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i'm extremely terrified of commitment.
first of all, i love my boyfriend a lot. i'm not sure if he's "the one", i'm not even sure such a thing exists... but he is good to me and he loves me dearly. he's introduced me to all his friends and family and raves about me all the time to them.
he's been really pushing to meet my family and friends which i have been putting off because
>1. my mom already hates him without ever meeting him because he's not the 6', model-tier handsome, rich, harvard genius, disney prince with a perfect, well-off and in-tact family even though our own family is basically a failure in all those aspects
>2. because i don't really have friends
he recently invited me to this wedding event that his friend is holding. and that's when i suddenly felt short of breath and my lungs feel tight with anxiety and i realized just how scared i was. just the mention of "wedding" set me off imagining how awkward and embarrassing it would be to get married...
i have days where i try to find all his flaws and make excuses to break things off in my head, only to remember that everyone has their flaws (and his aren't even necessarily that bad) and that he is actually the best guy i've dated so far.
how do i stop being so paranoid and scared??
also to note: my bf (29 y/o) has told me he does want to settle down and that he sees life long partner potential in me and it flatters and freaks me out at the same time because he seems to hint at this more and more as we spend more time together
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Sounds like you're anxiety has more to do with the fear of all eyes being on you and social anxiety, than a fear of commitment. You aren't scared of being with him....you're scared of the social expectations of the relationship...ie meeting people or being on display. Just my take on it. I'd recommend seeing a therapist and having them help pinpoint what it really is. Even if it is a fear of commitment, that typically is due to an insecurity within YOURSELF...but instead of trying to work through that you are projecting it onto your boyfriend and trying to find flaws in him. Sounds like you just need to work on your confidence and loving yourself. The rest would likely improve after.
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>>17231624
Are you terrified of commitment, or terrified of how others will perceive your choice of man that you committed to?
Now, you really shouldn't care about what your mother and family think, because ultimately they should only care about whether or not you are happy - so if your bf isn't abusive or controlling (or some other major negative) and it doesn't seem like he is, then it's purely about whether he makes you happy.
So, does he make you happy? Is he a genuinely nice person?
As for friends, those are irrelevant. I have next to no friends, and neither does my gf, and neither of us are bothered by it. I mean, what exactly are friends to your relationship? People with stories, at best. And your family can fill that role too.
Lastly, how old are you? You mentioned his age, but didn't mention your own, which makes it seem off-hand like there is a age difference worth noting. Might explain your feelings, so thought I would ask.
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>>17231648
that could be it, ive never been really good with a lot of people around me. i can put up a good impression for the first 5 minutes, but i'd try to make an excuse to leave or fade afterwards. my boyfriend is obviously a lot more social and normal than i am, and i guess that's what makes me insecure. i have no idea how to keep up with his energy around people and i'm afraid i'm bringing him down and that he'll someday resent me for it.
i've never been to a therapist, but i guess its about time i tried. i'm too old for these problems i think...
>>17231680
>Are you terrified of commitment, or terrified of how others will perceive your choice of man that you committed to?
a bit of both maybe... he is white and i'm asian. when i used to have friends, i would get shit on for having a white bf. culturally and socially we're both kind of different and have different expectations, but we do work it out as we go along... sometimes i feel like he's from a whole nother planet.
i mean, he was raised more in a wild partying environment and was into being thuggish and stuff until he decided he's too old for that... i'm more used to being shut-in and enjoying my korean mmo's and if i ever went out with friends, it would be to shop for cute things or cook together or something...
he is though, a very kind and genuinely good person. it's just... when i think of weddings, i don't have anyone i could invite to it other than my family. my friends never really last and i'm scared this would be a red flag to him, which he could be perfectly right about... because i always knew i wasn't really typical as a person and maybe something is wrong with me since i can't keep friendships longer than a couple years...
i'm 24 years old, so about a 5 year difference...
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>>17231601
Wait till you're 40 and you can pay a professional for it
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>>17231601
Pay an escort. Or make the girl believe she's not being judged in bed. Girls are the kinkiest sluts when they are comfortable with you and know you're not judging them.
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>>17231614
Where do I look for a professional?
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Dear Alphonse you were witnessed
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>>17231590
Sucking off another namefag? I'd imagine that is a regular occurrence, hardly worth an unrelated thread.
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>>17231618
Then don't reply
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>>17231633
Read the rules of the board.
MODS
Which military branch should I try to enlist in and why?
Too old for the Marine Corps and Coast Guard.
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Airforce. Army's for dipshits, and the Marines are for dipshits who think they're better than the army dipshits
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>>17231537
lol, look at this guy.
Airforce is easy mode, but you will always get called out on it whenever around soldiers or Marines. Do whatever you want.
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>>17231537
What about the navy?
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If I have a felony record is it not even worth it applying for jobs?
After I graduate college my record gets sealed. Should I just wait? Would I be wasting my time applying for part time jobs in the meantime?
I was thinking of applying for a company I already worked at before but am paranoid they will reject me if they do a background check.
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bummp
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bamp
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I wouldn't give up entirely, but it's a pretty big red flag for employers, depending on the severity of the crime.
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What do I do now?
I'm in love with two men... This can't be happening! I'm getting married.
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>>17231483
Gross
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>>17231486
I know right... Never ment for this to happen
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>>17231483
obviously cheat, duh, that's what any respectable person would do.
i get horribly uncomfortable watching people be intimate with one another in movies and tv shows. this includes everything from kissing to fucking. i normally look away and wait for it to end and have done that since i can remember but i feel like somethings wrong with me.
and advice with this?
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I cry instead because I envy those moments
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>>17231476
I go through this a bit too. I hate when sex scenes get in the road of story and I just look at my phone or PC and try to ignore it until the story starts back up.
My gf is pretty much the same. We like our own intimacy, but seeing others doesn't do anything for us.
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>>17231476
I'm much the same. Porn is fine, but when there's a sex scene in something like GoT it's like "is this really fucking necessary?".
I heard that users of 4chan can do wonders and only miracle can help me now. Can you help me to find my smile?
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what the fuck? hang yourself
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after this years of shame, im thinking about it
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If that's you just go to the fucking dentist ffs. How can you even life like that. You're going to get perfectly white new fake teeth and then you can smile how ever much you want. Just go to a fucking dentist, jesus fucking christ you lazy disgusting pig.
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Hello /adv/, I'm facing an issue that its tearing me apart for the last month
I've got a long term girlfriend (we are together 5 years, and she is my first girlfriend, and the first person I've ever had sex), and she is basically wife material. She really loves me, coocks for me etc. On the other hand, our sex life is basically non existant, and whenever we have sex its pretty boring. There is no passion between us. I tried to talk to her about the problem, but whenever I do, she is crying and refuses to do anything to fix it. On the other hand, I met this new girl, and she is perfect at sex (yes, I know, I cheated on my girlfriend). Now I can't get her out of my mind. What do I do now? Destroy my relationship with a woman that really loves me, just to have sex with the other girl? Should I keep my girlfriend, and see the other girl few times a week?
That shit really bothers me.
I know, I'm an asshole for cheating on my girlfriend, but we have sex like once per 3 months, and its boring as hell.With the other girl, I felt real passion and had real sex for the first time in my life.
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>>17231366
>Destroy my relationship with a woman that really loves me, just to have sex with the other girl?
Yes. You're already destroying your relationship, you might as well stop being a complete asshole and let your girlfriend go. You can bring up having an open relationship though it's something you should have done before you started fucking the other girl.
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>>17231366
Nice dubs.Probably wasnt a good idea too cheat but at least it's made you take a hard look at your relationship.You're choices are thus:
1)Stay with your gf and give your best shot at helping her.After all,she's wife material and that isn't too common.
2)Have great sex.Problem is basing a relationship solely on sex is fragile.Castles made of sand dude.
Can you see yourself having a long loving relationship with option 2?Is she also wife material?
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>>17231366
you sound like my ex. He cheated on me after 3yrs of relationship then after 3 mos he messaged me and wanted to get back together bec they didnt work out. He got depressed and shit bec he played himself and got nothing now. Idk son do you think it's worth it to throw away 5 yr relationship you're very comfortable with just bec you found a girl who can give you better sex? Do you connect with the side hoe or is it purely sex? Have you tried spicing up the sex with main chick by trying new stuff?
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if you ask your boyfriend what he's up to and he doesn't answer does that mean he's doing something he doesn't want to tell you?
so for the most part when my boyfriend has free time he spends it with me... and if he has plans with his friends he invited me to come. today he worked till 5 and I thought he would ask me to hang out after but he didn't. his texts started getting spotty after work and I asked him what are you up to:) ad he hasn't answered...
I know I'm overreacting but its making me paranoid right now and I'm super concerned. =/
what should I do?/how do I remain calm and distract myself? like my heart is racing because idk he always asks me to hang when he's not doing anything were he couldn't include me and hes had no mention of what hes doing
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>>17231352
Wow maybe your boyfriend made some FRIENDS.
I don't think it's fine to spend your whole free time with your gf/bf.
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Future psychotic ex-girlfriend detected.
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This sounds more like a crush than a relationship. We've all been there.
Give him space, and insist on some space of your own. Pursue your own interests when he's not around.
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Buying a 1TB HDD for the first time in ever, need to know some do's and don'ts. Pretty much the only things I know is no second-hand, no Aliexpress or similar sites.
Thinking of getting a 50€ seagate one off of Amazon (.de), got advice for cheaper sites? Needs to ship to Sweden. Don't really care about speed unless you say I should.
Thanks.
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>>17231334
I don't know about brands, but I think getting a decent sized drive is a great investment. Use a 1 terra myself, love how much I can install on it, and how many backups I can keep.
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Just get bretty much anything.
Seagate has a high failure rate, though.
Ultimately, it doesn't matter.
I like WD personally.
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Try to order it from a company within your own country. It usually comes out with cheaper delivery.
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So, my crush has had a bit of a nervous breakdown due to overstress and work, going through divorce, etc. She's needing time to clear her head and is very on edge. She's also moved about 3 hours away to get a bit of seaside relaxation.
I'll probably arrange to see her on weekends, not sure how often.
She feels anxious and worried around lots of people. So what sort of things can I arrange to do with her?
Ideas I have so far:
Picnics
Walks in parks
Maybe a bit of boating
What else are good ideas?
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>>17231329
Sex on the beach at night
Dinner by the beach
That guy is pretty hot tbqh
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>>17231329
Talk to her. See funny movies, or just hang out. It's relaxing to most people,. women especially.
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dress up like a vulture and run circles around her
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I'm a slob. I'm 18 and moved in to student flats near the beginning of the year. I keep my mess contained to my room and am careful to leave shared areas neat.
Last night when I was trying to sleep, one of my flatmates opened my door and came in to my room, which I always find kind of rude, but put up with. We talked for a bit then she started threatening to take my stuff until I cleaned my room. In the end she took a small chocolate bar and a canister of sprinkles and said that I need to clean my room and leave it this way for a week before she will give them back. I told her no and she was like "Im stronger than you". When I tried to get help from another flatmate she was like "its for the best" and high fived the one that took my stuff. I tried again to get it back this morning and she yelled at me to get out of her room and the other flatmate once again said that it was a good thing.
I don't really give a shit about the chocolate, it's only like $2 worth of stuff, but I HATE this feeling. I have been upset all morning and crying, I'm getting a migraine as well. They don't understand and I don't want to go in to details, but autonomy over my own belongings and areas is VERY important to me.
I'm not going to be able to function until I get this back, but my final (major) assignment is due in 6 days and I'm already falling behind on the work I had planned to do this morning, I'm reaching hysteria at this point. I've locked myself in my room because it's so embarrassing.
What should I do?
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And I'm aware that this isn't really right for this board, but I'm hella pissed off right now.
Someone told me I should tell an RA but it seems a bit drastic over a bit of chocolate, it's not her fault I have these issues.
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fucking contact your landlord, threaten that you're going to file a complaint and this is serious.
Treat the SJW autists as they should be treated.
Personally, I'd clean up your room, see this a sign to rise and start living life properly, looking for a job, etc., and then isolate your asshole roommates and make them realise how much of degenerates they are
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>>17231361
This. What she just did was fucking theft.
However, having your room in a huge mess is probably against the rules, so if you rat on her she'll probably rat on you, too. Clean up your room, then complain to the landlord or security. You could also call the police, but I think that's way too extreme.
> Someone told me I should tell an RA but it seems a bit drastic over a bit of chocolate, it's not her fault I have these issues.
Like you said, it's not about the chocolate. It's about her coming into your room and taking something that's yours.
anyone suffering from drug addiction or recovering addicts here?
if you've been through it, what did you do to get off of them? what was your line of thinking that ultimately drove you to go through with it?
what was your worst withdrawal symptom and how did you over come it?
could use some support at the moment, morphine and percocet withdrawal has been hell and i'm only on day 3.
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#1 thing is distancing yourself from friends who use.
They will constantly be like "Cmon man stop being a little bitch and rail this crank!"
Peer pressure and whatnot
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>>17231220
You should stop being a little bitch and rail that crank
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>>17231241
what if the person enabling me is my mom? i currently live with her to help support her (we both have the same brain disease), and have no means to live independently at the moment. we've both been helping each other by splitting our medications after brain surgeries.
maybe i should try withdrawing away from home...I'm also thinking about buying her a safe to keep her medicine in as i don't trust myself not to beg her for it.
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What's fucking a post-op tranny like? What has science accomplished so far? What's the pussy like? Do they have a fake clit and pretend to like it? Wouldn't it be dry? How's it actually feel? Guys who have fucked a tranny, would you fuck a male?
There's some really attractive trannies around here but I feel that I would just be revolted once the clothes come off.
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>>17231213
No dude. Just.. No. A mutilated penis will in no way be the same as a real vagina. Avoid at all costs.
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>>17231213
http://www.fuq.com/search/Post%20op?orientation=shemale
Wanna find out?
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>>17231213
It still has male DNA, cannot produce children and still has the mind of a man. It's pure perversion to get your rocks off. If you want the look of a tranny go for an asian girl.