of 30-40 years and it would be horrible if such a nice person have had this terrible fate.
Any medfags here?