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OP, how or when did you realize you probably had low levels of testosterone?

>>17229476
I was long term tired most of the days i just couldn't find out why. Even when i slept for 8+ hours and had a good sleep i was just tired entire days. Also my performance in gym isnt exactly great... i don't know what could i compare it to.

I guess this isn't very frequent issue.

>>17229460
Escort/Bunny ranch

Talking to girls can be difficult at first but the only way you can get better is by doing it. Embrace failure and rejection because it happens to literally everyone.
Instead of continuing to work the game of social dynamics you gave up early. Chad wants you to give up so he can get all the bitches. But you're not going to let that happen.

>>17229474
Ask about their interests, and listen for things in their answer that you can build off of either by asking another question or by stating something that begs a response.
ex.
"i like to paint, watch movies, and I'm finishing up school"
out of those three answers you'd have to have at least some commonality
"Oh awesome I went to an art gallery at x place x time ago"
"Have you seen the new x film?"
"I'm in school too what are you studying?"

>>17229446

You just don't like it, man. Why fight yourself? Do physics if you're really set on doing science.

>>17229452

Or, study mathematics, like me! If you like knowing derivations then you'll love math, a degree where every single last thing is derived.

>>17229452
>>17229456
I suck at math and hated it all my life

In what ways is her boyfriend shitty?

>>17229424
Look I'm about to sound all whiteknightie and cuck to some, whatever i don't give a shit. Women are fucking people to with their own problems, opinions, as far as your friend is concerned she probably views your relationship as purely friends, of course things could change, but under no circumstances should you believe you have the privilege to be with your friend. If you have a problem ask her for a friend's number or something...

Chances are she's just using you to vent about her life and problems. She's probably one of those girls who live 100% in the moment.

Yeah, there's absolutely NO way they'd ever suspect that it's somebody with an emotional connection to the individual.

You and your friend sound so very smart.

Obviously they would suspect everyone ya thot, that wasn't the question.

>>17229418
Um, I asked what I could do that wouldn't make me suspicious, of course they are going to look at everyone anyway.
>>17229425
Thank you, my thoughts exactly.

Eating breakfast helps reset your metabolism and thus your sleep schedule. Just set your alarm early and eat a good breakfast and don't take a long nap during the day, go to sleep when you feel tired that night and repeat in the morning. Breakfast helps a lot, swear it

>>17229520
I already answered your fucking question yet you're still awake.
>the first step is wanting to go to sleep at a regular time

>>17229523
Not op. Breakfast don't do shit.... Especially when it's 1:53 in the morning

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>>17229373
you're like the most bizarrely delusional creature I've ever seen.
what is this insane mind hell prison you've created for yourself.

this board sure does get weird late at night

>>17229313
Go for a run. Come back, take a warm shower.

Might be a little late for the run so maybe just the warm shower. Chamomile tea helps a bit. Watching nature documentaries keeps my mind off it. Other than that it's just a bio feedback thing. Try to be aware of how tense/relaxed your muscles. Keep your body and muscles relaxed. Some soothing music in the background.

Some of those can help out.

>>17229323
here.

Also masturbating always helps out.

>>17229323
Thanks man.
Yeah, I just did my crunches and curls for the night and that kind of helped. Don't think I have any tea.
But music seems to help.

I mean, I'm usually okay with dealing with panic attacks, because I've had so many. But this is just like, a lingering thing. Different. I know, I just need to get the hormones out of my blood and it will pass.

Not a clear cut answer. If she is just posting dicks for shits and giggles, that's pretty immature and diaturbs the conversation, so it's legit to want her to stop. If you have a problem to see a dick that isn't yours in general, then yes, you should remove the stick in your ass.

are you M or F?

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>>17229231
>are you M or F?

become an whale

Just stop talking to guys period is your best bet

>>17229124
Stop putting yourself down.

Clearly your self worth is very low. You also want someone to tell you this, don't you?

What makes you think you aren't worthy of a committed relationship?

>>17229031
embrace polygamy, as nature intended

>>17229031
tell your bf

if he's willing to have a threesome with you i don't see why he'd be angry at you fucking another girl sometime, as long as you don't straight up leave him.

just wait it out homie, and don't overthink it. attraction is attraction but if your commitment to your boyfriend is unwavering then its totally no biggy to have a crush. its new and exciting just ride with it.

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Realise ur doing it and control urself

>>17229008
You clearly know when you're doing it. So stop doing it. When you notice yourself starting to be an asshole, stop being an asshole.

>>17229008
Channel that ability into your career and use it to climb the ladder.

Or just stop fucking doing it

Married anon here.

The spark does eventually fade. Your life does fall into a routine after a while. You see more problems in the relationship, and it becomes more work to maintain. That magical "think about them and everything is perfect forever" is gone.

However, in a good relationship, this does not mean the love has died. It's just a calmer, quieter love; the kind of slow burn that can endure. You're best friends, you trust each other absolutely, you communicate and work together and tackle problems for and with each other.

There was some quote I read a long time ago, that went something like this: Love is not two people staring at each other, it is two people looking together towards the horizon. As cheesy as that is, I'd say it's accurate.

Relationships are not all fun and exciting. A lot of people expect them to be and that puts a lot of pressure on people to always be fun and exciting. And it also means some people are always chasing the honeymoon period, that magical drunken love at the beginning that always fades with time. The end of the honeymoon period, though, is often where most relationships end, because when the magic fades people often realize there isn't enough to stand on anymore.

Long story short: honeymoon period is "think about your partner and everything is magically better". But the love that endures beyond it is more like "I am with this person and the way they help me / the way we work together makes everything better."

>>17228991
thanks for your kind wisdom.

I understand what you are saying. I'm at a point of . okay well. is this going to work long term?

I find in the relationship I am running circles around her. I feel as if I don't have a choice in the matter of things. Having a job, staying healthy, expanding my learning and going after goals. I feel with her all that is more a choice. Sure she has to have a job. but it's going to come with excuses / complaining.

I've listened to her intently throughout the relationship. Been patient and really tried my hardest to show her what I think / my attitude. and hell sometimes I just listen.

It's frustrating to date someone that wants things. But doesn't do much to go after them. She is progressing but in a slow slow manner. As time goes on I feel there is more pressure on me to commit / make more decisions. Okay what does she expect as time goes on VS what I expect.

I feel my expectations are very basic. Have a job, pay off loans, stay healthy, and go after goals.
Her expectations tend to be more of a "girly" type things. moving in, vacation, and some sort of present / gift. (shes not an air head person).

I like buying her things / doing things for her. but it all falls apart when I don't get the basic things, and what I want in a relationship. Is basic shit for her. full time job, pay off loans etc.

at time shes freaked out and been like
"if you were the one you would move in with her."

Where I can only respond with.
"you need a full time job, I don't feel comfortable moving in with someone that relays on part time work".

There tends to be this feeling of "I told you so". in the relationship. I'm not even the type to wanting to be right all the time. just basic shit.

>>17229029
at times it feels like im dating a little girl.

I hope for the day she becomes a woman and understand.
"damn if I want these things with him I'm going to have to work hard and stop complaining / making excuses."

I get no one is perfect. but fuck sometimes I feel like she doesn't think beyond her own dumb emotions.

life is what you make it. just seems like shes all excuses and wants things to magically happen for her. or "someday" things will change.

Bumping for you

Bumping again

Is she currently seeing a therapist? Is she on any medications/seeing a psychiatrist? Also, has she set a date for her suicide?

If the answer to all three of those questions is "no," you may want to encourage her to seek therapeutic care. She may respond well, may not.

If not, you really have no choice but to call the cops if you care about her life, OP. If you're scared that she would do something rash in response to you calling the cops, don't tell her when you do it.

She may be angry with you at the moment, but you simply have no choice if you want to save her.

Dont have walmart here but would equate to a bunnings or something.

So long as youre not an absolute dumb cunt it will be piss easy to learn.

Worked at Walmart as a cart pusher and technician. Make friend with a manager and stay out of the way of asshole managers and don't give then a reason to hate you.
Other than that it was a really laid back job depending on what you work and they give you 40 hours

>>17228763
That's a pretty good starter job, as it teaches core structure and job values pretty early.

They're very professional, and when you take your skills elsewhere later in life, Walmart will always be a great stepping stone to announce where your productivity and ability is core from.

A job like that is really great to have for a first job, you learn things right, and the job gets done.

It's truthfully a pretty seamless transition from not working to working.

And, the friends you'll make will be quick and spontaneous and forever change your life in a way that feels natural.

You'll go to work parties, you'll end up sleeping with a few of the cashiers, you'll probably get a promotion or two.

I started as season help in the Toy department one christmas, then they put me on a cash register, and then a little bit later they moved me to be a TLE technician because I mentioned I liked working around vehicles and know how to change oil already.

Now Walmart wasn't my first job by any means, but I can see how it would've been a very great first job if I wasn't a punk ass kid who thought he knew everything already because I used to manage a McDonalds when I was 18.