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>>17243537
You look like you live in an alleyway. Start with that.
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>>17243537
Cause you're ugly. Your fashion sense is like you combined a cholo and 1990s Italian mechanic
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>>17243537
Because you're a manlet
Is it possible to move to a city really far away without saving tons of money? I'm not good at talking to people so finding roommates will be hard, I have no car, and I have no skills at all so I'd be making close to nothing
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Need first month's rent + deposit to be civilized.
You can live in your car or a hostel though for a while
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>>17243533
Do some people let you pay the deposit later on?
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How to land your first job? 2016-06-11 05:57:57 Post No.17243470
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>in college, decides to not take summer classes
>looking to get my first summer job
>apply and went a group interview [spoiler]at my local Chipotle[/spoiler]
>manager asks for prior work experiences. I got non except for some volunteering work whereas the other person in group cranks out that he worked at his mother's gift shop, uncle's grocery import company and etc
>manager says he will interview some other people and perhaps will call us back for secondary interviews in a couple days
>interview ends soon after; feels like I got bodied by this other guy
>promptly got a rejection email in less than 24h after the interview.
How can anybody like me ever get their first job if everybody is (practically) only hiring people with prior experiences?
What kind of job and how did people of /adv/ get their first job(full-time/part-time/seasonal)?
How can I improve my chances? [spoiler]Am I suppose to make up/lie about my experiences?[/spoiler]
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>How can anybody like me ever get their first job if everybody is (practically) only hiring people with prior experiences?
And that's the ten million dollar question of this generation. Networking, nepotism and luck.
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>>17243470
You have to really sell the experiences you have. You need a script of high energy responses to interview questions. I like to practice by singing them.
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>>17243470
I've hired a lot of first time workers in positions like this (a long time ago, I used to manage retail).
The trick is, you don't need to have this in-depth resume of all of the places you've worked before, just relatable experience. Have you been in a club, on a sports team, or part of a volunteering group (which you already said you have)? Okay, you have relevant experience working as part of a team.
The thing about these big chains is that they're designed to pretty quickly teach you the basics and make sure that no one is fucking up on a larger scale. Everyone's going to make some mistakes, even the guy who has worked in 3-4 different places.
What you want to pass on is that you're willing to learn and be a part of a team. Never be too scared to elaborate on your life experience with specific examples, and qualifiers. For example, "Well, I don't have exact previous work experience, but I assist in the setup of a local homeless outreach program by working with others to bag up supplies for those in need on weekends, and I love being a part of a team working toward a larger goal."
Boom. The other guy may say he stocked greeting cards or something, but it's not that different. It's all about attitude.
Good luck anon. I'll keep checking in.
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I'm 24, halfway to 25. This is very near the age I wanted to be married at and I wanted children within only a year or two after that. But not only am I not married, I'm, as of fairly recently, no longer with the person I thought I would eventually marry. I'm not going to talk bad about my ex, there was no cheating, nothing like that, we just didn't work out. I'm not over them or ready to start dating other people let alone jump into a long term relationship, and I'm unwilling to rush into marriage or children once I do because I take that level of commitment very seriously.
I'm also at a particularly isolating point in my life. I've recently lost my closest friend due to him developing unrequited feelings for me, most of my other friends are friends of my ex first and mine second or people I've grown apart from over the years so I seldom talk to them anymore. I'm struggling to make new friends plus I have some degree of social anxiety and difficulty transitioning from acquaintanceship into friendship. Most of the people I work with are much older than me so even though I talk to them and like them, they're not the kind of people I want to befriend anyway.
My life is far, far off track from where I want it to be and the goals I have for myself but I don't really know how to go about achieving them.
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You set yourself for disappointment. Instead of taking things as they come you decided to set goals that make zero sense other than "I just want things to be like this or that" and then expected for life to change at your whim. It doesn't work like that. You're supposed to take things as they come, plans never work as thought.
Don't hurry to marry and make a life, wait for the right person to come and work it out with her. Only when you're 1000% certain she's the one, marry. Otherwise just let things happen.
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>>17243505
My goals in life are marriage, family, a wide social circle of friends, and home ownership. I would like to have time with my husband before I rush into children and 2-3 children before any of the risks associated with having children later in life goes up. It makes sense to be married by at least 30 the latest because of that, and I've always felt like mid-late 20s, around 26 or 26, would be an ideal range to shoot for.
These are the things that matter to me. Some people want a fancy car, some people want to travel, some people want to be a published author. If you want something you don't "just let things happen", you pursue it and if the plans get messed up along the way, you figure out how to adjust for that if they're still what you want. And they are still what I want.
>Don't hurry to marry and make a life
>Only when you're 1000% certain she's the one, marry.
I specifically said I wouldn't marry or have children if I was anything less than dead certain. I take marriage enormously seriously.
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>>17243527
>a wide social circle of friends
Should be wide social circle/wide circle of friends.
>around 26 or 26
Should be 26 or 27.
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Mexifag here, some friends are moving from the country capital (where I live) to Cancun they invited my to come with them and start living there, I dont know what to do, im 21 and I havent done anything interesting or important with my life here, I Just made an examen to a university here and im wating for the results but I think im not going to make it, I want to go to Cancun but im too scared of living my familie and everything I have here, scared of the reaccion of my parents and if they dont support me if I fail in Cancun (with support I mean they taking my sorry ass back to home), my dad did some shit like this AT my age but he went to New York, I really dont know what to do, my friends are leaving next week (they have a house to arrive there but only for a while) any advice? And Thanks to any one Who answers, and sorry if my english is crap
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build wall
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>>17243459
Not now
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Go back to your shit hole country
Hey faggots. I'm looking for ways to improve my speaking skills. Right now I sound like a gay and retarded Elmer Fudd. Is there any software I could use to practice or something? I don't have the money to get therapy. Should I just record myself speaking and practice that way?
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>>17243454
Get some children's books and read them aloud. You may want to record occasionally to measure progress.
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>>17243454
Holy shit are you me? Because that's almost exactly how I would describe my voice.
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>>17243454
Read books. You get a better grasp on words I found.
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I need all of your advice about moving out at 19 while going to college
here's my situation:
>lived with mom and sister alone until 16
>moved in with shitty step dad, clear from get-go we would not get along
>he literally wants me to move out or pay rent at 16
>mother tells him how insane that is, he says i have to be out of his house before my 18th birthday (which is a few days before finals week of my senior year of high school.. yeah he's a swell guy lmao)
>We got in a big fight after i turned 18 because i was just starting community college and didn't have enough saved up to move out anywhere, he tells me i can stay but only if i pay him $400 a month
>nothing happens, never pay, he completely ignores me
anyway, catch up to now, we literally don't talk at all whatsover. i'm a few months over 19, it's june, and he just told me he's going to get me a lawyer signed contract stating i'll pay $400-$500 a month by next june or i get kicked out for real.
luckily by now i have about $10k in work and college scholorship money, and i just started building credit.
so sorry for the blog, i just wanted you guys to know my situation in full. I live in California, so apartments even in the small shitty town i'm from are nearing 1k a month, and i make about 800 or so part-time. i don't really know the slightest thing about moving out on my own, so i was hoping you guys could give me any info possible. No way in hell i'm paying him $500 a month to be constantly policed around the house (i can't even bring food into my room), so i need to be out of here before june. I should be done with CC by then, but i might be a few credits behind.
wat do?
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>>17243445
Find a cheap extended stay hotel. Sublease on CL. Sleep in car. Stay in men's shelter.
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>>17243550
sounds really shitty. i have a year to prepare, there's not any better i can do? i make roughly 700 a month at my job. only problem is i have no friends left in this town to share an apartment with, nor do i know how to get info about them.
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>>17243445
Make some friends or live in a van. It's really not as bad as it sounds. If you've got the money, get a gym membership. Some go as low as $10-$20 a month, and it's an easy way to get a shower. And by "live in a van" I mostly mean "sleep in a van," you should be spending your free time at libraries and shit, they have AC and free books/computers.
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How do I become better at pursuing and showing interest with women, especially really attractive ones?
I've been with some gorgeous women, and I have pretty high standards. I was lucky enough to be born pretty good looking, and I have a great job, active social life, and a solid amount of charisma. Girls come on to me, and I've gotten used to that, but it means when it comes down to a girl I really think is cute, I kind of just freeze up. Unless she's complimenting me relentlessly and making it super obvious, I always assume they're just not interested, so I don't really pursue.
My buddy explains to me all the time that you just can't let them come to you all the time, that you need to put in the work and show them you're interested, because they're insecure. But it's hard for me to fathom.
How do I break that mental hurdle?
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I relate to your post so much it IS funny.
I'm not better yet, but something that helped was going all out on one of those really gorgeous women in the bedroom for a really long time.
Once you've got a fucking breathtaking exceptional woman begging for anal on a regular basis it's much harder t be intimidated by the smaller mental hurdles.
As true as that is taking the oppurtunities all those beautiful women throw at me is still a total crapshoot for me. I'm just a lot better than I was.
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>>17243437
I suggest you fuck off of this website chad.
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>>17243478
not your secret club, robot
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My dad hasn't answered any of my texts for the past week and isn't answering my calls. I haven't said or done to provoke him, although I'm fairly certain my mom has been pissed him off.
I think he's ignoring me right now. What do?
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>>17243381
Are sure you didn't upset him?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2aKsoizx1w
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>>17243398
If I did I don't know what I did.
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he's dead op this is your mom. get off the computer right now and kiss your dead father goodbye
I'm going to kill myself.
Tell me why i shouldn't.
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>>17243369
have you read yotsuba?
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You're odds of being you are pretty much zero.
But seriously.
Because you really wouldn't. Just do it if you're gonna do it, faggot. You're probably gonna back out at the last second and go into another stasis of sadness and pondering.
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>>17243369
because the world is a beautiful place
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Hey,/adv/ I am a recent HS graduate and going to college, but im afraid i wont make it. For the past few years ive been fairly depressed and have self harmed for almost a year and things are starting to get worse. Ive asked my parents to help me find a psych i could talk to or have them take me to one (as i dont have my license yet) but they just keeping telling me to get over it or just to stop being sad. Im afraid im going to do something really stupid soon and i just want to prevent it.
Is their anyway I can atleast help myself or have some else help me. Atleast until i can see a professional.
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>>17243340
K, I'll play pschologist. What's wrong?
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>>17243340
If you really think you need psychological help and your parents don't believe you, then ask someone else. Find a teacher you really liked or something and tell them about it.
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>>17243346
its just, it seems like my family hates me. Im constantly put down for mistakes or for not being good enough. And every since graduation i have noticed that i really dont have any friends. I just have a perpetual feeling of being alone or not being good enough
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What? I didn't get off? (Pic unrelated )
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I recently had consensual protected sex with my girlfriend for the first time, and I did... Well I guess you could say, I got her off really hard just as I did really well with my fingers, but I couldn't get off. I just couldn't, she even jerked me off and blue me for like 15 minutes afterwards, nothing. We suspect there is a numbing agent in the condom we used but the package didn't say, and usually it takes me like 10 minutes to get off when I'm taking care of business. I don't want her to feel, unsexy and I want to feel pleasure too. What do I do?
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>>17243312
Stop squeezing your dick so hard when you masturbate.
NEXT!
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>>17243317
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>>17243317
Actually not a bad idea
Hey /adv/ and especially any vidya playing guys out there, I need help. So I'm an almost graduated senior girl in college, and I've known this guy for three years, he's a year younger than me. I was really just friendly acquaintances with him up until this year, when I started to talk with him a lot more. Found out that he's into vidya and that he's a kissless virgin, along with many other things. Anyway, about a month ago, I started to realize that the guy was actually pretty dang cute, despite being awkward. So, I recently purchased badges to a gaming convention (It probably wouldn't be hard to guess which) for the 4th year in a row for my sibling and I, we go every year and have a blast. Anyway, I found out that my sibling can't go on one of the days, so I realized I had an extra badge.. then I had an idea.
I wanna ask the qt beta guy to it, he's never been despite being way nerdier than me. But is it too straightforward and blatant to ask him out to a gaming convention? I casually asked him, "Would you want to go to it with me?" the other day and he answered "Yeah, I would," but I don't think he realized I actually meant it seriously, even when I asked for his number afterwards. We texted for a bit but didn't really mention the thing, instead having this weird silly conversation about random shit. I wanted to ask him about it again but I felt kind of hesitant because I didn't wanna press him.
I feel like it's a big step since I've never actually hung out with the guy like outside of school-related functions where we happen to be together, like classes or club activities. I've hung out with him one-on-one for long-ish periods of time (hours).
I was thinking that before I graduate, I'd ask him about it but this time mention that I'm serious.
tl;dr: To all you awkward gamer guys, what would you do if you were in this guy's place and this girl you've known just asked you to a gaming convention?
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>>17243271
Depends on if I was in to you or not, to be completely honest.
If we were just friends I would probably go anyway since it seems like a good time, so I would just ask him again.
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If it was me I would think that I'm being set up for a cruel practical joke. I'm a very literal person, and I've turned down girls because they only hinted at a relationship without them openly expressing feelings for me. I have a very difficult time letting people get close to me in the first place, and being humiliated in that matter is very, very damaging to my fragile ego.
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>>17243271
Is it sad that I don't believe that this post is real and that it must be a troll?
To answer your question though in the event that I'm wrong, if I had already said yes then I would say yes again if asked again, but you would need to make it clear that you are, in fact, asking him to go. Alone. Together. Also as a fellow KV, he might be dismissing the possibility that you're interested in him, so if you want anything to happen you will probably need to either take some (a lot of) initiative or make your feelings unambiguously clear to him.
Guys you're the closest ones I have because I have no one else to talk with. Does "the one" exist?? Give it to me straight. I desire the fantasy love that the Disney movie told me was real. Tell me I am not misguided.
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>>17243253
I'll be your one if that's you, bb
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>>17243253
I have yet to see it.
In my experience it's bullshit. Now, there IS something referred to as a oneitis.
That's a girl/woman/female that you're fixed on, that you're convinced is "the one." I can almost guarantee from experience that a oneitis will NEVER feel the same way about you.
Welcome to the hell that is reality. Have a good evening, anon.
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Listen, there are billions of people on the planet. Statistically speaking the one is probably out there.
But get ready to travel if you want to find him. I hope you like train rides.
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my boyfriend disappeared from the middle of our text conversation after he got out of work?
he got off work at 12am (midnight) and we were mid-text convo and he just disappeared. its been like 40 minutes (Iknow that's not a long time, but we were mid convo) so I said, hiiiii? and he still didn't write back.
I know that hes picking up his cousin and going on a three hour drive to stay the night in where the concert they are going to tomorrow is. (I'm sure that its his cousin and they are going to a concert tomorrow etc) but I don't get why he just disappeared....like am I not gonna get a text back till he gets there at 3am? or tomorrow? or like what??
do I have a right to be upset? I'm feeling uneasy... ijust feel like hes not going to text me baxk anytime soon and that stresses me out because its almost 1am, and I wanna sleep and I'm stressed out and I'm just worried that maybe after work he met up with someone or something. :( why else wouldn't he text me back before he left his work and be like I'm driving now!:(
also when he does text me back, if its soon, or at 3 am, or tomorrow.. what should I do? I know if he texts me back anyway I'm not responding until the morning because ill just say I fell asleep. but still. he pulls shit like this and I'm sick of it
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>>17243232
It's text messaging. It's non-urgent in the minds of most. You put it down mid conversation if something comes up, because you're talking about whatever. If it was really, truly important and demanded immediate replies, it'd probably be a phone call (I've had serious conversations via text, but it sounds like you two were just chatting).
More or less, don't worry about it. He already told you where he's going and he's in the car. Stop being paranoid.
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honestly, if I don't get a text by like 130am, ill probably wake up every hour during the night and check my phone and not be able to sleep because that's what happens. I just don't get it. like and what if he doesn't text me till tomorrow afternoon? what am I supposed to think??? how hard is it to say "I'm driving now" or like anything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! like if he forgets to text me back then ill forget to talk to him all fucking day tomorrow right? I don't wanna ruin a concert for him but WHAT THE FUCK
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>>17243241
but we were mid converaation. like the least he could do is say "hey I'm driving now, goodnight" and not just not reply back??? its just inconsiderate... like I'm gonna start doing that to him so he can see how it fucking feels. when I act like that he gets clingy and shit, and when I act like a loving person he acts like shit.