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I need a neutral opinion on this turn of events, I need someone from outside.

>two friends had been dating for a few months
>recently she broke up with him because he was too pushy so to speak, was creeping her out and shit
>so here I am listening to him bitch and be generally emo and try to give him some encouragement, and just ended up just talking with her for a while
>after I had talked to her for a while I noticed I had started to develop feelings for her. I've had problems with telling people how I feel because of past experience, and I suppose I was afraid if I didn't say anything, that I might lose my chance
>so I bite the bullet and tell her, she tells me she started feeling the same way yadda yadda you know how this goes
>we both agreed though, we would wait to make this public until after our friend had simmered down from the whole thing
>after about a week or two I decided I would just have to tell him, he didn't seem like he'd be able to let it go and still seemed to think there was a chance left
>I knew it probably wouldn't go so well, and it didn't. He blows up in my face, starts yelling about being betrayed
>me and him argue for a bit and decide to just try and settle down, not get involved with each other for a while
>so this goes on
>but even when I have important (sometimes personal) shit to tell him about he just ignores it completely, like he just doesn't want to acknowledge me because maybe I might go away
>so I confront him about it, he goes off again, talks about how I shoulda have told him beforehand, asked his "permission" basically.
>shitniggerwhatareyousaying
>I'm the one blowing up in his face, start laying on the table everything he does or has done that was fucking retarded or childish, leave him off with telling him to grow the fuck up and learn to let go
>turn my phone off and grab a drink

Were we both in the wrong, /adv/?

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I have been casually attracted to one of my best friends. We have a lot in common and have been close throughout secondary school.

Over the last 2 years, i have recognised that she holds a special place to me in my circle of friends, even if we no longer meet, write and/or talk as regularly as we used to.
>It is possible that she does not share my feelings, as she is the prone-to-accidentally-flirt type. Or i am misinterpreting signs.

These feelings usually come in infrequent waves (every few weeks), especially if i have a moment to myself. Over the last years i have tried to ignore my feelings and rationalise them, to make them go away completely.

But still i find them nagging at the back of my head and unconsciously preoccupying me. Like a 'task' which lingers on my 'to-do-list'.

I have tried writting and setting on fire. Talking to friends about it.
But non of it helped.
>Now i am at the point that i just want to suggest it (ie try being more than friends) over dinner.
>Have read a huge amount of horror stories with loosing friendships etc.
>Don't want to regret not having tried.
>Don't want to ignore feelings anymore and get rid of this nagging feelings.

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Asianbro here dating a qt white waifu gf of over 1.5 years now we're both attending college.

Lately things have been falling apart. We used to have frequent intimate moments and intimacy together but lately she's been almost non-existent. She has since developed a chronic debilitating health condition in which she can no longer perform the common tasks associated with being a 2016 young, college girlfriend.

As her health condition worsens, it has been exceedingly difficult to even spend time together as a couple and it is getting harder and harder for me to cope with this. She can't have food as her health condition warrants only a select number of foods to consume. She can't do anything physically strenuous and she can't do extended activity for her lack of energy. Her mood swings and anger and mental state has since deteriorated more and more and it's getting harder to differentiate between the real her or her sickness.

It wasn't like this when we first met and things have been great until recently. It's taking a toll on me. Should I be the hero and stick through it all until her bitter end or call it quits now and save the heartache for everybody? I've invested so much into her and I just feel so heartbroken now. The logical thing is to find a more suitable mate- and there are plenty around. But I feel that would be too heartless? It's depressing and has since affected me emotionally at a level I can no longer function in a daily setting. She was supposed to me my wife, not sick. I might as well be dying too.

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Can I use Paypal as a "savings account" (MANUALLY transfer money from my bank account) every month and save up enough money to buy a big-ticket item?

Cons? Fees? Ethics?

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Any psyfags here?
>I've always been afraid of compromising to change my identity.
>fear of telling people information about my weaknesses
>never tried to fit in and thus feel out of place all the time

So it goes like I don't trust people so I don't feel accepted by them.
The most asshole-ish thing is that their good attitude towards their perception of me feels offending and i go all passive-aggressive.
That is not healthy right?

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Can you help me get over my extreme shyness when it comes to admitting I like someone, and flirting back? I'm incredibly worried I will seem like an easy girl if I show interest, especially if it turns out the guy doesn't like me. Help, please?

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I've had a few crushes throughout my life but I have no desire to fuck them or anything. I just want them to be my companion forever and the most sexual thing I've wanted is for them to keep me warm in bed at night and to stroke my hair. Is this abnormal?

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Due to a lack of intimacy that was starting to put me down -- making me remember old bad relationships -- I decided to follow those sayings; "you don't have anything to lose", "if the opportunity comes, grab it", or something like that. However, not only I'm upset right now, but I also regret having done something.
College party, made out with two guys (didn't even like it, there were no feelings). The guy I do like (neither of them) sees or gets to know that I made out with one of them and proceeds to make fun of me, laughing. At one point he says "try talking to x about bands y and z ahahahaha" (the ones we always talk about)
So, /adv/, I guess he just sees me as a friend, right? No chance this is going anywhere... What can I make out of this situation?

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Any parents out there? I got a three year old that won't poop in the toilet. He pees in it just fine but refuses to sit and let it go(lol) my wife thinks he might be autistic but I beg to differ. He's still not talking much. He makes out a few words but won't form any sentences. I do want to get his checked out and see what up with him. Any advice on how I can get him to poop in the toilet?

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ive got a kind of shitty fucked up sense of humor and managed to play a joke about wanting to off myself a little too well today
only told it offhandedly to my girlfriend but shes taken it real bad and cried for a pretty long time
any chance she wont leave me if i just go "yeah that was a joke sorry for making you cry for half an hour"

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Hello, I've recently received my first DUI charge in AZ, aka the state that flays you alive for any kind of drunk driving. (Thanks, illegals.) I blew a 0.103, and the official DUI level is 0.08 and an extreme DUI is 0.15. More good news, I had a can of open beer in my vehicle. Fuck you, the line at Burger King was really long, and I took two sips from it.

I had had a few shots before leaving. We were out of liquor so I left to get some along with some food at Burger King. I was actually driving completely fine. I was pulled over for a busted taillight (it was early nighttime) (THIS IS YOUR REMINDER TO MAKE SURE ALL YOUR FUCKING LIGHTS WORK!!!!) and when the cop opened the window he immediately asked if I had anything to drink. I came clean and admitted it and he asked me to exit the vehicle and we did the whole song and dance. I actually passed the field sobriety tests, but was nonetheless given a breathalyzer, after which my truck was towed and we went downtown and it was altogether not a bad experience. I was polite and compliant and followed all orders and me and the cop even talked politics on the many rides. In fact he let me go home by the time it was all done.

Anyways, overall I have 4 criminal DUI charges and 1 civil (the taillight). The open beer is what's gonna make me fry like a piggy. I'm considering getting a lawyer, since I had a friend that was driving 4 times the DUI limit and got a 6 month sentence reduced to a week. Have you guys any experience fighting DUIs? (AZ cases would be ideal, but I'd like to hear any cases.)

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So my car is currently being worked on. I'm trying to find rides to work. I got my mother to take me in a couple times and my roommate once. I get rides back from my coworkers who live in the same neighborhood as me. I live kinda close. To far to walk but real close when comparing it to a drive. Well my roommate is my only hope but he doesn't want too. I asked if he could take me in at 12:45 and he says "I don't get up that late. Sorry, mate" with a smile and laugh. I asked are you serious and he's said yeah. I get mad and tell him well I can't fucking get money to pay bills then. I slightly raised my voice. I was stressing out and still am. I apologized for it the next day. He offered to give me a ride before the apology but I had someone else take me in because I don't know if he's being a douche or not. I can't go into work all sweaty and smelly if I really had to walk. It's been in the 80s.

What should I do. I try to get rides from my neighbor coworkers when we have the same time but it hasn't been happening.

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I'm in love with one of my best friend's sister.

I'm pretty sure she feels the same way, but every time we get close to each other I push her away because I don't want to lose one of my best friends or be exiled from our small friends group.

I've known the two of them for a decade now and I feel like the longer I wait the worse chance I have of being with her.

How do I tell her how I feel without losing friends in the process?

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Can I ask my professor to not give me a higher grade than a C? For instance, if I get a C+, will he make it a C if I ask?

I have my reasons.

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>Friends come over
>Go through my CD collection
>"Hey Anon, why do you have so much David Bowie?"
>I freeze up, I secretly know they'll never understand his rich rich discography is only second to Neil Young in terms of quality content
>I look back and realize I own 20 Bowie albums...

Do I have a problem? Should I cut back to 12? Can one have too many albums by one artist in their collection? Is 20 overkill? What do Anons?