Need help publishing a whores pictures and phone number. How would I do it without leaving a trail?
>>17230108
damn that thing looks like a tumor
>>17230108
How old are you, 16?
Platonic-wise
>>17230093
Yes.
>>17230093
No.
Unless they're gay or related.
How to deal with social situations, especially negative ones if I can't help taking some things too seriously and sometimes too literally?
>>17230071
bump
If you're able to self-recognize when you're taking things too seriously or too literally, can't you just let it go? Or does the realization not come until much much later?
>>17230097
>Or does the realization not come until much much later?
Much later.
>Moved to a new city and decided to try Tinder to meet people my age
>Last Saturday I went on my first Tinder date with a girl who was really cute and seemed cool, conversation was easy (she’s 20, I’m 24)
>She gave me a long hug at the end and texted me the morning after saying how much fun she had
>We met up again last night to wander around town for a bit
>As we talk for the second time I start noticing she’s actually pretty immature and I start to get put off by her
>Out of nowhere she asks if she can sleep over at my place due to the weather (which wasn’t extreme at all)
>Say uh sure
>We’re hanging out in my room talking and I’m increasingly put off by her
>She eventually starts making serious moves
>I didn’t know what to do and I felt bad so I panicked and just went for it
>She was way more into it than I was
>She wanted to fool around a bit more the morning after
>She gets up to go to work and she mentions going to a show or something together soon
>I think she expected me to kiss her but I just went for an awkward good bye hug
What’s the least sociopathic way to get out of doing more stuff with this girl? She’s super nice and I don’t want to hurt her, or come out of this looking like a total fuccboi. Is there a way I can gradually scale down the relationship until we can go our separate ways without anyone being upset? I'm an idiot.
>>17230066
If you had found an excuse to get rid of her by bedtime you could come out of this pretty cleanly with just an "I don't think there's enough here to go on with" type excuse.
But there's no way you can escape looking like a douchebag who screwed her and then dumped her.
You might try the "I realized I'm not as much into you as you are to me, and would have to disappoint you eventually" route. But you'll still be a douchebag.
Tell her you're a fucking idiot and don't deserve her
It's tinder. Both of you are tinder sluts. You and her both know this. Dump her, she expects it. She'll just fuck the next male tinder slut if she isn't already.
Fucking tinder man...
How do you date someone who you love but is pregnant to someone else
Backstory pls. I might be able to offer adv. Had a baby on my own 5 years ago and am about to marry a guy that's not the dad in autumn
>>17229992
You choose to date her and you knew she was pregnant. So either man up abd accept it or leave.
>Attempting to Justify Cuckolding: The Thread
How can I be more grateful for the things I have, /adv/? Why is it that the things I have accomplished feel like something that's already past me, something that needs not be remembered or thought about, while the things I want are always on my mind and I constantly dwell on them?
It's not something that you can "just do" either. I've tried consciously thinking about the stuff I'm grateful for, and I can come up with a few things.. but, it's more like something I realize that makes my life better, or something that life would suck without. However, I don't actually FEEL grateful for those things, I only UNDERSTAND things would suck without them. When I think about a me without <thing I should be grateful for>, it's the same kind of apathetic feeling I get when, for example, thinking about the starving kids in Africa. It must really suck for them, and I wouldn't want to be in their shoes, but I don't REALLY care that much. They are thousands of miles away from here, and I don't see them suffering every day, it doesn't directly influence me, so I can't really have empathy for them.
On the other hand, my wants and desires are something I FEEL, I realize some of them are not even going to make my life better and are just stupid dreams, but yet, I still long for them really badly. I cry sometimes because of this shit.
And even thinking about the past, I often really long to go back to those times and I feel like everything was so much better back then compared to how it is now. I know that a few years from now I'll be thinking that what I'm experiencing right now were "the good times", yet, I can't seem to enjoy this moment in the present at all. Basically, I can logically conclude that I'm living a good life right now, but I still don't feel satisfied or content with it, always want to change something, always feel like the grass is greener on the other side.
What do, /adv/? I feel like this is not a healthy mindset, but I don't know how to go about changing it.
assuming you are healthy, are you grateful for that? you could get in an accident tomorrow and lose both your legs. you will learn to be grateful once you lose something you value.
also how can you logically conclude that you are living the good times now if you are not happy
>>17230011
Yes, I realize that, and being healthy is something I should be grateful for. But I'm still not any happier from this realization, it's not a feeling, I don't get that warmth in my chest from thinking this.
Maybe I will be grateful once I lose something, but I think I've already lost some things that I only realized were important to me after they were no more. However, this only makes me want to go back to the time I had those things, rather than appreciate what I got instead of them - the things I have now.
>also how can you logically conclude that you are living the good times now if you are not happy
If a starving kid from Africa suddenly was put into my position, they would be the happiest person on earth. Alright, I guess comparing life situations like that isn't really fair, but even then - I still conclude that from the things I want out of life that I can list, I already have most of those things right now - yet I'm not grateful for it. Also I'm not really unhappy - I just feel nostalgic and think sometimes about the things I don't have, but it's not like I'm totally depressed or anything. However I feel I should be more satisfied with my life than I am right now.
>>17230048
being grateful is just a gentle reminder that things could be worse and you shouldn't take what you have for granted because you could lose it at any point. try to visualize your life after losing something you really value. your life from just a moment ago will seem nostalgic and better to you. realize that your life could turn to shit at any moment and be grateful that it hasn't
>Met this local girl while travelling Asia
>Took her out just looking for a fun night and a hook up
>Everything went as planned
>She told me the first day she had a boyfriend
>I was like well if you're okay with this not my problem
>Met her a few more times, started doing stuff daytime too
>Turns out she's an amazing girl
>We ended up staying together for 3 months, she basically moved in already
>Her boyfriend comes back from overseas
>She's in tears telling me she really loves me and she's so sorry but she has to go and stay with him
>I'm like wtf girl you dont even like him
>turns out he's an old dude who's taking good care of her family (thisisasia.jpg)
Now we obviously both wanted this to be more but thinking about it rationally it probably never would have worked. I tend to stay in her country quite regularly but I can't stay there forever. We are great friends and we got a good thing going, she's really into me and I know whenever I go back there she's waiting for me at the airport eager to spend a month or two together. That's an awesome deal for me and I should accept that's all it's going to be.
Anyway, my question is how do I proceed now that she's staying with him (for probably around 2 months). On the one hand I'm pretty disgusted by the thought she's staying with this old guy just for the security of her family and I really want to say to her I'm going to cut contact until her "boyfriend" is gone - which would drive her nuts.
On the other hand I have to admit she has never done anything wrong to me, she has told me the deal straight away and she has not once lied to me about anything I asked her or tried to hide anything from me. It's neither her nor my fault that we got involved too deeply and maybe it's time for me to shut up, grow a pair and just talk to her as the good friends we are and go see her again when she's "free".
The best thing would be to become more casual about it, that will happen naturally after you take a bit of a break. You will get on with your life and probably be happy to have another friend. It'll be fine and you should be able to accept her living like she normally lives (along with her friends), they are happy a lot of the time. Removing her from all her friends would be for the worst.
On the other hand you could probably get a job, buy a house for yourself and give her family ~8k a year, go through a ton of complications etc. Really not recommended. There's a lot of "amazing" people out there, some are good as friends.
I think it's fair to assume that older guys taking care of younger women in Asia don't care if they got other lovers. Just don't expect to get ahead of him, he's got the money.
I fucking hate Thailand.
>>17229920
Sounds like you didn't even have sex with her.
Why do I care so much about my parents' opinion of me? I've been wanting to make some friends, for example. But I feel like my parents would think I'm weird for suddenly talking to people. I believe my parents eavesdrop on me and talk behind my back. Essentially I'm afraid of their judgements. Is this a kind of social anxiety developed in childhood? I feel like I have to meet their expectations of my usual self (being introverted, sad, etc.), otherwise it feels incredibly awkward. Whenever I try to be more talkative, my father stares at me like I'm drunk (I did it before so he probably clings to that memory). If I make certain changes to my behavior, my mother acts like I've gone insane. When I started exercising I was breathing loudly, so mom busted in my room very worried as if I was snorting cocaine or something. Yes I know I'm a bitch and can't stand being judged/mocked/teased especially by my parents. Yes I will move out in a year, but what can I do in the meantime?
>I feel like I have to meet their expectations of my usual self (being introverted, sad, etc.)
>I believe my parents eavesdrop on me and talk behind my back.
>Why do I care so much about my parents' opinion of me?
I had thought that too. Turned out, they do. They still say to me that everything will be alright, they smile, however, I happen to hear their judgemental utterances in my side, blaming me for being retarded, making false assumptions and wrong decisions when I'm not around. Able to overhear, though.
Might be a tactic where you are subconsciously trying to avoid their disapproval, it is developed in childhood. Clearly not your fault, but theirs. Friend had the same kind of problem, however, he started to abuse it as much as possible, causing them to be irritated and meeked over the time.
Your parents are inhibiting your growth as a person. This is fairly normal, but also extremely unhealthy. For your growth as a human being, I strongly encourage you to find a way to move out of your parents' house. The good thing about new situations is that you get a chance to reinvent yourself. The new you that you find is no less valid than the old one. But here's the thing: people HATE when you change. Especially people who are invested in the old you. They will question you for it and slow you down. Don't let them. Distance yourself so you have some room to breathe, and if your parents' opinions are holding you back, then it's your duty to yourself to ignore them and distance yourself.
>>17229948
>you are subconsciously trying to avoid their disapproval
How can I stop doing that? It seems impossible from my current point of view.
How can i become more quick witted? You know come up with clever responses and comebacks?
Watch The Office, or Scrubs
>>17229921
Can watching tv shows really help with that?
>>17229931
No, people who quote TV shows are "tolerated".
I broke up with my gf but realised the next day how much i love her and asked her to forgive me and be together again.She refused and said she cant play games which is true since i acted like a fucking child over stupid shit. I broke up with her because i couldnt handle her not talking all the time with me and basically because i was an insecure faggot. I was 5 years single and forgot how it is to be in a relationship.
Now i hate myself but i love her. The only good thing is that she still kinda sweetalks with me calling me baby and all that. What do i do? Give her time? I love her so much.
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>>17229902
Grow a pair of testicles and stop being a gigantic needy vagina.
You'll be lucky if she takes you back, desu. I wouldn't take back someone who insisted on me spending all my time with them. IMO it's the least attractive personality trait.
Yes give her space, but more importantly, focus on improving yourself so you don't rely on other people's company.
>>17229906
I didnt want to spend all the time with her but i did want to talk with her more than three times a day but she bacame a bit distant.
She had some issues concerning her sex drive.I said i wanted to help her but i was a selfish asshole and only though about myself.
There's something that happens a lot in relationships, where in a girl winds up with a guy when he has good prospects, a nice social group, and a promising future. The girl can look up to him and trust his leadership.
Then the guy loses some of those friends and his social standing goes down. His future becomes less bright as he compromises his ambitions and takes the easy ("logical") road. Then he becomes more and more needy, investing more and more of his attention on his girlfriend. He's no longer leading her. He no longer impresses her and paves a promising road forward. No, if anything he slows her down. She'll begin to resent him for this, he'll become useless to her, she'll eventually become of greater social value than him, and then she'll wind up with someone else.
You've noted that she isn't giving you as much attention, and it sounds like you're giving her a lot of attention. Does what I've described apply? Because if so, you need to get your shit together and your life back on track more than you need her. Girls don't want to be the focus of your life. They want to come along for a promising adventure.
I feel like there are girls that are intimidated by me, but the thing is I'm more shy to talk to most of them. I always have feelings either some are trying to avoid me, make fun, of me, or I just don't know how to respond to them. It's not every girl, just usually the ones around my age. I've had a long conversation with one girl, but it felt so hard to hold a conversation and bore/creep her away , I was relieved she had class to get to right after. How can I stop feeling this way around them and how can get more positive interactions with girls?
>>17229899
>How can I stop feeling this way around them and how can get more positive interactions with girls?
Practice, generally.
I know that's not a very exciting answer, but in your situation it's what you need.
You're shit with girls for the same reason you're shit with an instrument you just picked up for the first time.
More practice and you'll get better at both the technical (executing plans, physical speaking part of the conversation) and creative (coming up with things to say/do) part.
>>17229923
>You're shit with girls for the same reason you're shit with an instrument you just picked up for the first time.
But I do have experiences with women, but Im still shit with it. The only reason a person haven't been good playing an instrument is either they have shit hands or haven't tried. I felt like Im the one with shit hands. Most of time, just talking to them about stuff doesn't feel good enough if Im trying to make a friend/girlfriend it goes unrequited .
>>17229899
become relatable
I am a girl from a well-off family. How to tell whether guy is into me just for the cash?
>>17229892
I actually like it that we've gotten rid of that long-ass shit OP, some editing was long overdue.
>>17229907
>How to tell whether guy is into me just for the cash?
Making the first move eliminates a lot of the gold diggers.
This also gives you the chance to observe the guy and figure out if he's a shallow, materialistic fuck before he's aware of your interest (or aware of you at all).
Girls: do you want a male best friend? Can guys and girls be best friends?
Lets say you're waiting at a train station, and a really pretty girl walks by. You're probably never going to see her again, but she makes your heart flutter. There's also a possibility that she's also interested in you. What do you do?
I know going up and saying hi is the first step, but what do you do to keep it from getting awkward?
Hey, Im anon! Ur really pretty /u seem like a nice person/ some generic lane and i would like to take u to have a coffee/dinner may i have ur DMN DIGITS
"Hi... I noticed (something about her that isn't a physical feature - like clothing, book she's reading etc.). You seem really cool. My name is (Anon) by the way - would you like to go for a coffee some time?"
Something along these lines. You could compliment her hair or eyes or tattoos or something, but imo that's too unoriginal unless you're actually saying something interesting beyond "I like your ____"
>>17230094
Basically, you need to come up with a convincing pretext for why you approached her that isn't 'You're hot and I'd like to fuck you.' Even better if the pretext is flattering, interesting or unconventional.
Of course, if you're a guy with supermodel looks you could just babble nonsense in her general direction and that would probably work fine
Hey there, have a need to ask ramdom people for advise.
So I am living with my future wife, we are engaged. Planing the future. Etc. Both 29y. Together for 8 years.
My girl has small breasts, A size. I am somehow into it. It looks good to me. But at the same time I feel that she has a complex because of that.
She never understood that she is pretty. Especially for me. (She is a 11/10 for me)
I have saved enought money for a surgery. In a few days she will be at her first consultation.
Now the questions is: how can this change everything? What should I expect after it?
One thing is for sure - she will be happy.
Some say - after a surgery woman lose the former bf and look for a better one. (80% in Russia)
Thanks in advace!
>>17229802
Bump
>>17229808
Bump
>>17229810
Bump take 3>>17229802
What's the best thing you can do with a computer science degree?
>>17229797
Cry about how much money you spent on it when Amit from Goa takes your job. Seriously, get a mech eng or EE or something if you can do math. Computer science degrees aren't worth shit.
1. Make the next facebook
2. Work in the military creating autonomous weapon platforms that will erase cunts from the face of the earth
pick one
>>17229797
Getting above average salary for something you enjoy doing.
>my life