Honestly why do women complain when they focus on their career/education or ride the cock carousel for a decade and then are shocked that they can't find a man? There are 4 women I work with, all in their late twenties, who were academic super stars and complain occasionally that they ant find anyone. That and their super high standards too.
>>17244660
I think people wrongfully assume they must have somebody as similar to them as possible in order to be happy. They think "oh I have a 'career' so I can't be with someone who just works as a tradesman" or "I go to the gym so my partner needs to be a gym rat too".
But as it turns out a proper emotional connection is what matters most, at least I think so.
Because they spent their entire childhood being told that "having it all" is the baseline for measuring up, against men or against each other, in society.
One could argue that there are parallels to the way the bitter unfuckables consider having sex to be the baseline that they fail to measure up to, only it's played out along more axes and ratcheted up to greater degrees.
So I should give up now and become a baby making machine. Fulfil my evolutionary role, right? Eugh.
So I literally just graduated HS, and I was a loner who never really spoke to anyone ( I was asked out a couple of times so I wasn't hideous or anything. ) I decided to make a tinder because why the fuck not. Forgive me for being autistic but would it be weird to right swipe classmates who may or may not have even known me? What does right-wiping even entail?
>>17244658
I'm the same anon I overthink these things. I never actually did it, but to be honest I've seen like 3 people besides my friends from highschool after graduation and it's been 4 years. Unless you live in a small town and stay there. Just go for it! But just a warning, since you are a virgin it sounds, this is just me, but I know the pressure to lose your virginity, but if you cherish love it's worh waiting to find the right person, of course if that's not you then don't take that advice.
Just do it, if you like the girl who cares if you went to school with her.
The majority of my matches are people who went to school with me and half the dates I went on where girls from school.
I thought I was some hideous beast until tinder, turns out even in school a lot of girls held a candle for me hoping I would notice them.
>>17244658
Are you a male or a female?
If you're a female, men think that if you're on there it means you're looking for casual sex, so be aware of that.
I have reached a point in my life where I have to choose between a rich life and an enjoyable life. It's a choice between pursuing law (very profitable) and pursuing a field you guys would call McJob-tier but I find very fun and actually makes money in this country. Not as profitable as law by far, but that's the sacrifice I'd have to make.
All my life I've lived with people complaining about not having enough money, and it drilled a desire into me to not become like that. I don't want permanent budget issues for the rest of my life. However, I don't want permanent suicidal thoughts on the job for the rest of my life either.
Money or enjoyability? What is better in life?
Go into law, just for a year or so, then see how you feel.
>>17244643
Go for the law. This is America, a rich life is an enjoyable life. Whatever your other choice is just do it for a hobby.
>>17244643
Don't talk about law like it's easy to get into. What's your GPA? Unless you're going to HYS or are graduating summa cum laude from a T10, you're going to be unemployed.
Does this look like internal bleeding? I have a black shit about twice a week.
I've had pain on my right side for 7 months. My dr said it was a muscle but I don't believe him anymore.
Only about 1/10 of my shits are actually solid.
>>17244638
How much iron are you eating? Do you eat a lot of organ meats?
>>17244638
What's it smell like?
Im no doctor but apparently if you have internal bleeding, stool will have a "foul" smell (not like regular poop smell. think that + also smell of decaying organic matter e.g. food left out to completely rot.) from the decaying blood in it.
>>17244640
I don't eat organ meats.
I'm not sure about my iron. I don't eat a lot and drink alcohol everyday.
I told this to the dr. And she seemed unconcerned.
Had a LDR with my gf. We started strong, but as time went by well...u know. One day, she didnt replied to my texts for two whole days. One night, she texted to me saying "sorry, i cant do this. can i give up?". I surprisingly took it well and was fine for a few weeks. Then I asked how she was doing and she told me she had a new bf :,) (hello darkness my old friend) anyway, im sad now and i dont know how to handle it. Any advice?
P.S Sorry grammar bad if
She had a real boyfriend for a while bruh. She just didn't know how to tell you.
>>17244620
Hmmm...maybe :/
>>17244624
No, that's what happens. LDRs with people you haven't met seem fun, until you meet someone in the real world who your attracted to and you can touch. Suddenly the work, restrictions and lack of physical intimacy that comes with a LTR seems really silly/not worth it.
>gf wanted me to go to a gay bar with her and her friends
>said I didn't want to go
>she went
>now she's mad at me and says that I'm intolerant and insecure
I don't understand. It just didn't sound like a fun time going to a gay bar and hanging out with her friends that I don't like. I don't know where this came from. I don't have anything against gay people but why do I need to go to a place for gay people to hook up to be considered tolerant? I don't even like going to regular bars and clubs. The music is too loud, the beer too expensive, and the people are annoying, I can't imagine a gay bar being any better.
>The music is too loud, the beer too expensive, and the people are annoying
>I don't even like going to regular bars and clubs
She secretly wants you to come out so she can cuck you and bang Chad or Jerome
She sounds like a tumblrina with that twisted logic. As a gay man, I can assure you her and her friends' presence probably wasn't well tolerated there either. If gay men are going somewhere for the sole purpose of hooking up and finding other men, then it's really kinda rude to go and hang out there if you're a woman. Girls like her are probably the type to be into catfishing too. They just see us as a cute accessory friend out of their yaoi animes.
So no worries, anon. Just find yourself some better friends.
>>17244618
Gay bars aren't only for men. They're for lesbians, too. If you'd be irritated by women being in a gay bar, you're clearly up your own ass. There's no way of knowing just by being around women in a gay bar, if they're straight women looking for laughs, or actual lesbians looking to do the same thing as gay men.
I just lost my virginity to my fiance a few nights ago and we've been doing it pretty frequently since. The problem is that I have always been overly sensitive with foreplay(he has been able to make me come within five minutes consistently with just his fingers in the past). Now I find that it's even worse with actual sex; I last maybe two-three minutes of fast penetration before I start trembling uncontrollably and clenching up, making it a little painful(for both of us) and hard for him to do his job.
TL;DR - how do I stop being overly sensitive?
>I just lost my virginity to my fiance a few nights ago
>just lost my virginity
>to my fiance
Holy shit - what? Is this bait?
>>17244576
the more you have sex, the longer it will last as time moves forward. how come you waited so long to your virginity? just wondering.
>>17244677
I hope so, I mean he doesn't seem to mind but it is a little frustrating/embarrassing always having to finish him off with my mouth or hands.
Also we just didn't have the right time or right place- we were in a long distance relationship for a while and when we would meet up we were never alone for enough time to do the full do (plus I have this insane phobia of pregnancy and wanted to make sure that there was a 0% chance that I could get pregnant, which means until I could stack birth control I only wanted to do foreplay)
You can call this bullying, bullshit or whatever, but here goes: I message with my friend, just the usual chat, whatever comes to mind, we often make fun of one other. The problem is that I aint no good in that and often it happens that I end up being the butt of the joke, lately very often. Sometimes I write something like this aint funny anymore or something like that, they continue even more, as if they aint my friends or anything, just want to poke fun of me, as if I were untermensch or something. Anybody has been in that situation? One of them said that I should ignore it because they love it just because of my salty tears, but having to listen to insults all the time is not something I can do all the time without saying anything. So now Im just quiet trying to ignore it, but they go on. What do /adv/? How to get out of that circle?
>>17244544
*my friends. there is more of them
Sorry Arek
I didn't know if upset you so much
>>17244564
Not Arek
I've been accused of having a "black & white" way of thinking. Amusingly, the people who insist that the world has all types and that I ought to appreciate that are the same people who say I need to "fix" this way of thinking.
So what's so bad about black & white thinking and how do I stop thinking like this? Is it the same as just stopping thinking altogether?
Empathy. Stop and think about why someone would be retarded enough to disagree with your unmatched intellect.
Because nobody is all good and pure and nobody is all terrible and awful. Real people are somewhere in the middle. Real life is messy.
People with black and white thinking tend to completely discredit something once they've decided it's "bad", and then refuse to change their mind based on new evidence. If somebody wrongs you once, they are terrible forever, no matter how many times they try to make it right. Or if you have decided that somebody is perfect, inevitably they will fuck up because everybody does, and then you cast them down because they have completely betrayed you with that one act since you had believed them perfect.
Learning to change this method of thinking doesn't mean to stop thinking. It means that there's going to be fuckups and mistakes and people are only human. Nobody is perfect, and nobody is perfectly anything. People who do wrong can reform and make it right, and people who are usually kind and considerate can do bad or stupid things.
>>17244525
http://arstechnica.com/science/2016/06/we-dont-update-our-biases-even-after-they-lead-us-astray/
You're not a computer, you cannot just change your logic. Enjoy your biases, they make up who you are.
At 2 am this morning I got an out of the blue call from a girl I hadn't spoken to in 8 months. She used to be my best friends girlfriend (but I don't hang out with him anymore). She's drunk, and crying because her friends all dumped her, she was stranded it was raining, and she told me she was feeling suicidal because everything in her life is wrong. Against my better judgement I took a cab to meet her because I legitimately did feel sorry for her. I am not really one to just abandon people if they are in a bad place. Anyway, long story short, I ended up at her place.
We talked about things. Life, family, relationships,stuff like that. The whole time she was pretty much naked, hardly wearing anything but some skimpy lingerie. We made out and went a little further, and she wanted me to fuck her but I didn't. I had been drinking earlier and was stressed out and nervous and truthfully was not very horny.
That being said, she wants to casually date me. But I don't want to date anyone. I don't have time. I am going to medical school and university takes up all my time. I agreed to see a movie with her sometime. I am very attracted to her and she is a really cool girl to be around. She has an incredible body, cute face and knows what she is doing sexually. She has an *extremely* slutty past, which I don't care about but she is in my opinion and please take note of this VERY PSYCHOLOGICALLY UNSTABLE.She told my ex she couldn't get pregnant but she cheated on him and got pregnant. And after he dumped her it happened again, she has had 2 abortions. However she told me she can't get pregnant anymore after that but I don't know if I believe her.
The meme "don't stick your dick in crazy" might apply to this. I don't want to get serious with her, and she doesn't want to either. She said I can use her as my personal fucktoy and maybe I will fall in love with her someday but I don't want a serious relationship, I don't ever want to get married. What the fuck should I do?
>>17244517
I say nex time you're about to spank the monkey you should give her a call and use her as your personal fucktoy instead.
Life throws you little wins every once in a while, take them.
>>17244616
You think so?
I want to man. I really want to. But I don't know. What if she goes full crazy?
>>17244971
She will, that's why anon is trying to run your life by getting her pregnant. Trust me, any girl who says they "can't get pregnant", can and will. She lied about it twice already? Why would it be any different this time?
Has this website radically changed your view of girls for the worst?
>>17244487
how could it if there are only guys here
>>17244487
Man were you so butthurt by the >>17244215 ?
Faggot. I'm telling you redpill and MGTOW are misogynist gay cults.
>>17244487
no, it has made me realize how edgy and spiteful some guys are though. they are just pissed off because they cant get women
Girl from the Netherlands with a super close online friend from the states. Is it strange that I think of him in a brotherly way? Can I tell him how I think of him? I don't know if he thinks of me in a sisterly way.
>>17244453
This is why Europeans are fuckin weird man
>>17244478
Is it strange if I think of him as my best friend then?
>>17244478
Thats not the point. Whats weird is 1. You ask if you can tell him how you think of him, as if you're not allowed to do that. 2. You see others as brothers and sisters, what are you black?
I have wanted a tattoo for quite a while, but didn't know what exactly. A week ago I understood what I want (pic related), but the problem now is that I don't know how to tell it to my mother. I won't be getting it yet - I want to be 100% Shure I won't regret it, so 2 months I will be thinking should I change it up in some places, design and so on. How should I approach my mother saying that I will get a tattoo?
>>17244423
You might as well have this tattooed on you because it is the message everyone will get -
"Born trailer trash - will die trailer trash."
>>17244423
You want that exact layout and text? I'm Hindu but dude that's complete shit. Let the artist draw something up for you and maybe people will hate it less.
Also
>shure
Come on.
>>17244423
Text tattoos are stupid. No respectable tattoo artist will complete that design.
One of my good friends keeps pressuring me to have a relationship with him and since I'm asexual and he isn't, his proposition is for us to have sex only "once a month" and he will have sex with other people occasionally to fulfill the rest of his needs since we won't have constant sex.....NO. I don't want any kind of sex with anybody, I've tried it and it just does not work. Why do people NOT get it? Are people just selfish? Do they only think of their own pleasures?
He's a good friend, by the way, besides all the delusional sex-pressuring. I've told him countless times, dude, I am asexual.
>>17244316
He is not your friend. He wants to have sex with you. Good friends don't have romantic feelings for you, and usually they don't want to have a relationship with you, or want to fuck you once a month.
Stop talking to him.
>>17244319
Agreed.
Run, OP.
>>17244316
Doesn't sound like a friend to me
How the fuck do you have good phone sex?
use a handsfree kit
>>17244295
If you're both bad at dirty talk, it's not going to work.
>>17244297
Makes sense.
>>17244298
So, what IS "good at dirty talking" and how do i achieve that?